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wat do you do, wen a friend tells you she cant talk 2 you about certain things anymore, and rather call someone else? we are like sisters, tell each other everything, and i mean everything, and the reason i smile is b/c she makes it happen b/c she helps me so much. please help!

owch..that would sting me hard if i was in your place. well what you can do is to ask her WHY and tell her everything you told us. Maybe if you open up to her about something like a latest crush or some secret..she will feel more comfortable. if no matter what you say or do doesnt help the situation, you have to accept the fact that shes being weird and things are changing. Ive had things like that happen with friends and its definately not an easy thing to deal with..but as long as you dont just sit there and do nothing..you have no reason to be mad at yourself.
i hope what i saidd helped
-melisssa-

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okay. so i like this guy. he just happens to be my best friend. the other night, my friend ( ally ) got on my screen name ( i was there too ) and told him that i thought he was hott. and then she was like do you think im hott? *remember, she was pretending to be me and wouldnt let me say anything to him...* he responded by saying, i would go out with you. it was kind of a shocker. no, it was a shocker. because 01-hes my best friend. and 02-no guys ever want to go out with me. or even consider it. and so i was kind of dazed for a little while. and then, i told him that ally said all of it. but he seemed like dissapointed that it wasnt me. today i was going to tell him that i actually do like him & all, but i never got the chance. its just akward. but i dont want our friendship to be ruined by it if we date. so i just want to know other peoples points of view. please!!

my point of view...is i think you would regret it if you two didnt date..because you would keep thinking to yourself:
"you know what? we both liked each other..i wonder how things would have been if we dated..i wish i took that chance..."
live with no regreets...go for it!
living a life without taking some chances is a life unlived. when you break up..yes things might be weird..but its nothing you cant fix. i mean eventually things would get back to normal..but dont even worry about that right now..date him! start a new adventure..a new chapter in the wonderful book of life. just my opinion
: ) remember..no regrets
-melissa-

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i know this is kinda stupid but how do i get closer friends ?? i want friends who i can trust and talk to and hang out like every day its just when i get friends they kick me to the curb i HAD these amazing friend((emma n iris)) and we hung out EVERY SiNLE DAY and i said lets never get into a fight i was us to be best friends forever and we did that secret box thing from crossroads((gay yeah i know rite lol)) well emma n iris one day hung out with this girl marissa and they became like BEST FRIENDS and i was just being left out and it happen like that i did not see it coming and then they started making fun of me and saying mean stuff to me and i said i wanted my stuff back from that secret box thing if your gonna keep doing this to me and they said that they through it out and i put my most favorite stuff in there...We are friends now but not that tight...how do i get REAL BEST friends? i will rate high for extremly good anweres

Well, if everyone had the secret to getting real best friends..friends who would never do what those girls did to you...then nobody would need friendship advice and nobody would be in the same place as you. Reality is, thats not the case..and this kind of stuff happens. Ive seen it happen to girls in my class..it happens to a lot of people. so there is no real secret to get real best friends...because you seemed to have real best friends until they suddenly turned on you.

So what you do is keep an open mind and hang with a new group of girls who seem cool. As you hang out more and open up more..they will open uup more to you and hopefully they wont be as mean as your other friends. From about 5th grade-9th or 10th grade it seems people jump around groups of friends and by the time they reach 9th,10th,or 11th grade..they have a pretty good grip on who their true friends are and where they belong. (it seems that way anyway) so..all you can do is hang out with new people and as you hang out more, you will trust them more..and as long as they dont do what those other girls did, your new best friends will be there to stay.

just like love, friendships can be unpredictable also..you dont know if you will keep your friends for a lifetime, or a year, ..or a month..i mean ive haaated girls..then wound up being friends with them. its funny how things work out

i hope i helped
-melissa-

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well my boyfriend and i have been having sex, he wa smy first. and its fine and everything but whenever he wants me to give him head or a handjob.. i cannot do t.. he says im really not that bad.. but i can tell i am.. it takes forever giving him head and i dont know... i try hard but i cant.. any tips or websites i could check out? thanksss

www.talksexwithsue.com

what is your particular problem you think your having with giving head?
is it that the penis is too big and you cant deepthroat?

