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twice her age
my friend jessica is going out with some guy that is 27 and shes only 12(shes been sleeping with him too)!!! my friends and i keep telling her that its considered rape and that he probably wants her just cuz of her body and just wants her for pleasure, cuz what would a guy that old want with her? we tried to explain it to her a lot, but she wont listen...what should we do?
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Listen your friend NEEDS professional help befopre this gtes worse. She is in a bad situation especially whne you can't turn to your parents liek she can't and she won't listen to her friends. She doesn't understand that you care about her. YOu have to turn to someone before it gets worse and ruins her life so i suggest findign a physchiatrist since you can't get the guy locked away he has to get out of her life ASAP.
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ok your friend Jessica is dating a pedophile. does she really believe that he "loves" her. truth is he doesnt. he is just looking for pleasure. what he is doin to her is considered RAPE and all she has to do is end the relationship and tell someone! if she doesnt want him to get in trouble because she was willing to have sex with him then she just needs to end the relationship and stop all contact with him. if you continue talkin to her about this and she doesnt change anything SOON then you need to tell a trustworthy adult what is goin on. Tell someone that will take the right legal action and work to help your friend out. you need to tell some one that will get the police involved that way when they go to talk to her mother the cops will be there incase her mother tries to beat her again. make sure the person you tell knows that jessica has already tried telling her mother and they know what happened when she told her mother. please help your friend out she may get mad at you for it but it is the right thing to do and for all you know it could end up saving your friends life. just think about what could happen if you dont do everything you can to help her. do not hesitate to do the right thing. good luck with everything ~!~xoxo~!~nichole~!~xoxo~!~
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You need to tell someone. I notice you added some info explaining that her mother won't listen and that this situation has already gone to court - but that doesn't mean there are not other people you can't tell.
School guidance counsellors, the police, YOUR mom, a teacher, a confidential helpline, etc. The only way to help her, since she can't see the position she's in, is to speak up for her. Say the things that need to be said.
Make sure the appropriate adults know. You might hurt your friend or make her angry, but those hurt feelings would be a result of you having her best interests at heart. You can guarantee that guy does NOT have her best interests at heart.
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HOLY HELL!! wow.. Your friend seriously needs to think about this.. 15 years difference is DEFINATELY rape.. geezus.. and that 27 year old is gross.. sick and wrong.. just sick and wrong..
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Sorry to hear that. You friend really needs to be able to talk to a adult about this situation. Technically in the court's eye's it is rape but she did voluntarily have sex with him. So if she's having issues with her mom or she wakes up and decides that this guy is only using her then she can call the Rape Hotline at 1-800-656-HOPE. BTW, Her mom beat her for what? because she had been raped or because she think's she lied? I feel sorry for her. Just be there for her that's the best thing you can do right now.
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I definitely think he wants her for her body and for pleasure, because what 27 y/o man wants to be with a 12 y/o? That's sick. You just have to really explain to her that it's wrong and it's rape. Try finding her some new guys her age to hang out with instead. Good luck!
Hope I helped!
♥ Erin
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Oh god that guy must be a pedifile. You should really explain that's wrong. And if her mom beat her then that needs to go to court too. That's rape and child abuse. YOu really need to talk to a police officer or something.
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if your woried for her and know that this is wrong you must tell her parents .... you'll probably save her from getting into real trouble they'll handel it ... you may not want to but you have to ... this guy could kidnaper her or kill her ... he's nuts to be with a 12 year old he has issues .
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Twelve and having sex? Wow. Guess who's gonna be easy when they grow up. Tell her that it is against the law because he is an adult and she is a minor. Tell her that he could go to jail and that if she really likes him she should end it so that he doesnt end up with a screwed up life.
And what kind of sick perverted man wants a twelve year old? Has she even hit puberty?
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continue to talk to your friend about this. you cant give up. have faith and make sure she knows you really do care about her and youre just worried. about her mother, i think someone should call DHR. im not kidding. abuse is serious. does she have grandparents or an uncle or someone she could call? she needs to get out of that house. just pray for her and keep talking to her about it.
x3 KaTiE LyNn
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It sounds like your friend beleives the guy likes her for her, not for her pleasure. You are completely right and you really need to get help for your friend. Who knows what could happen? That is considered rape. And about her mother beating her, that can be considered as abuse. Its up to you.
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This is not just rape, this is child pornography, child sexual abuse, child molestation. This is true Law and Order SVU material. Her mom's reaction is unfortunately a very real and incorrect one because that is only driving Jessica to this guy.
I think your next step is to talk with a counsellor at school or any adult and MAKE SURE they follow through with legal or some sort of action. This is extremely serious stuff you are talking about here and it needs to be dealt with immediately.
Hope I helped. Kudos to you and your friends' concern about Jessica.
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kidscanhelp well maybe you should get her parents involed in that becauses she 12 and he's 27 that 15 years of a age diffrence u need to talk to her and let her know that if she don't stop seeing him that he's going to get in so much trouble it's not funny do her parents even care you need to tell some body real quick teacher,parent,quarden,princapal,police causes that's gross
sincerly kids can help
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tell your parents or her parents. its illegal man. shes def. gotta find someone her own age! xO ali Ox
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tell someone older like your parents! this is extremly serious and you need to tell them! not only is that illegal but a 27 year old man cannot just want a 12 year old girl and be normal! something is seriously wrong with him (im not saying that your friend cant get any guys i dont even know her) but thats just messed up! please help your friend! i dont think she understands what she is getting into! much love and hope i helped >brookie<
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Shoot him. He deserves it if this is true. Or contact your friendly local authorities.
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