Mackenzie's advice column

Just host it - it's much easier, and definitely a whole lost faster.

You "host" something by going to: http://www.photobucket.com and SIGNING UP for a FREE account.

Then the page will refresh, and you should see a new page with an option to click on "BROWSE". Next, search your computer for the picture(s), and click "SUBMIT". Then the page will refresh yet again. You will see all/any images you happen to have on the new screen. Simply find the picture you want, and copy the PROVIDED URL in the top white slot.

Next, paste that URL in your "URL OF A PICTURE OF YOU" slot, on your "PROFILE SETTINGS" page.

It may sound difficult, but it's actually super easy. :D

♥[?]♥ hey i have a question for all guys: are guys turned off by big feet? i wear a size 8 1/2, and so i was just wondering. thx for all answers, i'll give all NICE answers 5s! ♥

I had a size 8 1/2 5 years ago... Needless to say, they've grown like banshees since then!

On the bright side, I've never had any complaints and/or lack of male attention over it. ;)

♥[?]♥ Okay i need the answer to this riddle please!!

You are stuck in a room with no windows or doors. a solid room. Only things in this room is a mirror and a table. how do you escape?

It really got me thinking and i can't seem to find out the answer. If i think you got it right then i`ll give you a 5. but if you try i`ll give you a 5 also!! =D thank you

I don't see how this "riddle" makes any sense in the slighest, right?

"Look in the mirror, see what you saw"

If you look in the mirror... and "see what you saw"....... wouldn't that mean to turn the saw on yourself? Who's to ASSUME the TABLE is in the REFLECTION of the mirror?

Agree? Disagree? Input of any kind? hah :P

♥[?]♥ anyone know any good xanga sites to get qoutes, or how to search for them to find them?? knowing both would be GREAT thanks soo much!:)

xoxo*

You're BOUND to find what you want at one of the following:
- http://www.wisdomquotes.com/
- http://www.xanga.com/home.aspx?user=xx____qu0tezz
- http://www.xanga.com/home.aspx?user=x_emo_quotes_x
- http://www.xanga.com/home.aspx?user=quotes_4_yeew
- http://www.xanga.com/home.aspx?user=flip_x_flop_quotesz
- http://www.xanga.com/home.aspx?user=SiMpLe_SwEeTqUoTeS
- http://www.xanga.com/home.aspx?user=love_quotzx3
- http://www.xanga.com/home.aspx?user=SO_CUTE_CWOTES
- http://www.xanga.com/home.aspx?user=AwesomeQuotesx
- http://www.brainyquote.com/quotes/keywords/popular.html

And to search yourself, at http://www.xanga.com it says "BLOGRINGS" at the top. Just click that, and search in the search bar for "quotes".

It's a piece of cake, you'll see! [:

♥[?]♥ soemone i kno died and im really bad at dealing with it its been awhile and i still get thoose days that i just miss them so much is there anyway i can cope better?has this happened to you?if so howd u deal?

I guess everyone has different things that work for them. Personally, I've only been exposed to death twice. My way of dealing with it was to cry. About 6 months ago my Aunt (who was a second mother to me) died of a sudden heart attack. When my Dad told me, the tears started flooding! I just ran over to the couch and my Dad held me for hours and hours while I balled. I just kept crying, harder and harder; that worked for me.

Another thing I try to do is think of all the good they've accomplished in their life. My Aunt was a nurse, so I tried to think about all of the people that loved her, all of the people who were lucky enough to have her in their life - she was without a doubt the most remarkable person I've ever met. I felt thankful to have known her. Everyone loved my Aunt - it was impossible not to. So thinking about all of the good she's done and joy she's spread.. that helped me.

But just as easily as I cried, when my Grandpa died... my Mom never shed a tear. Who knows what she was thinking.. it wasn't my business to ask. But she did what worked for her, even though it made no sense to me.

Personally, I like to keep pictures of them somewhere where I will see them all of the time. For the first few weeks, looking at it would bring me to tears everytime. But now, I get the widest smile. I guess you could say I deal with losing someone.. is keeping them near. Just because you can't reach out and touch them, doesn't mean they're not there. They'll always be with you, always, always, always.

I found some websites I can suggest to you:
-- http://weblog.burningbird.net/archives/2004/09/30/how-we-deal-with-death-is-a-reflection-of-how-we-view-life/
-- http://www.healthyplace.com/communities/depression/related/loss_grief_3.asp
-- http://kidshealth.org/parent/emotions/feelings/death.html

I'm sorrie I can't be of more help to you, but when such a devastating event occurs.. I couldn't TELL you how to respond. :/ You'll have to figure that out for yourself.

