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ok well before i left for hawaii .. june 26th.. this guy i like came over and we made out and he said the sweetest things to me like i dont want u to go, im gonna miss u so much, manuel (my ex) is so stupid for leavin u bc ur so beautiful.. blahblahblah stuff like that and now its been like a month and i still havnt seen him he calls like maybe once a week and like we made plans for last tuesday but then he never called or wutever. his best friend cole tells me all the time that he likes me and stuff so i mean idk wut to do cuz i mean i still like him soo much but i havnt seen him since the nite before i left for hawaii and grr idk he makes me mad bc he said all those things and now hes not doin anything at all. wut do u think happened/???

kristin

alright get him on the phone. Explain what you just wrote, just be like is everything OK, you seem down, are you upset with me, just question him. Theres not much to do but let out the blunt truth. And tell him you like him too... definetly. B/c you should definetly see whats up before you go out with his best friend that would piss him off for good and then you guys wouldnt even just be friends.. which would suck! And youd have no future fate either...

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Well me and my boyfriend have been goin out for 3 months starting tewday...and i have this problem with cutting ( my wrist ) and i havn*t told hym untill yesterday....and he got really mad at me and said i either have tew stop cutting or i have tew brake up with me cuz e doesnt wanna risk losing someone he really loves......but i think he is just running away from the problem.....wat dew u think he is doing

dont cut yourself. If you have a boyfriend you have plenty to live for... and you dont want to loose that. Too many young girls loose their lives for something as sick as cutting.. im so sorry you have that habit.. but as bad as it is you have to go get therapy... talk to someone... even a friend. whatever you have to STOP yourself... please.. hes not running from the problem hes telling you the truth. HE LOVES YOU! Thats should be really important to you and for his sake and yours stop so that you dont break his heart and loose your life.. it would be terrible...

.... PLEASE LISTEN to what i am saying, it can make such a difference in your life

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ok . heres my deal , im going into high school on aug. 23 , and i really want to get a boyfriend for the first time cuz ive never dated b4 . im getting braces to which might turn a guy off . how can i get a boyfriend evn tho braces r a total turn off

Making friends are the biggest key to boyfriends. Hes probably not a good guy if he doesnt like you for your braces.. so forget that thought.. you want a guy who likes you for you. Now that we've got that down, make friends with guys. Ok.. most relationships arent any good without being friends first. So make some friends.. mingle meet guys through other girls (even if theyre not the boyfriend type make friends with him, he might have some cute buddies and he could be a good friend to have).. but you have to be outstanding. Crack jokes, be talkative, give compliments. And even if you dont HAVE a boyfriend the first few monthes, guys arent everything.. b/c along with that good stuff comes heartache sometimes. So you want to be careful with who you choose. When you get close with your guy friends, invite them over, get to know eachother better. I think this is the best way you can go... and I think if you keep a good attitude and an open mind you'll find mr right before the years over ;-)

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Should i let my friend come up my shirt..? hes always like bringing my boobs up.. were not goin out but we flirt a rly lot.. Hes always hinting.. He really wants to.. Shuld i let him!? plz help i have no idea wut to do
(( im 13 ))

i would say if your not going out.. dont get in to anything that could make you have the attitude of a whore. IF you guys flirt alot i would say going out is the best thing to do.. even then make sure that going up your shirt is all he wants to do and whatever you do dont let him take things to the next level.. that could get all jumbled and screwed up if you know how it is.... dont let him do things if your not going out... if he wants some he has to atleast make a commitment to you and not for your boobs... for u

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volleyball tryouts are this week and im really scared i wont make it. I think about it non-stop and it gets me even more nervous and upset.
How do i stop this!?!
HELP

DONT be nervous... nervousness will be an automatic bump off the team.. you need to think positive. Go in there, and try your hardest. What you can do before that is practice like CRAZY... if you have a net use it and practice with a parent, friend, sibling, relative ANYONE who will put in a few hours with you every day. You'll have no reason to be nervous if you are properly prepared. As for right before you go to tryout, calm down, try your hardest, b/c thats all you can do...

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k, me and my bf have been going out for 6 months, and we've had sex like...a lot. like every time we see each other at night, we get turned on. we've done it everywhere. now he's telling me that he's got another girl, and he accidently called me her name last night. i got mad, and he got mad too, and said that he didn't want me anymore and he was just using me for sex, and she was his real gf, and she fucked better than me anyhow. so what do i do now, i love his sex, and i love him.

give up on him... hes too much of a jerk anyhow.. you dont need people like that in your life, hes not sincere and hes not worth your time.

