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I really want to be popular. Not popular as in "hello, im stuck up and im better than everybody." I wanna be popular as in BE FRIENDS WITH EVERYONE! i dont know how to start a conversation with strangers. any suggestions on how i can achieve this?
Start off by giving someone a compliment. It will make them feel better about themself and they will unconsciously like you more. But don't be fake about it (if you are, it'll backfire on you)! Compliment them on something you truly like about them, like a cool shirt or pretty eyes.
Also, people love a good listener way more than someone who only talks about herself. Don't overwhelm the person with stories about yourself; instead, ask them questions and just listen to what they have to say. Don't ask them really personal questions or push them if they don't want to answer, just little things like, "What kind of music are you into?" or "What do you like to do in your spare time?" Not many people have the patience to just listen to another person, but people really appreciate it when you do.
More importantly, remember what people tell you! Listening to someone doesn't mean anything if you forget all of what they said. Pretending to listen can get you in real trouble later. For example, if they tell you something really significant like how their dog died yesterday, and you don't remember and then start talking about how cute puppies are and ask them if they have a dog, things will get very awkward.
The big thing, which connects to all my other tips is: show them you care! Even the tiniest thing, like telling them that you hope they have a good day, will make a big difference. Good luck!
Ok so my ex and i broke up last month because of a rumor that wasn't even true but we both still really like each other alot. we text each other all the time but he got grounded from his phone for about a week and when he got it back i asked him why he was grounded, he told me that his phone was calling his mom while he was getting a blowjob...... and im like what the heck!! I mean he keeps saying he is going to ask me back out but he doesn't if he does this when he is single Im scared to find out what he would do when he is in a relationship. But if he ask be back out idk what i would say. What should I think? What should I say? please help me. Im 14 and Female
and P.S. im to young to worry about anything close to that so if he thinks I will do any of that then I will say NO!
You broke up over a rumor, and then he got a BJ even though he still really liked you? Something smells fishy there. It sounds like he wanted to brag about the BJ to you and maybe give you a hint that you need to match that level of sexual contact if you two get back together. I'm proud of you for being tough about that and not giving in! Just beware that it seems like that's what he's looking for. Go with what your heart says; if you're scared then you probably have good reason to be.
There are plenty of nice guys out there, guys that don't get blowjobs between relationships and then tell their ex-girlfriends about it. -__- Be patient and you'll find one. In the meantime, I suggest that you not get back together with this guy. :/
I really need to find out whats wrong with me. Im almost 17 and ive never had a bf or my first kiss. Not to sound conceited, but TONS of people talk about how "gorgeous" and "nice" I am. Some people WONT even beleive me when i tell them ive never had a bf. I always see these nasty, uglier, RUDE girls get ALL these guys. But ive never even had one. I guess maybe its cuz im shy around people i dont know, but if you talk to me im NOT. Ive became more outgoing and flirted with guys.. but i cant seem to find anyone im actually interested in. I just wanna know what it feels like to have a bf. (I dont just want one to have one.) I feel almost like im missing out on my teen years. Sometimes i even get depressed thinking im doing something wrong. Any advice?
I'm almost 18 and I've never had a boyfriend. It's not as weird as you think. A lot of girls don't get their first boyfriend until they're in college, so don't worry about it too much. Those rude girls might be getting all the guys, but how long do those relationships last? Probably like a week or two, right?
Not having a boyfriend doesn't say anything bad about you. Most guys are just interested in sex right now, so personality doesn't matter so much. :P Take your time and find someone who loves you for your heart and your mind, not your face and what's between your legs. Trust me, it'll be worth the wait.
my period was due the 2nd of this month(may). it still hasnt come. i took the pregnancy test and it came out negative, and i dont feel like its on its way either. what should i do?!
Your period doesn't always come right on time. If you've been really stressed out lately or your hormones get off balance you could skip it altogether. So I wouldn't worry too much just yet. Taken another pregnancy test in two weeks or so and talk to a doctor if you haven't gotten your period by then.
Skipped periods are usually nothing to worry about unless you skip for two months or more, but if you're sexually active then it's good to be careful, yeah? Good luck. I don't say this often but, I hope you get your period soon. :P
16, Female
Last weekend I went to a party, I didn't drink because it was school the next day. I was walking home with my boyfriend and mum had called me and asked where I was. I told her i was almost home, she said that dad was on his way and he wasn't happy. I knew I would be in trouble, and dad would go off at Kieran for being with me.
