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What there to say about me? I'm 27 and a graduate of UCSD. Throughout my life most of my close friends have been girls so I have a unique perspective on relationships and sex. I know a lot about computers as well as random stuff in general. Feel free to ask me anything and I'll answer it to the best of my knowledge.
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Hey there(: I'm 15/f and I was wondering if there was anyway possible that you could somehow get pregnant by giving someone a handjob (link)
Semen does not die when it hits the air, but no you cannot get pregnant unless you took the semen and put it into/near your vagina. It's generally a good idea to wash your hands just to be on the safe side.


Why does shockwave flash keep crashing in google chrome?
Why does it keep crashing and not responding in google chrome? How do I fix it? (link)
I personally don't like Chrome at all, I know a lot of people say it's the best browser but whatever. First off, do you have the latest version of both things? Secondly, try using a different browser like Firefox to see if it crashes as well (that will tell you if the problem is Flash or Chrome.) Thirdly, what causes it to crash? Is it a particular website / action, or is it any time Flash comes up at all?


sense some girls are different does that always mean a girl likes guy (link)
No


So, I have a very healthy sexual relationship with my boyfriend, we have sex about 1-2 times a day. However sometimes we just like to engage in foreplay and we don't even have sex(Which I don't mind) However, I usually end up taking the lead during this. Though if he finishes he tends to just flip over and go to sleep after leaving me hanging. I've tried to stop pleasuring him and see if that would give him the hint to pleasure me for a while but that doesn't work, I've tried tons of things but nothing works. What should I do to give him the hint that this girl needs the same back? (link)
Of the tons of things you tried, was one of them talking to him about it directly? If not, try it, if yes, he doesn't deserve to be pleasured ever again.


I just moved into an apartment complex and im really excited to be out on my own. But no one told me how LOUD and INSENSITIVE people are. I got 4 hours of sleep last night because people were up having a party til 4 in the morning and this morning someones stupid dog wouldn't shut up. I called to complain about the noise issue but they said there is only so much they can do. I have a very unsafe and demanding job and I require my 8 hours of sleep to be at my best. I can't get out of my lease cuz it will cost me three months rent and it took me months to find a place to begin with. Advice from anyone who's lived in an apartment would be appreciated!!!!! (link)
I live in an apartment complex. There is ambient noise that you don't have to deal with living in a house, but what you describe is above the norm. Depending on the laws in your state, there are hours of the night that are considered "quiet hours." If there is a party, you could always call the police and say you think there is underage drinking going on. I'd say try talking to the landlord/manager again. They should be the first stop when you have problems like these, but if they refuse to do anything about it, then start exploring options like calling the cops.


This may or not be a typical question but Im sure it will throw you for a loop.....! Im a straight guy who is not attracted to men at all, even in the slightest detail. I had early sex as a child with a friend of the same sex. Here is the million dollar question. I get a feeling of power and a huge sexual turn on by xdressing as a girl with all the hot stuff, wig and make up and all and have been told by the same sex I am attractive and sexy and passable when dressed up and I have had sex with males while dressed which is a huge turn on, however !!! here is the question......as soon as it is over and I go back to being a male, Im the straightest guy on the planet and have always been seriously sexually attracted to females my whole life ! I dont think about males or even being with one except when I dress and even then, I dont feel attracted to men, just the act of being a girl with one....I know myself well enough that I know Im NOT gay or even when I ask myself am I bi-sexual, that doesnt even apply in my mind because I ask myself am I just as attracted to men as women and the answer is seriously NO....is there a medical or psychlogical name for what I do? Is it normal? Any advice for me would be more than enlightening and would be appreciated more than u could ever know. (link)
Well I can tell you that most crossdressers are straight, but also that most don't have sex with the gender they aren't attracted to, whether they are dressed or not. Anyways, sexuality is far more fluid and complicated than you hear about day to day or see in movies/TV. I'd say, why bother labeling yourself? You are who you are, and you have sex with who you want to have sex with. Why bother trying to label yourself?


