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liven it up
i used to love having sex with my boyfriend, but lately it's gotten boring. we're both in our twenties. any ways to liven it up, or toys or positions to do? Thnx! ill rate for good answers!
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Well, it's hard to guess what someone else will like, so I'll have to give general advice on discovering your hidden kinks. :)
First, it's important that you have good communication with your boyfriend about what you each like a lot, are ok with but not excited about, and totally are not going to touch with a 10 foot pole. If you need to work on this, you can start with tame love notes. Yeah, they may be a little corny at first, but as you get more comfortable, you can get more explicit and adventuresome. Encourage him to leave you some back.
Love notes are great for what you do like, but you also have to be able to talk about what you don't like. One way to do that is to find a book about sex (with pictures!) and flip through it together, looking at the pictures and giving them thumbs up or thumbs down. I don't recommend porn because so much of it is unrealistic anyway. Another way is for each of you to make a list of 5 things your willing to try that your afraid the other person wont' want to. Swap lists and cross out the things the other person wrote down that your not willing to do. Worst case: you've shown how much you know about each other by guessing right - the other person isn't willing to try it. Pick 5 more things each and try again. Eventually your bound to surprise each other with a few new things to try, and you've confirmed what you don't want to do. Keep the lists, btw, you may change your mind about what your willing to try next year, and it's fun to see how you've both changed.
Knowing that it's always possible to back out at the last minute, and you never have to do anything you don't want to do, you can play games like "dare me" or strip poker for sexual favors. They sell erotic dice where one die has a body part and the other has an action, so you can roll things like "kiss feet" (so the person who rolled kisses the other persons feet) or "rub lips" (it doesn't say with what!).
There is plenty of erotica (stories of an explicit sexual nature) on the internet. Try browsing some of the archives and seeing what turns you on. Then share it with him.
Make sure that you still get romantic with each other. Do special things with/for each other: get each other flowers, have dress up dates (even if it's a dinner date at home with fast food light candles and dress up), try to remember what made you tingle with excitement when you first got together and recreate those things.
There are plenty of books out there dedicated to "rekindling the spark" in relationships and "expanding your sexual horizons". If your not sure if something is safe, feel free to ask me. If I don't know, I have friends and reference books who should at least be able to point me in the right direction towards finding an answer. Don't be embarrassed - no matter how odd you think something is, someone else knows of something they think is even odder!
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ummmm...hmmm... that's a touqh wun. lol. you haven't really told us any information on what you like or what you've tried already so it's kind of hard to say. but oh well i'll qive it a shot anyway. try 69. or you can brinq another person in on it! make it more excitinq. try role play. or 3(or 4)sums. or maybe you can tell your boyfriend that it's qettinq borinq, he'll most likely try thinqs to livin it up some. hOpe i helped! (plz rate me!!!) qOod luck! : )
xO:*Anqel
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just suck a dick and do it good!!! experiment with things normal people dont do. ha
xo <3
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change spots?! sorry i dont have sex.. im still young :) -trix plz rate .. onli if u wanna... but not if its bad :( :) im not experienced.. sorry again
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