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I am a 29/f that loves to listen and try to help out. I have always been the one people go to for advice.

I will tell you how I feel about it. If you don't like my answer, I'm sorry. However, usually what I say is true, people just can't handle the truth.

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How do you get over making the biggest mistake of your life when it's irreversible? And the regret is so hard to life with...and you're constantly thinking "what if?"

Everyone in life faces decisions they have to make. If we make the wrong decisions, we have to learn from our mistakes and move on. This is how we grow and learn to be the best possible person we can be.

We all make mistakes. There is not one person on here that has made a decision that they wish they could take back. We just have to keep moving forward.

If you hurt someone, try talking to that person and let them know that you are truly sorry, and would like to make it up to them. Let them know that you understand if they can't forgive you yet, but try your best to explain to them what you can. Remember though, even if they forgive, people never forget, especially if they were hurt. Just try to the best you can and not hurt them again.

If it is something that you have done, but in no way shape or form can fix no matter what you did, then just learn from it, keep reminding yourself that we all make mistakes, and try to forgive yourself.

Everyone suffers from the "what if" syndrome. It's part of human nature. However, we can't let that get in the way of living in the here in now. You can't change the past, and you will never know the answer to the "what ifs", so it's best to just look to the future and keep your head up.

In time, it will get better and easier for you to forgive yourself. Remember this, if you can't forgive yourself, others won't be able to either. Keep your head up, and learn from your mistakes. Best Wishes.

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there is a thing that can help you loose weight called the pink patch ?
it says you can loose 1 stone in 2 weeks
www.thepinkpatch.co.uk

has anyone heard of it
or even better
has anyone tried it ??

The problem with diet gimmicks is just that they are gimmicks. For the most part, they use ingredients that boast your metabolism. Unless you intend to keep using their products for the rest of your life, as soon as you stop using their products, they will start making you gain the weight back.

Also, with pills (I know you were asking about the patch, but is probably true with the patch as well) there is usually a diuretic in them, which makes you lose water weight. Once again, when you stop taking the medicine, it stops controling your water weight.

Unfortunately, the other person is right. The only way to truly lose weight and keep it off is a good diet and exercise plan.

I always suggest to people to go and get an exercise ball, a jump rope, and hand weights. Use the ball three times a week, jump rope for at least 5 minutes a day for three times a week, and use the weights to walk for 30 minutes a day, three times a week.

With the diet aspect, high protein, low carbs, no sugar, and at least 8 8 ounces of water a day. It is a big challenge at first, but it only takes 30 days for a person to start a habit. After those 30 days, it will be like second nature for you to accomplish this.

I would like to point out something. I had a friend that was put on Phen-Phen, and she ended up losing her life because of it. Even those with medical degrees and have good intentions, screw up sometimes. Most of the diet pills, patches, and whatever do not have a license in their field. That is why it is never usually FDA approved. Remember, you only have one body and you do not want to chance losing your life because of someone else's drug that is not approved.

I wish you the best of luck, and hopefully you can find a new peace in your life with your diet and exercise. Repeat to yourself daily that you are beautiful, loved, and worth living no matter what you look like. If others do like it, they can eat your dust. ;)

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I need some recipes that would be easy for a man to make. Something that doesn't have alot of ingredients or long directions with cooking lingo. This guy has 2 kids that he has full custody of and all he can cook is hamburgers and spaghetti. The kids have been eating that for a year. Please help me I can't think of anything really good the kids will like and something easy for him to make.

Yum....food my favorite topic.

Here are a few things that he can try.

1- Cook hot dogs and macaroni and cheese. Slice the dogs and add to the mac.

2- Even though it is for dinner, breakfast is a great solution. You can have scrambled eggs, toast and bacon.

3- This may sound strange, but he can make Ramen noodles and put cooked chicken in it.

4- Tacos are cheap, easy, and kid friendly.

5- There is always the option of T.V. dinners, pot pies, and frozen pizza.

6- A great standby would be to have hamburger, chicken, or tuna helper.

7- Grilled cheese and soups are easy and affordable.

8- Sheperd's Pie is easy and tasty. (recipe below)
1. scramble hamburger meat
2. make box of instant mashed potatoes
3. lay hamburger meat on bottom of baking pan
4. add a can of corn
5. put potatoes on top
6. bake until potatoes are lightly toasted

9- Fettucini is easy to make. Noodles and premade sauce and you are good. You could add garlic bread as well.

