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I read my friend's texts... now I think she may be a lesbian?
20/f
Last night me and my friends were at my apartment drinking. My roommate had her ipod in her speakers and I went to go change the song. I saw that a text had popped up from a girl I didn't know that said "what would your friends think if they saw what I text you?" I know it was wrong, but I was drunk and I was curious who this girl was because my roommate is one of my best friends and I literally know every single one of her friends. I looked at her texts and they were talking using ;) faces and referencing to having hooked up before and hanging out and stuff like that. I was shocked. My friend very recently had sex with a guy and she has made out etc. with a bunch of guys. She always gets really attached to the guys she likes and really jealous when her friends hook up and she complains that she hasn't in so long. I have nothing against gays/lesbians (I actually have a lot of gay friends) I am just very confused about this. I thought I knew her really well. The girl she was texting is also 17 and went to the same high school as my roommate. The 17 year old also has a boyfriend and in their conversation they talked about guys they have hooked up with. I am just confused about what to make of all of this and I want to talk to her about it but I can't do that unless I admit to reading her texts.
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She might just be a a little counfused, once I was and I had a boyfriend, and would obviously marry a guy and have a family, you know. But she might just want to experience girls or have a little adventure. It's normal. If you want to talk to her about it and not make it obvious just talk about someone, like a celebrity say " oh she is hot, i would go lesbian for her" but you know joking around or something that brings that topic up and maybe she will spit all that out. or just show her that no matter what you will support her, well if you will. good luck (:
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Well it's possible she's just bisexual. I wouldn't bring it up, there's no way to do it without coming off like you were spying on her reading her texts on purpose. She'll tell you when she's ready.
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That is tricky. If she tells you seemingly everything, this must be very private and not something she feels comfortable sharing with anyone. I honestly wouldn't bring up that you read about such things yet as it might force her to come out before she's ready and willing, if she is interested in women in that.
I think the best you can do is find some way to reassure her that you are okay with someone not being hetero. Take an account of someone being homophobic and rant to her about it. Anything to make her feel more comfortable in sharing such things with you. If she still doesn't share with you these types of things, that sucks, but in that way it's all up to her to do so. And since it's her situation, it should be up to her.
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In my opinion you can 10 percent help her to be a normal.You can try to make her more girly for instance :let her buy short dresses or bought her girly clothes and puts to her make up and she will dislike to be a lesbian by time
make her go out on plan date then she will like guys more than girls
hope I helped you
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Move on with the lesbian thing. So what if your friend is gay? That does not make her a lesser person. In my opinion though you should tell your friend that you read her text message and maybe from there you can talk about what's bothering you. She'll understand for sure since she's your friend.
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I say you forget it.
If she is a lesbian, then that's something very personal to her. She may just be curious, or unsure. So you approaching her about it will not achieve anything, especially if she herself does not know.
And ;) faces can mean anything.
But yes, If she is gay, then she will come out in her own time. If she wants someone to speak to, be there for her. Just be a good friend, and respect her privacy. You've already encroached her privacy. Don't do it again.
So in short: Don't tell anyone. Let her speak to you about it: don't bring it up with her. Be there for her if she needs to speak to someone. Be a good friend. Don't invade her privacy again.
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