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Hey, Im from Connecticut and I LOVE giving advice... and Im always here for you if you need to ask me anything... i can answer all types of Questions.. don't be shy (i have had my fair share of embarassing ?'s.. so u can't say anything i prob. haven't heard ;)...)lol.. Anyways..

^ Thats just so you know a little more about me.. so you can know the personality behind the advice that I give ;).. If you want to know more about me or if you need any advice you can im me or leave one in my inbox ;)

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what are some good ways to get rid of the fat on your thighs (sp)?? and what's a good way to make them stronger because i'm a cheerleading and i need a lot of leg muscle. please help asap!

Running and biking and swimming... those are prob. the 3 best ways.. if not those then you could run up and down stairs or lift weights with your legs... or stretch and be flexible.. that creates muscle to.... and cheerleaders need to be flexible. Another thing is yoga or pilates...:)

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Hi, I'm 14 years old. And I weigh around 115 pounds. I don't exactly have a flat stomach but I'm not fat at the same time. I'm 5'2 and I think that I should loose some weight. I've been trying not to eat so much (I don't anyway) But I get light headed when I don't eat. What I'm asking is, is 115 pounds for a 5'2" 14 year old too much to weigh? I also don't feel good about myself because I don't have a flat stomach. Is there anyway I can get a flat stomach? I used to have one when I danced and did gymnastics, but I've quit those so I don't do any excersie anymore and It's hard to keep in shape that way. Also my parent's don't own any excersie equitment and I don't go to the gym. Thanks..*Love Annoyomous*

NO YOUR NOT FAT AT ALL!!!! trust me... my friend is 5' and 110... and shes really skinny, if you want to keep in shape.. a good exercise for your stomach is crunches and sit up... and good leg exercises are running and biking.. also if you want to tone up your arms, you could stand in a doorway and push your arms against the sides and hold for 30 secs. and you could do that 3 times a day..Those are just some suggestions..


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im a girl and im 12 years old and going into 7th grade. i asked a guy out and he is really shy, but when i asked him out he said no nd whenever ppl ask him y he doesnt like me or y he doesnt wanna go out w/ me he either says idk and walks away or usually says nothin nd walks away. a couple weeks ago me and my friend called him and she asked if he liked me and he just said he had 2 go so we were asuming he just didnt wanna answer that question. one of his best friends told me hat the reason he mite not wanna go out w/ me was bc he was shy. so then i told him 2 ask him if that really was the reason and he said that he just didnt wanna go out w/ me. then my other friend called him and asked if he liked me and he said no. do u think that cuz hes 2 shy is the reason he doesnt wanna go out w/ me? or do u think that he really doesnt like me and doesnt wanna hurt my feelings bc hes really sweet like that? even if the reason was that he was shy tho, why would he say no when ppl ask him if he likes me? do u think that if i ask him out myself personally then he will say yes cuz my friend said that if i did that then he might. also one of his best friend's that i was talking about b4 who told me the reason he doesnt wanna go out w/ me might be bc he was 2 shy was in a simillar situation. one of my best friends liked him and asked him out and he said no. now they are going out and he really did like her b4 when he said no he was just 2 shy 2 go out w/ her. do u think he told me that my crush might just be 2 shy 2 go out w/ me bc their friends and they might be alike so hes basing it on his experience? sorry it was so long.

Well, Most guys going into 7th grade are shy. They all want g/f but most of them wouldn't know how to act once they got one. I say Go for it! What do u have to lose. The reason he might be saying no is because he doesn't want to answer to random people. First become his really good friend. I mean he has to know you like him by now with all those people asking him. Then,maybe you'll build up his courage into asking you out (that would save all of the fears of being rejected from you asking him out ;)..) or ask him out yourself. Confidence is sexy to a guy at least thats what all my guy friends say.. And if he says no.. what do you have to lose.. I guess he just doesn't know what hes missin, but at least you know you tried.. and besides,next time you ask out a guy you'll have more confidence and you won't be as nervous(if you are). I say, just get to know him.... be a good friend, who knows .. maybe you won't even like who he is as a person. And just because people are friends doesn't mean that there alike in every way...just because your friends b/f was shy and needed the girl to ask him out doesn't mean your guy is. You have to do what you feel is right..


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hey...in your own opionion do you think i am...remember i am only 13....the sympton i do not have is puking..and idk bout my period cuzits not the time to get it i get mine around the 29th or so....i have had a bad stomach hting but that was bc...well ill be hoenst wit u i drank so i had a hangover...that was the only time..im so paranoid and i think im gonna buy one today so i can be sure and when it turns negative i will bee soo happy (i think negative means your not) lol

Im not sure... but you should. def take a test...and about the drinking!!! AHHH don't do that.. if you are then your hurting that innocent baby.. and thats not fair! it was his/her choice that their there. And besides your 14... drinking isnt good for you body anyways. Most pregnancy tests give u a result 5 weeks before your missed period. And remember... your period could be irregular. And drinking can cause that. So i say the safest way is to buy the test! I hope it turns out neg.(if thats the one that means no) Good Luck! If you need anymore advice just im me or leave one!:)

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ok my boobs really hurt if i push directly on top of my nipples. is this normal? wat do i do??

