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turned 13 recently. my mom and i do not get along at all anymore. she hates my friends music clothes me and just how i act. my friends are all i love not my family not my mom not my cousins nothing and nobody else. so my mom makes fun of my friends and says everything she thinks is wrong with them and how they dress and all about them. then i try to get her to stop she talks over me so i cant say anything then i yell then she yells then im grounded. then she says 'o i dont care what you do do whatever you want' then i do then a little while later she get even madder about it. everything i wear that is red purple black brown she gets mad and yells till i change. my jewelry she tells me to take it off then the next day after school its gone she takes my stuff. she tells me to burn things that I like and I wear. im screaming and crying more than ever. but when im around my friends im fine. their gothic their parents let them wear what they want. i cant even get the side bangs. my friend had them and died her hair redish brown it even mainly looks brown its not bad at all. her parents let her. shes having confirmation soon even. i told my mom then she starts saying thats stupid her parents are wrong for letting her do that thats just sick. WTF! why does it matter! now its to the point i have to hide my music i add songs i hate in a folder like glamorous and stuff like that then a folder for the music i like like evanescence and the used and stuff like that and i erased the names on all of them their just numbered. last time she heard it she freaked out yelling at me. then i hide my jewelry in a locked box saying pictures and when id go somewhere i would put some in my purse then wear it on later. my friends say me cry for the first time yesterday. they know about my mom so they came over wearing preppy junk and tried acting different for me so my mom would leave me and them alone. my mom said clothes doesnt make a person. so they said ya so why does it matter its just clothes. my mom said but MY clothes do matter. so all the yelling in my life is for nothing because clothes dont matter. but its who i am its what i like its my body not hers. gothic is another stereotype just like preppy is. my brother is preppy so he gets all he wants. my mom is trying to change me she wants me to dress like a slut all the clothes she gets for me. my Best friend is a guy which can never ever comeover hes even a prep. everyone makes fun of me family cousins strangers and people at school. i can cut my hair it wouldnt help i could cut my wrists just might again deep id be quicker. but im guessing my moms rule is NO friends fun or freedom. ive been going trough this for about 2 years she will not budge i will not either. i will never give up. i tell her all this like one thing everyday till im sent to my room then refuse then get grounded. if she yells ill yell i even told her that. i act calm she yells then i do. i say how prep and goth are both just stereotypes how their just names and how she gives him everything because its a different name. i go through too much for anyone to go through. i only act tough because id be dead 2 years ago if i didnt. i cant get a therepist or even talk to my mom or write what else is there to do before i die and shell never even care. there is no way of ''kindly'' doing anything to her she just wont let me.

Ask this to yourself- Why did you even go this far if you were not determained? There MUST have been a reason why you are here today. Everyone has a purpose on this planet. my mom could care less how i dress, as long as i dont like wear skimpy clothes. Perserverance is the main thing here. There must have been some reason, no matter how big or small that you didnt kill yourself two years ago.
You are lucky you are alive. I know plenty of people who have died who loved life, and they deserve to be alive- they died WAYY to young. Appreciate what you have, because a lot of people have it much worse. People are dying who would rather be having the time of their lives, and they really do deserve to be alive.
Do not waste your life worrying about your mom, she will accept it eventually, but until then, make the best out of the situation. That is what you have to do- you have to find something good somewhere in this tangled mess. You have friends- so that is good. You mom will HAVE to realize that you are a person of your own, and no matter what she cannot change that. My mom accepted it eventually, and she really doesnt care because she is proud that i am making my own choices. Tell your mom that at least you arent like the others, and you march to the beat of your own drummer. Life is not about being what someone else wants you to be, its about living it to the fullest, with people who love you. Of course, there is always going to be people who will try to hold you back, and beat you down, but anyone has the power to make it through. Death is not the answer, because life is about challenges. If anyone could get rid of any problem that they wanted to , this world would be nothing but the boring picture perfect society. You WILL make it through, just continue to be yourself. You mom has to love you. If she didnt, then i would not consider her your mother. Be a little more open to her suggestions, but still be YOU. Cutting will not help you either. It is just terrible. It can cause major damage in the future, so the sooner you quit the better. Just realize that there is only ONE life to live, and there is a light at the end of the tunnel.

hope i helped, and good luck

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i'm in love with a guy that i've only had 1 date with... he's my soulmate i can tell already. like omg.

well, he's about 2 1/2 feet taller than i am... so I don't know how I can kiss him...