10- Pigs in a blanket are fast, easy, and kids adore them.

11- He can scramble hamburger meat, add some cooked rice, and premade gravy together and it is really good.

12- They have premade ravioli now, that all you have to do is boil them in water, and add marinara sauce.

13- I make something called eggs in a basket. It is really easy. You cut out a circle in bread, butter the bread, put in a frying pan, add an egg to the hole, and cook both sides. It is good and kids think it is neat.

There are so many things that he can do. I have only named a few things that I try to do that make my kids happy, and mommy's feet less tired. I hope that he can utilize some of these recipes or suggestions to improve their dining experience.

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i'm a flute and piano player, but my director wants me to switch to bassoon since our high school bassoon player will be graduating this year. the only problem is: i've never played the bassoon before.
i'm very excited for this opportunity (sp?) and wish to make the best of it, but i can't enjoy playing if i have no clue what to do.
my director is obviously going to help me, but i want to know more on my own, rather than completely depend on her.
does anyone know any basics to playing the bassoon?

any help whatsoever is appreciated.
thank you. :D

I have found a few sites that may be able to help you. This way, you can go back to them for reference any time you need them.

http://www.tsmp.org/band/bassoon/nelson_tips.html

http://www.philharmonia.co.uk/thesoundexchange/the_orchestra/instruments/bassoons/tips_and_tricks/

http://www.swsd.k12.wa.us/HS-C/bhendry/InstrumentTips.htm

I hope this is at least some good information for you. My brother was in band and he only learned to play one instrument. He played the trombone. He loved it, but I think he would have enjoyed having some diversity and challenges to make him appreciate the art more. I think it's wonderful that you are considering changing from your normal. It will make for better understand of the craft that you enjoy. I wish you nothing but the best.

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This is really embarrassing so please bear with me.
I have had a big bump (the size of a bean) on my butthole for a great while now. When I go poo, it hurts really bad because my poo is kind of big and it irritates the bump. It's hard to wipe myself because of how much it hurts. Also, it started out as a small thing. I do not think it could be any type of herpes since I have never had sex. Sometimes when I go to the bathroom, it even bleeds a little. If anyone knows what this might be, or how I could get rid of it, please help.

In addition to the other advice that you were given, I would suggest finding a product called Tucks pads.Tucks are a God send.

I hate to be so personal since my name is one this, but after having vaginal births twice, I have had my fair share of what I call them now as "roids". Believe me they are painful, annoying and embarrassing all at once.

Also, witch hazel helps to alleviate the tenderness as well. If they become to bothersome, you can always have them surgically removed. Feel better soon.

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I am so scared right now. Back on Dec 8th, i lost my virginity but it was more like a rape type thing. I didnt press charges or anything. He DID use protection. I still thought I was pregnant but my period was a few days late. So I took the test and it came out negative. So then on Christmas I got my period. I was happy as hell. On New Years Eve, I moved back home with my crazy mom who i still cant stand, i started school again, I was at the studio more, I changed my job site to a different school with bad kids and also a change in diet and exercise because i am obese and tryin to change my lifestyle. I havent got my period since Christmas. I took another test and it came out Negative again. I did NOT have any signs of spotting or nausea like some of the symptoms. dont have none of that. y breast arent larger just stomache pains when i think that i amp regnant. I asked my friends and 7 out of 8 said im not pregnant, that because of the activity my hormones changed because i had sex and that I am probably stressed. I use to be on birth control but stop Dec 2006. After that my period took it's own course like I had it vday 2007 but didnt get it again til end of April 2007. then it starts skippin weeks and months. Sometimes it just skips a month. But it just skipped 2 months.... I dont know what to think

It seems to me that you are under stress. Stress can cause your menstrual cycle to become unregular. If you have taken tests, chances are you are not pregnant. I would say pretty slim actually.

Birth control also affects your cycle. When you stop taking it, it can make your periods irregular as well. When you were on birth control, you should have had a normal period.

I would suggest if you are still having problems at the end of next month, schedule a doctors appointment to make sure everything is okay. I would not think it was pregnancy related, more of an irregular issue.

