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Q: I wrote a question earlier within the week asking how i should tell my best friend Jared that i really wanted to officially be with him before he went off to college. Well, i tried telling him last night in a way by asking him if he's ever thought about "us" he said ya and then i found out he's talking to a girl i cheer with. He said he wasn't sure about things with her though so i dunno if its a big deal (she is SO moody) but anyways... im kinda stuck in the situation where im not sure wht to do nxt... i would wait on him forever i love him a lot and i've known him since i was three. But my question is, is there ANYTHING i could do to make him realize the other kind of love he has for me?! i really appreciated everyone who helped me before ya'll are so sweet!

Yeah this is a tuffy. At least is he kinda confused about that other girl. Just keep talking about him. Be there for him. Hang out with him. Thats all you can really do. Life isnt like shrek.. we cant get a potion for love.. sucky i know! But you just gotta talk to him about how you feel and tell him you would wait on him but the longer it takes the more it hurts you!! -trix plz rate

Q: hey. i hope that you can help me. one of my best friends and i have been in an on-going fight for more than 2 weeks. ive been apologizing, and it doesnt seem to be changing anything. she always finds a reason to be mad at me. idk whats going on. shes been spreading rumors about me, too. and threatened to have people jump me! weve been best friends for almost 9 years. should i just forget that she ever existed, or should i keep begging for her forgiveness?
*Katie

2 weeks.. i would just ignore it.. doesnt sound like a best friend to me. I learned that some of my friends arent worth it. Because all they do is backstab my other friends and me to. This may be how your friend is. I would just ignore it for awhile and run it off. If that doesnt work just sit down with her go to her house n tlk it out-trix plz rate

Q: I thought that my now ex-boyfriend didn't like me any more so i broke up with him but I still really liked him. Then I went to a party and he was there and we really didn't talk to eachother untill they played the first slow song and he came up and just grabbed my hand and pulled me to the dance floor and we started slow dancing. Then when that song was over i was just like okay... but then they played Alicia Keys "if i aint got u" and so we kept dancing and he looked me in the eyes and was like i still love you and i was like i love you too... and then everyone started counting down for the new year and before it was 12:00 he kissed me and was like "last kiss of 2004" and then when it turned 12:00 he kissed me and was like "and first kiss of 2005" and i felt like it was my first kiss all over again. But later when i talked to him he was like I think we should wait a while before we go back out because I always just come back to you... but the thing is that i really really love him and i want to get him back now... what should i do to show him how much i love him and for him to ask me back out... should i just ask him out? before i broke up with him we had been dating for 5 months... i don't know what to do I'm so confused

I wouldnt ask him out i would just talk about it some more. I mean if he thinks he is always coming back to you he obviously likes you. I would just talk to him about it or if you want to jump to things then ask him out!-trix

Q: Alright, I broke up with my ex that I had been with for 7 months, I really loved him but We both changed and we barely saw eachother and yeah I broke up with him. And i'm seeing this new guy that is amazing and wonderful and everything my old boyfriend wasen't....it's been 3 months but...when I heard that he made out with one of my friends I completely freaked out, I just dont understand why I'm feeling this way. Please Help -Adrianna 14 f.

The reason why you are feeling like that is because you are hurt and confused. Noone wants to feel like that. Just sit down with him and talk to him about it. Do the same with your friend-trix

Q: Well I had a dog and it died because someone poised it and it was sooo hard and i am 13 and a female and my mom wont let me get another dog and i really really want one. How can i conviece her that i want a dog????? What do i have 2 do 2 show her that I am responsible enough so that i can have a dog and that i can take really good care if it??????????????? Please dont delete this. Thanx alot.
oxoxox,
C.S.

Chores.. thats what i did.. good attitude-trix

Q: ok heres the deal its close to valentines day and i dont no wat to get my girlfriend(we started going out on friday the 13th the day before valentines day)so since its also our 1 year anniversery i dont have a clue wat to get her

Well if you got the cash.. get her a nice necklace.. a forever and always necklace or whatever they are called-trix

Q: should i leave my friend to go to a party with the guy i like or stay with my friend. me and my friend made the plans earlier than the party had come up....

If you trust your friend just let them go. Why dont you go to?-trix

Q: i used to love having sex with my boyfriend, but lately it's gotten boring. we're both in our twenties. any ways to liven it up, or toys or positions to do? Thnx! ill rate for good answers!

change spots?! sorry i dont have sex.. im still young :) -trix plz rate .. onli if u wanna... but not if its bad :( :) im not experienced.. sorry again

Q: I've been with my boyfriend for about 2 1/2 weeks and I really like him. My only problem is that I'm afraid to trust him because I don't want to get hurt emotionally. I've heard that he cheats on his girlfriends, and he lies, and he's dirty, and he's just using me, but when I'm with him, he tells me and shows me that he's not like that at all. I really want to be able to love him, but will I regret it? Should I let down my guard? He's 3 years older than me if it helps. Thanks in advance.

Im going to be truthful. im telling you from my past. I've been hurt like from 4 serious boyfriends. I have had those flings things.. that didnt really matter. I got hurt from *****, *****, *****, and ****. Ehh.. the last won wasnt so painful. But anyways we are going to get hurt alot in our life.. its not about being careful really cuz things happan. Thats the truth and sometimes you just gotta put yourself in that spot.. and be ready. Thats how love is and that is how life is. We will eventually find the guy who wont hurt us!! Sorry hunni!! as for trusting your guy.. you just gotta let yourself and stop holding back!-trix plz rate!!

Q: Okay well me and my boyfriend have been going out for almost a year now..march 10 will be a year..and for his bday i got him a chain and braclet for christmass i got him cologn really exspensive cologne...noww one year is coming and so is Valentines day and he always gets me something relaly nice*gold necklace....ring ect.*
what can i get him?! idea's any one please!!

