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Like three days ago i gave my bf a bj and after he wiped the cum off of his hands with a paper towel. I'm not sure how soon after, but after that he fingered me. Is there any chance at all of me being pregnant?

Yes, there is a slight chance, but by wiping his hands off there's a less chance of getting pregnant, but in order for him to remove the sperm entirely from his hands he must wash your hands off with soap and hot water to kill the sperm that is in the semen before doing that.

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i just go home from my bestfriends brothers birthday party. it was so much fun well me her and her cousin stayed outside pretty much. me and her cousin flirted the whole time lol i loved it but im never gona see him again. this always happens last 2 parties both times i got close to a different guy and never see them again and i end up crushed. we even have nick names for eachother lol. im in 8th grade hes a freshman. grrr i love him but i dont wana ask my friend if she could invite him somewhere shes just the kind of person who loves to play match maker. i just dont want that i wana do it myself but it would be so awkward dating my bestfriends cousin. out of all the guys ive met i might have a chance with him. that would be weird for her to me and him. ive never had a boyfriend i just always didnt want to. what do i do?

I'd talk to her about it since she's the only one that actually has connections with him.

Maybe it's good that she'll play matchmaker for both of you - but if you don't want her to do that, I'd ask her nicely if she could just leave it to you and him to work things out.

But I'd continue to keep flirting and being nice to him if you see him. It sounds like something promising. :)

Good luck on your efforts! :D

UPDATED ANSWER:

Well, it differs for everyone.

A couple months ago, one of my friends had a thing for my older cousin, but he was 19 and she was 13, so obviously it was just a crush.

If I were you, I'd ask her and she if she'd feel about it.

If she feels strange about it, ask her if she'd feel odd about you two just being friends.

Maybe, by doing that, both of you will become more comfortable around each other and she will also be more comfortable with the idea of you two going out.

If she doesn't care what happens, then take a chance - there's nothing stopping you. :)

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i get 2 spots on my back when i go tanning around like my shoulder blades... anyway to get them to go away?

Try using a Jergens tanning lotion.

I can't remember which one it is, but it's the one that makes your skin glow and, the more you apply the lotion, the more tan you get - gradual fake tan.

It'll help even out your tan lines.

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Any ideas on ways to make fake dust? Any thoughts would be appreciated. Thanks!

Maybe you could try some sort of gray mineral powder that'll give off the same effect as regular dust.

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i loveeee the bedroom sets that pbteen sells but they are a little out of my price range.... does anyone know any other places that sell similar sets but cheaper?

I'd try the Seventeen line of bedding that they sell at JCPenny.

Here: http://www.jcpenney.com/products/Cg10692.jsp

and here: http://www.jcpenney.com/products/C044658.jsp

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welll, i have a short torso and really long legs,
so for jeans to look normal on my body, i need to get superrr low rise jeans;; thing is,i'm not sure where to get them. Where can i get super low rised jeans?

haha,thanks :]

Try this site: http://www.langstons.com/low-rise-jeans.html

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alright, i had my period like 2-3 weeks ago. and i dont normally get it again til after a whole month. well, yesterday i thought i got it because i was bleeding, and i used a tampon & the only thing that had blood on it was the string? .. and today im not bleeding at all. im so confused.
Does anyone know whats wrong with me!?!
please helppppp!
thanksss

It takes a couple of years for your period to start becoming more and more regular.

Don't expect it to happen every month during the same time, because during puberty, it probably won't.

Let your body adjust to these changes.

If you miss one period, it's no big deal.

But you should see a doctor if you miss more than one period in a row - something might be up.

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how high are the possibilities?

Too high.

I know of several people that have gotten pregnant because of semen accidentally and unintentionally entering the vagina.

He could probably get rid of the semen on his hands by washing his hands after coming into contact with his semen.

Then I think it'd probably be safe to do so, but I wouldn't recommend doing so until after he's washed his hands with soap and hot water.

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when I give my boyfrind a handjob and he cums and then fingers me with some possible sperm on his hands, could I get pregnant by that?

Yes, it is entirely possible.

The penis does not have to enter the vagina in order to become pregnant - only the sperm does, if it's still intact.

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My website desperately needs work! I never get any visitors and i get some bad reviews. How can I make my site better for viewers? I am under deep construction right now and nobody will help. My website is for girls ages 8-16. I see you work for BT4T which is a successful site. Any advice for me?

