Ask Miranda
how do i know that my partner love me for me and not my sex?
im 15 years of age ,and im a female
If he wants you for sex than he probably just asks you to come over to his house just for that. He will probably not take you seriously enough in your relationship. Call you late just for sex talk or whatever. He will probably have a really bad relationship with you and possibly cheat on you and not communicate with you day to day. He would just use you because your his advantage for that.
I hope that helped.
20-f
I recently just started talking to this guy ...well about 2 months ago. He is very nice, respectful and genuine but one thing that I can't get over is every time I see him he has bad breath :( I hate getting close to him or even cuddling with him because of his breath it makes me want to gag, sometimes I hold my breath so I don't have to smell it...it's so sad. He wanted to make out with me and I was freaking out because he had bad breath. We started making out and I was chewing gum and he was like "can I have your gum?" so while we were making out he ended up getting my gum that was in my mouth and oh my gosh did it smell so much better then! I don't know what to do though! I can't tell him he has bad breath, and I feel like if I offer him gum everytime he will get the hint but what if he doesn't want the gum? I don't know what to do! And I know he chews smokeless tobacco. He hasn't done it around me but I'm pretty sure he does before he sees me. I don't know if this could make his breath smell bad.
Any ideas of what I could do? Thanks!
Since he won't take care of his breath...just tell him you don't like it when he chews tobacco. Tell him to stop doing it and maybe he will.
You have to be honest with your man. He doesn't know how bad his breath smells like. So just tell him in a polite manner. Don't be rude to him though. Just say tell him to chew some gum or pop a mint in his mouth before he kisses you or cuddles with you or something to make his breath smell good for you.
He should agree with what you have to say.
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I'm a 19 year old girl and I have this problem with feeling insecure in relationships, which I know has danger of affecting my relationship with my current boyfriend whose 24. We've been dating for a month and I feel like we click, I feel rather comfortable with him, and he's just a great guy, would be a wonderful friend if we end up not working out together in a relationship. I'm just really glad that he's in my life.
I have this problem with relationships though, I'm not very confident in them. I'm just afraid of getting hurt, and I always think the worse that the person that I'm with is going to hurt me. It's not really a self confidence issue, I think I'm very attractive and I know that others find me attractive. I love meeting new people but I' just afraid of getting hurt.
I've had two guys that I considered boyfriends at the time. One of them I never really got to see, I think he just used me because he wanted a hot girl that would send him naked pictures of her body when he was in AIT, and someone else to write letters to saying sweet things that never ended up being true, he emotionally abused me and constantly dicked me around. Then in my other relationship, I knew the guy for almost 10 years and he was like a big brother to me, I always thought that he was a great guy. I shared my first time with him, and we dated for 5 months I thought that we were in love and happy, so it surprised me when he dumped me in an IM and then he proceeded to dick me around and use me for his own self interests. Basically my whole romantic history has included me being dicked around by guys, who were supposedly really into me.
I suppose that in the past, my relationships have been “shortened” because I tend to take things really fast. I've had two sexual partners before in my life, and both of them I had sex with after two weeks of dating them, which really isn't a long time. I've noticed that I'm also perceived as being kind of clingy, which I guess is true and I think that I do that because I determine how much a guy is into me by how affectionate he is to me, which really isn't true.
I'm insecure in the relationship that I'm currently in and it sucks, because I know that it bothers my current boyfriend sometimes. I mean he has done nothing along the lines to tell me that he's not interested in me except for perhaps asking me to stop doing something and letting me know that it bothered him, in a way that really wasn't that rude. I really like what I have with him, and we had a conversation where he told me that he wants to take things slow, which has to do with the fact that we've both been hurt by past relationships.
