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Submissive.
I am naturally a submissive person. I take up for myself but right now i'm in a relationship where everything is backwards.
He tells me i should take care of myself and look good
so i go to the gym and do my hair and make up
whenever i get back from the gym he gets mad that i took too long (2 hours) and then he always complains how long it takes me to do my make up and hair (45 minutes).
I heard that men love it when the woman is submissive so i always tell him he's a big strong man and let him know it in bed all the time. Everything changes in the bedroom. he gets so sweet but right afterwards, it's all back to the same.
we both work, but i mow the lawn and take the garbage out and do everything except electrical work and plumbing, we call someone for that.
we have our times when everything is perfect, but this bad stuff right now is daily.
I ask him to mow the lawn, I ask him three times a week and he says i nag, so i mow the lawn and he says its okay because it's considered house work.
then he says he doesnt feel like a man because i don't let him do those manly things.
he's being so confusing.
there just came a point in the relationship to where i feel no matter what i do or say, i can never fully please him. what do i do?!
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you dont need no one like that in your life you are beautiful just the way you are you shouldnt change for no one that dont love you for you a woman is some one who respect themselves n do wat they suppose to do in life life goes on and you can to step away from that damage he is causing you no one needs thateven if yall both work thats still dont mean you go home and do eveything n he dont do nothing around the houseif he dont feel like a man cause you are doin mostly of everything so wat he should just get up and do it and you shouldnt have tp keep asking him he should get up and do it if hes a man leave and do you honey no need for stress there other fish in the sea
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I think you deserve someone way better than this guy. He's not doing his job of being a good boyfriend. And I think you are doing what he's asked of you. So don't do anything more for him you know? You should always be getting more in a relationship not less....Tell him that I'm doing everything right what more do you want from me? He will have to loosen up with you or you will have to leave him. There's no other way around it. He's not doing his role of being a good boyfriend to you in the first place. You are who you are, not what he wants you to be.
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the dude's a manic deadbeat. get rid of him.
"there just came a point in the relationship to where i feel no matter what i do or say, i can never fully please him. what do i do?!"
- is not what a person in a healthy relationship asks.
when in a healthy relationship people tend to say things like:
" My girl loves to go to the gym and run all the time to stay in shape. It makes her happy, and she looks great, so if she's late for dinner I'll just keep it warm until she gets home."
difference? compromise.
take a notepad, and keep track over the next week or so. make two columns, and whenever your deadbeat, I mean, boyfriend does something nice, or hurtful,put a tickmark in the respective column.
if the "nice" things are not either outnumbering or equal in quantity to the bad things, then cut slingload on that worthless fuck.
good luck
-Gunner
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"He tells me I should take care of myself and look good" - How rude! I have no doubt that you are a gorgeous woman, how can he say that you don't already look good? And for that matter, it is absolutely none of his business to tell you to 'take care of yourself'. I've been in relationships with guys that frankly could have looked a little better if they went to the gym or did their hair a little but 1. I loved them for more than their looks (and they were gorgeous to me regardless) and 2. It's not my place to tell them to take care of themselves a bit better.
When you're in a relationship, you should be going to the gym or doing your hair and make up because you want to by choice. Any guy that tells you you should is unworthy of you.
House work is not a woman's job. We don't live in the 1950s. Men and women share this job equally. He does his part and you do your part. He's just being lazy and taking advantage of you.
In a relationship, you should be making each other happy. You should both be making an effort to please each other. He should be making you feel as wonderful as you try to make him feel.
You need to put your foot down and tell him how you feel. Don't be submissive, don't let him try to turn it onto you, be strong and let him know how you're feeling and that things are going to change for it to work out. And if nothing changes, you need to find yourself someone that will treat you properly. You deserve so much more than this.
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