I have spent my entire life analyzing the human mind and social situations. When I give advice, it's like I am helping them and myself. I will never judge you , I will never tell you anything that I am unsure of. I have taken many sociology, and psychology classes in pursuit of becomming a profiler. Please feel free to ask me anything. And if you are interested on my site I have many blogs that show how I see life and the human mind.
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I have been depressed for a very long time. I want to die. And I get that if I do kill myself, people will miss me or whatever. I do want to find help, but I am not sure how exactly. And you can simply tell me to see a school counselor but just read this..
*I already went to one back in December. My parents got mad because I had to go to the ER for my depression, and they got all pissed because they got a big bill from it.
*My mom has a neurological problem, so they (my parents) already have thousands of dollars to pay right now for treatment.
*Seeing a Psychologist can't happen because my insurance won't support it. So my parents are mad that they would have to pay that off on their own.
*The nearest free clinic is like 50 miles away. I would not have any ride to get there, either.
I don't know what to do!! Someone please give me some advice. Thanks. (link)
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Regardless of the circumstances of their other bills your parents need to be there for you. I had depression and lot more than just that. My parents didnt have the money either.In fact my mother had just had a heart attack. If i were you i would sit one of your parents down OR your favorite teacher. A school councilor is the best person to see. Now hold on because i know you are thinking "yeah yeah yea i tried that" But in reality you havent. Back then you told someone you were depressed and your parents got upset. You need to talk to them and tell them the WHOLE story. That your parents dont have the money and that you dont know what to do. You have to understand depression is not something that should be taken lightly. Its a very serious thing, and they are right people would miss you. Your parents need to understand that. A school councilor needs to talk to them about it. I know it seems hard but in the end it could save your life. Keep your head up. You arent alone.
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so i have a crush on a guy in one of my classes and i've been talking to him alot for the past week...we won't really talk at school because we don't see eachother. but so far we've talked just about everynight since last tuesday. (4/24) and the other night we talked from 12- 3:30 AM and then the other night we talked from like 11-12:30 on the phone. and i'm trying to flirt with him more but i don't know how to without being too obvious or sounding stupid. i'm not sure how to hint to him i like him without coming out and saying i like you. but i mean if you talk to a guy from 11:45- 3:30 on a monday night thats gotta mean something right?? Ugh, I'm just not sure how i should hint to him that i like him. any ideas? (link)
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Easy ways to get a guy to open up ask certain questions the best one that worked for me.
When it gets quiet and there is a pause ask:
"What are you thinking about?"
He will either ask you what YOU are thinking about if he does, thats usually a good indication that he is in the same boat as you.
Or ask him what he looks for in a girl. They will usually describe you. Then ask you the same question.
Men are simple creatures, and usually shy. But yes talking until 3:30 that means something.Good luck sweet heart
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i'm not "sexually active" i mean i don't have a bf so yeah. but i'm 15/f and should i like shave "donw there" or not?
i mean like during the summer i shave like a bikini line but should i shave like all of it?
and when i do become "sexually active" should i? (link)
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Most guys like a woman that shaves but that isnt something you need to worry about right now. Worry about your legs. =) You can trim it if you want. A lot of women shave down there because its more comfortable for them. When you become sexually active you could start, men seem to like it. However some guys dont like a girl with NO HAIR at all. Its more of a preference thing. When the time comes ask the guy, he will tell you. But for now, dont worry about it unless it makes you comfortable.
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There is this girl jesse, and she is constantly flirting with my boyfriend! I am sooooo sick of it! cuase not only does she flirt with him she does it in front of me! my best friend told her to stop flirting with him and she's like, omg Amanda (that's me) need to stop being so over protective of him! then she said she's not even flirting with him! But the problem is she never stop flirting with him! she'll go up and start poking him in his sides and belly and will be all touchy on him and it just makes me uber mad! please tell me what i should do! cuase confronting her doesn't work!
Thanks,
Manders (link)
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She isn't the one to confront, he is. Tell him it is making you mad. If he cares about you, he should tell her to back off. You have every right to be upset about it. And if i were you i would confront him about it in front of her, so she understands you arent playing around and so he understands that too. You aren't being over protective, if someone did that to my fiance i would scratch their eyes out. Put your foot down, he allows her to do it, he is just as guilty.
