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Well I'm a lesbian and my parents don't know. How do I tell them? I'm scared they'll kick me out of the house or something.

ok just recently a 13 year old boy asked a question just like yours..only hes gay..everything in my answer applies to you..so check it out..copy and paste this website into where you type your websites
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http://advicenators.com/column.php?u=icey0990&mode=qview&q=352033



it really depends on your parents..if your really sure they would kick you out and it would cause a lot of fighting, etc..wait it out..

best of luck...its ok if now isnt the right time...wait for the right time

-melissa-

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where can i find the No Boundaries brand for back to school supplies like binders and book covers ect. Does anyone know a store or a site?

walmart carries No Boundaries brand..im sure you will find it there
-meliss

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I grew up in a christian home. I'm almost 18 and still everything in my life is God this God that. I believe in him but that doesn't make my problems go away. I'm always crying, have the blues, feel alone, feel anger, sad, somedays I just don't feel like doing anything but lay around. But everytime I try to show to my parents that I have a problem I get God shoved in my face. Sometimes I just want to run away from home...but I know that won't solve anything. What should I do? If I stick around home anylonger I'm afraid that I'll do something to myself again.

i agree with the person who said its depression and you should talk to a doctor..this is serious but with talking to someone and medicine things will get better! its a fact that something like 1 in 5 ppl become depressed througout life and only 1 in 3 of the depressed people seek help..dont turn into that statistic!

maybe talk to your church leader?..a good spiritual talk with him will maybe help you restore faith

i hope i helped you out a little
-melissa-

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i am 13 and i am gay i dont know how to tell my parents that i am i dont kno if i should just drop it on them one day or if i should let them down gently...see my parents and the rest of my fam think i am little mr. perfecto cuz they cant see anything wrong with me i make straight a's and i have lots of good christian friends (that by the way kno that i am gay) everyone in the entire world knos about me cept my family.................. i have to turn into i different person when i go hope like puting on a mask temperarily for every day for the last 3 years i dont kno how else to explain it!!! hope u understand and can help me and give me tips and things to let them kno i am serious and i dont want to get any mean stuff from people soo please help dont make fun thanx love sethers

only you know your parents well enough to decide..but you have to think to yourself: should i tell them straight out now? should i drop hints? should i wait until im an older teen to tell them?

you see, if you tell your parents now, at age 13, that your gay, they might brush you off saying your just confused and its a stage, they might schedule an appointment with the phycologyst, who knows?

if you wait til your older they might take you more seriously...even though waiting and holding it in will probably be hard

you could put it on them gently...like ask:
-"mom, what do you think about gays and gay marriage? would you support your family if you found out one of use is gay?'

you could start to really become inseperable with your guy friends, perhaps a crush, and always talk about him or how great he is

when your all watching tv and lets say bradd pitt or someone hootttt like that comes on you can compliment how good he looks maybe

lets say your dad or mom says "look at that girl..look how pretty she is" you can answer like "eh,.no way not my type"

little things like that can lead them to question your sexuality and maybe gently get them used to the fact that your gay

you could also sit down and have a serious talk and let everything out..how well would that go over? i dont know your parents...some parents make it clear to their children that like " o darling if you ever need to talk or tell me something im always here.." and some parents dont come off that way..so think about which approach you want to take before doing anything

i hope i helped you out a bit!
-melissa-

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im only 13/f and i have had 3 boyfriends but never done anything more than hold hands and hug?? i havent even gotten my first kiss! is there some way i can get it soon or do i just have to wait?? i rate high!

your only 13 dont worry! im 16..my first kiss was at like age 12...but i have friends who still havent been kissed..everyone gets their first kiss at different ages so wait for the boy that will make it special!
-melissa-

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well theirs this REALLY hot guy who me and him both wanna make*out, im scared im not good enough for him =/ i need some tips on making out and exactly what to do to make my kiss MEMORABLE =) i rate really high!! ((top ratings for everyone))

ah first of all whoever said practice with your brother..dont listen to them thats just wrong!

tips:
-fresh breath..hhave mints on hand
-lipgloss..dont have chapped lips
-feel relaxed and confident
-when the moment is right..maybe put your hand on his..lean in slowly and softly kiss his lips..go with the flow , i know everyone says it but its true!
-dont shove your tongue down his throat, be gentle
-put your hands somewhere, like through his hair or wrap your arms around him

-to make it memorable..

setting: like under the fireworks , stars, by a pretty stream,campfire etc

say something special:
"your eyes are beautiful"

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Okay.. I know this question has probably been asked before, but I have never found an answer that actually answers my question.