- try and coordinate it where you have your hand on the penis and your mouth on the tip of the penis..as you bob your head..give him a handjob on the lower half of the penis. (most nerve endings on the penis are on the first couple inches of it anyway..its just a phycological pleaser to the guy when you deepthroat)

well i think www.talksexwithsue.com can help you out more than i can.


as far as handjobs, communication is the key. tell him to show you how he likes it. he can take your hand and position it they way he likes it...and start to do the motion..ask him if he lieks it or wants it harder..he will tell you..

commincation is the key to all parts of sex..good communication means good pleasure for both of you

i hope what i said along with the website helps

-melissa ;)

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There was this guy that was 2 years older than me. He was my brothers best friend. I had a huge crush on him. He would always come over and snowboard with us afterschool. One night he spent the night.While we were all watching a movie he put his arm around me in my bed. He started to play with my belly button ring. Later int the night he was feeling me up. All over my boobs and my butt. He started biting my ear.He made me really nervous. THis was all in front of my brother. I had to go to bed he came and layed down with me. He thought he heard my mom and jumped up so he knew he was doing something he shouldnt of. The next day it was like nothing happend. Was I used??
I will rate high!!!

he could like you, but pretended everything was cool the next morning because if your brother found out, it can definately but a strain on his friendship with yuor brother. it could also be that he was just having some fun..so its hard to tell if you were used or if he has feelings for you unless you talk to him about it. so if it were me i would wait until i had some time to talk to him one on one..and mention it..see how he feels..maybe he wants to be friends with benefits..maybe it was a one time thing for him..he could want a relationship..who knows.

talk to him about it

i hope i helped
-melissa :)

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I'm in love with my best friend. I've liked him for as long as i can remember, years. I haven't liked any one else within that time period. But we're best friends.

I've tried telling him, and he just wasn't (won't) feeling it. he has liked me before, but i kept it as friends.

But now he likes one one my good (female) friends. And he is constantly trying to be around her, even though they wouldn't be friends if it weren't for me. She has a boyfriend of her own. He just dosn't get the picture.

It kills me to see him try for her. Giving her the attention i've been dying for, for years. It really breaks my heart and i don't know what to do.

He already knows how i feel. I just do not know what to do. Or how to mend a broken heart.

sweetie, if people had control over the feelings of the people they liked, nobody would be single. ever. and everyone would be happy. this isnt reality..reality is sometimes people dont feel the same way and i think everyone has been there at least once in their lives (for me its been many times )

well, you gave it your all..so pat yourself on the back for that because many times, feelings remain bottled up inside, at least you didnt keep yours bottled up.

what to do now? well..i would try my best to restore friendship with this boy until its no longer awkward.

as for the broken heart...time will heal it. yes, time. i remember thats what my mom told me when i was crushed when my heart was broken..at first i didnt beleive her, but its true. eventually things got better..things became easier ..and i thought about him less. did i still think about him? yes, every night..but at least it got to the point where i wouldnt be thinking about him all day.

i went out with friends and had a good time..i mmoved on and 2 years later i still care about him and miss him...but its much much better.

so i suggest you do the same..go out with friends, keep your friendship with this boy.meet new people...because life is funny. just when your about to sit down and quit..someone amazing walks into your life..when you least expect it. its one of the beauties of life.

i hope what i've said helped..

-melissa- :)

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Hi! (this is kind of long...)

I'm 14, and most of my friends have dated or are dating. I feel like I stand out, almost like I will never be able to date. Whenever my friends talk about dating, I am happy for them, but I just think I'm never going to date, with hopelessness.

I have tried finding girls by being friends with them and then after a while, asking some of them if they have BFs. Some of them do, and most of them don't. I am still friends with them, but whenever I'd ask the ones without BFs if they'd like to do something together (almost like a date), they usually say "no" or "maybe not" or "sorry, I'm busy". I know they are either not ready or they just wouldn't want to date me. Sometimes I feel terrible or depressed about it, but other times, I get a strange feeling like I would want to stand out and not date.

My analogy on dating with comparison of my friends and me is that dating for my friends is like taking an airplane from ME to CA, but for me, it's like walking there and I can't find any other way to get there. I feel like I'm hopeless, like no matter how much I try, I'll never find a girl. :-( I am a very nice guy, at least that's what my friends say, but I'm not sure why I haven't been very successful. I just can't seem to figure it out.