I'm currently wondering what he means by taking things slow. He's a really great guy and he makes me smile, I enjoy kissing him. And I'm glad that he likes what we have together as well. Taking things slow sounds like a good idea, how do I take things slow and get over my insecurities? Because I notice that when you stress things they just end up getting worse, and right now I'm in a good spot with him but I want to stay in this good spot and I think in order to do that I need to get over my insecurities (realize that if there's a problem in the relationship, he'll tell me) and I don't want to rush anything with him.
Waiting about 1 month or 2 to kiss.
Waiting for sex until about a year or after marriage.
Not seeing each other so often maybe once or twice a week.
Not going on exclusive dates until you guys get more serious.
What he wants is a serious relationship. If you guys move too fast he could get un-interested in you so fast. So try those tips and see if you two can make your relationship move as slow as possible. It's the best way to not get hurt or make your insecurities worse. He's doing you a favor too.
About feeling insecure....well all girls feel like that once in a while. But you just need a confidence booster every once in a while. Just look in the mirror and say what you like about yourself and what you find attractive about your personality, and what you think shouldn't change about yourself. At least try to say 5 things you like about yourself each day. And if you get compliments from people write them down so you can remember them and feel better.
And about the guy just try to give each other some space don't rush it though you seem like a really nice girl. Hang out with your girlfriends and hang out with your boyfriend so you can have an equal balance. good luck with your relationship with him :)
The fact that I slept with two guys before my current boyfriend bothers him. It bothered him before, and he accepted it. But now, it's starting to pop up in his head and he can't help but imagine it. Now he's trying to accept it again.
I would change the fact that I did if I could. But I can't... It's the past. I lost my virginity in the first place because of an abusive boyfriend. He knows that.
I told him the past is makes me who I am, and if there wasn't a past... I wouldn't have met him in the first place. I told him I hurts me that it bothers him, and that I said the present is the only time that matters now. Because we both love each other, and the past was the past.
I understand why it would bother him though, knowing the fact that your significant other had past loves hurts. But what can I say or do to have him accept it again and forget about it?
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17/F , sorry if this is so long. Well my boyfriend who is 20 have been dating for 3 months now, and I met him because his sister was one of my really good friends from dance in school. I ended up meeting him, and immediately we fell for each other. He treats me like a princess, tells me I'm beautiful at least 10 times a day, tells me I'm amazing in bed,
Has gone on family trips with me, and has introduced me to his WHOLE family. We rarely talk about his past but what I do know is he dated this girl Ashley for 4 years and they broke up because she cheated, and I know he loved her.. Obviously. They broke up during the summer, and me and him met in october. So it wasn't that long ago. The other day I was at his house and decided to be nosey and look through his history. I had found he was going on her facebook page almost everyday and looking at her pictures and seeing her statuses, when all he does is claim to me how much he hates her guts and how he could care less about the bitch. I confronted him about it and he said he was " just curious " I was heartbroken. I don't know what to do, I love him and care about him so much but I don't want to get my heart broken if he still cares about her. What should I do?
Back to your problem he dated her for so long its natural for him to wonder what she's up too day to day. She's probably wondering the same about him. He still loves you and if it bothers you that much tell him to stop. I would be heartbroken too if I found that out. But it's ok as long as he isn't contacting her every day or at least talking to her first then everything is FINE. Don't worry about it too much. But that's good that you confronted him about it. Because maybe he will stop doing it now that you know he stalks her Facebook. hope i helped :)
f/16 Okay so i like this named Hamilton and he is 17. I have talked to him maybe twice. That is because i;m a very shy person and it is hard for me to speak up for myself. He is really cute and I want to start talking to him and get to know him but i don't know how to start my plan. The reason i have picked him is because he goes to a different school than me and my friends that know him say he is sweet and we be good for me. The guys at my single are either taken or immature and that is a turnoff. So i guess what i'm asking is how can i will myself to start talking to this guys and hopefully ask him to prom near the end of April.