Im a religious person, and in my opinion, zodiacs, horoscopes and the like are a bunch of malarkey. wel, out of curiosity, I looked it up, and I'm a cancer. The description of a Cancer is almost eniiiirely accurate to how I act, what I feel, who I am, etc.
Does anyone else notice that?? is the Zodiac creepily accurate to anyone else? Just wondering if Im going insane. XD (link)
They're designed to appear accurate using several different psychological techniques and fairly vague wording. Basically, most of the qualities listed are positive, so you want them to apply to you, and on a list of 5-6 adjectives, you can cross off 1 or 2 that don't apply and still say it "mostly" applies. You can easily do this to any zodiac whether it is yours or not if you are motivated to. Also, fun fact, the doctor delivering you has a greater gravitational effect on you than the stars at the time of birth.


Is it possible for me to lose 40 - 50 pounds by the end of December if I eat healthy and workout everyday?
I know I have to eat right and work out. I plan on working out twice a day & eating 1400 calories & drinking water. Can I at least lose iy by the end of December?
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It's possible, but not recommended. That's about 16 weeks, so you are shooting for 2.5 lbs per week (using 40lbs). The amount recommended for healthy weight loss is no more than 1.5 lbs per week. Doing more and you are liable to be burning off more than just fat. There are about 3500 calories in a pound, so to do 1.5 lbs a day, you want to "get rid of" 750 calories per day, be it by diet or working out. Working out twice per day is overdoing it, and if you set such a harsh regimen for yourself then you are more likely to cheat and break. It is far more healthy to set a regimen you can follow long term. Eating more healthy in general, and keeping a consistent workout schedule (e.g. go jogging/biking every morning.) It is important to get all of the nutrients you need (which is difficult at 1400 calories per day.) It helps to space several small meals throughout the day to keep your metabolism up as opposed to 3 large meals like most people do.
The thing with losing a bunch of weight fairly quickly is that once you reach your goal and go off the regimen as most people do you will gain the weight back pretty quickly. The goal you are setting for yourself is more healthy than some of the other questions I've seen asked here (I remember one that wanted to lose like 20 pounds in a week) but it's still a bit high.


hi. I use tampons and my bf has fingered me before so my cherry is deffinately popped but im wondering if having sex for the fisrt time will hurt. hes fingered me with 3 fingers before because i kinda like it rough and that does hurt but i like it so will sex feel the same??? (link)
Sex by default doesn't have to hurt the first time, but like with many things, it will hurt if you do it wrong, which is not unlikely due to lack of experience. Porn is definitely a bad place to get ideas, because it focuses on what looks good on camera rather than what feels good for either party. The basic idea is use protection, and make sure you are well lubricated (preferably naturally, if not that then use a lube (make sure it's not an oil based lube, as that can wear down the condom) or you can use a prelubricated condom. If something isn't feeling right, don't feel bad about readjusting, or telling him to do something different. It might take you a few tries to get it right, and that's normal.


so I am 4,9 147cm last time I see my height but I think I grew taller to 149 cm or 150 cm.I am 16 and my sister 170cm always laught on me because I am short and call me drawf usually.So I ask my mother,father,another sis and my brother to pray for me.To grow taller because they are religous.but when I told my brother .He said: why you want to grow taller your sexy just the way you are.So I am confuseing.I am short and my personality is like little girl .So would a man love short girls (link)
If a guy is so shallow that your height is the deciding factor for him, you probably don't want to date him anyways. Everyone has their own preferences for height, weight, hair color, eye color, etc. Height probably matters the least of physical attributes to guys.


