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death
what is one way to deal w/ a real hard death?
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Wow. I don't really know. I guess everyone has different things that work for them. Personally, I've only been exposed to death twice. My way of dealing with it was to cry. About 6 months ago my Aunt (who was a second mother to me) died of a sudden heart attack. When my Dad told me, the tears started flooding! I just ran over to the couch and my Dad held me for hours and hours while I balled. I just kept crying, harder and harder; that worked for me.
Another thing I try to do is think of all the good they've accomplished in their life. My Aunt was a nurse, so I tried to think about all of the people that loved her, all of the people who were lucky enough to have her in their life - she was without a doubt the most remarkable person I've ever met. I felt thankful to have known her. Everyone loved my Aunt - it was impossible not to. So thinking about all of the good she's done and joy she's spread.. that helped me.
But just as easily as I cried, when my Grandpa died... my Mom never shed a tear. Who knows what she was thinking.. it wasn't my business to ask. But she did what worked for her, even though it made no sense to me.
Personally, I like to keep pictures of them somewhere where I will see them all of the time. For the first few weeks, looking at it would bring me to tears everytime. But now, I get the widest smile. I guess you could say I deal with losing someone.. is keeping them near. Just because you can't reach out and touch them, doesn't mean they're not there. They'll always be with you, always, always, always.
I found some websites I can suggest to you:
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I'm sorrie I can't be of more help to you, but when such a devastating event occurs.. I couldn't TELL you how to respond. :/ You'll have to figure that out for yourself.
Hopefully you're able to find some useful tips within those links. Please know that if you ever feel the need for a friend, I'll forever be here.
♥ Mackenzie ♥
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