I've been having sex for almost a year now. I can never actually feel an orgasm. I don't get that "feeling" people talk about.

Why is this..

im a virgin but i watch this talksex show on this channel called oxygen and on this show a similar question was asked..the response from sue johanson (the host) was that many females dont orgasm during sex and its perfectly normal..some do and some dont..she said females orgasm much easier when given oral sex or fingered

you should check out the show sometime..its called talk sex and its on the oxygen channel sometime like 11-1 around there..

www.talksexwithsue.com
www.talksexwithsuejohanson.com

go to the website...its one of those websites and if you want more info you can check that out

hope i helped you out!
-melis

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Okay so i go to a small high school i'll be a senior, and i hang out with this group of people and i mean we're all really close, and it's really weird cause theres i'd say about.. 50-60 of us, but we all hang out at school at lunch together and take up this big spot and everything. Anyways there's guys and girls. I really want to have a birthday party this year i'll be turning 17. because i didn't do anything for my 16th really and i haven't ad one since like 6th grade. but i was just wondering if anyone had any ideas on what to do with so many people. my friend had her 16th bday at this big hotel room thing..like whats downstairs..and there was a dance floor and a dj and food and stuff. so i dont really want that. i would just feel bad if i didn't invite some people cause we're all like best friends..and thats what makes it hard. 50 best friends? whaatt.. i mean i have ONE BEST BEST friends, but everyone else is pretty much the same. any ideas?
oh and my bdays in november.

is there a nice hotel nearby where you can maybe have an indoor pool party that will fit 50 people? that sounds like it would be fun...i actually had swimming in the indoor pool as an after party type of thing and everyone seemed to have fun

or maybe a halloween costume type bday party? you could rent out a firehouse and have food and music and invite everyone ,,but in your question you mentioned how you didnt want that..hmm

well where do you live? do you live in a place where november is still an ok month to do something outdoors? like have a get together at your house or a friends house who could have a bonfire,bbq, trampoline, a pool is always a plus..just yoour house or a friends house where everyone can have fun

maybe make reservations at a restaurant for 50 people and have everyone eat and eat and have a good time..but then money issues come into play..i guess asking everyone to pay for their own bill is cheesy..

maybe plan a trip..where you and your friends go somewhere for the weekend..they pay their own way of course..but i dont know if things would get too crazy and hard to plan

maybe everyone go to a concert together

its hard to think of ideas for 50 ppl to come to that isnt one of those dj parties..i hope my suggestions helped spark a good idea or something..im sorry if i didnt help at all
-melissa-

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I'm in 11th grade now... well i'm going into 11th... and me and my friend have been friends since 4th... we are two completly diff people but that's what makes us good friends... she is more wild and i'm more not... she will do things without thinking and I think things through... last week she told me she liked this guy... every week it seems as though she likes someone diff... she had a 3 some with him and his friend... the two guys is her exes good friends... and the guy she doesn't like is one of her best friends ex and her other friend slept with him before she had the 3 some... she has wanted me to hang out with them but i'm not that type of person... i'm waiting till i get married to loose my virginity and i have more respect in myself than that no affense to her... i love her but i don't know what to do...she has told me if i hang out with them nothing like that will happen... but everytime she tells me a story about when they hangout something sexual like that always happens... we havent talk in almost 5 days... maybe more, maybe less... i don't know what to sday to her... she has had sex before with her ex and after she did it all changed... she kisses guys without really thinking... to her hooking up witjh a guy is no biggy... to me you should know the person and have semi feelings...

confused and lost

ok so she is completely different from you..but dont let that get in the way of your friendship..itsd just what she does in her personal time is waay different than what you do in yours..no biggie. Try hanging out with these guys ...just try it maybe..and if things get totally weird ..leave..(tell your friend you are going to leave if things get too weird) and your friend should respect you because she should understand its jusr not your thing
i hope i helped
-melissa-