20/f

Last night me and my friends were at my apartment drinking. My roommate had her ipod in her speakers and I went to go change the song. I saw that a text had popped up from a girl I didn't know that said "what would your friends think if they saw what I text you?" I know it was wrong, but I was drunk and I was curious who this girl was because my roommate is one of my best friends and I literally know every single one of her friends. I looked at her texts and they were talking using ;) faces and referencing to having hooked up before and hanging out and stuff like that. I was shocked. My friend very recently had sex with a guy and she has made out etc. with a bunch of guys. She always gets really attached to the guys she likes and really jealous when her friends hook up and she complains that she hasn't in so long. I have nothing against gays/lesbians (I actually have a lot of gay friends) I am just very confused about this. I thought I knew her really well. The girl she was texting is also 17 and went to the same high school as my roommate. The 17 year old also has a boyfriend and in their conversation they talked about guys they have hooked up with. I am just confused about what to make of all of this and I want to talk to her about it but I can't do that unless I admit to reading her texts. (link)
Well it's possible she's just bisexual. I wouldn't bring it up, there's no way to do it without coming off like you were spying on her reading her texts on purpose. She'll tell you when she's ready.


i have had 3 back surgerys in 2009 and 2010 and since then i have been on major morphine pills to help with the pain. the operations were complete failures and now I live in constant severe pain. some days are better than others but I just cant stand it any longer and I am tired of ruining my wife and the rest of my familys lives by being aburden to them. I never feel good enough to go camping and do things we used to do all the time. So, If I were dead and gone. they could go on and enjoy thier lives. what is the easiest way for me to end my life without it looking like suicide? thanks... and sorry for the bad spelling (link)
Nobody on this site is going to tell you how to kill yourself, or if they do, they won't be on the site for much longer. I don't consider myself qualified to advise on mental health issues, and wouldn't really know what to tell you about the suicide subject, however, have you tried talking to your doctors about a different pain management regiment? I've had many surgeries, and I've found that morphine doesn't work very well for me. If you are asking for something different as opposed to just more of a drug, the doctor is far more likely to take you seriously. Morphine does have a possible side-effect of causing suicidal thoughts, however so does chronic pain... That's definitely something to also talk to your doctor about, you might be able to get a referral to a psychologist to help you either with therapy or with medications. Certain antidepressants do have the added benefit of dulling pain receptors. Without knowing what specific problems you have with your back I don't know how to advice you about what you could do about not being able to do activities you used to or physical therapy will help, but in any case, massage therapy should. I am not even talking about full on chiropractor massage (that could help or hurt depending on what problems you have) I am just talking about regular massages, which could help relax the muscle and ease pain somewhat. You still have plenty of options, and you should explore them.


Here's something annoying that is driving me nuts. I'm using Firefox on a Windows laptop. Lately it's randomly selecting words to double underline in green or orange. Click the words and you get advertising. Do I have a virus or is something I can turn off? If so how? I've seen other people online bitch about this but none have found answers so I'm putting it out to you guys. Hopefully, you know something. (link)
You have spyware.

Download Spybot (http://www.safer-networking.org/) and Malwarebytes (http://www.malwarebytes.org/) and run them both.


I downloaded google chrome on my laptop but it still says I have internet 8. I already went to the settings to try to make it my browser, but its still not. I don't want internet 8, it was already on there when I got my laptop, but I want google chrome. How do I do it?
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There is no way to get rid of Internet Explorer, it is hardwired into Windows and microsoft makes it next to impossible to remove. You need to set chrome to be your default browser so that anything that uses a browser will use this. Every time you open it, it should ask you if you want to make it your default browser. If not, go into settings or preferences in chrome and try to find it. After that, make sure you are clicking the google chrome icon every time instead of any other shortcuts that were on your computer when you got it.


Hi I was thinking of getting my girlfriend a small present and a picture of us in a photo frame being part of it. Have any of you ever received or given photo frames as presents?Is it a good idea?
What sort of photo frame should I get?

Thanks for the advice, much appreciated :) (link)
Find some store that specializes in gifts (I've seen large selections in Postal Annex) or just go to an engraving store and get a frame that has the first letter of each of your names at the top of it.


I log onto facebook a message pops up saying: "A script on this page has cause Internet Explorer to run slowly. Do you want to continue running this script?" I click no and it just keeps on popping up and freezing the page. How do I get it to stop running scripts?

I use internet explorer 8
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Facebook shouldn't be doing that, you probably have spyware. I recommend downloading Spybot (http://www.safer-networking.org/) It should clean a bunch of stuff off your system. After you do, run the immunize part of it, and it will block some of the bad scripts that are likely to cause problems on facebook and other pages as well.


