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Well, ever since i've learned about sex, i've promised to stay a virgin until i got married. But...now i'm not so sure, its like, i still want to stay a virgin, but then again,...i dont..And i dont know what to do, please help me!

you seem doubtful about it. if you are
doubtful in any way, don't go through with
it!! sex isn't something to mess with. it
can really change your life. you don't want
to have sex juss to have sex. it should be
with someone you love & care for. there's so
many stds going on & there's always a chance
of getting pregnant. once you lose your
virginity, you can't get that back. so really,
no one can decide but yourself. juss think
about what you're doing before you do it.

-hope that helped!♥

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I was just wondering
how do girls like do that hairstyle
when the take some and it looks poofy in the center.. well like this..

http://xa3.xanga.com/fdcb13055623221679718/b15435299.jpg

how do you do that in a pony tail,
and down?

most of it is the exact same way.
you juss need a few steps-

1. put your hair down & make sure
it's washed well & not too greasy.
if it hasn't been washed, you shouldn't
do this hair style.

2. take a strip of hair that you
would want to be poofy. most people
take most of the center or if you
have bangs, you might want to use
these.

3. now, this part is up to you.
you can either keep your hair down
& do it, or put it up & then do it.

4. take the piece of hair, leaving
some in the ponytail/bun if down.
this means that the hair you're using
should be in the ponytail! that's how
it stays that way. i haven't seen too
many people that done it with their
hair down.

5. take a strong hold hairspray or
gel. it's up to you what kind you
want to use. test it out.

6. use the spray/gel. don't use
too much, but juss enough so it
gives it that type of curve.

7. take a bobby pin [or clip]
& put it behind the raised hair
to hold it up if the spray/gel
doesn't work as well as you want.
also the spray/gel might not last
for however long you want it too.

8. fix your hair how you want to.

this hair style doesn't always
work for all people. juss test
it out. if you're doing a bun/
ponytail, you do the same thing.
i wouldn't suggest this hairstyle
when you're wearing it down.

-hope that helped!♥

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Ok I am 14 and I have been playing wheelchair basketball for 6 years and this would be my 7th year which means I am the leader on my team with the most years and today is our first pratice but I really don't feel like I have the mind to go and play it seems kinda boring to me but I really wanna play

I NEED HELP

i think before you decide, you should make
a pros/cons list. figure out why you'd want
to do it & why you wouldn't. after you make
a list, see what column has the greater points.
you don't want to miss out on a good season,
but then again, if you don't want to do it,
you really shouldn't. this decision is up to
you, but before you make it, take some time
to think about it.

-hope that helped!♥

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Is it hard having a part-time job and going to high school?

it depends on the person. i know a lot
of people who have a part-time job,
are in hs, does a sport, & does a club
on top of it. yes, its somewhat difficult,
but i know a lot of people that do it.
if you want a job & the challenge, go for it.

-hope that helped!♥

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ME & my boyfriend are going on a riverboat cruise just for the evening on saturday the 12th. Basically you just get on this boat. have a really nice dinner and then they bring you back to the docs and then theres fireworks. What should i wear, ive never been. do i dress fancy. or dress like it up and dress it down so its fancy but if everbodys not that fancy you dont look like a lame ass

hmm since it's a riverboat cruise thing, you should probably get somewhat dressed up, but not really fancy. maybe a casual dress or a skirt?? some jewelry, do your hair, etc. me & my bfs 3 year ann. was a few days ago haha =). do the build-a-bear thing. we did that also. it's a really cute idea.

-hope that helped!♥

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I have a t-mobile phone. how much per minute [ extra minute ] if you go over. how much does it cost?
I know for some phones its like 5 cents but how much is it for t-mobile.
♥

my friend has Tmobile & im pretty sure
it`s about 10 cents for each minute
you go over. if you have any other
questions, you can either go here-

www.tmobile.com
OR
call your company
& ask them.

-hope that helped!♥

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what are some good quote sites? especially for like love or crushes kinda stuff. thanks!

there's plenty of good quote sites. here's a few-

www.firehotquotes.com
www.buddy4u.com
[yes this is a site for
profiles, but if you go
to the search bar & type
in 'quotes' many people
made profiles out've them]

-hope that helped!♥

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okay, like when people are really skinny, their bones are really little and thin. but like if they gain weight .. do their bones grow? cuz it really looks like it . they cant have alot of fat & a paper thin bone. bones HAVE to grow and get fatter????? do bones grow and get fatter???

that isn't true in all cases. when people get heavier [after being really thin], their bones look bigger because there's more fat & muscle around them. to make your bones bigger, you can't juss eat more. there's nutrition you need for your bones to become stronger such as milk & vitamins.