Turns out instead of going off a Kieran he just left him, to walk home alone. I felt so bad. When we got home dad was yelling at screaming at me, so i just walked away, didn't talk to him for a week after that, it made mum and dad fight I hate doing that to them.
Why are my parents so much more protective than anyone else's?
Parents that get mad at you for going to a party where underage drinking is going on are pretty normal. :P Even if you didn't drink anything, you could still get busted for being there and of course your parents will be worried if they don't know anything about where you are.
Be happy that they care about you. Some of the other kids at that party have parents who don't care one way or another about their son/daughter. It sucks when your protective parents get mad, but at least they care whether you live or die.
And I'm not just saying this because I'm an old lady with kids of my own. xD I'm 17 and I've seen some seriously horrible parents. One friend of mine went to school while sick and puking to avoid his mom, who had punched him and broken his nose the week before! Trust me, protectiveness is a small price to pay for good parents.
I know this sounds completely messed up, and might gross u out. but i need help. sometimes when im bored, ill just start scratching my head to the point where it bleeds and forms scabs (very little ones!) and now i cant help but pick at them and scratch them. theres no reason i do it, its just a realllllllly weird habit. i dont know whats wrong with me?! any tips on how i can make it stop?
I do that, too. :( It's a nasty habit that I wish I could get rid of...but it's more common than you think. A lot of people pick their scalp, the skin around their nails, scabs, or their lips. Usually it's a nervous thing like biting your nails.
I've found a good site with lots of information on skin picking (officially called dermatillomania. Find it at http://www.skinpick.com/dermatillomania-information
As for getting rid of the habit, try finding something else to do with your hands. Wear a rubber band on your arm and twist it around your fingers in weird shapes when you feel like scratching your scalp. Really concentrate on that and you'll forget about your need to scratch. Also, clip your nails as short as you can, if you haven't already.
I hope this helps you. :)
So i have inverted nipples and i have never told anyone about them. well this guys likes me and I like him but he is one of those guys who has like had sex already and all that so he is like a player i guess you could say. but he claims this time is different so he wants a relationship with me. the other day we madeout alot of times. and he started to go down my shirt. I stopped him b.c i didnt want to tell him. I am afraid that if we go out and i tell him he will break up with me and tell everyone. cuase he usually tells everyone everything. ahh hellp me
It sounds like you haven't been dating him very long. And is he 14 like you or is he older? Because if he's 14 and he's already had sex (and told a lot of people about it), he probably isn't someone you want to tell embarrassing female secrets to.
I'd say wait longer to tell him (as in after you have dated for at least 4 months). If your relationship doesn't work out and he really is a player like you say he is, things could get ugly with him spreading your secret to the whole school out of spite.
I know I sound pessimistic, but you need to be careful. :x
i'm 15 and i've struggled with bulimia for like 2 years. i was just wondering if people ever truely overcome them and don't do it anymore?
i mean i am not nearly as bad anymore because summer wasn't very stressful, i didn't over eat because i was at my friends house all summer so it was good. now i'm back home, back in school, and stress is back. family problems are also getting worse, so to deal i use bulimia. it may sound weird but it feels like a release. i don't want to let go of it.
also i just always have my mind set in it. like even if i'm not throwing up as much i still think about the calories, when someone says diet i think that means i shouldn't eat, and when i'm walking i think about the calories being burned. it always invites itself into my mind.
so do people ever really get over this? i have a feeling i will be this way the rest of my life.
That's a tough one. In the end I'd say it depends on the person.
My health teacher from last year had an eating disorder in high school where she became obsessed with exercise and eating healthy to the point where she was starving herself. She 'got over' starving herself and living unhealthily, but she's still really calorie and health conscious and she says she doesn't think she'll ever get over that.
So someday you might get over it completely, but it's more likely that you will always have a few of the feelings leftover. The feelings will just weak enough to resist. C:
what is wrong with myspace??
for the last 3 days it has been saying that no one is online and im not the only that is happening to.