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I have this best friend. We have been together since we were in day care (before we were in school) Recently she has been really mean. She tells me to shut up constantly. I'm not the smartest person (common sense wise) and I think she gets annoyed with how dumb I am. I really can't help it. I'm not one of those girls who is really dumb because they make themselves be dumb. I don't get things but I don't say I don't get them it's just that she has known me so long she knows when I don't get things. Anywho...she bosses me around all the time. She tells me I'm dumb. She corrects everything I say. When I try to talk to her you can tell she is annoyed if I even say hi. I'm not soooo dumb all the time. I really am book smart. I have all A's and I'm sitting 4th in my class of 561. What do you think it is? How can I talk to her? (link)
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I had a friend like that. Sounds like someone has an insecurity that she is taking out on you. Don't back down. Next time she does it, stop her, for once YOU tell HER how it is. That you aren't dumb, she is being a bully, the best way to stop a bully is to stand up to them.Some people are book smart some people are street smart. If you have all A's you arent stupid. You need to make her understand that.She will have a whole new outlook when you correct her for once.
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my best friend zach, and now x-boyfriend, got locked up october 1, 2006. we had been writing for a long time untill it was time for his court date and that was the last letter i got. after that, they sentinced him for a longer time and also said he was not aloud to write me. durring that period that he wrote me, and when i found out that he couldnt write anymore, i cried every night. he ment so much to me. we told eachother everything and then it was like he fell off the earth. its hurt me ever since.
BUT since then, ive gotten a new boyfriend jordan. but i keep having dreams about zach. it used to be just silly dreams like him comming back and how happy i was to see him and what i did when i saw him. usually somewhat of the same dream. but once in a while, i get a wierd dream, and last night i woke up wanting to cry because in this dream i called zachs parents and told them to let him call me because if he didnt i was going to forget about him. he called me that night, and was like "please dont forget about me, dont leave me. i love you, you love me. please dont." and i just said "im sorry i cant, i cant do this i love jordan." he was just begging me and that hurt me so much eventually in my dream i was like "im sorry zach, i have to go..." and hung up the phone. the wierd part was i was like watching it from above. and it upset me all day...
so i guess im asking if anyone wants//could interprate my dream for me because im so lost. its just hurting me inside so bad. thank you. (link)
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You never had closure he just stopped talking to you thats your minds way of giving you closure so you can be with your new bf. Sometimes our minds like to give us friendly reminders. Its just your minds way of letting go and moving on since you arent physically with him to tell him goodbye
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Ok well a while back my sister (who is 14 and i'm thirteen) was looking through her old school pictures and she found one of third grade and so she decided to go on myspace and see if anyone had one and she only found one so she started talking to him and then she left her messenger on one day so i got on and told him i'm jessicas(mysister) sister and so then we started talking for a few months and we started to like each other and we promised each other that when either of us get a car we would drive out to see each other cause he lives in new hamshire and i live in wisconsin so we stopped talking for like a couple months then he messaged me saying he's sorry if it felt like he pushed me away but he got grounded and that he missed talking to me and what not so i really like him even though the last time we saw each other in person was when i was in 2nd grade n he was in 3rd so bascially does he like me i mean by reading this well i mean he says he does but i dont know someone help basically whats your opinion on this situation thanks in advance and please dont judge (link)
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Im sure he does, but its hard to tell what a guy is thinking when he is in the same room as you, let alone what he is thinking in a different state. You have 3 years until you can drive. A lot can happen in 3 years. I would keep in touch then in the future who knows...maybe you will be a cute couple. =)
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ok im 15m and i gave my self a tatoo how do you care for a tatoo like i did sterilis the neddal and use ink from a pen but other than that idk wat else should i do (link)
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ointment LOTS of it, keep it moist dont let it try up and crack.
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OK well theres 2 guys we will call one Bob, and then other Evan
Ok well i really like Bob and Evan.
Bob and I went out last year, and everything was pretty good. but then he broke up with me and then everything was pretty sucky. However later i started to like Evan, but Evan's parents thought that he was "too old" for me. which is kinda weird b/c my parents should be the one saying that hes too old. But i'm 14 very soon 15, and he just turne 18, so really its not that bad. But Evan and I remained pretty good friends even though his parents wouldn't let us hang out or anything.
Now Bob decided that he like me again? We went to the movies, he totaly lead me on, and the next week he changed his mind and said that he thought it just wouldn't work?? But then i talked him into letting me have another chance. He charged his mind back and forth like a million times, but as of now its that he likes me. I really really like bob, like more than anyone else even Evan. However Evan's parents decided to stop being retarded and now are ok with us hanging out so i think this weekend we might do something.
