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The Racism Of Labels =/
There this guy that I like and he likes me too ( we might be going out soon.. he told me he wanted to ask me an important question after I came back from vacation ) and it's just kinda been bothering me in my mind like ( cause I'm kinda preppy/girly )," What are we gonna do whenever we hang out together out in like public like the mall? He'll want to go into Hot Topic and stuff and I'll want to go into Hollister and Abercrombie..." and I feel very outta place around his friends and stuff cause they're all in black and skater clothes and I'm sitting there all in like Hollister shirts and stuff. I really want to go out with him, that's just been nagging in the back of my head for awhile now. And it's just whenever I hang out with him I have SO much fun and if we do have some stuff in common like I do like alotta punk bands and stuff and etc., I just hate how everyone out there will freak out basically ( at least at my school ) if punks are dating punks/goths or preps aren't dating jocks and preps and stuff, I mean why can't people just let people date people? =/ Please help!!
Love,
Labeled Love =/
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Got out with him!
Who cares what people think, as long as your happy[:
Maybe both of your friends will appreciate you.
When you feel left out try bring a friend wit you or like become friends with one of his friends who are girls.
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This is called life sweetie, if you didn't know. Um, first of all Abercrombie and Hollister sucks and what is wrong with that kid? Punks don't want to go out with preps....he sounds like a poser.
And o my gosh, "I like alotta punk bands...." yet you are not punk and you probably listen to 50 cent and ciara too....
And are you saying Hottopic is bad? "like he'll want to go into hot topic and stuff and I'll want to go into Abercrombie and Hollister...heres an idea! Stop wearing labels. You're just talking about how you don't like labeles like "goth" and "prep" yet, you talk about them and wear them....Cuz c'mon abercrombie is just another word for prep.
Get a life.
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Labels are stupid, and this is a prime example why. You shouldn't be limited to being friends with/dating a certain "Group" of people just because of one stupid word SOMEONE ELSE used to label you.
Forget everyone at school. If they need to worry about other people's personal lives, they obviously lack one. If people say something negative about it, ignore them. It's none of their business.
And about the "feeling out of place" thing... well, this guy likes you for who you are, and his friends should accept that. If you hang out with them, they probably do.
About the mall thing... You two can make an agreement that you will go in his stores, if he goes in yours, and you can't spend too much time in each store!
Plus, there are so many more places to hang out than the mall! Movies, the park... so many possibilites!
You sound happy, so go out with him and have fun! Who cares what everyone else says?
And it's great that you don't let labels rule your life!!
I hope I helped, and if you have any more questions, feel free to leave one in my inbox!
♥ Manders
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i think if you really like him then you should date him who cares if people are like your supposed to date a jock if you go for what people think all the time then you would never do what you wanna do well hope i helped and if you have ne more questions just drop em in my inbox
-kelly
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People usually don't care as much as you think. Don't let people get in the way of what you really want. Opposites attract and most people allow that. When you go to the mall, negotiate. Offer to go into Hot Topic if he'll go into Hollister. I'm kinda preppy/cheerleader and my boyfriend is kinda video games/nerd and everyone accepts us because we're different! Give it a chance
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i dont believe that thats racist.. he isnt another race he is just another style in clothing and what not.. well do what you want and you shouldnt care what people will think.. if you like somebody you should stay with them dont break up with them for something stupid..
you should *NOT* feel out of place.. if you can try to relate to something him or him and his freinds talk about..dont just sit there and listen..♥ Dez
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Those kind of labels aren't racist. A punk and a prep being together isn't interracial love. If one of them is black and the other is white, then it is.
First of all - if you are hanging out, why in the hell are you shopping? You guys could be going to a movie, drinking bacardi, having sex or many other things. Why shopping? You wear ambercrombie, he wears psuedo-punk bullshit. Does that make you different? NO, it makes you both retarded. Just because you pay an excessive amount for cheaply made clothes by third world factory workers and because he doesn't realize that by trying to be "punk" by buying way overpriced clothes at hot topic that are basically breaking the stereotype of a punk that he is trying to fill - that doesn't make you different. That actually makes you are lot more alike than you think.
-You are both buying into moronic cliques
-You are both paying way too much money to try and represent a moronic image
You think you don't fit in because of the clothes you wear, that is terribly ignorant. "I wear hollister and ambercrombie and stuff and they are all in black skater clothes, we are soooooooooooooooo different"
You are just as bad as the people you claim are making the situation bad for you.
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you are sooo right! dont do the same thing as those other people are doin i mean we live in America and we can do whatever the hell you want it is a free contry but yea if you like this guy go 4get. you never know mayb you will change the way your school is.. and then people will stop carin about like prppys datin the punky. hope this helps you out. and o ye afallow your heart and listent to what other people say. well take care.
*~Stephanie~*
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its like this in every school..i say screw what everyone else thinks! because while they are busy being critics, YOUR the one with the bf :) So ignore it all and when someone comes up to you saying something like "i heard (whoever) say that you guys are a bad couple" simply respond with "i honestly dont care and isnt it funny how the people who talk like that dont even want to be heard and is single too?"
so yeah dont let that be an issue. as far as the diffference in taste..just go with it and check out hot topic..make fun of the stuff in there (a little) and when you go into hollister he can do the same ..jokingly..dont worry about your differences..as long as you dont turn your time hanging out into a shopping spree of your clothes, you will be fine! save going to all your fav stores for when your hangin with friends..and when you go to the mall see a movie, eat, check out other stores..etc. dont worry!
good luck
i hope this helped
-melissa-
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I Agree that it shouldnt matter. Sometimes people can be so shallow when it comes to things like that. Im sure at first your friends wont like the idea of you dating him but once they get to know him and see how great the two of you are for eachother, it wont matter. And his friends will get to know you too. I think this is a chance for you to change all of the "rules" about dating at your school. But the bottom line is dont worry about what anyone says about you or who your boyfriend is.
<3 Kate
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Labeled Love -
If you like the guy, what's holding you back? Don't let anything (I mean ANYTHING) get in the way of your happiness. If people talk, who cares? You'll be happy with the guy you like and that's all that matters.
I'm not preppy or follow any label, but like you, I don't dress in the punk style. However, if you go into Hot Topic, they have some really cool stuff! I bought one of those arm sleeves the other day to add a little flair to my style. Don't be afraid, explore the possibilities!
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I agree with you! So don't follow the trend. Date who you want and maybe some of the others will get brave enough to do the same thing. Don't give up on a relationship you enjoy just because someone else might not like it. Be a leader instead and do what YOU want to do. As for looking different from each other...not a big deal. If people judge you by what you have you didn't need them. When you go to the mall agree to go to his stores if he will go to yours. If that doesn't work, go to yours and meet up again after. You can work it out. :)
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