It's a glitch. It's happening to everyone, including me. It'll be fixed eventually, so just don't worry about it for now.
15/f
i've been bulimic for a year as of november 2007 so a little over a year. what effects of that have/might have happened to me already? i never notice anything. i know it's not right but i don't know what to do and i don't really want to stop. i know it's wrong but and i know i don't think normally about food. i either don't eat some days or i eat so much i can't handle it and purge. well i do that with everything i eat basically. i don't know what to do. i just want to know what could happen to me and what already could've happened to me because of this?
thank you =]
This is by no means a complete list, but here are a few of the things that might have already or could happen in the future because of Bulimia:
Your teeth will rot because of stomach acid.
Your hair will get dull and brittle.
You could stop having your period (which extremely bad for you: get to a doctor if that happens).
Your skin will get dry and baggy like an old woman's.
Your bone mass will decrease, making you more vulnerable to osteoporosis later in life.
You will become ill in general because you aren't getting the nutrients you need.
Your boobs will get smaller along with the rest of you.
If you go on long enough, you absolutely will die. Your body just isn't meant to or able to survive without food.
I hope you decide to get help with quitting. :/ Good luck to you.
16/f. 15/m. my first boyfriend's getting to be REALLY kinky...and it's okay, to some extent. but i've just had enough.
i have a kind of ..a fear of male genitalia..its not a fear..more like a disgust [because of events that have happened previously..to me ..when i was young] and..my bf (lets call him A)
well, A showed me his penis. and i wasn't exactly turned on or anything. we're much too young. and whenever i reject looking at it, or touching it or anything, he gets PISSED at me. and he goes...so you have peniphobia now? WTF?
he ALWAYS finds something wrong with the way i act-how i'm disgusted by certain crude..sexual acts - IN PUBLIC.. WHO touches themselves in public? Please tell me..? Am I insane or -what..?
He takes pictures of his penis and gets upset when I refuse to see it. He doesn't respect my irrational fear...no matter how stupid it is.
Worst of all, he forces some acts on me...he grabs me by the crotch and forcefully grabs my boobs. I liked the making out stage...But it's just getting too retarded now. He's way too horny. And I tell him I love him..because I do. But I can't be with him anymore. I feel like he only uses me for my body. That's all he wants.
Can somebody PLEASE tell me ..whether or not this relationship could be worth saving? Or..?
There's also no intellectual attraction - We have nothing to talk about. It's all physical. And I don't feel like I can tell him anything.
I have no experience with boyfriends prior to this one. So I don't know what to do. Any help would be GREATLYYY appreciated.
You sort of just answered it yourself. If your relationship is nothing but physical, and you aren't turned on by the physicality and don't enjoy it, why stay with him? There are plenty of other people who will love you and will be fun to talk to and be around.
Also, it sounds like you haven't told him about the things that happened when you were little. If you did, he might back off, but if he doesn't (or you already told him and he still acts like this) you definitely shouldn't try holding on to him. Find someone who cares about more than your body.
I have a really bad hickey.
How should I cover it up?
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I'm going to assume it's on your neck.
Well, your best bet is cover-up. I'm not an expert on different kinds and which is best; just make sure it matches your skin as well as possible. Don't just put it on the hickey, put it in the area around it as well. This will make the cover-up look more natural.
You could also wear turtleneck sweaters or even a thick necklace, depending on where your hickey is. Some sort of velvet choker would be very effective if you could keep it in place over your hickey.
Other than that, I don't know what to tell you. Good luck hiding it.
hey i am not having sex now but i am in a relationship where i am considering it in the future. i am a female and i get my periods irregularly but when i have sex i dont plan on going on birth control or telling anyone so i was wondering without having to go on the pill or seeing a doctor what are the safest and most effective ways to prevent pregnancy. (obviously condoms but anything else?)
thank you!
Just to add to what the other person said, never use a female condom with a male condom. The two rubbers combined will rub together and tear. And when they tear, you might as well have used no condoms whatsoever. Big nono!
Definitely make sure your boyfriend knows how to use a condom. It doesn't matter if he says he knows, go over it with him just to be sure. You can't be too careful when trying to prevent pregnancy. Here is a website with some do's and don't's for using condoms: http://www.ashastd.org/condom/condom_overview.cfm
Stores also sell little spermicide films that you can stick in your vagina before sex to kill the sperm that come through, but they might irritate your skin. I'm pretty sure they can be used with condoms, but you should check to be sure.
