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Should I let go or hold on?
So I dont really know what to think or do and I'm hoping I can find some insight here.
Ill try to shorten it as much as possible. My boyfriend of two years who I am in love with and has already given me a ring has severe depression. We are both in our 20s and he realized he has very serious mental issues about 6 months ago that include anger (non violent) and he cannot enjoy anything anymore, including our relationship. While we talked about this and I know it is true, he admitted it to me, he also said that he still loves me and wants to be with me and only me, he just doesn't know where he is in his life or where his life is going.
He is getting professional help so he is on the track of getting better, but he is not very hopeful about it. We basically put our relationship on hold until he gets better. He doesn't really want to act like a couple but he does want us to still hang out and talk every day. Ive asked him clearly if he thinks its better to break up and he starts getting extremely sad and saying no, but then whenever I act like a girlfriend towards him he doesn't respond. I really don't know what to do, I am constantly thinking about him and worrying about him and wanting to spend time with him because we are technically still together, but I don't really feel like I have a partner anymore. I love him very much so even though I have considered multiple times leaving, just cutting him from my life to be able to move on, I break down every time I do, I want to be there for him, but its hard to be so detached when we were once so close. I don't know how much longer I should support him? I don't know how to be able to be there for him without needing him to be there for me... what can I do???
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Relationships are about comprimise. Clearly you love this man because you've comprimised A LOT. I think it is commendable that you are being so patient, but I worry about your needs and that it seems they are not being met. Whether you stay or go is your choice, but if I were you I'd ask myself - how long can I wait? Depression is a lifelong struggle and while your boyfriend might learn to deal with it better - he will always have it. Can you wait 5 years for him to feel better and treat you like a partner? Can you wait 10? If not - I'd say leave. If you feel you could wait that long, tell him so, but ask if he could work a little harder to support you and show you love.
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If you really love him you will stay by his side and support him no matter what. Yes it maybe difficult for now but once he continues having professional help little by little everything will be all right you just need to be patient and understanding.
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