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ok so my friend spent the night with me for the first time 2 nights ago. and she was just admiring my earings, well today when i went to school she has that on and my shark tooth necklace. i said those are my earrings, and thats my necklace. and she goes "no my mom made me go to clairs with her". ok 1. she lied to me bkuz when i gt home i looked everywhere for them and 2. she stole from me. what mom "makes" their daughter go to clairs with her. not her mom, i know her mom. i am sooo mad at her, what should i do? i really want to tell her mom bkuz i really want to get her in trouble, please help, i'm desperate! thx... (link)
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Hi.
Wow thats mean. If you want to tell her mom then you have umm maybe ALL the rights to. Be sensative, but not too sensative that t isn't believable. Besides, she's basically cheating herself. I Granpa owns lots of shark teeth stuff and they wouldn't sell them at Clairs. TRUST ME. You DEFINATLY have all the rights to tell her mom , and yours.
Good Luck! Hope i could help!!
-Yoliv
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My friends & I have having a movie night on Friday. What are some honest-to-God, horrifying films? (link)
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HI!
Just a few...
Pulse
Texas Chainsaw
The Hills Have Eyes
The Grudge
The Grudge 2
Freddy vs. Jason
Hope I hellped!! Good luck sleeping!! (jusy kidding)
-YOLIV :)
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hello! i finally had my little daughter 2 days ago... and i need some good names. she has blue eyes... and blonde hair. i want unique names... not like lizzie,.. or emily... or jessica... and i like names that begin with C's. i dont know why haha. (link)
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CONGATULATIONS!!!
heres a list i came up with.
Carly
Carrie
Calissa (pretty unique)
Cathy
Cay
Cloie
Carrisa
Calee (kay-lee)
Clare (Clarie or Clareese)
NOT C's
Lanie
Arial
Ryan (and YES it can be a girls name)
Lakin (lay-kin)
Fiona (fee o na)
Shelly
Jena
Katrina
Stella
Bella
Ella
Ellie
Thats all i got!
Congratulations! H=
Hope I could help!
By the way, spelling is optional :)
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My brother (4years old) likes to play with the two girls next door. One is 7 and other is 5. Their parents think their kids are perfect beyond words. As in they never fight or do wrong whatsoever. My family on the other hand. we mess around with eachother like call eachother dorks and brats. typical siblings. Tonight we had a neighborhood gathering and they have a swing in their back yard. One of their girls walked in front of my brother and he ended up barely hitting her. Maybe he tapped her arm. The girls mom walked over picked her up and she acted like he broke her body. She like ill go put you on the couch and get a few ice packs while you heal. She said that and alot of the adults there were like Wow thats extreme for something so little.
The 7 year old was swinging with me and my brother and he started crying because i wouldnt push him and she said you should really be nice to your brother he doesnt deserve to be treated like that. I was like oh ohk. he called me mean and i called him a brat and shes like why are you being so rude to your brother. I was like sorryy.
That was just tonight.
Like they all like riding bikes together but when my brother is going to fast one of the kids or the mom will say lets ride and have model behavior. As in slow down.
Are we going to have to get my brother living up to there standards to even play with these girls? Or should i just let them be? Its kind of annoying when i get corrected by a 7 year old because im 17.
thank you (link)
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wow
you definatly do not have to make your brother have 'model behavior' because in my opinon those 2 girls are spoiled little brats. (no offence) your brother should be him not what the girls mom says. i think that when your brother tapped the girl and then the mom came over like your brother killed her i think was wicked stupid (i'm from New York, so i say wicked alot) but anways your brother (to me) sounds fine and i think the firls and their mother were over reacting to everything.
hope i helped
-YOLIV
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Ok so, my bset friend of my whole life went out with this guy, who is also one of my good friends. They fought all the time when they were going out and he finally dumped her, because apparently he liked me the whole time. Now that he's single he keeps wanting to hang out with me and talk to me all the time and I think my best friend is starting to get jealous. Me and this guy have always been really close, we're like twins and i know if we were a couple it would be really fun and go well. But the problem is, I think i like this guy too. So what should I do? Go out with him and talk to my best friend about it? Or just wave him off and hurt his feelings? (link)
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ok.
well first of you shoul talk to your best friend about it and make sure that IF you go out with him then tell your friend. It would be even worse if you didnt tell your friend. Should you date him? I don't really think so. It might hurt your relationshiop with your best friend. As for 'waving him off' I think you should tell him you don't want to damage your friendship with either one of them (your best friend or the dude who likes you)and you two can still be really good friends.