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I've recently decided to join the workout center called Curves. I was wondering if anyone could tell me some more about the routine there and what the equipment is like. I checked out the website but I didn't see any photos of the workout equipment so I'm pretty clueless and I'd really like to go in with an idea of the place.

I actually loved Curves. I haven't been in a while, because I have a bad knee. I have tried to compensate for the things that I could do, but they still involve a lot of harsh work on your knees.

Here is a run-down of what exactly happens at Curves. You are at each "station" for 30 seconds. In between the stations, you are on a walking pad. It depends on the routine that you take to which order that you go in. You have arm machines, leg machines, crunches, and really don't remember much else. I do know that on Wednesdays they switch directions and you go in reverse. Also, the machines uses a rubber band type setting for you to strengthen your muscles.

It is fun. I think that you will have a blast. I wish you luck.

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ok so i have 2 guy friends. and i like both of them a lot. A LOT, A LOT. and they both like me back, allegedly.

and so i really dunno which one to choose. i like them both equally. and i can see myself staying with both of them a real long time.

so how do i choose which one? cuz both seem pretty upset that i cant choose. and they both no that i like both. and im afraid that they are going to gain up on me one day and be all "choose between us, now!"

:(

Maybe you should chose neither. It's really unfair of you to put these guys through this. How would you feel if they were doing this to you? Say they couldn't decided between you and some other girl? I think it would hurt your feelings. Just give that some thought.

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Hey I'm wondering how to connect my Nintendo wii to the internet. I do know you need to have your computer connected to your modem, but I have a laptop that's wirelessly connected to my modem. So do I just need a Nintendo Wi-Fi Connector or do I still have to use wires on my laptop to connect to the modem? Please explain in a very simple way and give simple directions! Thank You!

http://www.wiichat.com/nintendo-wii-online/18760-how-connect-wii-through-laptop-without-adapter-router.html

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i signed up for face book and it said it will send an email to me so i can confirm my account, but it hasnt yet. does it usually take this long? and is facebook different from myspace where the only way u can view someones comments and profile is by being their friend?

When did you send it in? If you haven't recieved it by 24 hours, try again.

Yes, you can only view someone's profile by being their friend. However, you can still see the main picture of the profile and some information, plus an add request, in their searches.

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is there any way to make my boobs bigger?

Outside of plastic surgery, No.

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there is this song, im pretty sure its pretty old, its country, a man sings it. its about a little girl whos parents drink and abuse her and she hides behind a couch and she finds God or something like that, does anybody have any idea who its by or what its called? thanks :)

The Little Girl by John Michael Montgomery

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ok, so i have a problem with the guy i like and guys i used to like. all of them are taken by my friends (except for one, but that not important), but i liked them before they even got together. so what is my problem? i know there's one person for everyone, but i can't help but to feel lonely.

and please don't tell me i'm too anxious and all that stuff. i've already heard all that.

It seems as if you have that type of personality that can and will flirt with everyone. As long as you don't try to act on your impulse to want to be with these guys that are with your friends, all should be fine.

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13/f they're 14/m



i was walkin around and "bobs" friends come up to me.

[[heres our convo]]

them:hey rachel... do you like bob?
me: [[i lied and said]] no
them: aw why not? he likes you!
*bob comes up next to them.*
them:bob dont you like her
bob: yeah. *bobs sorta laughs and looks away*
me: dont play with me.
*i walk away*

ive never talked to bob before..
ive just had a major crush....
do you think they're joking?

i think they are.. i just wana make sure.

It sounds to me as if they caught wind of your crush and wanted to get a laugh out of you. What is it they call it now days? Lulz? Anyways, just avoid them, and I would suggest that you drop that crush of yours before it becomes something more humiliating and devastes you.

For future reference, don't let the bad guys get you down. Let them know that you are a strong, independent person, who can and will not tolerate stupidity.

Good Luck!!

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16/f i was part of a band forum about 5 months ago...for 1.5 years. and everything was okay...i was a good member and all..but then it began to be way too chaotic on there..and so i quit. and now there are these 14 and 13 year old girls sending me messages and somehow finding me on myspace...and harassing me...telling the whole freaking internet about me. i dont know what to do...things like this upset me. but theyre like posting links to my website everywhere..i'm just scared. i do realize its the internet. and they all live in different states/countries. what should i do? =|

If you are that concerned about it, delete all the accounts that they are spreading about you and then just make new ones, keeping your identity private. The less personal information they have about you, the less they can harm you.

