hey! im a 16 yr old female from south east wisconsin. i been thru quite a bit of stuff and i have problems of my own...who doesnt have problems right? well anyways talkin is my thing. i kno that i love to have sum1 to just spill my heart out to whether im really close with them or not. if u have anything u want to ask me about pretty much anything feel free to. im always gonna be here if u need some help on something so juss give me a buzz....~!~xoxo~!~
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The other night , well day actually Me and my 'boy' were just Hanging out, right? Well yes i am young, A minor ( too young for kids either way ) .. Well yeah we hadnt seen eachother in forever .. So yeah we hung out n stuff yeahh.. Then we ended up having..sex & I left blah well Later on, His father ( yess.. can you say Ahh? ) he walked in the room saying he smelt sex & Picked one of the.. four condoms up and realized it was broken, This was around 5-8 or so.. on a Tuesday night, so I'm gona get tested to be safe ( i guess, right thing to do right? ) on Tuesday.. night probably like 9. Well, Do yall think its better to have a plan what to do before I find out, and we need to make one ? Lately alls weve gotten at is, "Shit were gona be even more fucked" , Or should we just worry about it later? Also, He is going to be 18 next year, And I will still be a minor, I am NOT bragging at all I just want help, But we both have very wealthy families.. Not sure how this happened, with bright futures, and How to break it to them? His father knows ones broken though, Whats the best thing to do here? Its kinda crazy, Kinda hard to sleep and eat, with this decision totally on my own. (link)
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sit down and talk to your boyfriend...before you go find out make sure he knows that there is a possibility that in 9months he could be a daddy and make sure he understands all of that...make sure he plans to stick around and take care of his baby(if you are preggo)...talk to him about it before you go...im sure he already knows of the possiblity but still talk to him...and then go get tested..and have him go with you when you get tested..that way you both find out the news at the same time...if it does come back positive then you should sit down with his parents and your parents all together and break the news to them all at once...that way you dont have to do it 2 times...make sure they all kno that the 2 of you plan to stay together no matter what happens with the baby...i strongly advise you not to abort the baby if you are pregnant i know some people who have had abortions and it ruins their lives...they think about the fact that they erased the chance of a human life emotionally tears them up you do not want to have to deal with that...if you decide that you are not able to take care of your child talk to close family members that want a child about adopting the baby...or just looking after the baby until you and your boyfriend get on your feet and can care for the child...or you can put the baby up for open adoption (that way you and your boyfriend get to chose your child's new parents) and you will be able to keep in touch with your child as he or she grows up...ive heard it works better with open adooption because then throughout the pregnancy you get to kno the people and become close with them...that way you are able to see "your" child after the adoption is final...i kno this is a lot to take in but that is my best advise for you...hope everything works out...let me kno how everything goes.. and if i can help you with anything else...best wishes
~nichole~
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Hi my girlfriend recently told me she was pregnant and that the baby was concieved before we met i love this girl and was looking for any advice on not being the biological father and also looking after a small child any input from people who have experienced this and been through it would be very helpful thankyou in advance. (link)
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treat the child as your own...dont be a prick to the kid because his mom fucked sum other dude before you...i mean its not his or her fault...just treat him or her like your own child..any many can be a father...but it takes a REAL man to be a daddy...be that baby's daddy..
happy parenting
nichole
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ok i have a friend who has this b/f. HE and she have been going out for 5 months at the most and he has already popped the question... She doesnt' know what to do... She is barely graduationg this year and he is still a junior. She fills presherd and stuff and he has already been talking about having kids with her... she is scared and she even feels like not coming to school because hes here... what should she do? She doesn't want to hurt him though so please give good advice i rate high.....
thank you
some-1-whocares... (link)
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she needs to tell him to fuck her brains out, get her preggo and leave:)....that way she doesnt have the presure of him being around all the time yet she can still get his check in the mail:)
happy caring!