Hopefully you're able to find some useful tips within those links. Please know that if you ever feel the need for a friend, you can come to me. (:

♥[?]♥ you left me! haha hey i've got it all figured out now wait no i don't. umm i just wanted to say i love you, and i'm sitting here waiting for your return my queen. and lovey i sure hope you give this question a good answer or i reserve the right to fuck you up (fuck you hardcore!) haha alright kiddo i'll talk to you later i guess. i love you tons toots.

your best friend alive or dead
william!

Hmm. I was attempted to read... when the letters started to scramble. I think I saw something like, "MAACCKENZIEEE!!! I'M YOUR BIGGEST FAN, AND I'M EVER SO THANKFUL YOU PAY ME ATTENTION!!! I'D BE SO LOST WITHOUT YOU!!! YOU'RE MY BETTER HALF AND WITHOUT A DOUBT ONE OF THE BEST THINGS TO EVER HAPPEN TO ME, YOUR HIGHNESS". And to that I say, I love you more! ;]
♥ Mackenzie ♥

♥[?]♥ I put a new picture on my advice collumn, The girl's name is Sarah {I admire her}. Shes cute, dontcha think? almost as cute as you.
--Caden--

PS: I love how you started the linking fad.
Roxy is using it now, in case you did'nt know.

CADENNNNN!!! ♥
I saw the new picture; thank you for telling me!! And if I may say, it's prettie steamy up in thurrr! ;) And Sarah is cute as a button, yes! As cute as me though? Ehhhh, I dunno... I wouldn't say I'm cute. OF COURSE, YOU'RE more than welcome to. Good news though, I'll have new pictures by Wednesday/Thursday! w00p!! The one I have up now is no more than three weeks, though.. so it's prettie new still!! But yes, everyone does the linking thing now.. I don't care anymore. Plus, (almost) everyone who does it are people I adore anyhow!! I did see that this Roxy chick does it, too, thanks. I wouldn't get mad over it, it's not like I created the code... I just.. made it popular! [:
♥ Mackenzie ♥

♥[?]♥ Heyy do u know ANY good sites fer myspace layouts peez!? thanks Makendzie ♥

Well if you want a PREMADE layyouts, check out:
-- http://myspace.nuclearcentury.com/
-- http://www.xanga.com/MYSPACELAY0UTSXD
-- http://www.myspacelayouts.org/Blue-Layouts.php
-- http://www.xanga.com/MyHawtSpace_LayOuts
-- http://myspaceforum.proboards35.com/index.cgi?board=layouts
-- http://www.myspace.com/hey_lyts
-- http://www.myspace.com/x_dollfacelayouts

HOWEVER, if you'd like to make your own, try:
-- http://www.mygen.co.uk/index.php?page=create [the one I recommend most -it's wayyy easy, and it'll look great!!!]
-- http://www.carrierawks.com/myspace.php
-- http://www.strikefile.com/myspace/editor.htm

Goodluck deciding! :D
♥ Mackenzie ♥

♥[?]♥ What Happend to the Site News??? There hasnt been any in about 1 or 2 months!

I'm glad you actually read the 'Site News' to notice it's abscence. But 'DangerNerd' (site runner) has a lot on his hands of the moment. It'll be back, you can count on that. (:

♥[?]♥ There's this guy I've liked for a really long time, since the 7th grade (We're in the 9th grade). Let's call him Will. We used to be good friends, and joke around and stuff. But this year, we're in none of the same classes except Science. He's developed many female friends in all of his other classes; the new kids. This is alright, but I sense that we've drawn apart. I mean, we always talk on AIM, but in person he acts kind of bland around me. Have I lost him already, or is there some way that we can be the way we used to? I decided to ask you because you seem to have a sense of these things.

Perhaps you're letting these new female friends of his make you feel inferior, and it shouldn't be that way. You have every right to associate with him just as much as each one of them do. Maybe you're not trying as hard as you used to? I know you mentioned you approach him in school, but.. how often? Do you ever catch him alone? Is there any way you could, like before school maybe? I know I'm not there to actually witness all of this, but my guess is that if he's willing to talk to you on AIM.. he doesn't dislike you in any way, agree? So, you talk to him online, and "try" to talk to him at school. Ever "try" to ask him to hang out? Any excuse you can come up with to hang out should be good, right? Go to the skating rink? Go to a park? Go to a school game or something? Go get ice cream? Go see a movie? Maybe one or two MUTUAL friends could come along with you two. Is that at all possible? Have you even tried that lately? If he says he's busy, then there's nothing wrong with questioning when he WILL be able to hang out. You shouldn't be TOO TOO unfair and expect a date three or four weeks in advance (as things can come up suddenly) but just make shore you send a strong message that you want to spend time with him. Does he even know you feel this way? And would you be against telling him? Perhaps if you make him understand what you're feeling.. he'll realize what he's been ignoring, and will want to change that. (:
♥ Mackenzie ♥