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Hey! does anybody have any good activites to do with kids..ages..4 and 6??? im babysitting n lil n i want to do something fun!!!XOXO

play imaginary games.. its good to help the kids open their imagination. Stay away from the TV or watching movies unless their parents specifically asked that.. you can try giving them piggy back rides and stuff... ehehehe plenty of things that dont require television or the computer..

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-- well this guy i like is really sweet! he makes me laugh and its as if i fell in love w/ him in less than a month! but he is going off 2 college and he found out that he might be having a baby!? he broke up w/ me bc of it and im really mad! i guess im just bein selfish! bc tha babi should come first!..let me know wat i should do? and it i should try and help him out or just give him space?

understand hes probably going thru a really rough time. Its hard for him. Offer him to help him with anything.. tell him you just want to be REALLY close friends. Stay in close touch when hes at college.. be sure to stay in close touch with him... send his baby a gift or something.. be really nice about it. Im sure things will work itself out and when he does start warming back up to you again, when the pain is not to strong, tell him how you still love him and ask him what ever happened.. but make sure its the right time.. and if you have trouble figuring when that time is...

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Well i puke whenever i eat sumthin or drink something..Sometimes i totally just do it on purpose..My mom thinks im bulimic..I think im fat and i want to become anerix or belimic or both..What should i do to loose weight and if i should do that..?

DEFINETLY DO NOT BECOME ANEREXIC OR BULIMIC. omg!! You will loose your life and it is no joke.. please you may not think you have a problem but you NEED to go for therapy. Please, its a terrible thing and you need to STOP calling yourself fat... if you ever need help again PLEASE send one to my inbox.. but whatever you do dont harm your body or bring your life to a sudden end...... PLEASE


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Theres this guy and he likes me and I like him..he's coming over to hang out two days from now and hes gonna ask me out...I just wanted to hang out first..but anyways whenever we talk online we have all these pauses...are there any solid topics that could keep a conversation going for more then 2 minutes? I'm scared we'll have nothing to talk about and stuff when he comes over!!!!

if its the guy you like, it should be anything but awkward. Dont say anything embarassing and stay off the topic of old boyfriends or his old girlfriends. If you have nothing to say just say sooo like really cheerily and in that time something will pop up in one of your heads. As for conversations, ask him anything. Be like so who do you listen to and show him your C.D.S... talk about his hair be like have you ever spiked it have u ever this just talk about ANYTHING avoid embarassing or gross topics that could lead to realy awkward silences... other than that let it all flow out.

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im going to the beach soon, and i was wondering what were some good ways to make friends? (im 14)

The best way to make friends is to talk to people. If you see people near you say hey, be friendly. Conversate, basically be talkitave. Compliment people, tell them you like their swimsuit, ask where they got it, be really nice and soon enough you'll have friends on the beach... and by the way thats really good your trying to make friends b/c you will appreciate it during the school year.

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i'm going into high school and im really scared and nervous..what if i dont know anyone during lunch and i have to sit by myself?! i dont know what to do..how can i be more brave and not be so scared?

well the first thing to do is stand out. Be unique in how you dress, but nothing too noticable. Be nice to EVERYBODY you see. Even if someone asks for a pencil give a huge smile and say sure or something like that, exaggerate your politeness, try not to appear cheap tho or flaky. Try making acquaintances and by lunch someone might offer for you to sit with them!!! If not, sit down alone, and if no one approaches you or offers for you to sit with them, they must be pretty out of their minds and the next day should definetly equal pure results.

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i was in two carwrecks with my mom. i am now in a
wheelchair. i go to the doctor alot so i miss school alot. but i still have a 3.5 . anyways,
i can't go and be in sports anymore and i can't ride the rides at the fair and i can't do all of the stuff i used to. is it wrong for me to cry when all of that stuff gets to me? am i just being selfish and a cry baby? if you could please help. signed,
feelin blu

no, its absolutely not wrong to cry. I am so sorry whats happened to you. Yes, it is quite sad and its worth crying but it doesnt ever limit you!! I was in Boston and I saw someone on a WHEELCHAIR wind surfing. Maybe you should get some therapy. It must be sad to miss all those things that you used to do. But dont give up hope!! People in the OLYMPICS play on wheel chairs. There is so much you CAN do. And i dont know how bad your case is, but maybe sometime, or someday you will heal. And if not think of yourself as the start of something. When you grow up, whether or not your in a wheel chair, you can find new things for people in wheel chairs... like rides for them... and huge research on how to heal peoples legs... or anything really. your options are opened. So even if you cant play sports now, there are plenty of things you can do. Remember, the sky is the limit....


