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Many of my friends say that I am a good listener and advice giver. Because I have experienced many good and bad situations, I know what it is like to feel down or confused. I am a mother, daughter, sister, girl friend, and friend. And if I can't figure out how to answer a question, I'm sure I know someone who can. And I've come to notice that most of the questions people ask they already know the answer to, they just need a little reassurance. But I will warn you that my policy is, if you ask a stupid question, you will get a stupid answer. But i will say that it is my joy to help anyone with a real problem, so ask away!textarea.Skem9box {width:200px; height:100px;color:White;font-size:11pt;font-family:Times New Roman;background-color:Black;}
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one night i got really drunk and i was talking to this kid justin (who wasnt drunk) then i feel asleep and i wake up and im naked and hes ontop of me on the bed and hes naked and as soon as he saw me wake up he ran into the other room...i dont no what happened really...i try to ask him and he tells me that he was just touching me he didnt like rape me or nething....but i would no if we had sex right? or if we didnt nething more...i no he put it in my mouth bc i had the taste in my mouth..but i would no rigth? please help meee
PLEASE HELP!
Actually, there is a chance you might have not known. You should have told someone and saw a doctor and had one of those rape kits done to you, to find tou if he did have sex with you. Now I'm not sure if that could even be done, it is probably too late and that sucks cuz you're gonna be stuck with this unanswered question for the rest of your life.
This summer while in Canada I met a really awesome girl, however I really really really..... screwed up our relationship. I cheated on her once, guilted her into a lot of things I shouldn't have, and I lied to her so many times. It was just in the last week that I was with her that I started to straighten my act up and realize how wonderful she was. I want to say sorry so bad, but I live 1600 miles away from her and don't have a planned visit there for 2 more years, also I want to do something bigger than just write her an email and hope for the best. We are kind of friends now, we talk every now and then online, but I still feel like this is still keeping us apart. If anyone has any ideas on how to say sorry for being this horrible I'd love to hear from you. Also, flying up there just to say sorry isn't out of the picture, its about $700. I really need something big that says I'm sorry and I'm willing to do whatever it takes to have you trust me again.
Well if your willing to do whatever it takes then fly over there. Go to her house dressed in a tux with roses and sing outside her window one of those "I'm sorry... I love you" songs. She will think you are so crazy and pathetic she will just have to accept your apology.
hey..im 5'4 and wiegh 140 pounds..am i fat?
well if i knew what kind of frame you had; small, medium, large, then I could give you an even more accurate answer. If you don't know the size of your frame, just tell me your bra size and I can figure it out.
ok i've never worn a tampon and i kinda want to but its a little weird knowing that that will be going...there. and what if i put it in wrong? any advice on like what kind to use for the first time? or anything like that...
Yeah use the junior ones, like tampax lites or something. Follow the directions very carefully, even though they are fairly easy, and stay at low absorbancies for now. if you are heavy just change more frequently and wear a panty liner just in case of a leak. Good luck! :)
ok i am going camping august 6th with my best friend and there is this skater boy there that i am so crushin over and my best friend, Jess, and i started skateboarding to becuase he does but we ended up really liking it so we're not changing our selves for him, any ways we might see him when we go becuase he has a permenant (sp?) spot there and we have never really talked to him just kinda drooled over him and followed him while he was near the rec hall skatebaording but i am really nervous becuase if i see him i dont wanna choke and fall off my skateboard since i have gotten pretty good but everytime i am around him i always trip and fall cuase i get nervous he has been on my mind since i first saw him and i was wondering if anyone had any advice to "keep my cool" around him and i also wanted to know if there is some way i can get up my courage to talk to him cuase i am shy but i dont wanna like loose him or anything ... please help ... i am a 15/f and he is 16/m if any of you need to know that and if you want to talk to me instead of message me my s/n on advicenators is Sk8ter_gurl_101
Tell this boy who you are and ask him if he has a friend for your friend and if he wants to hang out. Then you can get to know eachother. I'm sure there is other things you would want to know about him besidea skate boarding.
I really like this guy. I like to flirt with him and stuff all the time. I think that if I told him how I feel, we would be going out. The problem is, it's my B/f's ex! I don't know how she would feel! Should I tell him I like him or what?
You shouldn't go out with your friends ex. Its a bad idea. Go ahead and ask her how she feels about it. i'm sure she won't like it. Leave the guy alone, he's not the only guy in the world who you will like. Guys come and go, friends are supposed to be forever.
hey, well i've had my period for almost 2 years and i still get that discharge is that weird?? what should i do
No its not wierd. Its normal. You will probbaly always get it. Just wear a panty liner when you do get it.
school is startin and so is football
I really dont care for football im all basketball and a little track
i played football for 3 years and didnt really like it. but al my friends want me to play
watta ya think (8th grade)
Do what you want not what other people want you to do.
15 female
thers this guy that i dated for bout 2 months but we still talked to each other...and everytime he tells me bout him and some girl i get pissed and evey time i tell him and some guy i get pissed...sometimes it pisses me off so much that i wanna cry and 1/2 the time i do...
do i still have feelings for him?
it seems to me like you do, so now what are you gonna do about that?
