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Should I let down my guard?
I've been with my boyfriend for about 2 1/2 weeks and I really like him. My only problem is that I'm afraid to trust him because I don't want to get hurt emotionally. I've heard that he cheats on his girlfriends, and he lies, and he's dirty, and he's just using me, but when I'm with him, he tells me and shows me that he's not like that at all. I really want to be able to love him, but will I regret it? Should I let down my guard? He's 3 years older than me if it helps. Thanks in advance.
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if you love him.. its worth the risk.. .. trust me.. let your guard down.. you wil be happy you did..
remember
if you dont risk anything.. you risk even more!!
hope this helps :)
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Let down your guard if you really love him but who knows
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I'm not entirely sure how old you are, but... if he just wants you for sex, then don't let your guard down straight away. As someone said before, you don't really know him that well, nor who his previous sexual partners would have been.
However, if you are just going into a closer friendship kinda relationship, the whole kiss&hold hands thing, then maybe you should give it a go...
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Hey girl! You can ALWAYS believe what people say. But... you have to know that it depends on how many people actually tell you this. I mean, you don't want to break up with someone you like if it really was meant to be. But don't talk to him about it because trust me, that never works. Count how many people have actually told you and THEN talk to him. But if your best friend comes and tells you, have more proof. Best of luck.
~~~Kayla~~~
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With anything, you have to weigh the pros and cons. In this case, the con's are the most important. If you loose, how badly do you loose?
If sex is even remotely in the picture, don't "trust" him by having sexual contact with him right away. A condom won't protect you from herpes.
If your young enough that "cheating" means holding hands at a movie with someone else, or maybe a quick peck at the end of said movie, and nothing more serious than that, go ahead and go for it. It's a mater of degree: a broken heart is a learning experience, AIDS a is life sentence.
I'm guessing that your a teenager, and the three years is significant. Say, a your 14 and he's 17. Go on dates, hold hands, maybe even kiss him a little. But keep everyones clothes on and all the hands outside of them. Two and a half weeks may be a while to you, but if he's got a drivers license, it's not much to him. If he's old enough to drink, it's almost no time at all. Don't let him pressure you into anything.
Words are cheap, and two and a half weeks isn't enough time to prove that he's not playing you.
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What you should do is give him a chance, wait for him to let you down! That's what I would do, you have no proof, except for your friends! Give him a chance and I hope you use this advice. RaTe Me!!!!!!!!!!!!
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You gotta do what you think is right. Follow your heart. If you love him and he loves you, then rumors shouldn't matter. He may have done those things in the past, but that doesn't mean he will do them to you right? Trust your heart. If you think that he's worth it. Then please, for him, let your guard down. He may really need your love as much as you need to love him. There will be no regrets, as long as you learn from it, maybe he is right for you, but if he isn't, life goes on. Maybe you could talk to him about what you've heard. Good luck sweetie, I really hope I helped and that things work out for you and your boyfriend. Keep me posted? -Angel
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Im going to be truthful. im telling you from my past. I've been hurt like from 4 serious boyfriends. I have had those flings things.. that didnt really matter. I got hurt from *****, *****, *****, and ****. Ehh.. the last won wasnt so painful. But anyways we are going to get hurt alot in our life.. its not about being careful really cuz things happan. Thats the truth and sometimes you just gotta put yourself in that spot.. and be ready. Thats how love is and that is how life is. We will eventually find the guy who wont hurt us!! Sorry hunni!! as for trusting your guy.. you just gotta let yourself and stop holding back!-trix plz rate!!
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