Ok so you might be asking ok well wahts the problem, you have two guys that like you. And the whole picking one isn't really the problem neither. The problem is, I like(d) Evan a lot before and i still do. but we just have to be friends so i kinda got used to that...I really like BOB like a lot. But the thing with him is that he never acts like he likes me. IN school he won't talk to me, not even say hey in the halls we just ignore eachother. and then with Evan its the competly opposite, hes relaly really nice to me, gives me hugs, and waits for me after classes...you know actually acts like he does like me.
I WANT Bob the most, but i like Evan the best-like the way he actually does talk to me in school. I really have no idea what to do. i just like bob and evan, but i want bob the most, but he dosn't act like he likes me at all. I hate it soo much idk waht to do. (link)
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Dont let yourself get hurt. That is what BOB is going to do i can tell you that already. There is nothing good about being in a secluded relationship. Evan seems like a sweet guy. Maybe a little old but age is just a number as long as there is no sex. Evan sounds like the real man in the situation. Bob seems like he just wants you around when there is no one else there. Never push away the nice guy, they might not be Mr. Perfect but they are better than a guy that wont give you the time of day unless you are alone.
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Broke up on April 23, 2007
Relationship lasted for 3 months (since January 16, 2007)
He began not acting like a boyfriend as in not walking with me, hardly talking to me, over all he ignored me.
His reason for breaking up: Computers && Videogames [WTF?!?!?!!?!?]
Now me, i took our relationship too seriously and unfortunately i really fell for him even though my friends warned me not to take it too seriously cause he's like a kid you know into video games and stuff .. not all that mature yet.
My problem is that i can't get over him. Worst part, we're in the same class so i have to see him everyday. I also get a feeling that i might be able to get over him but i just choose not to.
Help me please! Thanks! =] (link)
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Men are cute because they simple.No man grows up my fiance is 34 and he plays more video games than anyone. Now if it were me i would walk up to his desk put a sucker on it, and say "Does the little boy want a sucker?" and pinch his cheek. Its hard to get over someone you love. I would see if any of your friends have a friend. Nothing helps you forget your man better than another man. Or maybe what you need is closure or the need to vent how you feel. Maybe go up to him and ask him what his REAL reason is. And if he still says video games , smile and say ok apologize and tell him you were sorry you mistook him for a real man. Then walk away. You will get the real reason out. And it will feel good to give him a smack in the face for being stupid about it.
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ok sorry if this is long...
so i'm 14/f and in 8th grade. and back when i was in sixth grade me and this guy jamie really liked each other. but we always pretended we didn't, but we both knew we liked each other. then, half way through sixth grade he moved to hong kong, like actually to live there. we talked online a little bit and we both admitted that we liked each other. then during 3rd quarter that year i started going out with this guy ben. well, school in hk wasn't working out for jamie, so he came back for 4th quarter. but i was still going out with ben then, so jamie stopped flirting with me. but i dumped ben before jamie went back to hong kong, and then we flirted. so anyway, during 7th grade i talked to jamie a little bit and we both play tennis, so he said that over the summer we should play tennis together. well i forgot about it, but over the summer i got a call from him about "taking me up on that tennis match". so we played tennis and then he asked me to go to a movie with him, then he went back to hong kong. so then this year, he came back here for a week for his friend's bar mitzvah. he kind of talked to me a little, but very, very little. i think he liked me over the summer (maybe) but he's coming back this summer and i want to know what i should expect. i am willing to have a long distance relationship with him, but what should i do about it? call him when he's in town? we go to the same country club, so i'll see him at tennis, but i really want to have a relationship with him. what should i do? thanks so much (link)
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Ok ill be honest. Im sure you really like this guy but let me tell you about a little personal experience of mine. When i was 15 I met a guy. Oh my gosh he was the most beautiful amazing guy ever. I fell head over heals. I lived in MI he lived in FL. Things ended up happening and he said we could have a long distance relationship. All i thought about was him when i went home. Then one day he just stopped calling and paging me. It tore me apart so bad that i became severely depressed. What i am trying to tell you hun, is that long distance relationships at your age, are very VERY difficult to keep up.You are young why tie yourself down? When he is in town I would go up to him and talk to him and make the best of it maybe even go on some dates. But dont tie yourself down to him. In the end it will hurt you, even if your relationship seems ok. You will miss him and it will make you sad, and because you are tied down you wont be able to take your mind off him because you will feel guilty for even talking to another guy. Then if he moves back, hey! You guys might make an awesome couple. But wait until you know for sure he is what you want, because let me tell you losing them even from that far away will tear your heart apart. See other guys, then when you two meet later and live closer to eachother there will be that anticipation and it will make your relationship that much stronger.