-hope that helped!♥

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I don't know if this goes here.....but...oh well.
I have been getting occasional cramps (not stomach area cramps, lower abdomen cramps) and discharge. My breasts are slightly tender, but nothing major, and im starting to grow more, i think. Im almost to 100 pounds, and i will confess i have been a little moody...are these signs that my period will start soon?
Please help me!!!!

yes, those are definate signs & symptoms. if you're looking for more, i'd suggest googling "period symptoms". you might want to start carrying around pads & tampons juss incase.

-hope that helped!♥

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im 17 and have had my period since age 11. I use tampons but i was wondering if anyone out there used Instead softcups. And if they work better then tampons.

also don't give me the website. I am looking at it.

I want to hear your experinces with them.

i'm not too sure about the Instead Softcups. i've heard people who had them & some liked them & some didn't. i read the website too & it did say it takes a bit of getting used to. since you said you use tampons already, it might not be too much of a difference, only that its a cup. i was reading about it & it said "it doesnt absorb bleeding like a tampon". which means, it stops it from leaving your body for a bit. now that doesn't sound great to me. it's suppose to be absorbed by something. not left in there. theres a low risk of tss, but i wouldn't want something that wouldn't absorb it, but that's up to you. it sounds pretty safe. i don't know of anyone who had too much trouble with it. if you still have questions, you could ask your gyno.

-hope that helped!♥

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Okay, so i had sex(in a pool) for and 6 minutes, and my bf did not ejaculate.

I haven't gotten my period, though, it should have started yesterday or today, and i'm very regular.

But ALSO! understand that i was not eating correctly for the past about 4-5 weeks, but i am doing a little better this week.

And yet, i'm still losing weight. I was 124, and now i am 114.

I checked pregnancy symptoms, and i have absolutely NONE of them.

Do you think I can be pregnant? or do you think my period is acting up because of the lack of eating correct, a month previous to getting my period?

I know none of you are doctors, but i'm so nervous, and i can't really talk to my mom about it.

Also, i am getting my normal signs of getting my period, i break out a little, and i'm bloated/gassy bubbles are in my stomache, just not nearly as much cramps.

What do you think?
Thank you so much.

if you have sex, yes theres a huge chance of getting pregnant no matter what. im pretty athletic & when i had basketball, i was also eating less. instead of eating 3 meals, i started eating 2, & that made my period a bit irregular. if you change your diet & lose weight, it will definately change your period. if you exercise more often, it will become irregular also. eating more does have to do with your period. if you don't get it for this month, you should really go to the gyno. try not to worry about it for now. worrying also makes your period come late.

-hope that helped!♥

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Whenever I come back from a vacation with my family, my one friend (Jaime) always has these inside jokes with my other really good friend in her profile and websites and stuff. I don't get it cause she never does that when I am home but when I am away, she does. Why does she do that? Is she trying to make me jealous or something? Cause when all three of us are hanging out she will say an inside joke and I will just sit there cause I'm not part of it. Should I talk to her about it?

she might be trying to make you jealous but who knows. juss ask her about it. try not making it into a big deal. you should let her know if its bothering you.

-hope that helped!♥

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Tomorrow is my first day of school and i'm really excited. But I have to get up at 5 in the morning to get ready and leave for the bus stop at 6:20ish. Problem is my shower is broken and we can't get the repairs done till 10 in the morning tomorrow.. ughh. My mom is letting me use her shower in her room but I can't until her boyfriend gets up 5:45! I really can't wait that long because it takes me an hour to get ready. It's not like I can't do some things before I take a shower like putting on my make-up, clean my ears, and stuff. I asked my mom nicely if she could get up at 5 and so could her boyfriend just for one day. And it's only a half hour difference. She started flipping out on me too. Do you honestly think I'm being selfish? and how can I convince her?, I've already cleaned the whole house! thanks for advice.

since she's your mom, you really can't do anything about it. don't bother her with it, but sit down & talk to her. juss explain that since it's the first day of school you really don't want to be late. i don't think this is something you can bribe her with & she probably doesn't want to wake up early so you can take a shower. since it's juss for tomorrow, try talking to her about it. i don't think its really being selfish, because showers are important. if she says no again, there's nothing you can really do. juss try getting absolutely everything done before you take a shower, take a shower quickly, maybe 10 mins, so that you can have about 15-20 to do everything else.

