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Hey everyone!My name is Brina,I've been on this site for a few years, after not being on for a while, I figured I'd start up again, having more knowledge then before! I'm 19 years old and am going to be a sophomore in college this coming fall! Please feel free to ask me anything!


I'VE BEEN VERY BUSY WITH SCHOOL SO MY APOLOGIES IF I DON'T GET TO YOUR QUESTIONS RIGHT AWAY!

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ok my bf in skool told me to chose me or softball but i love him and i love to be athletic and play softball so i dont kno wut to do :-/ plz help

Why doesnt he want you to do sports? If hes only going to think about himself and not what you like to do.... then that isnt right. If you rather play sports than have bf then do sports. You shouldnt not do sports if thats what you love to do. I know because im a sports person and i would chose sports over a guy!

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okay, me and my best friend have this journal that we write in almost everyday and we give it back and forth to eacohther, etc..well its been like a week and we cant find it...we always keep it in our back packs n stuff and we think that one of our guy friends took it..hes just like a girlfriend to us, hes the only guy we hang out with etc..it has ALOT of personal stuff in it, and we have talked about our friends in it too..he did it be4 but only kept it for like an hour and it was a joke..we confronted him about it but he sware that he didnt take it but we still think he did..thers so much dirt in there!!! whut should we do

You HAVE TO FIND THAT BOOK!!! If someone confronts you when they find it and say why did you do this say that you didnt!
Brina

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Alright, so a friend of mine's dad died on tuesday after a long battle with a brain tumor. i've known the guy for since like thrid grade (we're freshemen now) and his mom was my teacher. when i heard about this i was very upset. I couldn't bring myself to go to the funeral today, but i'm worried my friend's going to think i don't care about him, and that i'm not worried about him. I'm sending him a card and donating for the charity they wanted us to donate to instead of flowers, but is there anything else i could do for them? i feel horrible about not going to the funeral, but what else should i do?

Just make sure he knows that you will always be by his side no matter what.
Brina

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Alright... So I just held a party which started about five hours ago and ended around 11:00 pm. 8th period today I invited one of my guy friends at the last minute. I told him that he couldn't bring anybody but himself, since there were already going to be a lot of people and my mother would flip if someone she didn't know, showed up at our house uninvited. He told me his friend whom he hasn't seen in a long time was coming to visit, but I told him that he couldn't bring him for reasons I already stated. It was basically an open invitation, if he could come alone, then he could come, but if he couldn't, then that was too bad. So, a little bit before the party after a few early people arrived, he called me and said he was in the neighborhood and was wondering if he could come a few minutes early. I said it was fine, and he came... with a friend in tow... I was a little pissed, but I let it slide for the time being. Well, a little while later after basically everyone arrived, he "pretended" to steal some of my DVD's and lots of food. Then, a few minutes later, he calls me over and says he's got a "shitload of alcohol" in his car. Now, my friends and I are not into that kind of stuff, and it made me really uncomfortable. I basically told him I thought he should leave. He got a little pissed but agreed to it. His friend was kind of just sitting there the whole time, not talking. So they got up and stood at the food table for a while and just hung out. I was really pissed and worried at the time, cuz one of my other freinds was threatening to leave (the alcohol comment made her really uncomfortable), so I said "Are you just going to loiter there?". He got really pissed then, and then left with his friend. A few minutes later he called all heated and was saying "You were really rude to me, and the alcohol thing was just a joke" which I didn't believe, because he only said it was a joke after I expressed my discontent. So then I told him again why he had to leave, and he was just like "yeah whatever, fuck you" and hung up. Now, I've thought about it over and over and my friends say that he's a jerk and I have every right to be angry. But I'm not sure... Was any of this my fault? I feel I made it very clear that he wasn't supposed to bring anyone, and that if he wanted to spend time with his friend, he should do so. We could always hang out some other time. It's not like he's doing me some huge favor by coming. I just need to know, for my own sanity, do I have the right to be angry? Thanks... Pom

It is Totally not your fault. You do have the right to be mad. He should not have disobeyed you like that by bringing his friend.Dont let this get to you, its not your fault that he brout his friend and wouldnt be mature enough when you asked him to leave.
~Brina~

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Hi you guys... i don't really know where to start. i'm head over heels for one of my best friends (my best guy friend). and i don't know what to do. sometimes, when we're talking and it's late at night, i come so close to telling him, just because i'd like to know if i have a chance. but then part of me is afraid. he has a girlfriend at the moment, and i don't want to ruin anything between them. i found out a few days ago that he used to think we had the potential to be soulmates, that's definitely how i feel. and have felt. i just don't know if he still feels like that and i'm really afraid to ask. so, all wise advice givers, what do i do?

