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im a girl. on a lip on my vagina it hurts when i press in a certain place. theres no mark / cut or anything. but i was wodnerign if anyone knew what this could be from and if it will cure on its own in a few weeks

sometimes, right before you get your period, your 'down there' tends to get sore.. i remember the first few times i had mine, it got sore.. like, my actually vagina.. and i thought it was soo weird cause there was nothing there! but my mom said its normal- she said its from cramps.. so you could be getting your period, or maybe you pulled a muscle.. i did that once too, if you stretched weird, or moved in some weird way, you could have strained a muscle down there.. it should go away pretty quickly.. and if it doesn't after a while, ask your mom and maybe a doctor? good luck! and don't worry, i'm sure it's nothing ♥

when you saying, "when the going gets tough, the tough get going" does that mean, when you stand up for yourself, the tough people back down or something? if so, if i were to say "when the going gets tough, the tough get rough" what would that mean? thanks a lot, my brains been killing me about this.

it just means that when things get hard, the people who can handle it become active and do something about it. like, when the going gets tough (when things get difficult) the tough get going (the people who are strong enough too handle the situation, handle it well.) your saying probably means basically the same thing =) hope i helped yaaaa ♥

ohhkay well..
iv been like off an on with the same guy for almost 2 months now. we've broken up and got back together 6 times. i realllllly reallllly like him, oohkay well im basically in love with him. We just started going back out on the 16th and everything like perfect, except we argue, alot, and he says that if we keep asrgeing its not gunna work out. I mean its not even like were fighting or anything? were just argueing about stupid stuf, like yesterday he told me his friends told him that when i was at the beach i had sex with one of the guys i met, and its not true cause iv never even done it, and i got really mad cause his friends say a bunch of stuff about me and im just sick of it, so we started argueing about me being mad? like i wasnt mad, just kinda fustarted with everything. so i dunno what to do cause i dont wanna lose him over something dumb ?

ohkay thats one thing now theres another hah..
how long should you wait to do it with someone?
me & my boyfriend have been talking about it & i think we might this week. its only been a weel & 1 day sice we started going out (this time) but if you add up all the other times we went out its like about a month... is that tooooo short of a time? i mean i really care about him & love him. He says he REALLY REALLY REALLY REALLY likes me. im thinken that if we do it, it might make him wanna stay around long and like me even more ? is that bad ? idk well help, pleaseeee =)

Okay, well first off.. you weren't getting mad over something dumb.. someone making things up about your sex life is indeed something to be angry about. My boyfriend and I argue alot too, but we've been going out solidly for 10 months and have never broken up.

And, well, yes.. it is sort of bad that you want to have sex with him to make him stay around.. Don't do it until you're 100% sure that you want to. If you have to ask Advicenators if you're ready for sex or not, then you are simply not ready.. when you are, you'll just know.. trust me ♥ hope i helpeddd =)

This weekend I am going to a couple parties and am going to be drunk at all of them. I'm debating over whether or not I should hook up with some people. I would like to, but I don't want to worry about the "aftermath". It's with mostly people I don't know, and I'm not going to have sex.

Should I do it or not? What in your opinion are the consequences?

well i wouldn't do it just because i'm not like that.. the consequences are that you can be taken advantage of and possibly raped since you so proclaimed that you'd be drunk, or it could just go way too far without you realizing it.. also, you'd probably be labeled a slut.. plus, fooling around with people you don't know is very dangerous and just flat out a bad idea.. do what you think is right though.. but i would watch yourself and once you decide what you do and don't wanna do, tell a friend to stop you if you go farther than you intended to ♥ hope i helpedddd =)

i didnt read raisin in the sun, but someone on facebook made a group called "i am a dramatic looking man with a rather large package" what does this mean?

i think it means that hes like a freak with a freakishly large weiner haha.. but what does that have to do with a raisin in the sun!? lol

Lately all I want to do is cry. But I can't cry, it's a sign of weakness, right? But I'm not sad, I'm just.....I don't know. Have I held in my tears to long? I never cry when needed, because I don't have a shoulder to cry on(friend). If I cry at school, they will ask me what's wrong, but after I'm done crying they are just going to treat me like crap again, and if I cry at home, well I can't because I have to be a good rolemodle for my autistic brother, I can't just break down and cry! So i have no where to go to cry. What should I do? I don't know if I'll break down at home or school, all I know is that I'm going to have to cry sooner or later.