If you have any advice, I'd be glad to hear what you have to say.

Thanks. :-)

Hey...dont feel like your the only one out there wondering why their love life isnt so great..because LOTS of people are in your position, including me. i have some really pretty friends..and you would think they have all these wonderful guys wanting them..but thats not the case..a lot of the times its just immature idiots who just love their looks...meanwhile the one who is not so good looking (me) somehow had (this was couple years ago) the great relationship they would love to have.

you sound like a great guy...and you have manny years of dating and may girls to come in and out of your life..my advice is to stay positive..get out there..and meet lots of people! be yourself..meet new people..and your bound to find the right girl

i hope i helped out..

-melissa :)

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what is a rimjob

lol ..looks like my great pals are tryin to be funny..


a rim job is like oral sex..only on the anus... (insert ewwwws here) lol
look it up on urbandictionary.com

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Hi. I am 14, and overweight. I am really good at sports, and, i feel like, people think that i'm not good because i'm overweight.This goes along with running in front of people.... it just makes me feel awkward when i have to run or in front of people..... I dont know what to do.
~Brina~

ok heres the thing..im overweight too and i guess you can say im good at softball and ok at tennis..

point is..overweight people can be good at sports too! so dont get those thoughts in your head that people dont think your good. You know what? even if they tell you straight out they dont think your good..who cares? get your revenge by beating them (if they are your opponent) or making them look bad in practice if they are on your team.
(like if bball is your thing, for example, knock her down on the court and make her look bad)

but i think your just letting those thoughts get to you..i dont think thats the case at all. i mean i bet you know the feeling when people are cheering for you..your teammates..the crowd..its awesome right? your teammates dont sit there saying "shes fat so yeah she cant be good at basketball even though she put up 15 points for us" no of course not! they are screaming their lungs out for you because your good!

so try and get that confidence up...with more confidence..you will be an even better athlete. keep kickin ass and dont worry what others think..you kick ass whether your underweight,overweight,or medium sized..keep playing sports and get the confidence up :)

i hope i helped

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sport finder
i go to a school where sports mean alot..i have tried a bunch of differnet sports..but none of them work for me..i am tring to stay in shape..but i havent as much since i quit my last sport..i really want to try out for a sport this year..any ideas of which one i should pick..i'm not to good at sports ..but i'm detirmned to do this!

how about track? you dont have to be a superstar..but its something that requres a lot of hardwork ! you will see how much you improve (even if its just being able to jog around the track once without stopping or something) and its something to be proud of! who knows, your track coach might introduce you to an event that you might really start to like!

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Ok well i went over to my friends house the other day and we smoked a cigerrette. It was my first time ever b/c i was to scared to do it before. But at first i took a rele small breath and rele didn't taste anything, and then after i got use to it i took bigger breaths. I kno usually when sum1 first trys a cigerette they cough, feel dizzy, or wanna throw up. But when i first tried it i rele liked it and wanted more. So my friends lit another and i helped smoked that and i still wanted another one..but thats was ebough. So now it's the next day and i wanans moke again. im rele scared bc/ i wanna do it again rele rele bad but i don't wanna get addicted or get lung cancer. What should I do.. please help? cna't i smoke for like a couple more weeks then stop..i mean i'm a teen and wanna hav fun and not always be good. thanks

i definately hear ya when you say you want to have fun and not always be good..but there are better ways to be "bad." when i was like 13 i tried my first..and i kept going with it for a couple weeks...it scared me ..i didnt want to be addicted to it..andi honestly..it was dumb so i just stopped. im so happy i stopped when i did because who knows? if i kept going i might not have been able to stop. im NO goody goody.trust me.. you can do other stuff to be "bad" like
-sneak out one night
-stay out late
-go to a party your mom told you not to go to
- lie about where you are..like if your mom doesnt want you over someones house..say your somewhere else..
-have a co ed sleepover

im not saying turn into a badass ..like the ones you see on maury or something...but those are alternatives to smoking and they are a lot funner

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alright i dont no wat i should do.i really like this guy and we r friends.he is 16 and i am 13.a big differance i no.but i really like himcause he is sweet ,nice,funny,opened,and really cute.but i dont no wat to do .wat do u think.o yea and im a girl of course.