Its normal when your boobs are growing for them to hurt. Its nothing to see a doctor about, unless you start to bruise or sores appear. Other then that, your just growing up ;)

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I've bee talking to this guy for a while and he's so awesome. I'm starting to really like him too, but he has a girlfriend and they'v been together for like 2 years. I'm not trying to get between them though...but I really like him. He told me that he doesn't like me more than a friend, but he keeps saying how hott and sexy I am...What do I do...?

This guy is messing with your head .. and its not cool. hes obviously a pig if hes callin u hott n sexxy and he has a g/f. And hes like any other "typical" guy...they lead you on then break your heart. i say forget him in that sense...(((as a b/f))) and maybe just stay his friend. Or maybe not even that if he keeps saying those things to you.. becuz that could really screw w/your mind. Chances are hes already cheated on his g/f and if he is saying those things to you.. whos to say if you 2 were dating he wouldn't be sumwhere else saying those things to another girl.. I say get up n move on.. you can do better and you DESERVE BETTER!!:)

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I'm pretty, smart, athletic, funny, happy and really fun to be around according to my friends. But is it true that alot of 14 year old guys dont pay as much attention to flat girls? I mean In my oppinion think im girlfriend material! Why dont guys like me as much as they like my skinny developed friends who have gone thru puberty? I know it sounds stupid but please help me!

Guys at 14 are shallow most of the time. There are the certain few that don't care about the size of the girls bra. but most want a girl that they can show there friends and say Yea i got her and basically point out her boobs.

Well i say don't worry about it just yet. Your skinny developed friends might get all the guys but they don't get the boyfriend material. When you find a guy it will prob. be based on real things like intellect andcommon intrests and not how good you look in a bikini. And besides you don't need a guy right now. I say enjoy flirting and wait till your older to get a serious boyfriend who likes you for you and doesn't care about the superficial things. I mean why would you want someone like that liking you anyways..

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ok i LOVE my boyfriend and all but i dont know if he loves me back b/c everytime i say i love u on the internet hes like ya luv ya and im like ok... ( i think that) and i always wonder if he likes me or not.
please i could use yalls help on to see if my boyfriend likes me or not like tell sum things like how u can tell that ur boyfriend loves u,
please and thank u!
luv yall... yall help so effin much!
sweetheart00

I have sort of the same problem but on the phone. He doesn't sound like he means it on the phone when he says it back. I guess there is really no way of telling but there are things you can do..

Does he non-stop talk to you
Is he flirting with other girls
are your convs. about real things or just about perverted playful things
if you can hold out a conv. and i mean a real conv. not a playful sick one then chances are that hes prob. into you becuz hes most likely not using you. And maybe he takes I love you seriously and hes not ready to say it yet. I say don't worry about it.. if you love and trust your guy enough then you be pretty confident that even if he doesn't LOVE you .. all of his feelings are only towards you.

But here are some signs anyways

Hugs and kisses you alot
listens to you
confides in you
pays attention to you
Always there for you
He can trust you...

If all those are true then he prob. loves you. Not all guys are lovey dovey and not all of them say I love you.. but if it bothers you then talk to him. Tell him that Luv ya makes it sound like you 2 are just friends.. and if he says something like well i dont LOVE you .. don't take it offensively.. you just have yourself a sensitive guy ;)

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Im a girl and I wanted to know is it wrong to like boys???? Both of my moms said it was bad!!!!! Please tell me!!!!

If your attracted to men theres nothing wrong with that. And i dunno if you mean your moms are lesbians or if its your mother and step mother.. becuz you were specific. But i am going to take it that there lesbians because of the way you said it.. Anyways, If they are lesbians they shouldn't be pressuring you to be one to. Its really a personal thing and if you feel like you like guys then you do. Your straight and they can't change that about you. Thats like you telling them to like boys when they like girls. You should talk to you moms and tell them that you like boys and your not like them and its not going to change. And you would appreciate it if they would stop telling you what you should like. Although you respect them this is a personal thing and no one has control over it but you...


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i really want to look different than i did last year. like totally different. so people will notice. does anyone have any tips??? i'm talkin anything- hair styles, clothes, make-up, the works! plz help!