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Okay.. so there is this guy that i honestly for real love. i don't think he loves me back. but we have been on and off for about 2 years now, and the last time we were together we did some stuff.. not sex. but other stuff.. and then he ended it with me, and prom was coming around, and im a soph. and at our school it is junior prom. so it was no big deal that i didn't go. but instead he goes with someone.. who is kinda my friend.. fine.. didn't care.. well i kinda did. but i got over it. and now i hear that he likes her, and she doesn't like him. don't care about that either.. but we just started talking again, and he told me that we should party this weekend, and i said alright.. and we kinda have jus this fun little bet going, that he thinks ill have sex with him, because he thinks i want it that bad. and i say i won't. and thats all u need to know about that. but see the thing is. i don't know if he jus using me.. again ((well kinda again)) cause he jus wants to have sex or w/e, or if he really does like me again. and another thing is i am a virgin. so this would be my first, and i know that if i do do it with him it'll mean something to me.. i jus don't know about him. so i jus need help on this whole situation!! if i could have a few ppl help me.. that would be great! so PLEASE HELP! Thanks*
Sorry it was so long! :) (link)
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If there is a bet going on, i would be careful. Sounds like he has something up his sleeve. Men can be vicious creatures especially at that age. Look, if you are having any doubts about it, chances are you dont want to do it. I would go, but if you start feeling uncomfortable i would let him know. And be a woman tell him upfront "If you are using me, I am not going, I dont need to put myself through the pain so you can entertain yourself."
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my cats hate me. theres 2 of them. whenever i try to pet them they run away. but sometimes they'll come running to me. its like they only like me for 10minutes once a week and thats the only time they'll let me pet them. what's the point of having cats if you cant pet them. ok so yeah how do i get them to like me. food does not work! (link)
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I have a cat that will growl at you if you hold her, but will rub her face all over mine at night. Cats are independent creatures. Unlike dogs ,usually they will only give affection when they want it. Its not that they dont like you, think of it this way. They have a short attention span. You try to pet them or hold them and they are saying to you "But mom there is stuff over there that i need to get into!" Trust me if they didnt like you you would never see them. And they would run away and never consider coming up to you. They just want to play. Trust me i have 4 of the things.
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me and my best guy friend used to be friends with benefits for about half a year. we both promised each other that we wouldn't say anything. ok so i couldnt take it anymore and i told my most trustworthy friend that we felt each other up which was only a tiny bit of what we did. she swore she wouldnt tell anyone. well about 2 months later, drama started and my "friend" decided to tell people that me and my guy friend made out. i did not tell her that. ok so anyway now this guy wont talk to me after i apologized everyday for two weeks because people were coming up to him asking him about the things we did. now its about two weeks later. i thought me and the guy were good and going to start being friends again. at a dance we danced together and we were joking around. now today i talked to him and he said he doesn't want to be friends and that he thinks we can never be friends again because he thinks i told everyone for some sort of social status. he knows im not that type of girl. how am i supposed to get his trust back because i really care about him and he was a good friend to me. i can't apologize anymore because its obviously not doing anything for him. i can't convince him that i didn't say all of what the rumors said. i want a fresh start and he wants to forget i exist, what am i supposed to do? (link)
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comfront her in front of him.Not in an attacking way. Just pull her aside not around anyone else with him and say "I want you to say i said these things to our faces" I mean how is she going to lie right in front of you? It really shouldnt be that big of a deal anyway. Its not like you had sex. I would pull him aside too and ask him whats really bothering him.
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Sorry this is kind of long!
I was talking to my BEST friend we'll call her 'A' and 'A' gave me her friend's cousin's myspace. We will call him 'B'. So I got 'B's screen name and started talking to him. He is a really nice guy and REALLY cute. He is in another state but he's moving here in the summer. 'A' is obsessed with him. She thinks he likes me but I think differently. I sent 'A's picture to 'B' and I had him rate it. He said then that she got a 7. 10 being beautiful, 1 being ugly. Then he asked for my picture and I sent it. 'B' gave me an 8. Now 'A' is sad because she really thinks he likes me not her. Now she gets sad at times and like don't talk when she is normally really up beat girl. I always ask her if she's mad at me and she says no. I really like 'B' too. Sometimes she says, "But ___(my name)____ I knew him first!" And we don't get in fights but I just don't know what to do. 'A' and I both like 'B'. What should I do?
