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The other night , well day actually Me and my 'boy' were just Hanging out, right? Well yes i am young, A minor ( too young for kids either way ) .. Well yeah we hadnt seen eachother in forever .. So yeah we hung out n stuff yeahh.. Then we ended up having..sex & I left blah well Later on, His father ( yess.. can you say Ahh? ) he walked in the room saying he smelt sex & Picked one of the.. four condoms up and realized it was broken, This was around 5-8 or so.. on a Tuesday night, so I'm gona get tested to be safe ( i guess, right thing to do right? ) on Tuesday.. night probably like 9. Well, Do yall think its better to have a plan what to do before I find out, and we need to make one ? Lately alls weve gotten at is, "Shit were gona be even more fucked" , Or should we just worry about it later? Also, He is going to be 18 next year, And I will still be a minor, I am NOT bragging at all I just want help, But we both have very wealthy families.. Not sure how this happened, with bright futures, and How to break it to them? His father knows ones broken though, Whats the best thing to do here? Its kinda crazy, Kinda hard to sleep and eat, with this decision totally on my own.
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You are making the right decision to get tested. I am not positivly sure if your talking about a pregnancy test or an STD test. If its pregnancy, then going somewhere isnt going to help. If you truly dont want to have a baby then you should to to any hospital or planned parenthood and get an EC and take them as soon as possible, if that is not an option then you need to wait either 7 days or the day of your missed peroid (which ever is first) and take a pregnancy test. If you are talking about an STD test then you both should go and get tested. You do have a chance of getting pregnant but its not certain. I think you should talk it over with him and decide what you are going to do in either situation. I hope this helps and if you have any more questions, feel free to ask.
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You should always have a plan when this kind of stuff happens. I personally have no experience with sex... but my sister (and some girls I know) have gotten pregnant as minors. So hopefully I can help you out here...
First thing you should do-- Get tested for STDs. Like, just in case, you know... that way, at least you'll know you if have them, and some STDs will go away with treatment. Possibly your doctor could test you? If not, call and ask for recommendations. Heck, even go and ask for reccomendations. Your parents still don't have to know at this point (even if it is the right thing to tell them).. you can just tell them you feel sick, then ask for some privacy with your doctor.
Second-- Wait.. if your period is late, that's when you're in trouble. Just because a condom broke doesn't mean that you'll automatically get pregnant. But if your period is late... it's a sign... get tested for a pregnancy. (Or an early pregnancy, if you don't want to wait that long) Get an at-home pregnancy test from a drug-store. Get several, if you want to. (Hey, you have money to spend!).. you can even go to a doctor and ask them if it seems like you're pregnant.
Now, if you are pregnant, you should try to eat and sleep, for your child's sake. And tell your parents. There is a good chance that they will support you, even if they'll be dissapointed... Decide whether or not to have an abortion, set up an adoption or even keep the child... seek help from a doctor, and they'll tell you what to do/not to do if you decide to go through with the pregnancy. Go to a psychologist if you are really having trouble with the whole sleeping and eating thing.. sometimes they can help. Even go to a regular doctor and ask them for a prescription (TELL THEM THERE IS A POSSIBILITY OF PREGNANCY!!)
To prevent this kind of thing from happening again, I would suggest birth control pills perscribed by a doctor... there are other methods, like having your tubes tied, or something along those lines, but I find them a little scary and too permanent. I hope I helped!!
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sit down and talk to your boyfriend...before you go find out make sure he knows that there is a possibility that in 9months he could be a daddy and make sure he understands all of that...make sure he plans to stick around and take care of his baby(if you are preggo)...talk to him about it before you go...im sure he already knows of the possiblity but still talk to him...and then go get tested..and have him go with you when you get tested..that way you both find out the news at the same time...if it does come back positive then you should sit down with his parents and your parents all together and break the news to them all at once...that way you dont have to do it 2 times...make sure they all kno that the 2 of you plan to stay together no matter what happens with the baby...i strongly advise you not to abort the baby if you are pregnant i know some people who have had abortions and it ruins their lives...they think about the fact that they erased the chance of a human life emotionally tears them up you do not want to have to deal with that...if you decide that you are not able to take care of your child talk to close family members that want a child about adopting the baby...or just looking after the baby until you and your boyfriend get on your feet and can care for the child...or you can put the baby up for open adoption (that way you and your boyfriend get to chose your child's new parents) and you will be able to keep in touch with your child as he or she grows up...ive heard it works better with open adooption because then throughout the pregnancy you get to kno the people and become close with them...that way you are able to see "your" child after the adoption is final...i kno this is a lot to take in but that is my best advise for you...hope everything works out...let me kno how everything goes.. and if i can help you with anything else...best wishes
~nichole~
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