Well, i say you should talk to him or get either one of your good guy or girl friends to talk to him for you to see how he feels. I mean, if you dont, it will be on your mind constantly..you will be thinking "wHAT if he liked me too?" Trust me , i've let that happen to me and it drove me nuts to keep wondering what could have been.
Get one of your friends to talk to him..ask "do you think (your name) "

i hope i helped

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August 5th will be my one year anniversary im so excited.. well i wanted to get him something and my mom gave me an idea but i wanted to know if people thhought it was corny or stupid.. well there is this store place near my house kinda called Build A Bear.. and i was going to make him a Monkey cause its his favorite animal and this i was going to get a San Antonio Spurs shirt or something and put it on it cause thats his favorite basketball team.. well i wanted to know does that sound childish and stupid.. or does it sound okay.. i just dont want to feel stupid givin it to him.. By the way he's 15 almost 16 and im 16 almost 17.. thanks in advance an if you think its stupid and childish give me some ideas on what to get him THANKS!!

i think thats a really goood idea .its not stupid

you could also make a cute little photo album or a short video for him

congrats on your 1 yr anniversary! :)

-meliss

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hey umm lol me and my best friend has been friends since 5th grade..and now were going into 8th..we live very close where we can walk to each others houses..well my parents are very stritct when it comes to drinking and stuff..well i usally went to her house atleast5 times a week..well when i stayed a night one night we drank and got drunk..well any ways...her dad found out and called and told my dad..and no i cant go over there at all! and were BEST friends..i mean i stayed a night with her once this summer..just bc it was my b-day..and i cant go over there at all..ive tried telling them EVERYTHING that i wount do it again..what can i do to make them realize i wont drink again????


I RATE TOP

tell your dad you will only hang out when her parents will be around to supervise..even offer for your parents to check up on you randomly, call her house to talk to you at random times, ..(i know its extreme but if thats what it will take for them to trust you again, just go with it)and with time they shoould start to trust you a little more.
so make thAT suggestion to your dad...and when she comes over here let him know it will be when they are around. see how that works, if he still says no, inbox me
hope i helped
-melissa-

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a few months ago, i was rejected by this guy. now i like his friend. i wanna ask him out, but would i look desperate if i did?

na i dont think you would look desperate..go for it .llive with no regrets ! so go for it and ask the guy out
hope i helped,
-meliss-

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Girls: Do you think it would be cute for a guy to ask before kissing a girl? Would you find that cute or weird?

i wouldnt like it as much ...i would want the guy to just kiss me because its all part of the moment you know?

just my opinion

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I am getting closed to 18 and I have never had a boyfriend. Now, it seems kind of weird, but I have no problem with it. I've had plenty of shots, but I'm not rushing anything and dont plan to waste time with the wrong guy. {I'm very picky.) My family, on the other hand, makes it seem like a big deal, when it's not. They are always asking me why I haven't brought any guys home, etc. My younger sister, who happens to be a huge slut, made this ridiculous remark that I am a lesbian. Now her and my parents joke about it. And sometimes I think they really think that. (Which I'm not. I'm totally against that stuff and they know it.) Whenever my sister and I get in fights she's always like "Atleast I've had a boyfriend." I know I'm not experienced and stuff..but there's no one I'd want to go out with at the moment. I've already explained this to my family, but they still get on my case about it. I used to be able to ignore it easily, but now it's hard. I already have a low self esteem, and they arent making it any easier for me. Any suggestions?

i suggest keeping your head high because you know what? you have morals and i like that...unlike your slutty sister. so your telling me that you were serious and told them to seriously stop and they havent? thats really messed up..but your almost 18 so ride it out until you go away to college. dont just go out and get a bf to shut your family up..dont stoop to that level.

stay strong

-melissa-

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Well my aunt and uncle left for Texas and my cousin(not there child)is house sitting for them and im staying with him since my parents left. Yah i cant drink when im there anyways because im on medicine stuff right now and both of them together dont mix so well..lol. So ya think the cops wouldnt arrest me or tell my parents if i havent been drinkin? oh and the runnin before the cops come wouldnt work because he lives in an apartment..so theres one way in and one way out..which sucks ass!

well your going to stay sober right? so IF the cops come, they will probably just make everyone leave and the boy whos having the party will get in trouble pretty bad. Ive never heard of this..b\ut lets say they take the time to talk to everyones parents..your cousin is the one responsible for you..so no worries. easy up though because i dont think they will take the time to do that.