Hmm... What's your website link? I'll check it out.

And thank you. :)

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i'm 15 and i remember playing this ALL the time at school in the 5th grade..when it started off it had a bunch of different things you could choose like you could create music from a band or take a shape (such as a ballerina or just a dot) and trace what you want it to do (such as go down a big curly slide or dance around) and then it would do that and go all crazy or you could do things with shapes and when it loaded it had space and all the different activities..i cant remember the name does anyone know? thanks!

Hmm... Are you referring to Kid Pix? (http://www.kidpix.com/)

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how do you turn off that auto comleate thing, the thing where when you type in a letter, it comes up with other stuff you typed in with that letter. how do you turn it off? I honostly have NO idea, and i don't want it on anymore

Where is this happening?

In a specific program, like Word, or Internet Explorer?

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mmkay...so our friends birthday is coming up in like 8 days, and we want to get her something really cool and unique. We dont want to get her anything like gift cards, dvd's, money, etc! Are there any neat birthday gifts that anyone can think of?? She is 14 (turning 15) and is female.

PS. something $50 or less! Thnx!

I was looking on the internet a few days ago for some cool, unique items.

Here's a cool website:

http://www.mondonation.com/?a=shop

Mondonation lets you buy either pillowcases or t-shirts that say what you believe in.

Like "I believe (enter your belief here)"

They're really cool. :)

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i've had my period for 5 days, but on the 6th day it turned brown and on the 7th day i thought it was going to go but its still brown why is this??

It is mainly because on the last few days of your period, your body is simply getting red of the old blood that was left there from the start of your period and from your last period. It's nothing to get worried about.

The average period lasts from 5-7 days, give or take a few days. It differs for everyone.

If your period lasts for more than a week and a half, I'd consult a doctor.

But there's nothing to be worried about, it's perfectly normal.

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over the weekend i was working and i had coffee with a lot of sugar and a large soda within an hour. then i ate some candy and some ice cream. suddenly i got really light headed and naucious and started to shake uncontrollably. i was like this for an hour and then i was ok, still a little light headed. then an hour later i started shaking again and i finally fell asleep. today i woke up and i was fine but an hour later i started getting naucious again. all i ate for lunch was water and sunchips. i couldn't even smell anything sugary without getting sick. what's wrong with me because i hate being like this. it happens everytime i have a lot of sugar.

Believe it or not, sugar does not, I repeat, does not make you hyper. It's just the thought of sugar that makes some people hyper.

The sugar was probably not what made you feel all light-headed and nauseous, but rather your large soda and coffee. Was the coffee and large soda caffeinated by chance? Because caffeine withdrawl can make you lightheaded and feeling nauseous...

My word of advice: Your best bet is to stay away from caffeine for awhile. I would also try not to eat as much sugary foods either. Because too much sugar is not only bad for your health, but that's probably why you're getting nauseous as well.

If you need anymore advice, just ask. :)

-Mariah-

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i want a guy to have enough balls to answer this

why are you all such pigs????
do you ever like a girl for her personality!!!!
and why is it impossible for girls like me who have a big chest and nice body to walk into a room and not be harrassed like a slab of meat!!!!!!!!!!!!
do any of you have your own personalities or are you all just clones of your damn friends !!!!!
r there no decent guys out their!!!!!!!!!!
prove to me that u r actually decent human beings who r sensitive and care!!!!!!

Not all guys are insensitive, arrogant jerks. But I seriously know how you feel; it happens ALL of the time... :S

Usually, guys in high school and middle school care more about looks than personality because that is how the stupid media portrays women, as being objects rather than humans, and it is very demoralizing.

But usually when you get out of high school and college, you'll find that there are still some guys that care more about looks than personality, but not a lot.

You just have to find someone that likes you for you. One of your guy friends who you know and trust would be the best candidate for a boyfriend, since you know for sure that they won't judge you based on what you look like, and because they know what you look like without make-up on. :S

In ways, girls are like that, too. I admit, I go for guys that have a cute butt, over guys that might be geeky or nerdy, yet have a great personality. But girls aren't really that insensitive when it comes to this issue, as guys aren't portrayed as objects as much in the media... But, celeb hotties like Orlando Bloom, Zac Efron, Jesse McCartney, .etc are exceptions... :)

If you need anymore help, just ask! :)

-Mariah-

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Msn won't log me in today, my internet is perfectly fine, and my msn is set to log in me automatically so I didn't get my password wrong.