Do something that relazes you. If I were you, I would take a looongg shower or bath and recouperate in there. And you should just let it allll out. Just cry your poor little heart out, and it will take so much weight off of you. Or, you could go for a run.. that way, you can't be bothered because if you have headphones on like from an MP3 player or something, no one will say anything to you because they'll see your headphones and they'll know that you won't be able to hear them.. go put on some really loud music that pumps you up, and just go. It works, and gets out sooo much stress. It's also a very healthy thing to do. And if someone asks you if you were crying, just say that your allergies have been acting up.. It is afterall allergy season! But if I were you, I would first just go for a looonggg run. Don't think about anything at all. Run as far and as long, as hard, fast, slow, whatever you want until you can't go anymore. Then, go home and take a really long hot shower or bath and just cry. It will make you feel soooo much better, and truly is the best kind of therapy. Good luck! ♥ =)

If you have black hair, are you considered a brunette, or just a black-haired person? I have some people telling me that they are in fact brunette, and others tell me otherwise.

Thanks.

hair stylists and people who study hair have discovered that the only people who truly have black hair are asians.. so if you are NOT asian, you are a brunette.. if you are indeed asian and have black hair, then you're just a person with black hair =) ♥ hope i helpedd

okay so you know how..
2= second
3= third
4 = fourth
5= fifth
6= sixth.

i need to say 4.5 or 4 and a half, but in that tense.

the sentence is.. The ____________ (4.5) planet he went to.

how would i say that?
hope you undertstand what i am saying.

it should read,

"The four point fifth planet he went to."

=)

if i were you, i'd just write it as,

"The 4.5th planet he went to."

or if you want to say half, then it'd be,

"The fourth and a half planet he went to."

hope i helped ♥

For some reason everytime I cry my best guy friend looks like he wants to, but he never does. Why is this? Why can't boys just cry? I've always wondered. Like what will it take to get them to cry? I'm just curious, thanks.

well it's just a matter of comfort. he might be mad at me for saying this [tough luck buddy =P] but i have seen my boyfriend cry.. and has cried with me on occassion. as i said- it's mainly about how comfortable they are with you.. but not JUST that.. also, the kind of person they are. whether they're sensitive, or a macho man. also, what they were taught as a child. but my guess is, that he doesn't wanna seem like a wuss in front of you and doesn't wanna look like a baby. most guys try to hold it in because they don't want to look stupid or 'gay'. why they care, no one will ever know. but don't go and try to make him cry lol.. maybe he just doesn't. i know some people who just don't cry. flat out- they just don't. they choose to exert their emotions in different ways, other than crying. so i'm sure he feels comfortable around you.. but it's probably just that he doesn't want you to think he's weak and that he can't protect, defend, and be there for you =] hope i helpedd ♥

I'm psyching myself out on trying to try a tampon. I tried them like a year ago and haven't since... Ahh.

Im 15 1/2 and Ive had my period for about 4 years now and i just dont think they are for me. But i would love to go running with out a stupid pad. Hellp.

well i used to be in the saaaaamee situation.. and my advice is to make sure you that put it in all the way. when you put it in, you should feel like you can just barely touch that part of the applicator that you're supposed to hold onto to insert it.. because i used to not put them in all the way, and it would huuuuurtttt. but if it's completely in, i don't even notice them =] tampon struggles are usually all in your head and don't really mean anything.. so just relax, and brrreeaatthhee. =] if you need any more advice, leave me an inbox or IM me =] hope i helpedd ♥

This might seem like a stupid question, but when you maturbate can you pop you cherry? THANKS!!

well, if you go in deep enough.. yes, you can =) and just so you know, just because your cherry's been popped, doesn't mean that you're not a virgin.. [you might have read that and been like, "duhhh i know thattt." but trust me- people have asked lol] and it won't hurt.. but it will probably bleed a little =) ♥

can u put two condoms on for double protection>>>????lol

well you can, but you really realllyyy shouldn't. because the friction from the two condoms rubbing together can cause a hole to be burned into one.. and the friction also causes them to break. there's no such thing as double protection, except for a condom and birth control. hope i helped! ♥

what does"grass is greener on the other side" means?

the grass is greener on the other side, means that everyone always thinks that everyone else has it better than they do. The greener the grass, the better the grass. For example, the poorest person in the world probably thinks that it would be amazing to be filthyyyy rich. [it would be better on the other side] while the rich person, may want to know what its like to be poor [he also thinks it would be better on the other side]. it's kind of like, people with curly hair always want straight, and people with straight hair always want curly.. because it's human nature never to be satisfied. and that is what that quote means =) hope i helped yaaahh!! ♥