I talk to this guy all the time and he wants to date me. I kinda like him to...The problem: everytime we talk he only seems to be interested in what im wearing. Im not sure if he really likes me or just wants to get with me. Could he just be making conversation? What do I do?
Well it depends, if he is like complimenting your outfit, he is probably just making conversation, and like trying to make you feel nice. Ask him if he wants to hang out sometime. good Luck! :)
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ok see..theres this kid thats 2 years older than me and hes BI. i know theres nuttin wrong wit that but there is..when he likes u! his name is anthony and he has a crush on me! he told me when i was in 6th grade! i almost passed out! i am tromotized! whenever i see him, i feel like throwing up and i stay as far away from him as humanly possible! i really dont like him cause he harrases me! its gross! what should i do to block this outta my mind!
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tell the kid to stop hitting on you. Make it clear to him that you don't roll tha way. And if he harrasses you at school, tell a councelor or someone and get him in trouble for sexual harrassment, that will teach the little perv. :)
hey there is this boy that i really like but he only like me as a friend and i have knowend for like forever! and so what can i do to amke it all better?
the gurl
you can't make someone like you. he either does or doesn't. you can ask him if he likes you though, and see if he does like you more than a friend, but that is about all you can do.
i didnt kno wut to put this under... since it kinda has to do with sumthing my parents hav to deal with i put it under familyz. well you kno how when u have ur period that that first daii iz the worst and that you go to sleep and stuff of coarse you have a thingy on and stuff but how do you not stain your bed? i alwayz hav trouble with that and i had to throw away a thing of sheets becuz of it. sum1 plz help. iz there like sum secret to it? help!
Try to get up in between the night and change more frequently or check yourself. or you can get those pads by always that are especially for night time.
Whenever I see a few people at school huddled in a corner laughing and looking at me, I think they are laughing at me. Then I end up skipping class cause I dont want to have to go through that. What can I do so I stay in class and not worry about them?
You need to stop being so paranoyed. calm down, not everyone is talking about you. Just relax and go to class. And if it helps try not looking in the corners where people are huddled up, maybe if you don't see it you won't think they are talking about you.
my friend...... is so depressed.. i was, but now im happier than ever. It feels so good being happy. I want her to feel that too, but its so hard. I just want her to live. and not let life pass her by. i donno wat to do.
Tell her that you care about her and ask her if she will consider getting some help.
Hey Im 19 and I have blonde hair, green eyes, im 5'5, and 100lbs. My bf says he loves me but I think he only likes me for my looks. He is always telling me how pretty i am and stuff. Everytime I ask him why he loves me, he jus doesnt answer the ?. He loves bringin me places to show me off to his friens. Everytime one of his freins hits on me, he jus laughs and keeps talking. One time his friend tried cybering wit me on here and when I told him he didnt believe me.
You're boyfriend probably doesn't answer why he doesn't love you because he probably doesn't love you. He probably just tells you that so he can keep you to show you off. You need to leave him because he is treating you like a dog, showing you off like you are so freakin prize. Go find someone who likes you for you, not your looks and will treat you like a person.
im stressed out all cuz schools coming ^ soon wut can i do to make me less stressed out?!?! i still have tons uf stuff i wunna do before i go to school. lol. like clean my room buy some stuff i need for school and all this other stuff and i dk. im so stressed i cant even remember the rest!! help!!
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Stop stressing out. You act like this is the 1st time you ever had to go to school after you summer was over.
How do I get a popular girl to like me, she flirts with me all the time, but claims she doesnt like me, what should I do?
Well if she is flirting with you and then saying she doesn't like you then she is messing with your head. Leave her alone now you don't want someone who plays mind games, chances are shes dishonest or sneaky. Find a girl who will take you seriously and not act like a damn 5 year old.
Alright tp start this off, i`m 14/female. For about a year or so, I`ve been so down and sad/angry all the time. I never smile anymore, or things that used to be a blast too me, is no fun anymore. I don`t like hanging out with any of my firends anymore. I just like being alone all the time. Well, a few months ago my mom and dad took me to a conselour because they were concerned about me and such. They just said I needed too be on anti-depressants. I didn`t start using them right away, just recently. Well, I`m cutting myself now. I know its really bad too do and I know how stupid I am for doing it, but It just feels so right when I do it. I really need too stop or talk to somebody about it. My mom asked me what these marks were on my arm, and i told her is was eraser burns ( because they leave scars ) and she hasn`t realy noticed that more and more keep appearing. What should I tell her? I want too tell her the truth. I know she will probably understand but she`ll get really upset ( sad ) because she hates seeing me like this and i`ll feel really bad. What should I say too her?
The 1st step to helpng yourself is admitting that you have a problem. It seems to me that yuo have already done that, so now all you have to do is keep going. tell your mom what you've been doing and tell her you want to see a therapist or stay at a clinic or something. But it seems to me like you want some help so go get it.
i'm 19/m and i have a huge fear of regection. in fact i've only had two girl friends, and i'm still a virgin, any ideas on how to get over my fear?
Gte some confidence. Girls like when a guy has confidence. And stop being scared. If you spend the rest of your life thinking everyone is going to hurt you then the right one is gonan come along and you are gonna miss her, then what will you do? Seriously, you don't wanna grow up to be a lonely old man who's dog probably got some and you still didn't.