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There this guy that I like and he likes me too ( we might be going out soon.. he told me he wanted to ask me an important question after I came back from vacation ) and it's just kinda been bothering me in my mind like ( cause I'm kinda preppy/girly )," What are we gonna do whenever we hang out together out in like public like the mall? He'll want to go into Hot Topic and stuff and I'll want to go into Hollister and Abercrombie..." and I feel very outta place around his friends and stuff cause they're all in black and skater clothes and I'm sitting there all in like Hollister shirts and stuff. I really want to go out with him, that's just been nagging in the back of my head for awhile now. And it's just whenever I hang out with him I have SO much fun and if we do have some stuff in common like I do like alotta punk bands and stuff and etc., I just hate how everyone out there will freak out basically ( at least at my school ) if punks are dating punks/goths or preps aren't dating jocks and preps and stuff, I mean why can't people just let people date people? =/ Please help!!





Love,
Labeled Love =/

its like this in every school..i say screw what everyone else thinks! because while they are busy being critics, YOUR the one with the bf :) So ignore it all and when someone comes up to you saying something like "i heard (whoever) say that you guys are a bad couple" simply respond with "i honestly dont care and isnt it funny how the people who talk like that dont even want to be heard and is single too?"

so yeah dont let that be an issue. as far as the diffference in taste..just go with it and check out hot topic..make fun of the stuff in there (a little) and when you go into hollister he can do the same ..jokingly..dont worry about your differences..as long as you dont turn your time hanging out into a shopping spree of your clothes, you will be fine! save going to all your fav stores for when your hangin with friends..and when you go to the mall see a movie, eat, check out other stores..etc. dont worry!

good luck
i hope this helped
-melissa-

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Ok so my parents left town for the weekend and im here with my college cousin. My mom told me not to go to this one guys house but hes having a huge party this weekend. I really want to go but ims cared to death that my mom will find out or something bad will happen and then im screwed for the rest of highschool. should i go or not go?

**UPDATE** OK i saw you left a comment..and you didnt inbox me back**
ok your worried about cops? yes this is a valid thing to be concerned about. as long as your not the girl who is piss drunk, pole dancing, and being totally dumb when the cops come..you should be ok. the cops wont arrest everyone there, just when you see the flashing lights, get out of there and get your cousin to pick you up (maybe bring him along so if needed you can get away quickly in his car)


im confused..is your aunt/uncle with u also? or is it only you and your college cousin alone?

ok ok i know the others say dont go, but im gonna pitch a different idea to you. Couldnt you go to the party, but tell your cousins uncle/aunt that your goin out to the movies?


if your aunt and uncle arent there..and its only you and your cousin..go to this party! maybe call your moms cell and tell her your going to go out to the movies or somewhere with your cousin, this way if she sends someone to check on you and you arent there, she wont freak out.

ok yeah, you might feel guily ..but (for me anyway) the little guilt is worth the memories..i mean its not like your a horrible kid...havin sex,,drinking, doing all these drugs..your just a normal kid wanting to go to a party

i've told my parents i would be somewhere when really i was another place, i've told little lies , and thats a part of it all. i mean i bet your parents did the same too. there are soem things in your life that are private to your parents..this includes:
-who you hookup with and what you do
-the crazy stuff you do (just not TOO extreme lol)
-your crushes
-and little white lies like this

im just giving you the other side of the story because everyone told you not to go. so think about it and if you decide to not go, no worries because yes there are lots more to come.
if you do decide to go, the guilt wont ruin your fun (we are all different though so it might be different from me to you)

I just find it hard for her to find out where you are if you can simply say you were with your cousin for a night on the town (dinner, movie..etc)

its your choice..if you really think this party isnt worth it because your so0o0o scared of your mom that it will drive you COMPLETELY nuts, dont go..but then again...keep in mind what i said also.

if it were me i would go, but this is just me.

-melissa-

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