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Do I have the right to be angry?
Alright... So I just held a party which started about five hours ago and ended around 11:00 pm. 8th period today I invited one of my guy friends at the last minute. I told him that he couldn't bring anybody but himself, since there were already going to be a lot of people and my mother would flip if someone she didn't know, showed up at our house uninvited. He told me his friend whom he hasn't seen in a long time was coming to visit, but I told him that he couldn't bring him for reasons I already stated. It was basically an open invitation, if he could come alone, then he could come, but if he couldn't, then that was too bad. So, a little bit before the party after a few early people arrived, he called me and said he was in the neighborhood and was wondering if he could come a few minutes early. I said it was fine, and he came... with a friend in tow... I was a little pissed, but I let it slide for the time being. Well, a little while later after basically everyone arrived, he "pretended" to steal some of my DVD's and lots of food. Then, a few minutes later, he calls me over and says he's got a "shitload of alcohol" in his car. Now, my friends and I are not into that kind of stuff, and it made me really uncomfortable. I basically told him I thought he should leave. He got a little pissed but agreed to it. His friend was kind of just sitting there the whole time, not talking. So they got up and stood at the food table for a while and just hung out. I was really pissed and worried at the time, cuz one of my other freinds was threatening to leave (the alcohol comment made her really uncomfortable), so I said "Are you just going to loiter there?". He got really pissed then, and then left with his friend. A few minutes later he called all heated and was saying "You were really rude to me, and the alcohol thing was just a joke" which I didn't believe, because he only said it was a joke after I expressed my discontent. So then I told him again why he had to leave, and he was just like "yeah whatever, fuck you" and hung up. Now, I've thought about it over and over and my friends say that he's a jerk and I have every right to be angry. But I'm not sure... Was any of this my fault? I feel I made it very clear that he wasn't supposed to bring anyone, and that if he wanted to spend time with his friend, he should do so. We could always hang out some other time. It's not like he's doing me some huge favor by coming. I just need to know, for my own sanity, do I have the right to be angry? Thanks... Pom
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you have every right to be mad at him. he brought an unknown friend to your party after being told not to and then he made a comment about having a shit load of alcohol in the car when he knows that you dont do that kind of stuff. so.. yes, i would say you have a reason to be mad..
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It is Totally not your fault. You do have the right to be mad. He should not have disobeyed you like that by bringing his friend.Dont let this get to you, its not your fault that he brout his friend and wouldnt be mature enough when you asked him to leave.
~Brina~
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You have every right in the world to be angry. First of all he KNEW that you didn't want him to bring someone that you didn't know. Plus if he is your friend wouldn't he have known that you aren't into alcohol? He has no reason to be mad at you because you told him that he COULD NOT bring his friend and like you said if he wanted to spend time with his friend he could have done so at his house. What I am thinking is that if he wanted to spend time with his friend at YOUR party that you specifically asked him not to bring his friend to, then why was his friend sitting on YOUR couch while your guy friend was irritating you? Guys can be jerks. And you shouldn't be angry you should be super pissed AND angry.
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Charmed-Cherry21
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you have every right to be angry!
First of all, he KNEW you didn't want people you don't know at your party, yet he still brought someone you specifically said he couldn't. THEN, to make matters worse, he brought up something that if he was a true friend he would know you aren't comfortable with. Even if he was joking, and it seems like he WASN'T, he still shouldn't have said it. Then he couldn't even be courteous to you when you asked him to leave.
you should be mad. I would be.
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yes i think you have a right to be angry because you invited him but he didnt want to listen to what you told him(not to bring anyone) then im sure u wanted him to leave bcuz u dont want nething bad to happen. i would have done the same thing. dont feel bad
hope i helped
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~TrUmPeTcHyK92
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YOU HAVE EVERY RIGHT TO B ANGRY!! ALCHOLE? THAT IS BAD FOR A UNDERAGE PARTY (I DUNNO HOW OLD YOU R LOL SRRY) + it seems like he gets himself in to truble all the time so he is bad news! you did the right thing dont feel bad or anyting you sould b MAD!! so you have the right to b mad!
HOPE I HELPED!!
~MICHELLE
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How can you call it a party without alcohol? He was probably trying to liven the party up and you went and freaked on him. If you stay angry at him it'll just make him worse.
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well yea, i think you have the right to be angry bc what kind of loser would deliberatly show up wit a friend that you told him not bring and plus, the alcholal thing was totally uncalled for and way rude ... you have a right to be angry but its really not that big of deal either so while ur angry just dont let him know it ... just blow it up or go up to him and be like "listen im sorry things got a lil out of hand" yano .... just be cool about it but yea, its ok to be angry i would be too
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you have every right to be mad. When you invited him you made it clear that he couldn't bring any friends. It was nice that you did let that one friend slide bc I probably would have too. But he had NO right to do those things to you. I would have kicked him out to. So don't feel bad at all. He was the promblem not you.
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