I'm going to ask him to go bowling for our 2nd date... but when is the best time to kiss him?

and how am I going to accomplish it when he's so much taller?????

thx

Either wear high shoes, or better yet- do it while sitting. I would suggest maybe a bench somewhere, like in a park or something. If you are sitting, it should be easier. Or while he is sitting, stand up and just kiss him :]

Kiss him right after you find a winner of the game ! Hold his hand going out of the place, and find somewhere to kiss him , like i said above.

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What is up with PeterAnswers.com? I don't really understand it..

Haha. It is NOTHING. It is just a joke apparently. I used to wonder too! It is basically a random thing where it gives you a bizarre opinion or something, dont worry- its pointless.

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Okay for our yearly band trip we are going to dallas. and we are staying in an embassy suite. Is that a good nice hotel? I come from a weathly family and we usually stay in Waldorfs, Hiltons, Marco Polo, Etc, and i didnt kno what to expect. should i make reservations for myself at anpther hotel or will i be able to deal with it? Thanks and it may seem like i am being snobby but i really am not.

Cody*

They are really good, dont worry! I love them, and there is usually a lot of stuff to do around and in them! You will love it.

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Please!!!!! help. I am a 13 year old girl. I am pretty small (5 ft, 87 pounds). I want to know if I am getting my period period. I have had pubic and armpit hair for like a couple years and I have had discharge for probably a year. OKAY HERE IS THE STORY! On Sunday, I noticed some blood when I was going to the bathroom, I decided I would worry about it if it happened again, then when I went to the bathroom yesterday there was a little bit of blood, and that happened again today. It is not that much blood though so I am not sure if it is my period or not, or is it a sign my period is coming? PLEASE HELP OR IF YOU DO NOT KNOW JUST TELL ME YOUR IDEAS! PLEASE, THANKS!

I think it is coming. Those are the early signs of it. Welcome to Womenhood! Haha. Dont worry about it too much though, but its NOT fun

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I'm graduating grade 8. When do you think I should buy a dress?

some people already bought dresses in the beginning of the year and some are still shopping now. I want to start now too but maybe after I buy my dress I'll see another dress that's more pretty and I can't return it.

I would say the sooner the better. If you want a dress that is really pretty and not many people will have, try filenes, filenes basement, etc. Most people shop at Deb, but I must admit- I got a dress there not to long ago and it is GORGEOUS. It is so pretty! I would try all of those stores, and as soon as possible :]

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okay well i have really fat thighs and its getting to be summer so i need to work off the fat. any fast acting exercises i can do? i don't have any workout things like a cardio ball or dumbbells. what exercises that don't use anything.

Squats Squats Squats! http://exercise.about.com/od/lowerbodyworkouts/ig/Lower-Body-Exercise-Photos/index.htm

do about 20 after every meal :]

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can you unsend a msg on myspace.. if it hasnt been read ?

Once it is gone, it is gone. Im sorry=[

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My name is alex. i want a new screen name with my name in it. can anybody think of anything clever?

Can you add more info? Gender, interests, and maybe even age so its not like : unicorn alex or something. Thanks! I will answer it right after more info!

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Okay there's this man whom I care for very much, but he's in prison. I do not judge him because what he did wasn't really that bad. See I've known him for a little over a year. I've been in love with him for a long time and we've told eachother how we feel and that we want to be together. Except he's quite a few states away. I don't want to lose the man that I am seeing, but I don't want to lose the man that I feel like I want to be with. See I wish I knew what to do because he's a great friend too me. But I don't want to hurt anyone. Maybe someone can give me some good advice. Hope to hear from someone soon.