F/14
So at my school,there's this senior I really like.I've seen him around before,but he's never noticed me before,probably because I'm a freshman.
But anyways,I only see him when I'm in the hallway going to my next class.I really wanna talk to him,and tell him,but I can't.And the thing is I can usually talk to any guy,because it's like there's friends,but I get nervous when I try talking to him,so I don't.
When I see him in the hallways,our eyes always meet for a few seconds,but we keep on going like eachother's not there.He's stand offish,which is another reason I'm not so confident.
What should I do? (link)
Drop something as you are walking past him and pretend you didn't notice and hope he does.. Make sure it's nothing too important in case he doesn't, so you don't have to go back for it.


I have these little red bites on me and I have no idea where they came from. I looked up mosquitoes, spiders, and bed bugs, but I'm not sure if mine match since most of the pictures show them to be in clusters. I only have about five and they're all in different areas, except two that are on my ankle.

They're red and really itchy. The first one popped up when I was at the store with my friend after staying the night at his house, the others just slowly showed up each day since then.

Could they be bed bug bites? (I'm sure they're not fleas since our dogs don't have any). Or could it be something related to allergies? (link)
Bed bugs are the most likely thing, because anything else you would be very unlikely to notice getting bitten five times by.


All a sudden only some of my contacts are listed twice at their header. Ex.. mom or mom, Rachel or Rachel, mark or mark and some are only listed one time. I use att galaxy s3.. I think I've been hacked by my wife. Can someone please tell me why names would be listed twice and have or between them? Is she spying on me? Thank u kindly.. (link)
Do you have some kind of backup software? Do you have contacts saved on your sim card? I had to get my phone replaced a while ago, so I backed up my address book to my memory card. When I restored it on my replacement phone, it turned out I also had att address book backup software enabled. So the sim card contacts, memory card backup, and att backup, didn't properly merge, and I ended up with some contacts listed twice (and some others with the same number listed multiple times in their contact.) It most definitely doesn't seem like spying, it takes effort to duplicate contacts, and if it was your wife, it wouldn't be mom or mark being duplicated, but only rachel and other female names. Most likely just some sort of glitch. If you are really worried, try taking it to an att store and have them fix it for you.


I took numerous honors classes in high school but I didn't apply myself as well as I should have, by far. I had a lot of personal problems going on that just kept getting worse and worse, especially when I went to a new school, and it's not really an excuse cause people have done a lot better with less privileges (like my parents) but I basically just messed up, big time. I'm definitely not in the same position I saw myself when I was going into high school. I'm really looking forward to college being a fresh new start, with new people, and a new attitude

Also is that a bad, average, or slightly good gpa? I know it's obviously not really good or anything since my regular gpa isn't above 3, but I just don't know what to consider it as. Please be truthful, but kind, my self confidence is already really low, and I'm working on it. I feel like my low self confidence, self doubt, and perfectionism have lead to most of my high school problems

Also, if I did really good in college, could this GPA really harm me when I'm seeking to transfer to a better school, or it will mainly matter to colleges how much I've improved? Is it possible to get that second chance? And what would I have to do? try to transfer after 2 years with as near to a perfect GPA as possible, and with a lot of extracurriculars? (link)
The unweighted GPA is pretty bad, however the weighted GPA is pretty good. I don't know what state you live in so I can't really give too specific advice. Most schools will take this to mean that you take on too much and don't know your own limits. You definitely want to double check what schools you are applying to and whether they weight GPA (some won't or will only weight certain classes.)

An important thing to remember is that your GPA is only one piece of the puzzle. Your SATs, extra curriculars, and personal statement matter a lot as well. The personal statement in particular actually. You said you had personal problems going on. Write about them. Write about how you persevered through them for a respectable weighted GPA.

For the most part, when transferring college to college, they only look at your college GPA. They might ask for your high school transcripts as a formality, but it shouldn't matter too much. A lot of people actually do a 2-year school and transfer to a 4-year.




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