-hope that helped!♥

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ok, so my boyfriend of 2 years broke up w/ me about 2 & a half months ago & I am still upset about it. Some days I hate him & other days I miss him & want him back. When he broke up w/ me he said @ first it was because I was possessive and then he told me he just wanted to be single for awhile. Well two weeks later he starts dating a girl who is 15 (he is 17) & she lives 3 hours away. And they only had met once before they started dating. I don't know what to do anymore. Ive been depressed for awhile & it feels like I will never get over it. Then school is going to start in like 2 weeks and Im really scared to see him because I haven't seen him all summer and I loved it but Im afraid when I see him @ school Im going to get upset and the progress I had made will be gone. Do you think that his relationship is just a rebound? And he will ever call me again to apologize? I just want some answers but I dont want to talk to him until they break up. What should I do?

obviously, you can't make anyone date you or like you or whatever. why not try to be friends?? if you really 'hate' him or cant be around him because it upsets you, i think you should tell him & then try to avoid it. honestly, that's not the best thing for you to do, but it is an option. you should talk to him & tell him you want to be friends. let him know how you feel. you'll eventually get over the fact that you guys aren't dating, but that doesn't mean he doesn't want to be your friend. if he said he wanted to be single for awhile, that doesn't exactly mean it was your fault. juss see how things go. you might feel different once school starts up again.

-hope that helped!♥

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I'm a really shy person, and that makes social things hard for me. People automatically assume I am prude and just don't talk to me. When people DO get to know me, they tell me that they are completley suprised and they can't believe they had never talked to me. Do any of you have suggustions on tips to be less shy? I'm really trying to overcome it

im pretty sure everyone is shy at one time or anything. it's normal to be shy around people you don't know, but your friends?? definately shouldn't be shy around them. let yourself go. be yourself. there's no reason to be shy. i think you should let people know you as you. be friendly. say hi, talk to them, etc. you shouldn't be shy, because what if the other people are?? you'd want to loosen them up a bit too right?? juss be yourself. no one can ask for more than that.

-hope that helped!♥

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All In the past month or so, a lot of my friends are having all sorts of problems...and I feel like it's all being put on me. One of my friends is having family problems, and she got in a car accident yesterday(she is fine), and another friend is having boyfriend (not problems necissarly) troubles...
It's like I know that It's not jsut me, my friends have other friends who are helping them with their situations, but I'm still dealing with it all, even if i'm the only one.
What do y'all suggest I do? I don't want to not be able to help my friends, but if I hear of one more problem from anyone else that I'm not getting them from...I just don't know what I'll do.

i know what you mean. stress is really difficult & what not. i think you should do what you can, & if it becomes too stressful helping a person, then let them know. they're your friends right?? talk to them about it. if you keep getting stressed out, take a break & do something for yourself. explain that it's not them that's doing it, but it's you because your stressed.

-hope that helped!♥

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I was thinking about using hydroxycut , my boyfriend who is 17 & never used it told me that it makes you not hungry. & then i told him that it's basically like starving yourself then, and he said no, and then he said something else. I'm only 15 & i'm 5'0, 130 pounds. The problems i have on my body is my stomach , sides, waist, and thighs. I would like to lose weight in those areas before august 13 ... so my questions are...

does it work?
& if so will i get good results by august 13th?
Is it basically like starving yourself?
Can i walk by sweets and not crave them?
& if i get it what food should i eat?

thnx in advance and i'm really sorry it's long.

ANYTHiNG Will help....
&heart's; kayla

i dont know information on hydroxycut, but i do know that anything like that is really bad for you. you can't lose weight by doing that stuff. lets face it, that won't work. what you have to do is watch what you eat & exercise. yes, it sounds easier than it is, but really, diet pills, medicine, etc. will not help you truly. you may see results, but you will regain the weight back. i know a few people that were interested in it & it didn't work.