Hope i could help!!
-YOLIV:)
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Okay so I have this friend, Bianca. Her and her boyfriend Joe are taking a break as of yesterday. They are honestly like the closest couple you would EVER meet. But anyways, Joe knows a girl named Olivia. She is in a Band with him. I guess Joe started liking Olivia, and thats when they took the break. So Olivia and I are REALLY close friends. [ I am also friends with Bianca...and Joe] anyways, Oliva spent the night at my house last night and told me everything. So today I guess Joe asked Olivia on a date and this very moment they are downtown on a date. I just invited Bianca to spend the night. I also have a friend named Alyssa and she is spending the ngiht too. Bianca Alyssa and I are pretty good friends. I already told Alyssa about Joe and Olivia but idk if I should tell Bianca..shes on her way here NOW. We told her we had news to tell her and thats why shes coming over. I started having second thoughts...SHOULD I TELL HER? idk wut to do!!! (link)
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you need to tell her.
tell her not to get mad at Olivia (i am also named olivia:)he he) because it isnt her fault (unless she said yes to the date and is now going out with joe that would be bad) and make sure that she knows (Olivia) it isnt her fault (unless she said yes) Bianca needs to know Joe is cheating on her because if she doesnt then it could ruin yours and Olivia's and maybe Alyssa's friendship with Bianca. SSOOOOOOO please tell Bianca before anyones feelings are hurt.
Hope i helped
-YOLIV
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I am so frusturated today. I'm usually giving advice, but right now I don't have any for myself. I have been best friends with this one girl for 2 years and I'm really close with both her and her daughter, but she is constantly using me and lying to me. Finally I got fed up of her and called her to tell her she only cares about her self and then hung up. Does this diserve an apolgie? I don't plan on giving one, but I wanted to know what everyone else thought. (link)
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well, no. She had no right to lie to a friend like that. If it was a tiny white lie then you both should appologize. (if it was lik alot of 'tiny' white lies then you shouldn't have to say sorry) if it was a couple big lies then you should be proud of what you did becayuse as i said she had no right to lie.
Hope i could help
p.s. i think you did the right thing:)
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how in the world do i stop bitting my nails???? they are soo short that sometimes they bleed. i tell myself not to, but i keep bitting them. please help me
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Hi.
I kinda know how you feel. My sister had the same problem. Telling yourself not do sometimes works but I know you can't help it. Try to put tape on them for a while (not that stylish but it works) Or try to use nail clippers instead of teeth. If that doesn't work, try to distract yourself everytime you are about t6o bite them. *ex. try listening to your favorite musoc and i don't know maybe dance to it or have a party with some friends)
Hope I could help!!
-YOLIV:)
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what is a great smoothie recipe? i want a healthy lean slenderizing smoothie. if you have any great recipes, do tell. thanks (link)
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hi.
i always use like frozen berries, strawberries,and sometimes a banana. 1 of my faves is straw berry banana.
recipie #1: vannella yorgurt, 1/2 bag of strawberries and chopped up banana it gooooood.
#2: 1/2 bag of frozen blackberries or raspberries and vanella yorgurt berrry smoothie :)
#3: 1/2 bag of berries vannela yogurt, and 1/2 bag of strawberries :)
put in blender for about 2min.
hope you have fuun!!!
-YOLIV :)
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what are the best ways to learn the words to a song? and good tips?? (link)
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hi.
you could always listen to the song ALOT and learn the HARD way. OR go online and print the lyrics and read them lik 10000 times and you should know it by then.
