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Well me and my boyfriend have been goin out for 3 months starting tewday...and i have this problem with cutting ( my wrist ) and i havn*t told hym untill yesterday....and he got really mad at me and said i either have tew stop cutting or i have tew brake up with me cuz e doesnt wanna risk losing someone he really loves......but i think he is just running away from the problem.....wat dew u think he is doing
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I think he really cares about you..a lot.My friend's girlfriend cuts herself too, 'n he gave her that same choice 'n she chose to stop, so now they're still together. Hope I helped, 'n I hope you make the right choice.
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I think that he really cares about you. I have a friend ill call sam. And sam does the same thing cause of stress. But her boyfriend "jake" gets really mad at her for doing that cause he cares about her so much. There still together cause she stopped.
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well i thin kthat if u r resorting to cutting ur wrists then u r running from the problem i mean if u have to do some10 like that u either wnt attention or some10 is terribly wrong in ur life i use to cut n i would say it was 1 roblem but bringing evrything in the open helped me relize that i was stupid i have stopped for like 3 or 4 years now the scars r gone n evry1 knows i use to trust me things will get better i think this guy just has u n his best intrests i meen it does hurt losin some1 u luv trust me i have lost 4 pl i really cared 4 but i say try to stop cuttin if this guy really cares 4 u he will help ya threw the wrst times of stopping!!
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i think cuttin youRself is runnin awaii fRom youR pRoblemz..i Rilli dunt undeRstand how cuttin givz you relief..i alwaiiz thought it gives you moRe pain! u shud listen tu uRe b/f oR u shud dump him cuz u cant put him thRu this..think about it uRe not huRtin only youRself youR huRtin evRibodii aRound you!
sRii if im haRsh but things like these get me woRked^..and i no u think just cuz im somebody online that DOES NOT mean I DONT CARE
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na.. i thynk he said that cuz he cares about you and wouldnt lyk seeing you hurt yourself.. and if yall have been going out for 3 months.. then he might possibly love you.. and if u were gone.. it would suk big butt for him ya kno?
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First of all, try as hard as you can to stop cutting. It doesn't fix anything, it just makes things worse. Think positively about things, because thinking negatively just helps with the urge to cut. Put yourself in your boyfriend's shoes.. how do you think he'd feel if he DID lose someone he cares so much about? What he was the one doing it, and killed himself.. how would you feel?
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dont cut yourself. If you have a boyfriend you have plenty to live for... and you dont want to loose that. Too many young girls loose their lives for something as sick as cutting.. im so sorry you have that habit.. but as bad as it is you have to go get therapy... talk to someone... even a friend. whatever you have to STOP yourself... please.. hes not running from the problem hes telling you the truth. HE LOVES YOU! Thats should be really important to you and for his sake and yours stop so that you dont break his heart and loose your life.. it would be terrible...
.... PLEASE LISTEN to what i am saying, it can make such a difference in your life
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i think you're boyfriend is really scared about losing you
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i think your boyfriend is just scared. he wants to be there for you, but in a way, he doesnt really know why you are doing this. all in all, he is just frustrated and confused. give him some time and maybe discuss the situation a little better instead of just laying it on him. hopefully you will get things all settled out and you wont cut any more =Þ YAY! mmmkay i hope i helped you!
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well i think you should keep cutting yourself if you really like too.. or u can break up with the bastard and go lesbo
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As a past cutter and from dealing with others that cut now, it is a very painful issue. There is no doubt about that. When i told my boyfriend he said the same thing. i suggest that you talk to your b/f and tell him that you would like to stop but it will take time and maybe with his support you can overcome the issue. But you REALLY do need to stop cutting, in the end it adds more stress you anyway.
And i can see why your b/f would want to keep his distance, losing someone to suicide is the worst way to lose them.
Hope I helped...........Alina
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he cares about u, he isn't runnin away from anything
so your best shot is to try to stop, like tell n adult and get counciling, otherwise u'll lose him, then u'll get more depressed, and cut more, and i think u kno where im goin wit that 1
if u can't seek counciling, then where a rubberband around your other wrist, and snap it each tyme u cut (that method is used to stop many other addiction, and it works too)
GL!!
SoUtHeRn_ChIcKeTy
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he cares-trix
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You know what, I would have to disagree on what you said. "Running away from the problem"..now I know that it may seem that way to you, but he could be actually making you think about what you've done. I've been known to think that putting someone in a place where they must decide between something involving a break up is quite harsh and not right. However, sometimes it is necessary if the person is doing it out of concern or trying to help. I may be wrong, but I think this guy loves you if he means what he says "I don't want to risk losing someone I really love". Maybe he cares about you so much and thinks that if you love him yuo would stop cutting to stay with him. He could be doing this to help you. Or it could be the other way around and he could turn out ot be a complete jerk about it. I would talk to him about this one day, just so you have knowledge of what's going on. There may be a chance that what you said scared him...seeing someone you love cut is really scary it might have freaked him out. Just explain to him...everyone has there way to cope with things, and this may be harsh but it is the way you cope. Your way is more intense. You both need to solves things...get everything together and work things out. Really talk to him and give him all the details. I'm not going to lecture you on how to stop cutting becaus eyou did not ask for that. But if I can just say one thing it's that maybe if you at least think about getting help, not only will that help you out with cutting but also improve your relationships. By the way, congrats on the 3 month you have been together with him. Bets of luck to you all!! Love you! -Mandee
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he obviously isnt running away if he said that!he really cares about you, and if you care about him ( and your life! ) then you should stop. and yeah, i know its easier said than done, but there are other ways to release pain without mutilating your body. you could write your angry thoughts in a journal, write poetry or songs about your pain, or if you really like inflicing pain upon yourself, then try getting a super thick rubber band and wear it around your wrist. whenever you get the urge to cut, snap it repeatedly. there are so many online support groups for cutting, you should really check them out, because its not worth losing your life. if you need someone to talk to, IM me or something.. im always here for you :)
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