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I have liked this guy for a while now I still kinda do it's just that we don't talk anymore. We hung out a lot during the summer we were in this group thing and my one friend ( sara) she would allways say he likes u and I regret not taking chances with him. I guess the only reason I like him is because we have memories and every time I think of them I start to cry now I'm not obsessed I just can't get over him.... The thing is sara and the guy are talking and I told sara that I kinda like him and she said it's ok I don't anything to be akwward between us.. It isn't and now I texther daily and she brings up the guy a lot and it sounds like them two really like each other it reminds me of him and I bc he's doing the same thing with her all flirty and now I ended up giving her advice... I'm not a mean person I just want to know how to get over this guy hen I talk about him and see him every school day it makes me sad and I don't want to interfere it wouldn't be me...:(
Im a 19 year old female and I've been dating this guy on and off for about 6 years now and it started in high school. He used to treat me so well and I loved him. I felt like this was the guy I was going to marry but then he just changed. He started to cheat on me and I would just look past it because I thought he loved me and he would never do that to me. After a while people started to realize that he was cheating on me so I felt stupid and we broke up. We kept getting back together over the period of time but then he met this new girl, Katie. I didn't really care at the time because I had a new awesome boyfriend who treated me way better than my old bf ever did. Then when my ex broke it off with his girlfriend katie, he came running back to me and I loved him so i dumped my boyfriend and went back to him. The same stuff was going on but i loved him so much that i just brushed it off. As i got older i realized how dumb i was being after he didnt come back to me like he always did. I wasn't going to wait around. So for these last 6 months we havent been together or have talked to eachother or anything. He and his gf Katie broke up and he added me on facebook. I thought that he was just trying to do it to make his gf mad because he always used to do that so i didnt answer him. He kept trying but i didnt answer. Then i seen him at a party and he managed to get back into my life. He started texting me after he left and since then we have started dating again. Everything was going so well and he was treating me like he never had before. I was so happy and i thought that he finally came around and realized i was the one he wanted to be with but lately things have been so different. We had an amazing New Years and he was so affectionate towards me. It was fabulous until it just changed one day. we were at a party and he was ignoring me and just be rude to me and saying really mean things. He finally said something just completely out of line and i just walked out of the party. I stayed outside of the garage because i heard him talking and he was talking sh*t about me! I couldnt believe it. Usually when he is mean to me he always fixes it. I thought that when he left that he would text me or something but he didnt. I told myself that i wasnt going to be upset about it but i just cant help it. I am so heartbroken. I thought that i was smarter and stronger than that and i let him back into my heart and he just completely broke me. I can't talk to any of my friends about it because they tell me i should have known better. I just really need someone to tell me something positive and what i should do. I feel so alone and upset. i could use somebody.
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hey i really like my boyfriend but im to shy around him and he doesnt say anything but i know it bothers him and advice HELPP me thanks,
-Abby-
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How do you know if a guy wants to kiss you?
i met this kid a while ago, during the summer at a party but we never really talked until recently. we started talking everyday since november. when i say everyday, i mean everyday, all day. i was invited to a party by his friend and he was there. last week i was talking to his friend and he brought him up and i asked why he brought him up and he told me he heard at the party i was at that 'we were talking' or 'together'. my friend told me, that knows him that hes looking to settle down. and i dont mind. he would always tell me that im mean, but he knows im not serious.. then 2 days ago he stopped talking to me. is it because of that? i guess its done.
ok so im 18/f and hes 19/m
i dont know why this is confusing me so much but it is. haha.
so i messaged him saying
' when i see you expect big tackle hugs'
and his response was
' haha okies =] from you...=]'
its the from you...=] part thats really confusing me. what does he mean by that? is it flirty?
I am naturally a submissive person. I take up for myself but right now i'm in a relationship where everything is backwards.
He tells me i should take care of myself and look good
so i go to the gym and do my hair and make up
whenever i get back from the gym he gets mad that i took too long (2 hours) and then he always complains how long it takes me to do my make up and hair (45 minutes).