Hope that i could help.
-YOLIV :)
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MY mom is like super emotional and my dad is horrible to her. He yells and screams at me and her. I have nightmares about him and I'm like really scared of him. please give me some advice, he is very mean to us. One time I ate an apple that he told my mom not to touch and I didn't know it was his but he like screamed at my mom and all. Then he went to slap her so I told him it was me. I got a big beaten. Help! (link)
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wow.
you need to leace your house and FAST your dads dangerous. Try telling one of your friends parents, and don't be embarresed, your doing the right thing, for you and your mom. My point, THIS IS SERIUS YOU NEED TO GET OUT AND FAST. POLICE ARE A BIIIIIG HELP WOMAN AND THEY WILL Arrest n all but you and your mom need to leave the house and don't come back. THAT MAKES ME SICK.
I am realy truely super duper sorry about everytghing.
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what are some things you can do with the kids you are babysiting? i mostly babysit a 6 year old boy, a 3 year old girl, and a little todler. what are some ideas for fun? thanks (link)
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hi.
You could always play kids board games (Chutes and latters, life, candy land etc, but let 1 of them win each time, first the boy then the girl or have them be on a team against you) Playdough works well. (make sure to put out foil or something so they dont get it all over the table) You could also try hide-and-go-seek. Its easy for them and little people like it. (i like it time to time:)) A few more ideas would be: movie, play on computer game or even just watch a little t.v. would be fine.
Hope i helped!
-YOLIV :)
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is spaying and neutering a pet wrong? (link)
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hi.
None of my pets sre neuserd. I personally think that it is un-natural. Nut if you have a boy and a girl and you WANT the babies then don't. If you don't want the babies spay/neuder them. It isn't wrong if you don't know how to 'birth' the babies. But if you do then you could. I am not saying that its wrong but i'm not saying it is right.
Hope I helped.
-YOLIV
:)
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my dog is scratching his skin like raw...I dont know why. It's gotten so bad that by his eye, he actually bleeds sometimes. Im really scared for him and it bothers me to see him with blood. I wipe it off, but I hate looking at the bloody tissue. He gets scabs now in that area. Why does he do this? COuld his nails be too long? Is there anything I can do to stop it? (link)
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Hi.
My dog does the same thing. (only in his you know, rear end quaters) and when we took him to a dog expert she said that there weren't alot of fleas, it was allergeys. but this could be worse then that. CALL your vet as soon as possible. (it could be contageous to humans) Ask your vet if there are any kinds of medicine that could help him.
Hope that it helps!!
-Yoliv
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i have a job and i usually work mornnings. And that means i have to wake up around 530am. I have a really loud alarm clock but im a hard sleeper and i dont hear it.
It usually has been going off for around 15 - 30 mintues before i actually hear it.
Dont tell me i need to go to bed earlier. i go to bed around 10 pm. And i cant put the alarm right next to my bed because ill end up turning it off.
Anything that will help me get up with the alarm? (link)
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Hi.
Have you blasted the alarm loud enough?? If not turn it up all the way. If that doesnt work, try to find a louder alarm clock. If THAT doesnt work then put it in a pot and when it goes off the vibration would make even more noise and with a pot you would have to get up (if your arm isnt long enough) reach in and press the off button. By then you will already be up and you could start getting ready.
Hope that it helps!!
-Yoliv
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i want to get a puppy who gets along well with people and other dogs because i have an older dog, too. i want it to maybe be a small dog and one that won't be outragously expensive because i am 14 and i would probably have to pay myself. any ideas on a type i could look into buying? thanks! (link)
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Hi.