-hope that helped!♥

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is there like a health chart of how much you're suppose to weigh for how tall you are? i am about 5'

yes, theres a lot of charts like this. heres a website-

http://www.healthchecksystems.com
/heightweightchart.htm

these aren't totally accurate because your bone structure & what not does have something to do with it. if you want something more accurate, you should try your body fat percentage. here's a website for that-

http://www.he.net/~zone/prothd2.html

-hope that helped!♥

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Hi, I am a 16 year old girl. So, ok there was this guy that I dated for a month. Our last date was on a Sunday & I broke up with him that Thursday. On our date, he barley put his arm around me & didn’t even kiss me. Usually on our dates we do nothing but that. Then at school that week he was acting kind of funny. He didn’t call me at all that week. On Thursday at school he didn’t even hug me before he left for practice. That night I called him & said that I think it would be better if we were just friends and he agreed. I still liked him when i broke it off I could tell that he really did think it was the right thing. We still both really did want to be friends. That weekend after i broke up with him was horrible. I still really liked him and all i could think about was him. I thought it would pass. After we broke up, he barley talked to me or didn’t even talk to me at all. I tried everything. I tried talking to him about it, calling him, emailing him, everything. He didn’t seem to want anything to do with me, so after about a month of trying to talk to him I gave up and decided that he would talk to me when he wanted to. Since school got out ive emailed him a few times telling him i want us to hang out and be firends like we used to be. Well about a couple of months after we broke up I saw that he still had a picture of me in his wallet. *the only thing he really has in his wallet are my picture & money* Then his friend told me that he still had my picture in a frame on his desk. I could understand why he still had my pictures if we were still friends, but we weren’t. Now, its 3 months later and i still really like him. I miss him soo much. I havent talked to him or seen him all summer. What should i do? about everything?

okay, you said you tried calling him & talking to him & he barely talked to you?? that's the obvious sign. i don't think you should keep trying to talk to him. don't let yourself keep getting hurt. if he wants a relationship with you er wants to talk to you, he will. you did your part. i think you should let him know how you feel. go over to his house er something, but that's it. don't keep trying to get in contact with him if you tell him & he doesn't really say/do anything about it. its his loss if he doesn't want you to be his friend.

-hope that helped!♥

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well i was looking at your questions and your a really good question answerer and when i tryed asking my question to other people i never really got the answer i was looking for.. so i was hoping maybe you could help me. its kinda personal but .. im hoping you wont mind considering your a girl too.

okay so like im thinking about shavin down below and im not quiet sure about shaving it all off or doing some other kind of shave or trimming it. im pretty much comfortable with anything. but the thing is i want to know what boys prefer more. everything shaved..a kidna of shave.. or hair trimmed.. cause im going into highschool now and i dont wanna have a bad start and if anything happens i dont wanna regret not doing the right thing with myself. like you might be like we'll its whatever your comfortable its your body. but like i dont want anyone to be grossed out becuase its not like boys would do something like that today maybe even the ones you least except. i just want to do what a boy would perfer.so just incase anything does happen everything will be fine and ill have nothign to worry about .. so if you have any experience about it please share =]


also.

about a handjob. do you just unzipper there pants or go down there jeans with your hand? or will they adjust thereselves for u

i dont know if youve had any experience with any of this stuff but if you can help me id really appreate it ..


also if this stuff is to personal and you dont feel comfortable answering it.. i understand =D

and ill be sure to rate you high

thank you !!

i've learned from my friends that are guys (i never had sex er anything so i cant tell you by experience) that all guys like different things. also, it depends like what the guys doing it for. here's an example-

you guys have been dating for a really long time, you're married, or you've been good friends & you want to express your feelings. obviously you wouldn't have to do anything 'down there' because he juss wants to (lets make this corny) "make love". do you know what i mean??

if you haven't been dating that long, er you aren't dating at all, you might want to "fix yourself up a bit".

if you never did that before, start by trimming until you KNOW when you're going to have sex er someones going to be down there. then it's kindve up to you. it might be too awkward to ask?? but you also might want to. if you know you're 'partner', i guess you can say, you can probably kind've predict. if you really have no idea, i'd suggest shaving everything juss incase. if after you guys have sex, he mentions "oh hey you didnt have to do that" then yeah you don't have to.

like i said before, i never had sex but i'll try to answer your question. i think you should juss use the zipper?? haha =) i mean idk its really up to you & him i guess. i think he'll explain it er adjust himself the way he wants.

sorry if you didn't get answers you were looking for. i'm definately not experienced in this area, but i tried!

-hope that helped!♥

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