nichole
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i work from 2pm til 10pm mon-fri. I eat fruit in the morning and at 3pm at i have a sandwich. I don't eat again until i get home when i will cook something reasonable healthy and quick. My problem is i am worried about eating so late in the evening and i don't sleep well as it is and wondered if eating late is making this problem worse. Could you advice me on the best foods to eat at this time of the evening please and whether eating at these times is unhealthy. thank you
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next time you should state your problem....not beat around the bush...you dont have a problem you are absurdly fat:)...my advice to you is to just stop eating all together:)
happy dieting!
nichole
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i have a lot of trouble getting to sleep. i can't switch off wheni go to bed and i feel tired a lot of the time. I have tried cutting out caffiene, herbal sleeping tablets and all the obvious things and nothing works. can you help (link)
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well stop eating...dont eat anything and dont drink anything for like a few days...then you will have like no energy and collapse and fall asleep...then you will be in the hospital where they will probably hook you up to a ton of tubes and put you on some medication that makes you sleep a lot...that will catch you up on the sleep you're missing
sweet dreams!
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My b/f thinks im cheating on him... but his friends are telling me he is the 1 that is going around grabbing other girls butts! should i believe them and break up with him... or should i just go on pretending like i don't notice? (link)
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hes cheating on you...and hes prolly having sex with all those girls who let him grab their ass...my advice to you...is either kill all the other girls so he cant cheat on you anymore or kill yourself...those are the only solutions:)
have fun n rate high!
~!~nichole~!~
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i have recently had a coldsaw but my girlfriend wants me to give her oral sex but im concerned that if it is not gone completely she may get infected. is it safe? (link)
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dont u even dare do it...that would just be icky...n i dont think she would appreciate it very much...be careful
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Well, recently, My best friend told me what happened at a party when i was 14,i am now 16. As it turns out, at that party, there was some extesy going around. Someone snuck it into my drink. I was lead away from the party,to the basement. When i woke up from the extisy, A guy was inside of me. I was sexually assaulted. I tried to get away, but he hit me again to knock me out. I had a mental block of this night, and when my friend told me of what might of happened at that party, it all came falling down. I have horrible flashbacks. She is the only one who knows. I am having some weird pains in my stomache that started at age 15, i thought it was nothing, but as it turns out, i went to the doctor. When i went to the doctor, he revealed that i had aids. What do i do? He video taped it. one of my guy friends was looking at a porno site, and said they saw someone who looked extremely like me on a video. I asked for the site, and went to it. It was the man. The tape is on a porno site. I do not want people thinking i am that way, a porno star. What do i do about this whole horrible weekend?
I thought at that party i was just going to have fun.
Please help me.
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wow hun im so sorry to hear about what happened to you. please make sure you go to the police...make sure you show then the site that you found the video on and make sure they know that you got AIDS from that man...if you havent had sexual contact with anybody else then that man can get in a ton of trouble especially because he had sex when he was HIV/AIDS positive. again im sorry to hear about what happened to you. AIDS will not kill you. it ruins your immunity system and then you are more likely to get other diseases and stuff...and because your immune system is down then those other diseases are the ones that will give you the most trouble... please tell your parents about what happened...good luck with everything and i hope that asshole gets locked up for what he did to you...~!~xoxo~!~nichole~!~xoxo
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ok, after everytime i masterbate, i feel really, really guilty...i wounder what my girlfriend would say if she had found out, i feel like it is a complete sin, and after everytime i do that, i feel that God punishes me, but he doesnt seem to punish other people i know do it... what should i think? is it ok, or should i try to stop?? HELP!! (link)
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masterbating is NORMAL!! everyone does it...and people who dont admit to doin it...well they just suck...i mean damn its a totally natural thing...everyones gotta get off sum how...whether they are doin it or sum1 else is doin it for em..its natural....not a sin!