For future reference, don't get so personal with your information that you give to other people. There is no telling what they can do with it. You have learned a lesson, albeit it could be worse. Never trust people you do not know personally.

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i've never had sex but i've been fingered before. but when i was i didn't cum - i dont know what it feels like when i do or like how i do. i dont get it. he hfingerd me for a while and i just couldnt cum .. whats wrong with me

First of all, usually it takes more than fingering to get a girl to cum. It takes a lot of practice to even get it right.

Second of all, nothing is wrong with you. You just haven't figured out how to yet. Is that a bad thing? No. It just means, matter of factly, you haven't had that experience yet.

Give it time, it will happen eventually.

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last night i had this strange, confusing dream. usually i can make sense of my dreams..mostly because a lot of times what i dream about comes true in some way. anyways, i was going to the mall with my friend. when i got into the mall i realized i had no shoes on and i was barefoot so i went to look for shoes. i saw a pair for $4 but i knew there were cheaper ones somewhere else, and the lady at that store yelled at me for not wanting them and we got in this huge fight.. so then i kept walking. as we were walking this guy came up to me and jumped on me like attacking me, and i was wearing this blue tank top and skirt, and he kept trying to rip my clothes off. i was screaming for help, and this kid i hooked up with a long time ago happened to be there, and he ran over to save me. the guy was arrested and such..then him and his girlfriend walked around the mall with me and my friend. then i remember writing some kind of note in red marker, to either my friend or that guy..im not for sure. i know some dreams are just random thoughts haha, but can anyone make any sense of this? im 16 btw =] thanks!

Mostly, dreams are random information that our brains compile together.

I had a dream once where my boyfriend (at the time) was in his attic room kissing another guy. Did that mean he was gay? No. It was random. More than likely, your dream was just another random compliation of information that you have had happen to you in the recent past.

For instance, you wanted to buy a pair of shoes, you like this guy who saved you, and you want him to save you. You could have also seen a show previously about a girl being attacked. There is really nothing to dreams.

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I'm having trouble with character spacing in Microsoft Powerpoint 2007. It has the "kerning" feature and it always stays on. I'm not sure what to fix. It says the spacing is normal, but the only font that works is Calibri, except for V's and Y's, which are very close to the other letters. Does anyone know what I can do to fix this?? Thanks!!

http://www.smartcomputing.com/Editorial/article.asp?article=articles/1997/mar97/97n0329/97n0329.asp&articleid=2469&guid=

~Honestly, this was not the site I went to. The site I went to had trouble shooting for kerning and Power Point. I do not know why it sent you to this link. ~

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Everyone in our class has to do a character sketch, which isn't a sketch but a one page typed on about the character.

Then she listed to include a)Physical descriptions
b)Dialogue
c)etc (can't name on the top of my head).

I know what to write but i never wrote one of these before. How do i start it off? like with an introduction sentence or do I just immediately write her physical descriptions?

http://www.franklinlakes.k12.nj.us/famsweb/curriculum/English/pMurphy/bookreports/character.html

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Hey! well i have to do this project for english and my group and i [im the group manager woo] have to build an amusement park and i was hoping that you guys had some suggestions!
on rides
attractions
food/resturaunts
characters
etc. also we are doing half as a water park

It has to be VERY orginal tho!! it has to be based on the 2nd half on the book Odysseus but you dont have to use that at all i will make it so it works with the theme. (You have to love our theme!!! haha NOT)

also i REALLY need to figure out how in the world to build the rides like the roller coasters!! please help! we cant use premade ones either. thanks so much!!!

Links for ideas on how to make your roller coasters
http://school.discoveryeducation.com/lessonplans/programs/rollercoaster/
http://www.chiefdelphi.com/forums/archive/index.php/t-50778.html
http://mrlewisclassroom.tripod.com/project3.htm
The few suggestions that I would make:
*make sure to have plenty of places to sit
*Offer reasonable solutions for eating: dining areas (sit down restaurant style), venders (like hot dog stands), and vending machines (for soda and snacks). This way, you appease all budgets and personal likes.
*I love pirates (make it a pirate type amusement park, especially since you are having it half water/half other
*If you do have pirates, you could always make different shows in pirate type productions

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