You could find out what jail he is in. Either by one of his friends, roomates, parents, etc. Or, you can do some searching of your own, or did he tell you? You can write him letters, and they may let you make a telephone call as well. The only person who can make this decision is YOU. Deep inside you know how you feel. It is the choice between what you want. If i were you, i would forget the man in jail, because you may love the other man more, even though you want the other one more. Hope you make it through this situation!

edit- i just read the additional info. I would let the man that is in jail go. It may be awhile until he gets out, and you never know- you could end up wanting to be with the other man after all. (over the one in jail). I dont think getting a 2 was very fair because how was i supposed to know you had the address? I was trying to say that if you had communication with him , you could explain your dillemma to him, or maybe the letters just gave you MORE feelings towards him.

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ok so you know those moving pictures some people have on their myspaces?? well what would you type in on photobucket to get those? and/or where do you go to get them???

moving pictures? Ones that just go across the screen? you enter this code without spaces.

< marquee > BLAH BLAH BLAH < / marquee >

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every year my family goes on vacation somewhere. summer's coming up soon, but we still have no clue where to go.
what we're looking for-
not too hot, not too cold lol
beautiful scenery
fun things to do
not a really long flight and not having to get a passport.

i wanna either go to the carribean or florida, but they dont want to :\ where should we gooo!

Oregon is amazing! It is so beautful, and nice weather. Also, georgia, and north carolina are awesome too! There is so much to do there!

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is there any way you can erase pen on paper without totally ruining the paper??

Please answer fast,, i NEED an answer ASAP!! thanks. i rate.

Well, besides whiteout, you can always either scan it on your computer, and crop out the signature, then print it, or put a slip of paper over the signature and make a copy of it.

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we are doing a debate in class. we were told to put together 4-5 topics to debate upon and i have one. It is about the banning of partial birth which recently took effect. What other current events could i bring up? thanks!

there are some goods ones on this question.
http://www.advicenators.com/qview.php?q=486933

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hey. ok, well i have a video ipod, but this is a question for my friend, that i don't really know how to answer. my friend just got a video ipod. but it doesn't stay charged for very long. how long do you have to charge it for it to stay charged for a really long time. and, how long should it stay charged for??? thanks!!!

i charge mine overnight, and it lasts about 24-30 hrs. hope i helped

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anyone know this song,
it's not super fast but kinda?
some lyrics are

'some people have it,
and other people don't'

'you been making some threats.'

then it goes
whoaa whoaa whoaa

'say you miss me, you probably don't.
'well i been crossin somelines that other people wont'

dont tell me to use azlyrics.com

http://www.songmeanings.net/lyric.php?lid=3530822107858655319

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inthe movie Disturbia.. (amazing movie!) does anyone know what the song was that was playing when he was alone because of house arrest? it was something about being lonely.. thanks!!

I just got home from that movie! Haha. Me and my friend loved that song too, and watched the credits to figure out what it was. The other person is correct, lonely day - by System of a Down

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iam 18 years old and my boyfriend is 16 years old and i just found out over the weekend that he kissed some whore named kelly and i've been cryubg over him for 2 days and i don't think that i can take it anymore what should i do?

Dump him. Obviously he is not loyal and honest, and you can find a better man! It is better just to say "see-ya!" now, than get hurt later.

good luck

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what are the bases? like sexual i dont know what they are. thanks haha i feel so stupid.

oh and i was watching a movie and the girl and a girl named vanessa talked:
girl: so who have you made out with?
Vanessa: some kid who was into indie rock.
girl: anddd... the dirty details?
vanessa: idnn
Girl: at least give me numbers
Vanessa: ok definitely 1 and 2 and a little bit of three.

what do those numbers mean?

http://www.sfsi.org/ask-us/ask247.html

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