Well i have a few suggestions

1 New hair color
2 A complete new hair style
3 If you have always been known for the natural eye makeup.. try a bizzare color. Like fusia.
4 If your a goth try going into a store like The Gap or A+F. (((Vise-versa)))with any kind of style Skater-goth prep-skater.. etc..
5 If you have never worn a mini skirt.. then bare those legs and buy a few.
6 Try putting highlights in your hair
7 Wear arm socks /toe socks/spikey braclets etc.

basically anything that you haven't done in the past... just do it.. if your most likely to wear a pair of jeans and a tee then wear a cute skirt with a white tank and a jacket ... u know what im sayin.. if your hair has always been long with bangs... get a short new style that waves at the end. If your eyes are bright blue get colored contacts to make them brown ...


etc...


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thanks to the ppl who helped me earlier but could u give me more symtoms of being preg...like earlier preg only a couple weeks i would say whhat would happen if u were a couple weeks preg..what would ur body go through?

Well i helped you before.. and i did some research for you sweetie and there are other symptoms of early pregnancy


Nausea
Fatigue
Breast Tenderness
Frequent Urination
Feeling tire sluggish
Light Bleeding
Dizziness/Fainting
Constipation
Irrability
Uncomfortablness

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i have this friend who has really bad breath all the time and she talks really really close to ur face. i wanna tell her but she is the type that would take it way too seriously .. she wouldnt get mad but she would be very paranoid and upset.

Since you don't want to be rude or hurt your friends feelings.. just simply offer her some mint gum or a breath mint. And if its really bad and that doesn't work.. just tell her in the nicest way possible.. Be like " You know, we have been friends for a while and i don't mean for you to take this offensively but, your breath has been smelling lately" and if thats still 2 mean.. then one day while playin around be like GUURL ur breaths kickin!

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my bestest friend iz like OBSESSED wid my step-bro n she talks about him ALL the time wat should i do???????


~ AnNoYeD ~

Tell her how you feel. Tell her you understand that she likes your step-brother but you two are friends and you would really appreciate it , if you could talk about other things sometimes. If she doesn't understand then when she talks about him change the subject or don't hang around her as much, she'll get the message eventually.

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I'm afraid to kiss my boyfriend..everytime he wants to i back away. I knows it getting on his nerves..HELP

Kissings not scary at all.. Trust me.. but maybe your not ready and thats why your minds telling you to back away. maybe you should tell your guy that your scared so he would understand a little better about whats going on. Don't leave him in the dark girl! And if your not ready to kiss him and he trys pressuring you then dump him. You can find a guy who respects you and your morals. But if he understands then wait for the moment and when your ready go for it

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my hubby's bday is on friday.. (he's my bf of 2 years but i call him my hubby n he calls me his wifey) n e ways.. he noes ma family is having sum problems now.. but i still need to get him a present.. i need sum ideas on wat to get him.. but i wanna get him sumthin cute but not expensive.. i dont noe wat to get! i already got him a card and i rote him a letter on how great he makes me feel and how happy i am im with him.. plez help!
angita

Angita-

Maybe you could get him a teddy bear with some nice smelling colonge in it. Or does he have a fav. movie that he wants that happens to be on the discount shelf. Or any cheap cd that he might like. Or how about a mix cd of songs that remind you of him with a personal message at the end :) Or you could maybe take him to the place you met or had a special moment with a picnic lunch andyour card and a stuffed animal.

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Ok my boy friend iz at camp in maine he has been there since um.. the 10th of july n i love him so........... freak'n much ,but im scared he iz gunna meet sum girl there that's prettier funnier and all that stuff!!! i kno i should trust him cuz we have been togetha for almost 9 months n i trully ove him to death but im not to sure i can trust him cuz he iz a HUGE flirt!!! Do u think i can trust him not to do n e thing wid anotha girl????????

-X- Caitlin -X-

If you love your boyrfriend like you say you do.. then you shouldn't be worrying at all. 9 months is a long time. Has he ever given you a reason to doubt his trust? If not.. then i say don't worry about it. And if he does cheat on you then hes not worth your time anyways and you can up and move on to sumone who is! And everyone flirts its natural... Its one thing to look but the minute he acts on it.. hes history..


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I know it was wrong but i had sex wit my bf...the problem is i did it wit out a condom...he did not cum inside me but im really scared that im preg...its only been like 2-3 weeks since i did that..im so scared and idk what to do..i cant tell ne one well i can just not my family..im waiting for my period to start..it will start the end of this month..someone please help or tell me about preg like the signs and symtoms i really need help on it cuz its scaring me..

O my goodness sweetie you muct be so scared....Well you definitely should have used a condom or used abstitnence. Some signs of pregnancy are food cravings, mood swings , vomitting for no reason (etc.) basically pms signs before pms. Maybe you should go talk to a friend or go to a hospital and get checked out. You can do that confidnetially im pretty sure. If you are pregnant you have to tell someone so you get the care that you need. And you have to research your options. such as adoption abortion and keeping the baby. You will prob. be scared to tell your parents but remember they love you no matter what because your there baby! You also need to tell your b/f so hes aware of this. Good Luck to you.. and if your not pregnant.. then i hope you learned from this and Be careful next time if you do it again..