I heard that men love it when the woman is submissive so i always tell him he's a big strong man and let him know it in bed all the time. Everything changes in the bedroom. he gets so sweet but right afterwards, it's all back to the same.
we both work, but i mow the lawn and take the garbage out and do everything except electrical work and plumbing, we call someone for that.
we have our times when everything is perfect, but this bad stuff right now is daily.
I ask him to mow the lawn, I ask him three times a week and he says i nag, so i mow the lawn and he says its okay because it's considered house work.
then he says he doesnt feel like a man because i don't let him do those manly things.
he's being so confusing.
there just came a point in the relationship to where i feel no matter what i do or say, i can never fully please him. what do i do?!
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my bf and i fight more and more often. first it was once a year, then once a month then once a week and now every other day. over stupid stuff. what do i do? 18/f
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I love him so much it kills me when we have to go our seperate ways and live so far apart... I cry myself to sleep, I can't eat or think straight because I miss him so much... please help me.
19/m ok so i've been talking to this girl for about a month and half(we have known each other longer but are now just starting see each other) we hang together and i think she has feelings for me. but my question if how can i be sure and what is a good way to talk abut it with out making things weird with us?
Alright I'm a 19 year old male,and I've known this girl for a lot of my life. In the past two years we've realized that we have feelings for each other. Due to a series of complicated events she's actually been dating another guy for almost two years living with him for more than one.
Their relationship has always been tenious at best as he is abusive and controlling (she told me herself I've had to take her in to the hospital for the damage he's done) Unfortunately whenever we do get together (I've been living in another city for a while now) we end up kissing, telling each other how much we love each other, I've never had sexual relations as I won't condone cheating more than we have. Sorry for the long story, just on new year's I finally told her that we should be together but due to the vast distance and her lack of place to live if she leaves her boyfriend the only option is for her to live with me in a new city, basically should I ask her to move in with me? Thank you in advance for your help.
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Hey everyone, I am really desperate (I really am) and I need some advice!
I'll try to make long story short. I'm 20 years old and my best friend is 15. I've known her since childhood but we've been friends for about four years now. I sort of fell in love with her soon after our first play-date; she was 11 at the time. It took me about a year to tell her how I felt and I didn't get much of a positive feedback. At first she didn't like the idea at all but she couldn't stop thinking about it. She told me many times it was never gonna happen. She had always wanted a brother and she found one in me... But as time was passing I couldn't help but notice she felt something for me as well. Most of the time, though, I wasn't sure whether it was just my misinterpretation of her 'brotherly emotions'. Anyway, I was always too afraid to make a move and see where I'm standing. I didn't even know if I was SUPPOSED to make a move or wait for her to do it first. I had never had any experience with girls before. So now, four years later, things are still the same.
Almost the same actually!
In the past six months she has given me some clear signs that she wanted to be more than friends. We sometimes talk or text about it, she tells me it may be a good idea for us to be together, but then she backs off! A couple of times she even said she loved me. She also said there were times in the past when she wouldn't have backed off if I'd tried to kiss her...
The worst thing was when we 'cuddled' on this bench in park. I found her literally lying in my lap after a while and we almost held hands! But despite the OBVIOUS sign - I was gutless to do anything about it! And I hate myself for that till this very day!
So I have missed some perfect opportunities and now I'm not sure if it's too late! I also don't get to see her very often so when I do - I need to be ready to make a move! But I don't know if I will be! So what do I do? And how do I do it? I’m just really afraid something could go wrong… but at the same time I know I might be letting something great slip! I wish I could just knock on her door on a random day and go for it! But I don’t know if she will be in the mood… So I’m really freaking out. Time is passing and I’m just standing still.
I’d appreciate it if you could tell me SOMETHING that I don’t know. Anything! A word of advice of encouragement! Whatever you think might help me pound on an opportunity!
Well, that’s about it…
I guess I didn’t make the long story short after all.
Thanks in advance.
PS: Don't give me any of that 'she's too young' crap. I'm not asking to have sex with her, just to date her.
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