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Okay, so! I'm 15/female and I met this guy last week and he seems pretty cool. He likes me and all, and I like him too. It's just that, I dont like him like boyfriend/girlfriend. He's a great person and all, and I'd be happy with being friends but other than that, I'm confused. See.. I'm not hott or anything, I'm average, but he sees me as beautiful. And I desperatley want a boyfriend because I havent had one in over a year and I'm getting lonely. But I dont want to go out with this guy for the wrong reasons. Should I go out with him once and see what happens or what? (link)
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the two of you should go to dinner and a movie together as friends and see how things go...maybe even do that a few times to get to know eachother better and then make your decision...dont jump to sayin yes just to have a boyfriend...you will regret it and you may hurt him...hope i helped~!~xoxo~!~NICHOLE~!~xoxo~!~
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Age: 13 Gender: Chick [girl]
Ok, I have this problem and like it involes this dude that I truely like. But like, we went out for like 10 to 11 days and then we broke up. I did something like so fucking stupid to get his attention and now like we don't talk a lot but we're still "friends." I really love him and like he keeps asking me if I do and I know that he suspects that I still do. Then, he already has this other chick under his arm and it's not me. But like I know why we broke up and everything. But like on a note he sent me he wrote that no matter what we will try to make this relationship work and last long even if we have to marry each other! Like, I knew he was going to take back those words. But like, he made feel so freaking retarded and like now, I just think he's like such a dork for confusing me! Like, should I forget about him and move on and just stay friends or should I like still continue to kill myself this way? Because everyday I cry for him to come back to me and like I also "cut" and like I'm like always depressed because of him. Help me please, what should I do?
The Loner, loser, Lover...your dark lord and master...Jenny M...
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ok you are 13years old and you only dated him for 10 or 11 days...hunnie i highly doubt that you are in love with him. you may like him a lot but love is a very very strong word that you shouldnt throw around like a piece of meat. You are INFACTUATED with him...you like him so much that you think you are in love with him...you only dated him for 10 or 11 days ur not fuckin in love! geezus fuckin christ ppl are so fuckin stupid sumtimes....GRRRR!! get a clue 13 yr old! get a god damn clue!!
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That was kind of harsh being that you didn't know that he's into drugs. Manufactures and everything. And the only reason why I would press charges against him is because he flat out told me that he would kidnap him from me and I would never see him again. Now I do believe that a child should have both parents and to be completely honest I don't believe your advice was very constructive but I know this thing is supposed to have a question in it so I guess all I need to know is,where do you come off? (link)
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Well clearly if your ex does drugs n sells them and all that jazz then you shouldnt have gotten involved with him in the first place. but seen as you did there is no turning back now. if your exbf has been in trouble with the cops because of the drugs than let the law decide if he should be able to see his son or not. that would be a very hard decision for you to make seen as you do think that a child should have both parents around and your mother should not be the one to make the decision...she honestly should have no part in that decision what so ever. and to answer your question as to how i come off with my previous responce, if you had wanted me or any other advicenator to know that your ex was into drugs and that he had made threats on you then you should have clearly stated just that. i am an advice columnist not a mind reader. Next time put in more information so you dont get responces like the one i gave you. if you dont want to get that type of advice you simply should add more details to your question thanks and have a good day ~!~xoxo~!~nichole~!~xoxo~!~
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I started dating this guy when I was fifteen who was eighteen. He and I were together for a year and two months....partially because I ran away with him for five of them. Well, this last December I had his child and my mom and I won't let him have any part of it. But since he was eighteen, I just want to make sure that in two years when I'm eighteen he can't try to fight for custody. Would he have any rights over my son?
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honestly in my opnion if you wanted your son to grow up to be a good guy and all that stuff you would let his father be a part of his life. You never know how your ex would be around your son if you do not give him the chance. And i honestly think you are a horrible person if you do not allow him to be in any part of your sons life. your son needs a father, he needs that MALE role model. you and your mother can not be that male role model obviously. your ex should have the damn right to be a part of HIS childs life. and yes your son is also his. you of all people should know it takes more than just a girl to make a baby. Your son is also his son so do not claim your son as souly yours because he is not. He is also his fathers son. And if you listen to the person that said if your ex tried to get custody that you should tell him you will file for statury rape, well if you listen to that your a mere pathetic excuse for a mother. It is not rape if you want it and you both knew the law when you decided to have sex. but that is all i have to say... just thinking about your stupid shit question makes me want to puke have a nice day ~!~nichole~!~
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Hi. Yo. I'm allergic to EVERYTHING with fur. It sucks. Well, I have a 16 year old cat that has fur! And, sad to say, the doctors expect him to pass a way soon. I was wonderin' if you knew about a cat that doesn't have any dander or anything. Hope you can help!
