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Well I'm a lesbian and my parents don't know. How do I tell them? I'm scared they'll kick me out of the house or something.
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Hi. I'm just about sixteen, (two weeks from thursday), and I have the same sort of problem. I came out to myself in 8th grade. My parents are HUGE homophobs, and I was always so afraid of them finding out. I got sick of my parents making "fag jokes" at dinner, so I finally told my older sister. Rachel has plenty of homosexual friends including her best friend Maile who's lesbian. My sister and one teacher at school whom I'm close with, (she's head of our schools GSA), helped me plan what to say. This was about six monthes ago, and my parents are still in denial about it. At least now they don't make horrible "jokes" around me! I wish you all the luck and hope it goes well.
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I read in a magazine that if you're coming out and are afraid to tell your parents because they'll kick you out and/or cut you off finacially, wait till you'e out of the house to tell them.
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Trust me nothing will happen they'll just be in shock but I told my mom all my darkest and deepest secrets and she didn't do anything she acted as if everything was normal because me and my mom are very open with eachother.
best wishes though
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well just break it to them easy and let them no that your still their little gurl and you are still the same person nothing has changed except for you like gurls but at the same time you love them and they should love you for you and not for who you love but at the same time it could be alot worse like drugs or something much worse than whats going on right now and that you still love them and want them to show thier love by trusting you and showing their trust
good luck and love talktome224
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I agree with Susan, yes does ur parents tell u when they had sex or anything? If you want to keep this privately to yourself okay dont tell them, and r they christians or any other religion?
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www.pflag.org is a wonderful site devoted to helping gays, lesbians, friends and family. It provides support, educates family, advocates equal rights, and provides public information on gender identity and sexual orientation. They have a special page just on coming out including questions that your family may ask.
[Link](Mouse over link to see full location) is another site you might look at since it deals directly with coming out to your parents. I hope this helps.
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Well, The best thing you can do is just wait til the 'right' moment, when you comftorble, say this is me like it or not, go to conslours, anything can help!
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The answer really depends on your age, but generally speaking it depends on how open you are with your parents in the first place. If you were heterosexual, would you talk to your parents about your sex life or sexual experiences with your parents? I am not a believer in being 'out.' If you want them to know, that's fine and tell anyone or everyone, but you don't see your parents discussing their sexual life with you. Your sexual experiences are your own, and somethings are meant to be private. Is there someting else going on that you feel the need to tell them this?
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I have a boyfriend now, but at one state I was confused and thought i was lesbian. You should definatly wait until you are definatly positive that you are gay, because belive me, now that I have a boyfriend, I cant even look at girls or my mom will make weird comments like "Do you think shes cute"...and its embarassing..so I suggest you say something like "Hey mom, do you think it`s ok to be lesbian" , and see what she says , and if she says no, then it will be alot harder to tell her, but if she says yes, i suggest you tell her straight out.
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They wouldn't kick you out of the house for something like that. Just send them an email or write them a letter. It would be much easier then saying it to their faces. Believe me, if they love you, they will accept you. 99.9% parents would accept their kids for being lesbian/gay. Good Luck!
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ok just recently a 13 year old boy asked a question just like yours..only hes gay..everything in my answer applies to you..so check it out..copy and paste this website into where you type your websites
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it really depends on your parents..if your really sure they would kick you out and it would cause a lot of fighting, etc..wait it out..
best of luck...its ok if now isnt the right time...wait for the right time
-melissa-
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