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My bf brokeup with me over 2 weeks ago. (wow i just realized how long ive been going through this) He hasnt really talked to me as much as he did before he asked me out and that really bothers me. I still really like him but I don't know if he still likes me cause he won't talk to me. His older sister keeps telling me to get over him, but I can't and more importantly, I don't want to get over him. No matter what he does to me I know I can't hate him or be mad at him. I think I'm starting to become depressed, I either eat to much at one time or dont eat at all, I always feel like I don't want to talk to anyone except my older brother(hes going out with my x's older sister) and my x, and for the past week I've felt like I want to go to sleep and not wake up for a really long time. My friends can't help me because the only person that I want is my x. I really just want my best friend back. My friend who could talk to me about anything and actually acted like he cared for me. I have no idea what I should do anymore!! I feel like if I dont do something that I'm going to be lost. please help me I feel so helpless.
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I'm not so sure I know what to tell you here. Do you have ANY contact whatsoever?? Phone? Email? Internet? School? Clubs? Friends? I know you mentioned how your brother is dating this boy's older sister, so anyway the four of you could do something together? And why won't he talk to you? Is he angered at you? Did you two end baddly or something? Will he talk to you at all?
I don't mean to sound heartless, but if he's unwilling to accept any form of contact with you all together, maybe you should back off. Before you do that, make sure you've done all you could to get through to this boy. Let him know that you're giving him space, and if he ever has the urge to see you again.. then he knows how to get ahold of you. You make HIM intiate some contact.
Relationships/friendships are a 50-50 partnership. One person can't do all the work. Look at you, you're doing all of the work, aren't you? And is the friendship going strong? Of course not. It's difficult to help someone who doesn't want to be helped. It's hard to get inside the head of a stubborn person. You're not a mind reader, and you're no miracle worker. You can't beat yourself up over his ignorance - that's not your fault. Not your fault at all!!
So try to get him to come around, but don't waste your life away hoping - that's unfair to yourself. Ever think about it this way: why on EARTH would you care so much for someone who doesn't feel the same way? Just don't cry over someone who wouldn't cry over you, Hun. There's no sense in giving your heart away to someone who isn't willing to give you his, right? I highly suggest not to waste your time and tears on this kid. You've made your attempts, now be proud of them, and walk away with your head held high just KNOWING you TRIED to keep him near.. but it was HE who wanted none of it..
I'm here, if you feel the need to continue this with my further, anytime. (:
♥ Mackenzie ♥
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