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I am throwing my best friend a surprise party. She's a girl, 16. I already sent out the invitatations to all of her girlfriends, but I can't decide if I should invite boys or not. She is not friends with very many guys, and the 3 or 4 she is friends with may not even all be friends with each other (I don't really know all of them well). I don't know if I should invite them or not, because they aren't even people she hangs out with outside of school, and I don't know if it would be awkward for them to be there. However, I think that the party should have boys, I mean we are 16 years old. What should I do?

i agree that the party should have boys so definately invite some and i think it would be a great chance for her to hit it off with these guys and meet new people. if they dont know her enoough, they wont show so its no biggie..if they do show they will come to have a good time and partyy so no awkwardness there!
-melissa-

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ok lately i have been feeling really horny and i don't know what to do with myself.I don't have a bf and i am 16/f . I don't know how to masterbate either because i don't want to stick things near me. what could i do? Also when a girl masterbates is she suppose to have an orgasim or is that only in sex??? what about cumming? does she cum after masterbation?thanks

hey...aint nothin wrong with feeling horny..especially since you have a bf! well with masturbation you dont need to use things..objects in you..you can get your bf to finger you..or, do other fun stuff with you...kissing, touching, oral sex,..etc
masturbation...the girl has an orgasm if she keeps going the way she likes it..if she stops early or w/e she wont orgasm..when she orgasms this liquidy stuff comes out..its not exactly cum like the cum from a guy...and actually sex experts say women orgasm more when they are fingered or given oral sex and they dont orgasm as much in sex...

i hope i helped..feel free to ask me more in my inbox

-melissa-

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I'm like a hugeeee tomboy. Like I wear long shorts and football jerseys. Im 14 and going into highschool, never had a boyfriend. Will i ever get a boyfriend. I mean, i dont wear makeup, and im big bulky and muscular. I want a bf, but i think maybe they are intimidated by me. Changing the way i am is NOT an option, i like who i am. PLEASE HELP.

dont ever change who you are to get a bf..you have the right answer..dont change at all..dont do a thing! just be friednly and meet new people and eventually you will find the righr guy who likes you for ou..now that makes you a lot better right? finding a guy who likes you for the way U are...not because you changed.

Did i help you out at all? inbox me if you have more questions :)
-meliss

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ok i have a really close guy friend that i like a lot. and he likes me to and he is always telling how he wants me to be his girlfriend and that he wants to be with me except we wont hook up until we find a way so that we could see each other more often.(he lives 20 minutes away) but anways most of the time when i call him he says i am going to call you back and he NEVER calls back.. what should i think of this? should talk to him and be4 he says anythin be like "if you dont want to talk to me all you have to do is say so" can so one please tell me what to do. i dont want to hurt i just want to know he never calls back.

well if it were me i would think hes blowing me off and when he says "i'll call you back"
just respond with " i highly doubt that" or something..

how bout you dont even pick up when he calls? like have your mom say your out and to call back later..

thats just my opinion because people who always blow me off like that get me mad...

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If you always say love u to your bf when he is signing off n he says it back its all good. what does it mean when u've said it twice that day and he hasn't said it back. but he was leaving cause he had 20mins to get a shower n eat before a bball game that he said i didnt have to go to (its 45mins away) but he still gave me directions. am i just over reacting cause he didnt say 3 words?

yeah i wouldnt worry..he was probably just in a rush and busy..other than this one lil thing ..things are great right? so i wouldnt hold it against him
-meliss-

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okay, during the day i have nothing to do, i am so bored. school years aren't so bad because i have school and homework and stuff like that, but the summers are unbearable! I have nothing to do. i can't get a job even though i want to because of those damn child labor laws and i don't have a driver's liscence so can anyone think of stuff i can do during the day?