Thanks in advance,
Mimzy (link)
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Never live to make someone else happy. Maybe it would be best if neither of you went for him. I'll be honest it sounds like he has an interest in you. Her pouting isn't the way to solve the issue. She gave you his myspace, now she is mad at you because he took in an interest in you. Its kind of her own fault. The best advice i can give if you dont want it to effect your friendship is for neither of you to hook up with him. I would also talk to him about it. Ask him what he thinks. Who knows maybe he could help
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my friend is a maniac and likes to inflict pain. he has tried to commit suicide multiplye times. i want to get him help, who should i report him too. he needs serious mental health and he is a serious danger to himself and others around him (link)
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First of all if your friend has tried "multiple times" he isnt suicidal he is looking for attention. Report him to a school social worker you can do it without him ever knowing. If you arent in school still, tell a family member you are "worried".
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I guess lately I've been having self esteem issues.
See, the begining of the year, I got really sick, with something almost like the chicken pox, it wasnt that though, it was something rare. It left deep scabs, and they left deep scars, on my back, legs, pretty much everywhere, including my face.
The face part is really what bothers me, I have deep scars, not really horribly deep. But its like an indent.
And whenever I see pictures of myself before that,
it makes me feel really ugly, in fact, I have looking at pictures of me before that, because I know I will never look like that again.
:( (link)
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scars make us unique , and scars also heal over time. I speak personally. I had a heat rash that would form all over me. I looked like a leopard. It was embarassing. It would scab up then fall off leaving scars all over my shoulders back and arms. It bothered me, until a friend told me "it is a characteristic of who you are and your past." Dont cake it with makeup . Think of it this way. Some women get burned and half their face is a big scar. So it could be worse right. Remember that not every person sees things the same. Who knows maybe you will meet a guy with a scar fetish ;) Your beautiful no matter what, dont be ashamed of yourself anyone that judges you for it, is obviously a self loathing, self hating moron anyway.
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hey i am 15/f and i am a really depressed person i have a really really low self esteme and i don't know why i mean i am not ugly but sometimes i feel like i am and feel that i can't go anywhere because of the way i look i feel like i would look grose to people even though there is nothing wrong with me and alot of people like me and alot of people think i am really pretty but sometimes i just don't see it
can you help me find someways that will help me see that i am not ugly
how can i look at myself and actually like the way i look for once (link)
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Dont be afraid of who you are. TV and magazine ads make us think we have to be a supermodel to be pretty. I know how you feel. You could get dressed up, look in the mirror and think you look so great. But when you go outside and you see a girl that you want to look like , you hang your head down because in YOUR head she is better than you and you feel stupid for trying. Sometimes a makeover can help boost confidence. Try doing something new. Do something different than everyone else with your hair, or clothes. Keep your head up when you cross paths with them. Nothing is more attractive than a girl with confidence. There are plenty of women out there who are beautiful and they arent 100 pounds 5'7 blonde hair blue eyes. They are beautiful because they hold their heads high. Do the same.
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Okay, so lately I have been feeling very apathetic about things like; school, relationships, friendships, and my family. I used to be such a 'nice' person according to my friends and family. But then suddenly my personality's changing, and I really don't know why. It's not an existential kind of problem, but more of 'I don't know who I am as a person' kind of problem. It's been really bothering my lately, and it has been deteriorating the relationships I have made around the people that I really care about. I didn't think that I needed help for this, but it's really bugging me. How can I know who I really am as a person? (link)
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Close your eyes. Imagine something. A situation. Picture yourself in it. Are you wearing black, white, pink? Is your hair long or short? Whats your hobbies? Form a perfect image of yourself FOR yourself. Sometimes music can help you set the scene for yourself. When you think of yourself in the future, how do YOU see yourself? You will be amazed at what you will learn about yourself sometimes.
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14yr old female..... ok so i get hard core mood swings, i will be like happy about something for a minit but like in a split second i get super depresed and i meen DEPRESSED. then angry against everything!!!! i dont know what to do?!?!?!
thank you for your help = ) (link)
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Right now you are going to go through a lot of horomonal mood swings. Your best bet when you get upset is to listen to something that makes you happy. Sometimes even listening to music that matches your mood and then slowly progressing happier songs help. Day dream when you listen to it, make your own music video's in your head and make yourself the star in them. I know that burst of anger your talking about. It shoots up from your gut into your chest and gives you chills of anger. And when you cry, you dont know why, but you are just so upset. Music is the antidote. Consider it a form of meditation. If you EVER feel it is out of your control tell someone so you can get some help. Sometimes medication really does help.
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