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Getting Over a Guy with a Girlfriend
Same poster as "Sordid Love Polygon."
I'm eighteen years old, female, and I was unpopular at my high school. Somehow, however, I ended up being friends with a lot of the football players. I got really close to one of them, Alan; he ended up becoming one of my best friends. He's the perfect man in every way--smart, funny, cute, nice--except that he's OBBSESSED with SEX.
Alan has a girlfriend, Bella. She's a nice girl, and I like her as a friend, but the two are toxic to one another. When they have problems, it's like all the life gets sucked out of him. They're really harmful to each other.
Even when they break up, he always has other girls in line... (Naomi, for example). He's got a reputation for being able to get anyone to sleep with him... sex is a huge part of his life.
Now that I've graduated, I find that I'm... in love with him. I think about him every day... When I’m not thinking about him, I’m thinking about these two characters from this game I like who are just like him and me. I really care about him... and I think he knows it, since I kissed him once. But he has a girlfriend. Even if he didn’t, I’m waiting until marriage to have sex, and I'm afraid he would convince me to do something I don't want to.
I know I can't be with Alan. I don't want to damage my friendship with him or Bella, and I know he’s not right for me. But I don't know what to do. These feelings I have for him are making it hard for me to deal with other guys, and just thinking about not seeing him every day in school is killing me. I guess what I want to know is, how do I get over a guy who doesn't like me anyway?
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i know about this.a guy i liked siad we can't be together till we are older and this is what i told a friend of mine who is boy freind to my best freind qotue 'Nobody is going to control me just cuase they don't like me there are other guys out there. and one of them are bound to like me but he will have a place in my heart when no one has me but when i do a little place will be there who knows maybe in time he will need me but i have somebody better than him so like i said before and i will always say this no man will control me if he doesn't like me and one day in time a man that likes me we will meet in time and we will like each other than love will come no man will control me just cuase he doesn't like me.' i hoped i helped if i didn't sorry i wasted your time but i do hoped i helped you so what i am saying you might not get over him you might but just be careful don't wait for him to like you time doesn't stop for anyone so don't wait get out there but just in cause he likes you when you still like him keep a little space in your heart for him but don't keep it there forever keep it for awhile but you will have mimories in that space that is filled hoped i helped
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Samantha says ; He doesnt sound like the best person to be in love with. Especially if you are waiting until marriage.. I think that you should maybe TRY going out with him and wait for him to either say no or to ask you to do something and you to get upset so then you wont like him anymore. I dont know what i would really do but this sounds like something that could work :)
Danielle says ; Try to find someone new because it sounds like this guy has commitment problems.. and i would just keep your distance because it doesnt seem like this could be anything good.
hope this helps!
=) samantha + danielle
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(A)well i guess you could just try 2 move on & get another bf because you dont wanna be with any one who will make you unconfortable or make you do sumthing you dont want 2 soooo just try to move on but still be friends (B) you could tell him how you feel & see what happens (C) just pretend you dont like him anymore & cry in private , & become a lonely old lady with 20 something cats OPTION C WAS A JOKE !!!!
but i really dont know what else 2 say good luck x3
hope i helped ya out
JaDa*
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The best way to get over a guy is getting to know and hanging out with other guys. You want to stay away from him by doing other things so your not thinking about him all the time. I hope things turn out alright.
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Irishdude405
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umm if i were you i'd wait until he brakes uo with his girl friend cause if they act like they say they do im sure it isnt going to last forever then when they brake up maybe ya'll could hook up and im sure if he really cares about you he wont force you to do anything that you dont want to do=)
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its hard but really how to get over him is time. try meeting new guys and keep busy with friends and family. soon you will find out that there is someone else out there that you love more then this other guy and will soon forget him, which is good because it seems like your better off without him.
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'time will heal your deepest wounds'
over time things will get better..so with time and talking to people (talking about stuff really helps) it will get easier for you
try and cheer up for now..i know..sounds tough but just try and go out with friends or family..meet new people.
thats what i would do
hope i helped
-melissa
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well...yes i am popular and yes guys do want "sumthin" lol. if you do not want to do what he wants you to TELL HIM if he asks or tries to force you..or if you'd totally want to avoid it, i'd let him go =/ hes not worth it if all he wants is sex babe...
-TaYlOr*BeAr-
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Time. I know it sounds annoying but it will go away with time. You've accepted this guy is a good match for you and doesn't share your values at all. Don't rush and try and deal with other guys, take your time. Eventually you'll wake up and think "Alan who?".
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