-take a long walk
-meet friends half way on this walk and walk into town to get somethin to eat or see a movie
-explore the woods if you live by woods
-go outside and garden,cut grass, etc
- rearrange your room
-cook something or bake something
-play old video games
-babysit to get money
-cut peoples grass..garden to get money
-have a yard sale
-go biking
-go to the school and play soccer,tennis,run.walk the track etc with friends
-write a story,poetry, etc
- go to www.collegehumor.com
-go through old magazines
-find good movies to watch
-go through old pictures..that always is fun
-play board games
-meet friends at the pool
-get dropped off at the mall for the day with friends

hope i helped

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my older sister is 15 and i am 13, and i can't stand her! like she just bugs the hell out of me. she tries to be like her "own person", she is obsessed with animals, mostly horses, and reading. but i am the exact opposite, i hate reading and i like partying, boys, music, and tennis. she is trying to act like me though. i mean she likes country music, and i like rap hip hop and r& b. now she is starting to like maroon 5 and stuff that i like it is pissing me off and its just cause she is trying to be cool because she knows she is really annoying. and my mom is making me spend the day with her at the pool tomorrow, which i really don't want to do because there are only 2 days until i go to camp and i would rather spend my time with my friends! how do i get out of it?!?! please help me!

well it sounds like your stuck BUT you can invite all your friends to the pool with you and hang with them..thats what i would do because i dont blame you for wanting to chill with friends instead of your sister
i hope what i said helped
-melissa

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I told my best friend something that i didnt want anyone to find out, and she tells someone i dont think i can trust her ever again should i?

rate high

well if you'd like to inbox me what the secret is i could probably help you out more because it all depends on the secret...other than this one incident is she a good friend? or has stuff like this happened in the past..if it was a one time slip up tell her your disappointed in her but she will earn your trust back..if it was a huuge secret it would take longer for me to trust her again..hopefully she learned her lesson though..
hope i helped
-melissa-

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hey im 13 im about to turn 14 and i m in high school i want a good b day party last year i had it roller skatin idk wat i should do this year i was thinkin anout renting a space nd thro w a dj party but idk any good idea out there please help..................

well for my bday party i was able to rent out the indoor pool in this hotel and everyone seemed to like it

(before the pool part was the dj thing but you could just have a pool party..those are fun...afterwards my friends and i went to the sauna and it was really fun)

hope i helped
-melissa-

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Same poster as "Sordid Love Polygon."

I'm eighteen years old, female, and I was unpopular at my high school. Somehow, however, I ended up being friends with a lot of the football players. I got really close to one of them, Alan; he ended up becoming one of my best friends. He's the perfect man in every way--smart, funny, cute, nice--except that he's OBBSESSED with SEX.

Alan has a girlfriend, Bella. She's a nice girl, and I like her as a friend, but the two are toxic to one another. When they have problems, it's like all the life gets sucked out of him. They're really harmful to each other.

Even when they break up, he always has other girls in line... (Naomi, for example). He's got a reputation for being able to get anyone to sleep with him... sex is a huge part of his life.

Now that I've graduated, I find that I'm... in love with him. I think about him every day... When I’m not thinking about him, I’m thinking about these two characters from this game I like who are just like him and me. I really care about him... and I think he knows it, since I kissed him once. But he has a girlfriend. Even if he didn’t, I’m waiting until marriage to have sex, and I'm afraid he would convince me to do something I don't want to.

I know I can't be with Alan. I don't want to damage my friendship with him or Bella, and I know he’s not right for me. But I don't know what to do. These feelings I have for him are making it hard for me to deal with other guys, and just thinking about not seeing him every day in school is killing me. I guess what I want to know is, how do I get over a guy who doesn't like me anyway?

'time will heal your deepest wounds'

over time things will get better..so with time and talking to people (talking about stuff really helps) it will get easier for you

try and cheer up for now..i know..sounds tough but just try and go out with friends or family..meet new people.

thats what i would do
hope i helped
-melissa

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okay ive known these girls for a very long time but this year we started to be best friends. we always did stuff with each other and had sleepovers every weekend. but lately they both have been getting mad at each other and they both turn to me to either invite over without the other or for advice. i feel uncomfortable because i don't want to get in the middle and i want to keep both for friends. i want to be as close as we used to be. how do i make that happen? help!

ok try some hardcore group therapy..i know it sounds cheesy but try it! invite them over to your house (without your two friends knowing the other will be there) and when they are both there get into the mind of a therapist or something...tell one friend to start to talk about her feelings and tell the other friend not to interupt..maybe if everyones feelings are poured out, things will patch up..if not , hey you gave it one hell of a good try and they will have to makeup on their own when they come to a point of understanding. if this group therapy thing doesnt work out, make it clear to both friends you dont want to be caught in the middle..they will understand if they are true friends
i hope i helped..if this doesnt work inbox me
-meliss-

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