Besides birth control, I don't know what to tell you. But hopefully that helps you a bit!
I have a big problem with getting nervous before I perform, but it's really strange. When I act, I'm perfectly fine, and I only get a little nervous before the production. But I'm also involved in music. I love it a lot, but I get extremely nervous before auditions or solo performances. Why is 200 lines before an audience of hundreds no big deal, but a few measures in front of a couple of people incapacitating? I practice really hard, but when it comes to auditions, I only do half as well as normal, and I can barely breathe the whole time. My fingers get stiff and cold, and I shake like crazy! What is wrong, and how can I overcome it? It's really affecting me... I get placed lower down than I know I should be, just because I get nervous. I never got this nervous one or two years ago. WHAT'S WRONG!?!?!?!?
When you act, you sort of become another person, but with music its all you. I don't know if that's why you only get stage fright for musical performances, but it's an idea. And you may just be more accustomed to acting--are you on the stage more often for acting or for music? And if the crowd is smaller for music, that may put more strain on you. Instead of a nameless crowd, you are faced with individual people that you probably know.
Anyway, all I can tell you is the usual stage fright stuff. Before the performance, don't think about the people or allow yourself to panic. Take deep, calm breaths and either concentrate on your music or think about how great you are going to be or just some generally happy thought. If a bad thought tries to break through, push it out! While performing, lose yourself in the music. Concentrate on your sheet music and your instrument, block everything else out. If you have to look at the audience for your performance, look over their heads at the back wall.
Hi guys how are ya'll doing? I just wanted to ask if ya'll thought that I was freaky. So I'm a tomboy and a bounch of girls have been teasing me. I never wear my hair down, I play football and basketball, all of my friends are boys and the girls at school wont stop teasing me because of it! They call me lesbian, stupid, and one of them said "Who are you going to the dance with...oh wait no one would want a mud coverd bitch as a dance partner". So what should I do about this they are really hurting my feelings? Please help I really apreciate it if anyone answers thanks.
You must live in a small town. No offense intended, but they really sound like stereotypical small-town kids who tease anyone who is different. I used to live in a small town and I got singled out as well.
Anyways... You aren't freaky at all. There are a lot of people that devote a lot of time to sports, and they aren't all guys. It's normal here for girls to be involved in at least one sport because it looks really good on a college application, and of course there are a lot of girls who really enjoy athletics. Wearing your hair in a ponytail is a personal preference. I used to never wear my hair up, and then I cut it a few years ago and have worn it short (shorter than shoulder-length) ever since. By your school's standards, my new haircut would classify me as a butch lesbian, even though I used to have hair halfway down my back. And that lesbian stereotype is lame anyway; I know super-girly lesbians who wear pink, have long hair, and paint their nails. Your bullies' whole viewpoint is pathetic and silly, but I know that doesn't stop their insults from hurting.
One thing you could do is just remember how immature they're being. Because it's true, they're all being immature idiots. They probably pick on you to make themselves feel better. Do your best to ignore them, or just laugh at them when they say something to you. And think about it, are they as talented at anything as you are at sports? I bet at least some of them aren't. Don't stoop to their level by trying to tease them back, and definitely don't try to start a physical fight with them. If you ignore them, there's a good chance that they will get tired of their little game and leave you alone.
If that doesn't work, you could always talk to a teacher. I know that no one wants to be a squealer, but if ignoring them doesn't work or they start to attack you more viciously (especially if they ever try to beat you up or steal your stuff), you should really take this up with an adult. If you have a coach that you really admire and trust, you could talk to them about this.
Good luck with this. I've been in your situation before, and it really isn't a fun place to be. :/
There is something wrong with my mind. I'm positive that there is.
I'm 5'5 and about 165lbs. When I look in the mirror, I feel physically sick. I can't STAND looking at my body. I feel like a gross obese girl. I'm a dancer. My teacher is always telling me to suck it in, and I just can't anymore. I tried anorexia, but my parents force me to eat. I've tried bulemia, but I can't make myself throw up. I would love to get down to maybe 140lbs.
