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Friends went behind my back.
Okay.
So I just found out 2 of my friends had a sleepover without me and are hiding it from me.
It's fine, because I know they're hiding it from me with good intentions. It hurts a little bit...but I'm pretty sure it's good intentions.
You see, they know my Mum would probably wouldn't let me go, so instead of giving me the pain of knowing they're having fun at a sleepover just pretend it isn't happening.
However I don't know how to react when I hang out with them tomorrow. Do I tell them I know about it? Do I pretend I don't know? I'm really stuck here, help?
The thing that makes it awkward is they both lied about what they were doing. One of them said she was out at dinner, then she said she had people over and couldn't come online.
If you're wondering how I know, let me say: MySpace comments are never secure. Someone will always read something you say to someone which you want to keep a secret.
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wow, my mom is sometimes like that, a little protective.
i had the same problem like my friends would ask me to go places and have sleepovers but i usually had to tell them no, then they stopped asking me.
anyways so what i did was,
i talked to my mom and asked them if i could invite them over. this way your friends will get to hang out with you
also tell your mom that it feels weird when your friends ask you and you always say no.
and if you can't go somewhere, plan an event yourself at your house.
and let your friends know that its okay if they have sleepovers and stuff, just tell them not to hide it from you.
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Bring it up in a gentle way that shows that you aren't extremely offended about it and then discuss it with them. It's better that you have it out in the open and out of everyone's minds. Talk it out nicely for 15 minutes or so and then everyone can move on with a clear conscience.
If you don't, you'll be thinking about it the whole time and so will they. They are probably feeling awkward too because they think that you don't know and they are sort of betraying you. You will all have a much better time if you get it out into the open.
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Okay so, you're not mad at them, but you just think it will be awkward when you hang out with them tomorrow, well, if they bring it up then you should say something about it like, "Yeah, I know you guys had a sleepover without me and I'm totally cool with it." But if they don't say anything about it, just leave it be and hopefully they will be truthful with you about it if they do that again without you. You can't pretend that you don't know about it, because you do, and if you can't get it off of your mind, just talk to them about ti and let them know how you feel. And yeah, myspace can be a reliable source for other people when they want info that can't be provided for them from the people conversing on myspace. haha
Good luckk,
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