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I'm in 11th grade now... well i'm going into 11th... and me and my friend have been friends since 4th... we are two completly diff people but that's what makes us good friends... she is more wild and i'm more not... she will do things without thinking and I think things through... last week she told me she liked this guy... every week it seems as though she likes someone diff... she had a 3 some with him and his friend... the two guys is her exes good friends... and the guy she doesn't like is one of her best friends ex and her other friend slept with him before she had the 3 some... she has wanted me to hang out with them but i'm not that type of person... i'm waiting till i get married to loose my virginity and i have more respect in myself than that no affense to her... i love her but i don't know what to do...she has told me if i hang out with them nothing like that will happen... but everytime she tells me a story about when they hangout something sexual like that always happens... we havent talk in almost 5 days... maybe more, maybe less... i don't know what to sday to her... she has had sex before with her ex and after she did it all changed... she kisses guys without really thinking... to her hooking up witjh a guy is no biggy... to me you should know the person and have semi feelings...
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Tell her that you really just want to hang out with her, and not this other guy because you don't really know him. If she still eggs you on, be blunt with her, and tell her it's because something always happens, and it'd be like being a third wheel on a date, and you're not into that stuff . If she still doesn't respect your choice, don't hang out with her unlsess you're SURE it's just the two of you.
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something sexual may always happen but you dont have to be apart of it my friend is more out there than i am whenever her boyfriend and his friend and are other friend hayley are over i just kinda sit to the side and guard the door so her mom cant get in just tell her that you dont like spending time with all these guys that you just wanna hang just girls or just a couple of friends that are more down to earth she should understand its not that hard to say no or just stand aside and let it happen ur not the cause of it or the reason so if she wants to be wild and frivelous let her do it but still try to spend some time with her like at the mall and just hang out for a while im sure try to hang out with them but if something does happen you can always leave or yall could go to someplace public where you know that nothing will happen. hope i helped!
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Find a new friend. Obviously you and she don't share the same morals or values and you feel as though you'll be pressured if you do hang out. That's wrong - real friendships don't ever work that way. So she has had a threesome? that's a class act... by the time she's 23 she won't even be able to count how many she's been with and how many times she's put herself or others at risk for an STD or worse. Even though you are an individual, people will judge you by who you associate with, especially at such a young age.
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i agree with you all the way all you have to do is just tell her how you feel. just be like i really dont want to hang out with them because i am not that sexual yet and i dont want to be and if she is your good friend she will understand and she wont pressure you into it or anything.
hope i helped,
<33 Lexie
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WELL LIKE YOU SAID SHE IS COMPLETLY DIFFERENT FROM YOU AND THAT IS JUST THE TYPE OF PERSON SHE IS. YOU CANT JUST LET THAT GET IN THE WAY OF YOUR FRIENDSHIP. TRY HANGING OUT WITH THEM AND SEE HOW IT IS. YOU DONT HAVE TO DO ANYTHING YOU DONT WANT TO AND THEY WONT PRESSURE YOU INTO IT. YOU NEED TO HAVE A TALK WITH YOUR FRIEND THO. I BET MOST GUYS THINK SHE IS EASY AND THAT SHE IS WILLING TO DO ANYTHING WITH ANY GUY. PEOPLE MIGHT EVEN START CALLING HER A SLUT AND STUFF AND THAT IS DEFENETLLY NOT GOOD AT ALL. HM.. IF SHE HAS SEX WITH SOMEONE .. SHE COULD BECOME PREGENT OR GET SOME KIND OF DEASESSE. HOPEFULLY SHE WILL UNDERSTAND. JUST LET HER KNOW YOU ARE'NT MAD AT HER YOU JUST WANT WHATS BEST FOR HER AND THAT YOU ARE TRYING TO KEEP HER AWAY FROM THE BAD THINGS. SHE SEEMS TO BE VERY SEXUALLY ACTIVE TH0.BUT YEAH .. GOOD LUCK WITH EVERYTHING!! [[ ♥ ]]
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um how do you know that they will 2 you? from stories from.. they prolly know how she is i don't think they would do that 2 a comoplete stranger ya kno? juss try and hang out with them cuz she wants you 2 i mean you shouldn't waste a long term friendship juss because of that. & if they are like that it wouldn't hurt 2 juss leave or tell them your not like that. i hope i helped `♥//
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ok so she is completely different from you..but dont let that get in the way of your friendship..itsd just what she does in her personal time is waay different than what you do in yours..no biggie. Try hanging out with these guys ...just try it maybe..and if things get totally weird ..leave..(tell your friend you are going to leave if things get too weird) and your friend should respect you because she should understand its jusr not your thing
i hope i helped
-melissa-
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