♥[?]♥ My bf brokeup with me over 2 weeks ago. (wow i just realized how long ive been going through this) He hasnt really talked to me as much as he did before he asked me out and that really bothers me. I still really like him but I don't know if he still likes me cause he won't talk to me. His older sister keeps telling me to get over him, but I can't and more importantly, I don't want to get over him. No matter what he does to me I know I can't hate him or be mad at him. I think I'm starting to become depressed, I either eat to much at one time or dont eat at all, I always feel like I don't want to talk to anyone except my older brother(hes going out with my x's older sister) and my x, and for the past week I've felt like I want to go to sleep and not wake up for a really long time. My friends can't help me because the only person that I want is my x. I really just want my best friend back. My friend who could talk to me about anything and actually acted like he cared for me. I have no idea what I should do anymore!! I feel like if I dont do something that I'm going to be lost. please help me I feel so helpless.

I'm not so sure I know what to tell you here. Do you have ANY contact whatsoever?? Phone? Email? Internet? School? Clubs? Friends? I know you mentioned how your brother is dating this boy's older sister, so anyway the four of you could do something together? And why won't he talk to you? Is he angered at you? Did you two end baddly or something? Will he talk to you at all?

I don't mean to sound heartless, but if he's unwilling to accept any form of contact with you all together, maybe you should back off. Before you do that, make sure you've done all you could to get through to this boy. Let him know that you're giving him space, and if he ever has the urge to see you again.. then he knows how to get ahold of you. You make HIM intiate some contact.

Relationships/friendships are a 50-50 partnership. One person can't do all the work. Look at you, you're doing all of the work, aren't you? And is the friendship going strong? Of course not. It's difficult to help someone who doesn't want to be helped. It's hard to get inside the head of a stubborn person. You're not a mind reader, and you're no miracle worker. You can't beat yourself up over his ignorance - that's not your fault. Not your fault at all!!

So try to get him to come around, but don't waste your life away hoping - that's unfair to yourself. Ever think about it this way: why on EARTH would you care so much for someone who doesn't feel the same way? Just don't cry over someone who wouldn't cry over you, Hun. There's no sense in giving your heart away to someone who isn't willing to give you his, right? I highly suggest not to waste your time and tears on this kid. You've made your attempts, now be proud of them, and walk away with your head held high just KNOWING you TRIED to keep him near.. but it was HE who wanted none of it..

I'm here, if you feel the need to continue this with my further, anytime. (:
♥ Mackenzie ♥

♥[?]♥ hey! i was just lookin on here and saw u answered a lot of ?'s so i figured ud b able to help me. well lets see this past summer i dated a guy named we will jus say johnny .. and he didnt come from much money and it had always been his dream to play ftball so then he got a college scholarship to play ftball which was his dream and so i was like look u need to do that dont worry abt me and i slowly but surely moved on and this guy i was good friends with , i started to like and he was abt to move to ATL but he was like no ill stay here for you and then we start hittin it off well "johnny" is comin home in like 3 weeks and i really wana hang out with him and we have been talkin alot lately and i kno he likes this other grl too named ashley but i dont wana do this to the guy i like .. but i still like josh .. how should i handle this??

(I'm guessing "Josh" is the ATL guy?)

Also, you never mentioned if "Johnny" is coming home for winter break, or permantely or what. If he's simply coming for a short period of time, then excuse me for being so blunt, but I think if "Josh" truly cares for you, he'd want for you to always be happy. Correct? If seeing an old friend whose back in town for a few weeks is upsetting to "Josh", then perhaps it's time you start crossing some names off of your friends list.

No one says your visit with "Johnny" has to include romance. If "Johnny" has feelings for another girl, he might not even be LOOKING for romance. If you're worried about "Josh" being angry, I suggest YOU lay down the law, and you TELL "Josh" how it's gonna be! "Johnny" is your friend. If you want to see him, you have every right to. You don't need anybody's permission. And I really don't see how you NEED to explain yourself to "Josh" anyhow!! It's not even like you're dating, right? And even if you are/were, he has no control over you. You have the free will to associate with whomever you want and NOT feel bad about it.

Hell, if you think "Josh" and "Johnny" are both such wonderful guys, why not introduce them? "Johnny" is obviously a major part of your life, and if you wish for "Josh" to be also, I think having them meet would be a great idea. Agree? If nothing else, these boys should be begging to meet someone who happens to treat you right, love you so much, and mean the world to you, don'tcha think??

I know I'm always thrilled for my friends to know that they've found a new person to share some smiles with.

They don't have to be full of jealously over one another, they should feel joy and thanks for each other for the way they make you feel.

I guess I really can't tell you what to do here. You'll have to decide that for yourself. I just hope that you do what's truly in your heart. Don't be a push over, don't ever let someone have such control over you. Worrie about yourself here, and do what best suits YOU..