Dont be afraid to ask! You guys are best friends and you shouldnt hold anything away from him. Tell him how you feel about him and he will prob not think anything less of you. If you dont want to mess things up between him and his gf tell him that you dont want anything to happen until hes ready.
Hope I helped!
~Brina~

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This chick I met this weekend was making the move. I knew what she wanted. Her boyfriends in Iraq, serving our country. Shes a senior, i am a sophmore. You are the brainy one... what do i do?

Do not stoop to her level. If you know she has the boyfriend then its obvious you shouldnt do what she wants. She might just be useing you.
Hope I Helped
~Brina~

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Okay, I like this girl. We have one class together. I know shes a little hesitant about a relationship, but how do i casually get to know her (bear in mind i want to make a move later on)

Go up to her and ask if she saw a movie { like a movie that just came out in theaters} and if she says no then say o it was really good. Then ask her what her fav. movie is and let it flow into another subject like favorite actor, things she likes to do on the weekends instead of going to the movies. etc.
Hope I Helped
~Brina~

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ok well i just moved to a new town, where i noticed everyone goes to church. i am jewish, and only 1 of 2 jews in the town (the other being a 77 yr old man) some ppl here dont like jewish ppl...should i keep it a secret, lie..or tell the truth.. i need help. fast

Well i'm jewish also.people in my school joke around about jewish people which i dont like. But ne ways lol, if people get beat up over being jewish in your town then you might want to keep it secretive from everyone other then people you can really trust if you really think you should. You should never be ashamed of your nationality { not saying you are} Stay away from the people who dont like jewish people.
Hope I Helped
~Brina~

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My friend is going out w/ this boy. When he asked her out, he said that he didn't want to tell anyone. I'm the only one they told. His friends tease him because they hang out so much. She's starting to think that he won't tell anyone because he's embarresed of her. What do you think? If it's just because he doesn't know how to stand up to his friends, do you have any advice?

One reason why he does that is because he might not be aloud to date so he's doing it secretive. Also maybe he wants to wait a little until it gets told to everyone so they can have a better relationship without interuptions. Thats really nice that your looking out for your friend.
Hope I Helped
~Brina~

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aight well im going out with this guy who is great. but i hooked up with one of my best guy friends last night and i made out with him accidentally. i dunno what to do. should i tell my boyfriend what happened???

What do u mean accidently? If you have feelings for your boy friend you wouldnt have cheated on him in the first place. You should deffinitly tell your boyfriend because its not right to keep the truth away from him.
~Brina~

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There are no people in my school who i like, how can i meet new people out of my school?

Go to an out of town school and meet some people from there.
Hope I helped!
~Brina~

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ok i have this kid in my grade and me and him flirt ALOT and he liked me and im not sure if i like him like i dont no im like the bad girl in the grade that everyone has gone out with and my ex-boyfriend is his best friend and i went out with his friend 4 6 mouths and he is just like the type of guy you can see your self with cause like its him does anyone understand? and everyone is telling me he is going too ask me out what should i do????

You shouldnt just go out with a guy if he asks you out. If you like the other guy then go with him. Dont feel bad if someone likes you and you dont like them back. Just go with whomever you think you like more.
Hope I helped!
~Brina~

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Sorry this ones loge but i need help

I'm in a really big social group at school and my 2 neighbors r in it. ive know them since i've moved in and we became really good friend. when school started 1 of my neighbors bff was at my school. right away we hated each other and i don't no why. about a week ago my neighbors and the bff started a book that no one was aloud to see. it really pissed me off and made me realize that every one i surrond my self with are a bunch of backstabing, secret telling liars. i got in to a big fight with 1 of my neighbors and iots sort of resolved but after that was over the bff wrote me a note calling me a poser and a tramp and talking shit about my bf. i was soo pissed off. now i don't want to hang out w/any off them but there like the only people i no.

p.s. me other friend feels the same

That is really wrong of them to call you that. Start getting to know people you dont usually hang out with. Maybe join a new club or something. If theres a new student in your class be the first one to talk to them so they know your welcomeing. Theres a new girl in my class and we are like totally becomeing great friends.
Hope I helped!
~Brina~

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im going to be 15 next wednesday i live in cali too and im a freshman this year.. i wanna know what age would it be 2 get job in cali if u know please tell me!! and im thinking to get maybe in the summer or something?