I feel the need to get very skinny very quickly. I've become ADDICTED to americas next top model. I just love looking at how skinny most of them are. I just want more than anything to be skinny. I will do whatever it takes.
I'm obsessed with nutrition. I count calories like it's my job. My passion is shopping. I just can't bear going into a fitting room and trying on size 12-14 jeans.
I'm very self aware. I realize that I have an unhealthy obsession, but there is truely nothing I can do about it.
Please, don't tell me to focus on a healthy diet an excersize. I'm SO sick and tired of carrots, salads, and tiny portions of meat. I try to excersize, but I never have any motivation.
What I'm looking for now is just some advice. If anyone feels that they can break through my unstable mindset with some personal stories or other bits of advice, please, I just need help.
Thank you for your time.
You definitely have some sort of eating disorder. The best thing I can tell you to do is talk to a school counselor (or a therapist) about how you feel. Your counselor or therapist can help you deal with your self-image issues and work with you so that you no longer feel such a strong desire to lose weight. If you have a friend that you know will support you and can be trusted, talk to her/him about this, too. Friends are around you more often than counselors, and we tend to listen to them more. A supportive friend could be a huge help to you.
This is quite common, especially among teens. I have a health teacher who struggled with the same kind of problem in high school. She was a cross-country runner and spent most of her spare time planning meals to be as calorie-free and healthy as possible. I have a friend who struggles with weight issues and sometimes experiments with starving herself no matter how much all her friends plead with her to stop. And I have seen three people around my school who are obviously suffering from an eating disorder.
I really encourage you to talk to your school counselor, maybe even your parents. You may not be able to do anything about your obsession, but other people can. Good luck with this.
okay. im dying my hair brown today.
my hair is like 4 different colors.
2 shades of blondes (bleached highlights)
light brown and black underneath, it looks like my hair is dirty blonde more then anything.
but im scared because if i hate it, i want to somehow get my old hair back.
is that possible?
if the brown gets washed out eventually, will my old hair be underneath?
It's going to take a long time for absolutely all of the brown to wash out, especially from those blonde patches. You may have light brown highlights instead of blonde highlights for a while. But as long as you aren't bleaching your hair before you dye it, your old hair color will still be underneath. It's just going to take a while for the brown to wash out before you can see it again.
My period did not come in December and i had unprotected sex in beginning of January and my period came 2 weeks after that but it was lighter and it was 2 days shorter, is it possible that i am pregnant?
It's pretty common for women to have what is called 'implantation bleeding'. They get what looks like a shorter, lighter version of their period after the fertilized egg implants itself in the wall of their uterus. So yes, it is very possible that you are pregnant even though you had your period. Definitely take a pregnancy test. You can find them at Walmart and Target in the pharmacy section, or at any drug store.
Hi i was wondering for the size of bras..do the numbers and letters have a certain meaning or is like 36 b to 32c just like one size up.
The letter is your cup size and the number is your bust size (length around). So if you are an A cup, you have smaller actual boobs than a B cup, but if you are a 36A you are bigger around than a 32B.
Okay.
So I just found out 2 of my friends had a sleepover without me and are hiding it from me.
It's fine, because I know they're hiding it from me with good intentions. It hurts a little bit...but I'm pretty sure it's good intentions.
You see, they know my Mum would probably wouldn't let me go, so instead of giving me the pain of knowing they're having fun at a sleepover just pretend it isn't happening.
However I don't know how to react when I hang out with them tomorrow. Do I tell them I know about it? Do I pretend I don't know? I'm really stuck here, help?
The thing that makes it awkward is they both lied about what they were doing. One of them said she was out at dinner, then she said she had people over and couldn't come online.
If you're wondering how I know, let me say: MySpace comments are never secure. Someone will always read something you say to someone which you want to keep a secret.
Bring it up in a gentle way that shows that you aren't extremely offended about it and then discuss it with them. It's better that you have it out in the open and out of everyone's minds. Talk it out nicely for 15 minutes or so and then everyone can move on with a clear conscience.
If you don't, you'll be thinking about it the whole time and so will they. They are probably feeling awkward too because they think that you don't know and they are sort of betraying you. You will all have a much better time if you get it out into the open.