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Every year I vacation in my absolute favorite place in the entire world. I have so many really close friends up there and I always have a wonderful time. I just got back 2 days ago and my parents told me we aren't going up next year. I've felt really sick to my stomach the last few days, back til the night before I left and I've been feeling kind of nauseated. Do you think it's just an awkward time to get sick, or do you think this could just be a serious case of home sickness?

it could be a coincidence. I know what you feel like. I just went to the one place i actually feel at home nd i dont know when im going back, and yeahh i feel kinda sick, but emotionally. Ask your parents again, plead them b/c it sounds like you really like the place, express how much you love it, offer to do chores or get a job if the money has anything to do with it. If none of this helps, leave one in my inbox.

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i only have a few real friends that i like to spend time with and 2 of them are going away for the rest of the summer...how do i meet new people so that i won't be bored to death?? i was thinking about getting a job to keep me busy - would that help me meet people?

yes going for a job would be a great way for money during the school year, meeting new people, and a good responsibility check.

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Hey I need advice um..i like this 12 year old girl and im 16 should i go outwith her because she likes me i only know her bout 8 weeks already we barely talk when we talk we see at other at dances i love her so much i kiss her on the first time we meet

not to be a total burst your bubble type. but are u looking for a quick piece of booty? B/c chances are your not really in love with her.. she can be mature for her age but its just not the right thing to do i wouldnt do it.... find someone closer to your age hun or tell her you want to be friends. I would wait some years for her.. I know it probably isnt what you want to hear *but* its the truth.

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whats the best way to get over a guy that ur stuck on?

pick up a hobby. You probably need some time to heal from the whole GUYS issue. Be single and stay happy. If i were you id keep a journal, get out your feelings, list reasons why you want to get over him and i promise within a few entries you WILL.

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My boyfriends friends don't approve of me.. and he has only been ahnging out with the 2 that do this summer so far.. but now hes hanging out with the other ones again.. and there the reason we broke up the other times... I mean.. i know i have no control over who he hangs with but would it be wrong of me to maybe ask him in the nicest way possible to not spend time with them so much?? I don't want him to dump me again because of them!!!:(

no.. you shouldnt tell your boyfriend who and who not to hang out with or not to spend as much time as someone compared to someone else. The best thing to do is tell him how much you like him, express your deepest feelings. BUT tell him that a lot of times they say mean things about you and it hurts you. Tell him you want his trust and not listen to the mean things they say about you and ask him to just be him, and make sure somewhere in there you add in you love him or something to ease his temper if hes starting one, which he shouldnt lol. But anyways-- hes got to accept you for you or hes just not a very nice guy... and dont worry men are stubborn they mess around with their buddies and believe what they are sayin.

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GOOD LUCK HUN!.. i think he should listen to what u say no matter what u choose to do! :-D

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My friend has a heart condition that she hides from just about every one of her friends except for me. The problem is that she is kind of a party girl. She smokes about a pack a day, gets high about twice a week during the summer and once a week during the school year and she drinks excessively on a very frequent basis. I've really really considered doing a few things but I have encountered so many problems. The first thing is that she absolutely doesn't want to quit even though it could kill her. Her mind set is that if she doesnt live til the age when fun switches from getting messed up, playing football in the rain and then having sex with your latest boy toy, to sipping tea and knocking a tennis ball back and forth, then she's not missing out on too much. Unfortunately for me, I kind of agree with her about that. Anyways, the last time one of her friends talked to her about it she quit talking to him and now will rarely even answer the phone when he calls. Another problem is that she lives 1600 miles from me and I only spend 3 weeks a year with her this year, though im currently saving up $1200 to go see her and my buds there this winter, so I cant really talk to her face to face. I would tell her best friend but she made me absolutely promise not to mention her heart condition to him, so I'm not sure what to do. The rate she's going a person without her condition would die around 40, and with her mind set, I could accept that, but if she doesnt quit soon she could die before I even get to see her again, and to be honest, that scares me so horribly that it was all I could do to write this. Thank you for any advice you might have.

since this is yet the hardest question ive come upon yet in my days at advicenator, I would definetly have to reference you to someone else. But before you turn away and think that Ive give up on you, take my advice, follow closely. Find out if there are any drug hotlines, look it up online, anything, but i know their are lots of free 1-800 numbers that allow you to stay confidential. Have a long chat with the person who answers the hotline. They will have the best advice for you.. and they will be there 4 u.

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does anyone know any good clothes stores with cheap clothes? i'm not saying cheap cheap but cheaper than abercrombie type cheap. help asap! i rate REALLY good!

try american eagle, XXI or Forever 21, Gap, Macys, Jc Penneys ... try all that... hope i helped!

PLEASE* rate

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