You've gotta speak up when things bother you. Miscommunication (or no communication) kills a LOT of relationships.
Just explain to her that it kind of bothers you a little that she wears these clothes, and seems to like the attention that she's getting from other guys. Remind her that you're not jealous, nor are you trying to be a control freak, but it just bothers you a little.
She may lash out and bitch at you for "trying to control her," but keep your cool. one of my exes accused me of flirting with other guys while we were dating, and I didn't realize I was even doing it until he pointed it out. I went "oops...sorry." and stopped. She may just need it pointed out to her.
I hope I helped!
-Siren =)

It's perfectly normal. I don't think I've ever dated a guy my own age...my current guy is a year and five months older than me - closest to my age I've ever dated.
A lot of girls are attracted to older guys because girls mature faster than guys, and an 18 year old guy is about as mature as a 16 year old girl. Generally.
If the guy's more than 6 years older than you, I'd be careful, though. Hope I helped!
-Siren =)

Oh, honey.
I sympathize completely. My guy's been in Vegas since june 28th - for the summer, and our nine month is on august 14th. I always worry that he'll find someone else 'cause...well...he's really cute, lol. We talk every few days on the phone and I joke around about him finding someone else, but he knows I'm worried about it. He just reassures me that he loves me an everything's better.
You've been together for so long, I really think you can trust him to be true to you. I trust mine!
Though obviously they're different people, a relationship this solid should be able to last. Keep your faith! I'm sure he'll be good.
Hope I helped!
-Siren =)

What is with all this "league" stuff? I mean, I'm a choir/band "geek" and my boyfriend's a wrestler, who's friends with, like, the entire school. Leagues...? Lol
Just be yourself. You can't make someone like you if you're not honest. They'll just end up liking the fake you, and it's no fun to play a part all the time, is it?
Hope I helped!
-Siren =)

If you know how to sew, you can steal my idea - I found an old, torn up pair of jeans and cut a heart out of them. I crosstitched my name into one side of the heart, then made it into a pillow. I gave it to him before his trip so he'd miss me and remember to call me, lol.
Or if you have a lot of patience, you can sew your name on one side and "I love you" on the other.
Hope I helped a bit!
-Siren =)

Aww honey. Just take a deep breath and let the boy kiss you!
The first time one of my boyfriends kissed me, it was totally unexpected - otherwise I probably would've backed away, too.
You just have to take a deep breath and ignore your nervousness. After awhile, it gets fun. =)
Hope I helped!
-Siren =)

Guys are probably looking at you, but are too shy to say anything. One of my guyfriends told me when I was in ninth grade, a LOT of guys liked me but no one said anything 'cause they were shy. Lol.
As for a good looking guy, you find them in weird places. For instance, I ran into - in my opinion -the hottest guy EVER...in math class. Lol we've been dating for over 8 months.
Just be patient. One will come along who'll like you and have the nerve to say something about it.
Hope I helped!
-Siren =)

Well she needs to eat more than JUST lean pockets, but they are generally kind of healthy.
Hope I answered your question
-Siren =)

If you're so certain that he's going to find someone new, then kill the relationship.
Could you trust him to be away from you and not cheat on you? Could he trust YOU in the same situation?
It's really about what you want, not what you think will happen. Do you want to stay with him? Then stay with him. *shrug*
Hope I helped!
-Siren =)

Okay, wow...he threatened to kill himself if you broke up with him? That would scare me, too, honey...He needs to learn to deal with breakups. If you really feel like you want to start high school single, not tied down to anyone, then break it off. Don't stay with him just because he wants you to. A relationship should be a mutual thing.
It's up to you, obviously, but if I were you, I'd make my decision with only myself in mind. Sometimes we have to be a little selfish, especially if it involves our own happiness.
Hope I helped!
-Siren =)

It's up to you. If you feel ready to deal with what can happen and all the risks you're taking, and if you could trust this guy with your life, and he can trust you, then go ahead.
Age is a state of mind, not body. =)
If you're ready, you'll know. That's the only way to explain it. You're the only one who can tell.
Though I'd be tempted to say a month is a little soon. I'd wait awhile to make sure he's not just using you to get sex or anything. There are guys that do that - believe me. It's hard to tell.
Trust your first instincts with this one.
Hope I helped!
-Siren =)