I have an older dog too. For X-mas my dad bought us a little Jack Ruessel. Breeders (where we got our Jack Ruessel) aren't usually that expensive. BUT going to your local spca our shelter could save a dogs life. (dogs they cant sell are put to sleep :()and pet store dogs arent all theat healthy. A couple small dog types are: Jack Russel Terriers (also known as Pardon Russels) chiwawas (i dont know how to spell it) welsh corgi pemproke, bulldogs (range from small to med. smallish. They are all pretty easy to take care of and are good tempered (welsh corgis need to be introduced to people and other animals that they will see daily alot while they are a puppy or they will get snippy. If you cant find any cheap enough puppy then why not an older dog?? Most older dogs cant find a home due to the reason they are older (which i dont really think matters) But i hope you pick the right one.
-YOLIV
p.s. getting a dog at the shelter is cheaper, and it saves a dogs life, so i would try the shelter ;)
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My trainer's doggy passed away yesterday. He was an awesome dog, who loved everyone and everyone loved him. Well, the girls at the barn want to do something special for my trainer to say like we care about you and we want you to be happy even in your greiving time. After all, she does so much for us, it's the least we can do. But, do you have ideas for gifts or anything like that? Also, things to say to her because I know it's going to be awkward. (link)
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hi.
First off, i am really sorry about what happened. Couple years ago a loved (DEEPLY) cat of mine died. But ANYWAYS....... You could let her go on a vacation (get her like plane tickets to N.Y. city, hawaii r something like that.) You could buy her chocolets, flowers and maybe a big card saying something like, YOU ROCK or YOU ARE THE BEST! Otr maybe possibly get her another dog like the previous one. ( Not to compare the dogs, just to kinda cheer her up :) :) )
i hope this helps and even though i don't know her, tell her even i said i was truely sorry.
-Yoliv
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Does anybody know some good upper body workouts that will make me see results fast??? (link)
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hi.
You could do weights, 100-200 push-ups a day (for the most likely fastest result) You could do pull-ups at your local gym. Sometimes basketball works (on your arms, like the jump-shots)
Hope i could help!
-yoliv:)
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I have two former friends who (in my opinion) seriously abuse their cat. "Tammy" will grab the cat by the back legs and spin it around, set it on the floor and flip it in circles, chase it around the house, pull it by its tail when it tries to get away, etc. She's 21, so she's not a kid at all. With her boyfriend, they will put the cat in a pillowcase a breathe lungfulls of marijuana smoke in on it. When they have parties, they will "pass the cat." Everyone in at the party will take the joint and the bagged cat, and on every exhale breathe their smoke into the cat's bag. This will go on for an hour or two before they free the cat. This is just what they do in front of other people.
I can only see where I have there options here, each with problems.
1) Call the police.
2) Break into their house and steal the cat.
3) Do nothing.
I don't want to call the police, because I smoke weed and so do a lot of my friends. Used to, if you got caught in my town you just went to jail. Now you reduce your sentence with every fellow pot head you turn in, all the way up to having no arrest record if you turn in enough people.
I don't want to break in just because...well...it's wrong, I guess. And I really want to do something to help the cat. I've already tried talking to them about it, and it doesn't help.
I would really appreciate any other suggestions, or help picking which option is right. Thanks! (link)
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hi.
oh. my. gosh.
i can not believe that people would do that to an animal. You need to call animal control. NOT the police, animal control or the local shelter. They may be your friends but abusing an inocent cat is wrong.
so look for the animal control # in the phone book and have them take care of it. i think it will work.
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this girl is mean to me what should i do? i've tried to stand up to her and that didn't work and i've tried to ignore her but that didn't work either so what should i do? (link)
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hey.
i know how you feel this girl was like that to me. Anyways, if she is just teasing her try talking to your teacher about her. (explain to him/her exactly WHAT she is doing) if this takes place at school. If THAT doesn't work, then talk to your parents and tell them about her and then (if this is at school) tell them to talk to your teacher about switching classes because the girl ditracks you. If the girl thretens to hurt you then tell your parents IMEDIATLY. If you dont then the girl could seriusly hurt you. But if she is just teasing you talk to your teacher or or hang with like a big group of people. (at least 4 other people) But i think maybe ignoring her might work.
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