I am 13 f and there is this guy that i like. My friends tell me that they think he likes me. I worry about him sometimes though. His parents are split up and I guess they want him to make a decision who he wants to live with. I think he is kind of sensative about it. I want to help him out, but I don't want it to be totally akward. how can i help him?!?

well thats a relly touchy thing, so it's probably not a good idea to jump right into it and try to help.. just do whatever you can to let him know you're there, and that he can go to you if he ever needs anything. check up on him once in a while, to see how he's doing, and offer your help when you can. i'm sure that just knowing that you're there for him will be help enough =) but don't like, barge in on his life.. because it's probably really personal for him.. so again, just let him know that you're there for him =) good luck hun ♥

ok, so down in your advice thing you said you got your armpit hair removed. im young, but im eastern european, but the only thing it hit was my armpits. i will shave one day, and feel hair growing back the next, and by the next day its real bad. [[also my eyebrows but not bad at all and i get those waxed]] but i need to know how old you normally have to be to get armpit hair removed, and if it hurts...cuz i HATE mine!

thank you sooo much

sorry but what do you mean by getting it removed? shaving? i shave my armpits every day =) and i think most girls do too ♥

hii
im 16 years old about 5 foot, small, skinny but my problem is i look lik im 12, many people think im much younger when they see me.
i realli hate to look younger especially since i have an 18 year old boyfriend.
i was just wondering what i could possibly do to look older, any suggestion is great.
from makeup to clothing anything really!
i just need some help espeically since summer is coming around and my boyfriend wants to take me to all the hot clubs and parties around and i want to be able to get in easier and to not be mistaken for someone of a much younger age.
i dont want my boyfriend gettin embarresed but instead showing me off!
thanks in advanced

haha i have theee saaaame problem when it comes to looking younger.. lol.

makeup: eyeliner.. but not too much, if applied correctly, will make you look older. any eye makeup, really. like mascara, brown eyeshadow, anything really =) shiny lips, blush, powder.. but whateverrrr you do, make sure you don't apply too much- put it on right. because if you put all of that stuff on the wrong way, it will only make you look younger.

clothes: well, if you're 'developed' you could maybe wear lower, or more revealing shirts.. but as i said with the makeup- don't try too hard, because then you'll just look younger. wear nice clothes.. like denim mini skirts, cute shirts, nice jeans, cute shoes.. just look mature. and whatever you do- don't make it look like you tried really hard.. because that's just a dead giveaway.

hair: usually long, straight down hair looks oldest. unless you have cute curly hair, but that sometimes looks young. i look older if my hair's up in a sort of messy bun =) just play around with everything, and see what works for you

good luck hun ♥ hope i helpeddd

I was really just wondering if your rating is a 5. And someone rates you a 4. Then would that mean you would never get to 5, or is there a possiblity you could get to a 5 again?? Or would your ratings just be a higher 4??

yeahhhh you deff can. cause they only count the ratings from the last 30 days.. so lets say you got rated a 5 on april 1st, then 30 days later, i think may 1st, that 4 won't count. =) you can go to "your feedback" on the main page of your column thing under where it says "Welcome, your name here!" and see on which day you got that rating =) & anyone who says that you'll never have a perfect 5 again, is completely wronggggggggg. ♥

is it illegal to say you are someone else, like if your 13 and you say your 15? (like when your tlking 2 ppl on the internet?)

just wondering ok, thanx

it's not illegal.. it just causes problems sometimes =) ♥

hello..im 10 years old and i have a question. I heard some of my friends talking about giving a boy a blow job. I have heard of the word before but i dont know what it meens and i was to embarrased to ask me friends. Could you please tell me what one is and how to do it ? :S thanks :)

its when you suck on a guys penis to give him sexual pleasure.. i'm not gonna give you a full out description because you're only 10.. google it if you want more information =) ♥

Ok the girl i asked out said no she said she dosent want a boyfreind rightnow, how do i ask her if she likes me so if she dosent i dont have to wait for , also how do i tell her that i will wait for her till she alright with getting a boyfreind all at once please help

alright well you sound like my boyfriend haha.. well, a while back.. well idk he just would keep asking me if i liked him.. he would go "hey sara.. i like you.. alot" then i'd go okkk.. then he'd ask me if i liked him, and i would usually said idk.. haha i was just being mean. when actually i really did like him. but he waited monthsssss for me.. literally. but he would keep in close contact with my best friend.. and she would let him know to stick around.. because i was actually crazy about him.. so he did, and now we've been together for 9 and a half months =) so just do that.. it obviously worked for him =) ♥ good luckkkk

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