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im not over my ex, but i broke up with him
Hi, I am a 16 year old girl. So, ok there was this guy that I dated for a month. Our last date was on a Sunday & I broke up with him that Thursday. On our date, he barley put his arm around me & didn’t even kiss me. Usually on our dates we do nothing but that. Then at school that week he was acting kind of funny. He didn’t call me at all that week. On Thursday at school he didn’t even hug me before he left for practice. That night I called him & said that I think it would be better if we were just friends and he agreed. I still liked him when i broke it off I could tell that he really did think it was the right thing. We still both really did want to be friends. That weekend after i broke up with him was horrible. I still really liked him and all i could think about was him. I thought it would pass. After we broke up, he barley talked to me or didn’t even talk to me at all. I tried everything. I tried talking to him about it, calling him, emailing him, everything. He didn’t seem to want anything to do with me, so after about a month of trying to talk to him I gave up and decided that he would talk to me when he wanted to. Since school got out ive emailed him a few times telling him i want us to hang out and be firends like we used to be. Well about a couple of months after we broke up I saw that he still had a picture of me in his wallet. *the only thing he really has in his wallet are my picture & money* Then his friend told me that he still had my picture in a frame on his desk. I could understand why he still had my pictures if we were still friends, but we weren’t. Now, its 3 months later and i still really like him. I miss him soo much. I havent talked to him or seen him all summer. What should i do? about everything?
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okay, you said you tried calling him & talking to him & he barely talked to you?? that's the obvious sign. i don't think you should keep trying to talk to him. don't let yourself keep getting hurt. if he wants a relationship with you er wants to talk to you, he will. you did your part. i think you should let him know how you feel. go over to his house er something, but that's it. don't keep trying to get in contact with him if you tell him & he doesn't really say/do anything about it. its his loss if he doesn't want you to be his friend.
-hope that helped!♥
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Well, even if it does seem like he thinks that you and him should just be friends, he could be a bit heartbroken by it, and it might seem akward talking to you after the break up. I know this sounds sad but you should just move on, and find another guy.
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You did the right by breaking up with him in the first place. It sounds like he started to lose interest in the relationship and didn't even care to let you know, instead he just stopped acting as if you were his girlfriend. Then when you decide to break-up, he just says 'ok' and moves on with it. I think what you should have done was say, 'Hey, is there something going on because I noticed on our last date you weren't very touchy-feely with me' or something and he might have explained.
But it doesn't matter. What matters is the fact that he lost interest and it's over. The truth of the matter is that you and this guy may have been close friends before dating, but it probably won't ever be the same as what it used to be because of the things that you both just went through. After a break-up, you both have to go through this process where you have to take a long time apart to really get over each other. This process can take up to a year even if it was only a month relationship.
1. So your first step is to not ever beat yourself up for thinking about him or crying over him. Going through a break-up is very harsh on emotions and if you beat yourself up about it, then whose going to take care of you through this process? Your friends and family can really help you through tough times like these, but you are the only person who understands you best, so be your own best friend and let yourself cry over him.
2. Don't try to call him anymore. You want to shut off all contact with this guy in order to really get over him fastest and not feel all of the horrible feelings as much. If he has a screen name and is on your buddy list, take him off and block him. Even seeing his screen name or away messages can trigger these bad feelings. I know you're curious to see what new girl or hobbies he has going on in his life, but you matter more. You are going through a horrible time in your life where you need to keep track on yourself and nobody else. When you check up on him or try calling him, you are hurting yourself.
3. Keep busy and spend time with friends and family. You may feel like you want to be alone all of the time, and you can be alone by all means whenever you really need to, but you have to just get up and go out even if it hurts and you don't have fun because all you can think about is him. The more you get out and do other things, you'll likely have as bad of a day and as bad of a time. If you need to talk about it, go to your best friend or most trusted family member or anyone you feel comfortable with talking to. If you aren't really used to talking about things, go to someone who you think would understand the most.
4. Relax and don't be afraid to take time for you. Now is a great excuse for you to be selfish for a while. Spoil yourself by taking two hot baths a day and treating yourself to extra chocolate. Whatever makes you feel really good. Do you like writing poetry? If so, sit down for a few hours or type up a good poem to express the way you are dealing with this. Treat yourself as if you are really sick and you have to take extra care of yourself like anyone would.
And last, don't feel like you won't get someone as good as this person or better! You will get somebody who really likes you and wants to be apart of your life, and it may not be happening now, but it will. Besides, you have to take this time to have fun with your friends and flirt around with anyone you want to. And remember, each time you cry over him, don't think that you are getting worse. Each time that you do cry, you are a baby step closer to getting better.
I hope this helped and if you have anymore questions, please send me another inbox message.
-TheTeenGirl
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