Well lol sounds like this is a pricy relationship. You could get him a really nice shirt with jeans.. or something. Or a guy necklace.. but idk if i would get my guy a necklace-trix

Q: hey im going out with someone and i wanna do more then just kiss and hug how do i get him to no that?

Well this is my 3rd typing this haha.. People keep talking to me and i end up deleting it. But anyways!! I would talk to him about it unless you would feel wierd about it because i know i would a little bit talking to my boyfriend about that I would rather just make a move rather then talk to him about it because that would be a wierd convo.. Plus most guys wouldnt mind if you made a move they'd be relieved they didnt have to always. But if your boyfriend is worried about pressuring you just reassure him that this is what you want and you arent being pressured and if you are you would tell him. Just make the move. Be flirty!-trix

Q: Hey everyone! My favorite band of all time is The Killers! They are the best band ever! Anyway, I really want a poster of them to print off of the computer, does anyone know a good website with tons of pictures of them? That would really help! Thanks sooooo much! Love, Dania

maybe www.thekillers.com or go to askjeeves and hit image but type in the killers-trix

Q: im dating this guy...it seems like we are not goin out...i mean he is my ex-boyfriends best friend i think that he has be talking to him and they have been talkin about me saying all this shit about me and making my boyfriend not wanna go out with me why???

Maybe because your x doesnt want him to go out with you. If you dumped him he might still like you. Thats a good possiblity. I hate jealousy.. and it sounds like he is jealous!

Q: the other day, my boyfriend came over and we were sitting on the couch. then we started kissing. he slipped his tounge into my mouth and i did the same. (we were kissing for like 10-15 seconds) is that considered just french kissing or making out?

You can really ask anyone and you can always get a different opinion on it. Some may think theres a difference between that stuff and some may not. I personally sometimes think there is a difference and sometimes i dont. But umm i think making out is longer then a min. obviously not straight through.. but you know. So frenching-trix

Q: i have really really REALLY sweaty armpits and i need advice on wut kinda deoderant would actually work for me.. its really very embaressing and its really embaressing to ask u all rite now so please don't reply and make fun of me... neway cya hope u can help

Try secret.. or if you have thats a really good one.. sometime you just might just have to go in and get checked for that.. and they can help you out.. sounds like a dumb reason for going it but i know thats its been done before-trix

Q: OK so I have my period, and Im really just not in the mood. You know cramps all that fun stuff. But what I really wanna know is well... this is embarassing but I wanna shave down there and every time i try the hair gets stuck inside the blade and it really hurts. What am I doing wrong?

thanks~

Shave the way the .. ya is.. not against-trix

Q: do you think its better to fit in and go agianst yur own beliefs OR to be a little ""less popular"" and do what you want to do? i am stuck in between.

I would rather be inbetween like what you are at now. But what do you mean by own beliefs? Its better go by your own beliefs.. but sometimes people make that hard for you just be friendly to everybody and it will pay off-trix

Q: there are 2 realllllllyyyyyy weird guyzs in my math class. Lets say there names are jake and matt . one is a blonde and one is a brunette. they r realllllyyyy stupid and i wanna help them but the don't get anything so it's impossible how can i tell them they r stupid without saying they r stupid??:) thanx
Snoopy

Dont call them stupid thats not your spot. They are just having troubles. Let them be im sure the teacher relizes it and if they honestly wanted help they would ask for it-trix

Q: O.K. My problem all started when someone was prank calling my house. I then found out it was one of my best friends. I got mad at her twice. Once for doing. Twice for lieing about it. I'm in junior high and it's so hard for me. Then, my closest best friend took up for her. Then, my other close best friend took up for her too. I don't know what to do. I live in Deer Park and I'm illegally going to Laporte Junior High. My close best friend is threatening to kick my butt and I don't know what to do. Should I switch to my legal school or continue illegally going to a school where EVERYONE hates me. I rate 5's for anyone who can really make a difference in my life! THNX TO ANYONE WHO ANSWERS!!! XOXO

HELP!!!!!!!!!!!!
~~~KaYlA

Sorry So Long But I need Help ASAP

I would go to the legal school. I dont understand how you are going to a illegal school or whatever. But if you think everyone hates you and someone wants to kick your butt.. then i would get out of that asap. And go to the other school where everything is safe! Hope everything works out!-trix

Q: Im not so sure what topic this would be placed under but...

i recived a phone call 2 nights ago on my cell phone and this guy keeps calling hes tried to have phone sex over the phone with me but i refused and i dont no who he is but he says he nos everything about me he has told me my address and street city state number of siblings and so on.. and he called me again yesterday telling me if im shy again that he is going to f*** the hell out of me till i am dead and i dont no what to do he told me i better not tell anyone because he said he would make my death more pain full... could this be a prank? or serious... im confused and dont no what to do PLEASE HELP ME ASAP

i rate 5 plz help me

I would get a new cell phone number and tell your mom. It might be a joke.. but a really mean, serious, and cruel one. So i would talk to your mom about that and get it taken care of-trix

bio

My name is Trix, I am 17. I love pink, and degrassi.

I just recently got out of a relationship of 21 months. I love him still but I'm moving on.

I've been there done that im sure

ex. (with the number of expierences)

-Long term relationships (2)
-Bad expierence with BF's family (1)
-Broken bones (11)
-Stitches (2)
-Seen someone killed (1)
-Loss of family (1)
-Cancer in the family (2)
-Family in Iraq (1)
-Mom had brain surgery (2)
-Loss of pet (4)
-Moved from state to state (5)
-New highschool (2)
-Car accident (3)

Like I said "been there done that"