It told me to click troubleshoot so i did and it said DONE but it didn't say what was wrong -.- help?

This sometimes happens to me, too.

I would change the settings so that you aren't automatically logged in, because most of the time it enters a different password, for some odd reason.

I'd also change the settings so that it doesn't remember the password, because sometimes whenever you click "Sign In", it changes the password in the password box.

By un-checking both of these options, yes, you'll have to manually enter your password, but it saves time, and it actually allows you to login.

If you need anymore help, just ask. :)

-Mariah-

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Yeah this is pretty kiddish. Because I'm almost 17 but how do you know? I've been talking to a number of guys and yet I can't tell which ones really like me or not. Like what are the signals. Do they say they miss you and stuff? I just want to know some signals on how to find out if he likes me or not. thank you for your help!!!!

Hmm... It all really depends on the guy. But here are some signs that most guys show when they like a girl:

They actually listen to you what you are saying, or, they can't uphold a conversation with you because they don't know what to say.

They bring up old conversations that you've had a few days ago, a couple weeks ago, or even longer; they remember things about you. Like if you told them that your favorite ice cream flavor is vanilla, they'd bring it up into a conversation. Or if you never told them what position you play in volleyball, but they come to your games, they might say something like, "Say, I didn't know that you were a setter...".

You'll feel like you're being watched. Once you look at them, they quickly look away, so it's hard to tell when they're looking at you or not. Or, they concentrate really hard on looking at something else in the same room that you are in, so that you don't suspect that they like you, because they're shy.

They might look at their feet when they're talking to you, and it's because they're nervous as to what to say.

They might ask one of your friends or someone else about you.

They might "accidentally" bump into you at random places, like the movie theater, the mall, a restaurant, or somewhere else.

The best way to tell if they like you or not is to make eye contact with them and give them your best smile that you can possibly flash em'.

A. They get shifty eyed, or get a strange look on their face. (Run away fast!)

B. They give you a polite smile. (Just friends.)

C. They give you a huge smile in return, or they start majorly blushing. (Houston, we have a match!)


If you need anymore help, just ask. :)

-Mariah-

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im looking for a homecoming dress like kristins in newport harbor. the pink one with the bow. and i think it had some back in it too?

does anyone know where i can find one like that?
a link would be sooo much apreciated.

i didnt wanna go over 50 dollars. if thats possible.

i dont want to just order it online, i want to be able to get it at the mall. around me is like a wet seal, charolette russe, deb, gadzooks, forever 21, pretty much any store like that, but if you can find anything thats like in it in another store other than those ones its finee.

thankss soooo much.

I found some pink dresses online, some of them have bows, while others do not, however.

http://teamsugar.com/group/33421/blog/222588
http://www.seenon.com/blog/uploads/Ashley%20Simpson.jpg
http://www.misamu.com/p1969/Milla-Dress-with-Bow-Pink/product_info.html
http://www.redponyenterprises.com/items/60semmadombminipink.html
http://www.wetseal.com/productdetail.asp?mi=1300&color=432&style=38503443&token=
http://www.wetseal.com/productdetail.asp?mi=1300&color=428&style=38503573&token=

If you need anymore help, just ask. :)

-Mariah-

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there is this guy at school where i go to band and i REALLY dont like him hes kinda wierd it you make eye contact with him he'll just start talking to you and it gets freaky like 1 time i was showing something 2 my bff and he says thats cool i like it my bff and i made a site for the orchestra were in, and he showed up there and we hadn't even officaly finished it plus we hadnt told anyone the address we fially got him to leave so we figured that he must have a freewebs site so we decided to look for it and we found it under superlaneman (i think he deleted the site becouse i cant get there anymore) and on the site, hes just like my dream girl is serrh davint (me) and all like 'any1 who can find my hotties profile ill give you ten bucks'and my family takes it so lightly i mean hes stalking me

You need to tell him yourself that you don't like what he's doing and you want him to stop. You also have to tell him that you don't like him in that way, and that his perfect girl is somewhere out there, but it's not you. Don't ask him if you could just be friends, unless you really want to be friends with him.

He does sound like a freaky guy. I would just try really hard to ignore him after that, or if he continues, just keep telling him that you don't like him in that way. If he keeps doing this, I'd suggest that you go talk to a school counselor right away. They will know what to do...

If you need anymore help, just ask.

-Mariah-

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