The Allergic Person
P.S. Can you also tell me how to rate? I've been wonderin' how to do that for months! Oh yeah, and I WILL rate as soon as you tell me how to!
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sorry but the cat thing is one thing i cant help you with. im actually allergic to cats myself...and when people give you advice u can rate their advice when u look at the list of people who have replied to your questions...sorry i couldnt help you much hope someone can help you out~!~xoxo~!~nichole~!~xoxo~!~
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I'm dating a guy he lives in CA I live in Tx. I'm 13 he's 15. We are in a very serious reationship. WE love each other with all our hearts, but latley I have the feeling that he just doesn't care. I'm in a stage where I just stoped cutting myself and I am in desperate need of attention, I know it may sound bitchy but I need attention from my bf. Is that a bad thing. We have been dating for about 18 months. I'm not quite sure what to do. Do I break up with him or stay with him? I'm just to confused. Someone help me
Love,
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you are 13years old...what makes you think that you're in love?! you're also quite the attention whore...i dont know your story as to why you used to cut yourself but i do know that you sound like someone i know...she only cut herself to get the attention she wasnt getting...and that landed her in a freaking nut house...so take my advice..dont cut urself for attention...and get out of that relationship...if u could even call it a relationship. your 13 you dont need to be "in love" ~!~xoxo~!~nichole~!~xoxo~!~
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my friend is well a "slut" because she goes from boy to boy and the only reason why she does is because she thinks they are cute but recently my other friend broke up with her bf and now my "slut" friend wants to go out with him what should i do because they are both my friends but i dont want any of them to get mad at me...what should i do? (link)
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all i can say is if you are calling your friend a slut then your friend needs to kick the crap out of you!! you say she is your friend yet you sit and call her a slut. i think your the one that needs some advice on how to be a good friend instead of seeking advice on how to help your supposed "friends" with their relationship!
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ok, here's the deal. i'm an 18 year old dude. i know it sounds silly and stupid as hell but i think i've managed to fall in love with a girl in canada. i'm from the states and we've never met in person before but i'm absolutely crazy about her. i don't know whether or not i should pursue this at all or if it's just a lost cause. i'm not even sure she feels the same, but i have my hints. i know it sounds like such a pathetic/loser scenario but i think i'm mature enough to tell that this girl isn't just any other girl. any input would be nice. (link)
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mmk do not hold back on it! if you're sure what you're feeling is real then there is no reason that you shouldnt go for it. i know that people may say that relationships that start on the internet never work but that is not true at all. i know 3 couples that have met on the interent. 2 of the couples are married and the other engaged. just dont rush things. make sure the girl is ready to meet you and is really interested in you. make sure you meet in public. that way there is no chance of anything horrible happening. just be careful and let me know how it goes for you. hope i helped follow your heart hun!!~!~xoxo~!~nichole~!~xoxo~!~
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my friend jessica is going out with some guy that is 27 and shes only 12(shes been sleeping with him too)!!! my friends and i keep telling her that its considered rape and that he probably wants her just cuz of her body and just wants her for pleasure, cuz what would a guy that old want with her? we tried to explain it to her a lot, but she wont listen...what should we do? (link)
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ok your friend Jessica is dating a pedophile. does she really believe that he "loves" her. truth is he doesnt. he is just looking for pleasure. what he is doin to her is considered RAPE and all she has to do is end the relationship and tell someone! if she doesnt want him to get in trouble because she was willing to have sex with him then she just needs to end the relationship and stop all contact with him. if you continue talkin to her about this and she doesnt change anything SOON then you need to tell a trustworthy adult what is goin on. Tell someone that will take the right legal action and work to help your friend out. you need to tell some one that will get the police involved that way when they go to talk to her mother the cops will be there incase her mother tries to beat her again. make sure the person you tell knows that jessica has already tried telling her mother and they know what happened when she told her mother. please help your friend out she may get mad at you for it but it is the right thing to do and for all you know it could end up saving your friends life. just think about what could happen if you dont do everything you can to help her. do not hesitate to do the right thing. good luck with everything ~!~xoxo~!~nichole~!~xoxo~!~
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