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I MAJORLY NEED HELP! Ok heres the story: Some of my friends (4) are going to Crazy Donkey (a dance club) 2nite and they invited me to go!! The one problem is I don't know how to ask my mom if i could go b/c it would be my first time going to a club. When I asked her previous times she was unsure and said she would think about it but those times I never made a plan to go but now I did. So what should I say to her? I never did anything to make my parents not trust me or anything like that i mean jeez im a high honor student lol I just don't know how to approach her with this info... She gets home from work later 2nite but I also wanna know is it okay to call her at work?

Don't call her at work. The worst thing is when you disrupt a parent at work. And besides you have no idea if its a crummy day at the office. Wait until she gets home. And i suggest choosing the right moment. Maybe while shes cooking dinner you could help and then bring it up and have a mother-daughter talk. Don't get snotty about it if she says no. That will just show immaturaity. But instead hear her reasons why and then try to explain your reasons more thoroughly. Also tell her you will not be alone and your going with 4 other girls. That none of you will be under the influence. you are a honors student. And that you have never given her any reasons not to trust you. If she still says no then respect it and try again on a different night when your a little older and after you've talked to her about it a little more and gave her time to think. Also, maybe next time you should ask her to go to a clb a few days in advance so she has time to think about it and shes not pressured to make a choice and then wonder if she made the wrong descion when she only had 3 hours to think about it.


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Ok well in the past year things have gotten really really bad for me! Me and my parents are constantly fighting ans when ever were suppose to have "quality" time we ALWAYS get into an argument!So ive been starting to cut myself! everytime i start to cry i bring myself to cut my arms up! how can i stop doing this to my self?

O my goodness Sweetie.. you need to stop. You definitely need some help , thats sum serious stuff. One day you could end up cutting too deep and killing yourself. Why don't you try talking to your parents. Tell them about how they fustrate you and point out sum specific times and maybe ask them if they could give you sum privacy or instead of yelling at you just tlaking to you. Or maybe you could play a game with your family so theres really no way you could really talk about anything that could cause arguments since your occupied with the game (etc.)

About your cutting , i suggest writing everything down in a journal when you feel that way. Everytime your about to cry or feel sad or lonely or that the worlds against you. Just write it down in a journal. Or call up a friend and spill everything your feeling out to them. Or talk to a trusted adult or guidance counsler that can help you. You don't want those kinds of scars on your arms forever,that will just remind you of all the bad times.

Maybe you should get some help .. like therapy.. if not therapy then try talking to yuor parents about this, even if you think they will get upset there still your parents and they love you!

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Good Luck hunn!

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okay katy...im 15 and im a female...so a few months ago i met this kid...and i was with him for quite a while and i really liked him so much...i might have evne loved him...but he was with another girl the whole time we were together and cheateed on me...and lied to me about it and everything...even when she called him i ansswered and he didnt care...and shit like he said they were done...but he cheated on me...and i was so devistated and i am so depressed since hes gone...i want to get over hnim but everytime i see something or hear something it reminds me of him...and when i see him on occasion i cry for like ever...i dont kno what to do to get myself over this kid...i mean can u help me because he has a g/f that hes been with for a while and loving him is pretty pointless....cuz he wont be with me...plus hes comin to my school nxt year and i need to be over him...HELP ME PLEASE...and another thing...sometime i call him just to talk too...and i think i should tell him how i feel...do you?? help!

Dear Broken,

He obviously cheated on you which makes him a pig. And if you ask me the other girls an idiot for staying with him after he cheated on her w/you.. i think thats how you put it. If not he prob. did cheat on her anyways. There really is no EXACT way to get over him... but there are stratagies. For instance.. everytime you think about him and your thinking about fun times. think about a time he made you cry or how he cheated. And STOP calling him.. that akes you miss him more.. by hearing his voice. And why would you want to call him, this guys a jerk! hes a cheater and you can do better! trust me. Any guy who can direspect you like that is not a guy you would want to take home to mom ;) There are tons of way to get over this kid! Any items you have of his (jackets hats letters from him etc...) Either throw them away or put them sumwhere that you never look. like in a box in your closet. Another way is just hang out with your friends constantly.. and always be doing soething so your not bored and you don't have time to think! Trust me it works.Maybe you will find a cute new guy over the summer to occupy you anyways.. who knows there already could be one but you didn't know it cuz you were so hung up about this one. Although this will take some time.. hopefully by the time next year rolls around you will have your new hottie.. or you will just have forgotten about him and are able to look at him in the hall with a confident smile on your face that you DON'T need him ;)

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