I'm here, though, if you ever feel the need for another opinion. Hopefully things work out for you.
♥ Mackenzie ♥

♥[?]♥ I know this is a stupid question. But can someone explain to me what a " queer " is ? Im so confused about it. I'll rate if you want me to

"Queer" is simply another term for "gay" or "homosexual". (:

♥[?]♥ ok so my friend told me it was really kool when you pass out so she shower me how she did it on her bro first then she did it to me i didnt no if it was bad for you or anything and i just wanter to try it once i didnt think it could hurt so when i told a couple of my friedns about it they where like its so bad you could have died and all this stuff so is it really that bad for you? please help i need some answers.

I saw the very same episode of this on Dr. Phil that 'younggrandma' apparently saw. I found the link to the page, and I suggest you check it out. You can hear stories from the people who have lived (and died) this:

-- http://drphil.com/shows/show/585

Some other websites I can recommend to you would be:
-- http://www.connectwithkids.com/tipsheet/2005/235_jun29/choke.html
-- http://www.cnn.com/2005/US/08/09/choking.game/

I understand when all of the other kids are doing something, it might be hard to resist. I just beg you for you to read these articles, and think twice next time. [:

♥[?]♥ can you get any STD's from being fingerd....i didnt cum or anything like that ...but i was fingerd and it was my first time and i worried

No, Ma'am.

♥[?]♥ does anyone know where you can go online to listen to music... (the whole songs not samples) without having to download anything...
easy 5's for help

You can listen to entire songs for free at all of the following:
- http://www.xanga.com/xanga_music
- http://www.xanga.com/music_galore
- http://www.xanga.com/musicurl
- http://www.xanga.com/XxAaNnGaA_MUSIC
- http://www.xanga.com/home.aspx?user=Beyond_Amazing_Music
- http://www.xanga.com/home.aspx?user=XxX_MUSIC_4_U_XxX

♥[?]♥ If you dont know your pregnant and if you take the new nuva ring birthcontrol is it a chance that you would kill the baby?

They strongly urge that you:

"Avoid NuvaRing if you have the following conditions:

Pregnancy or suspected pregnancy"

(it's the first thing they list, so I'd assume they're very serious)

I suggest you pay attention to the instructions. For additional information on NuvaRing, check out their website:
-- http://www.nuvaring.com/Consumer/isNuvaRingForMe/thingsToConsider/index.asp

♥ Mackenzie ♥

♥[?]♥ do moderators get to see questions ask to one person.

Only Level 2 and Level 3 Moderators can see who is asking the questions around here. And that is done for safety reasons. There are only 16 Level 2 and Level 3 Moderators, combined, out of over 10,000 columnists. So, unless you plan on asking for help on something insanely harmful and/or illegal, you shouldn't have anything to worrie about. (:

♥[?]♥ what is one way to deal w/ a real hard death?

Wow. I don't really know. I guess everyone has different things that work for them. Personally, I've only been exposed to death twice. My way of dealing with it was to cry. About 6 months ago my Aunt (who was a second mother to me) died of a sudden heart attack. When my Dad told me, the tears started flooding! I just ran over to the couch and my Dad held me for hours and hours while I balled. I just kept crying, harder and harder; that worked for me.

Another thing I try to do is think of all the good they've accomplished in their life. My Aunt was a nurse, so I tried to think about all of the people that loved her, all of the people who were lucky enough to have her in their life - she was without a doubt the most remarkable person I've ever met. I felt thankful to have known her. Everyone loved my Aunt - it was impossible not to. So thinking about all of the good she's done and joy she's spread.. that helped me.

But just as easily as I cried, when my Grandpa died... my Mom never shed a tear. Who knows what she was thinking.. it wasn't my business to ask. But she did what worked for her, even though it made no sense to me.

Personally, I like to keep pictures of them somewhere where I will see them all of the time. For the first few weeks, looking at it would bring me to tears everytime. But now, I get the widest smile. I guess you could say I deal with losing someone.. is keeping them near. Just because you can't reach out and touch them, doesn't mean they're not there. They'll always be with you, always, always, always.

I found some websites I can suggest to you:
-- http://weblog.burningbird.net/archives/2004/09/30/how-we-deal-with-death-is-a-reflection-of-how-we-view-life/
-- http://www.healthyplace.com/communities/depression/related/loss_grief_3.asp
-- http://kidshealth.org/parent/emotions/feelings/death.html

I'm sorrie I can't be of more help to you, but when such a devastating event occurs.. I couldn't TELL you how to respond. :/ You'll have to figure that out for yourself.

Hopefully you're able to find some useful tips within those links. Please know that if you ever feel the need for a friend, I'll forever be here.
♥ Mackenzie ♥

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