15 is the perfect age to get in cali!

~Brina~

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I showed my friend how to use this website and how to become a columnist, b/c i thot that she'd be awful at it. But now ppl are asking her direct questions and not me. And i dont want to be jealous, but i'm the first one who was here and now she's taking my place. What should i do?

Just start answering a lot of questions, then people will start to see what advice you give and come to your website. If that doesnt work make a whole bunch of questions saying that you give great advice and tell your friend that people said that and not you lol.
Hope I helped!
~Brina~

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For a school dance I'm the music person...one problem I dont know what to play. Its a highschool dance for like the winter and stuff and one of the songs they asked me to get goes like "and in the end its right I hope you had the time of your life." but I dont know who sings it...ahhh what do i do...please help!

*no style*

Its by Green Day.
Hope I helped!
~Brina~

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Hey guys. I'm 14 and I am dying to see the movie Thirteen. I've read the script and I've seen almost every clip there is to see on the internet! The movie is rated R though. I'm pretty sure I can convince my mom to let me see it, but she'd want to see it too.. and the movie has parts where Tracey cuts herself. I cut myself also, and I do not want her to catch on about my self injuries until I'm ready to tell her. Any ideas on what I should do?

If you have an older cousin that you get along with and dont see as much go with him/her. That way if you dont see them that much they wont know. You might want to go to counseling about you cutting yourself, it could lead to serious damage.
Hope I helped!
~Brina~

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I am 14/f and my cousin who is 12/f will not leave me alone...i see her everyday and she calls me like 5 seconds after i see her on my cell phone and she wont shut up...she wont leave me alone on the internet and she keeps talking to me and my friends....it bugs the hell out of me.... and she copies everything i do and everything i wear....when i told her that she has to let me have some space she started crying and told her mom that i told her i hated her...which i never said. Her mom came over and told me that i had to be nice to her because she had no friends. What should i do to keep her from annoying me with out making her cry and making me look like a bad person?

Try getting her to meet a kid in your school whos her age. About the internet, dont talk to her on it, block her or something. Start doing "older" stuff like going to a pg 13 movie so she wont be aloud to. As i said before try finding someone who is her age and is as "annoying" as her.
Hope I Helped!
~Brina~

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Sorry this is long, i rate high though! :)

The guy i used to date over the summer on and off started REALLY hitting on me last night. He practically offered for me to have sex with him (dont worry, i wouldnt have sex, but i could tell he wanted to do something with me) Then he told off this person for me that was pissing me off. And he said i owed him one. And I asked what he wanted from me. And he said he wanted to make out with me. (Keep in mind this was online so we couldnt have made out right then and there) So i said ok, because i still have feelings for him. Then a little later i asked if he liked me, or just wanted to make out with me. And he said "I dunno, never thought about it..." What do you think about all of this? Should i go for it?

You dont have to make out with him if you dont want to. If he has to think about if he likes you or not then that might mean that he doesnt like you.
Hope I helped!
~Brina~

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me and my boyfriend were at a school dance the other day. and we've been going out for 3 months now. but this one girl was at the dance to, and she likes my boyfriends alot. well he doesn't like her like that, only a friend. well sumtimes me and my borfiend go to his boat, and this is were i met this girl first about 3 weeks back. well she went uup to my boyfriend at the dance and told him she doesn't like me and that i was giving her dirty looks and crap like that, which i never did! in fact after i reconized her from the boat i smiled at her each time i seen her. well my boyfriend asked me if i didn't give her dirty looks so i told him no and he believes me. well she came up to him again and said sumin 2 him. but he wudn't tell me wat, he just told me to stay away from her. and now hes kinda acting weird, like he doesn't want to take me to the boat cuz she might be there (cuz her parents own a boat around there too). but i highly doubt that he likes her, b.c he always says he cant stand her, and he not only says that around me but his other friends.... im just wondering, whats going on, and why is he acting like this now?

The onlyt thing to do is find out from your boyfriend. Maybe she threatend him or sumthing like that.
HOpe i Helped!
~Brina~

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