Oh, I SO sympathize. I went to a private school about that size for 8 years of my life. I was never too popular either. I was just content to know that I had a few really close friends. Guys didn't like me either until I was in about ninth grade. Just be patient - maybe it'll work itself out.
Which is better, though - four really close friends or thirty people you sort of know? I'd go for the close friends.
There will be a point when guys will start to look at you - happened to me out of the blue. Happened to a lot of my friends.
The guys might not like you because they've known you forever and kind of think of you as a sister or a friend, and not really girlfriend potential.
Maybe you need a change of pace if it bothers you so much. When I left that private school, my life improved drastically. More friends, better choir, great boyfriend...*Shrug*
I hope I helped a little!
-Siren =)

Carry a pack of mintish gum - or candy that you know she likes. When it bothers you, take the stuff out, take a piece and offer her one. It's tactful and not too obvious. Lol Hope I helped!
-Siren =)

Maybe he and your mom should sit down and just talk. Usually people say "oh, try to talk your mom into liking him," but in this situation, I think it might be better to let HIM handle her. I mean, whenever my boyfriend and I wanted to do something and mom didn't want us to, I'd have him talk to her, and by the end of the conversation, they were both laughing and my mom was giving me a later curfew. Lol. I mean, my guy's a real charmer, and your guy sounds sweet, too. The way he dresses should have nothing to do with it whatsoever.
Age difference...my boyfriend is a year and five months older than me. Age is a state of mind, not being. ^_^
Hope I helped!
-Siren =)

Talk to your friend - find out how she would feel if you two ended up dating. I had a club going at one point, and our main rule was "your sister before your mister" and we stuck to it.
If your friend would be bothered by it, decide which is more important - your friendship with her, or your possible relationship with him.
The final decision is yours, just talk to your friend first and find out what's going on in her head. Hope I helped!
-Siren =)

Love is a confusing emotion for everyone. An action isn't enough to show love. It's up to you whether or not you believe him. Think about it, though. Can you FEEL that he loves you when he touches you? You're the only one who can tell. Just make sure he's not using the word "love" to get sex. There are guys that do that. Just be careful. Hope I helped!
-Siren =)

That's not nice, telling you to ignore your boyfriend. However, your boyfriend sounds a bit like the jealous type. He can't stop you from having guy friends. I mean hell - most of my friends are guys, and my boyfriend's fine with it because he knows I'm true to him.
You've gotta talk to your boyfriend and convince him that you only have eyes for him. You're letting him control your life by preventing you from hanging out with your guy friends. That's not cool and he needs to know that. Whether you go to the party or not needs to be YOUR choice, not your boyfriends. It's all up to you.
Hope I helped!
-Siren =)

Ah, the bases...
My friend told me what they were rather simply: the four "f"s: French, Feel, Finger, F*ck. Lol. Not the most elegant way of putting it, but effective enough. Hope I helped a little ^^
-Siren =)

Do they know that you don'y play favorites? Explain to them that you can have more than one best friend, and TELL them you don't want to lose either of them, but Kelly needs to know that she can't be with you ALL the time. You can have more than one best friend. I mean...I have like, five...Lol.
I hope I helped!
-Siren =)

Do everything you can to get your mind off of him. Write hate letters, telling him how much you hate him. Address them, even, but never send them. Write bad poetry. Make lists of the things you like and the things you dislike. Make sure there are more to dislike than to like.
I hope I helped. I was in this situation a few times, and tried all these. They worked pretty well, but I don't think I ever really moved on until I started liking someone else. ^_^
-Siren =)

I'm a laid-back 26 year old with a Psychology BA, starting my MA program, and working my way into the field as quickly as I can. It took me an extra Bachelor's degree (in vocal performance and creative writing) to figure it out, but I was put on this Earth to help, to heal, and to love.

I have made the decision to dedicate my life and career to helping others. I am here to do just that.

I've been a member since 2004, and since I signed up, I've gone through quite a lot and learned quite a lot from it. I'm here to give guidance where I had none; no one should have to go through the difficulties I went through alone.

Feel free to visit my website/blog, if you want to read my experience with domestic violence and my thoughts on it.

***While I do tend to answer mental health and other health-related or medicine-related questions, I am by NO MEANS a licensed physician or practitioner of any sort. Any and all advice I give for these questions is from my own experience or studies.***

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