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hey, i'm not a very nice person if i get pissed off, but i've gone through a lot in my life so i think that i can give good advice on a lot of things. if anyone isn't sure that they can talk to someone because they don't understand then feel free to IM me on my AIM and i can talk to you, and i don't mind letting you guys know about my past.
*~*shan*~*


ps
(this is my favorite quote) "as long as you've got one person in the world, you've already betten the odds"



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hi there people really bother me in school, i dont have much friends and they all tease me. boys call me a mutt and a dog and disguting pig, im not fat though and im not reallly ugly. girls bark and moo at me and push me and im sick of it, i have 2 bestfriends but they dont stick up for me. if these people knew what i been through like, my dad died when i was 6 and my bothers friggen a crack head, ligit and my sisters a big whore who doesnt talk to the whole fam.. i dont have anyone and im sick of it, what should i do?

there's nothing you can do (don't take this the wrong way) but if you tell people about what's going on in your personal life they are going to think that you just want sympathy. and i know that's not what you want. find outwhy your friends don't stick up for you if they are your friends then why can't they show it? the strongest person in the world is the one who can overcome any obstical. all you need to do is be strong try not to let what others say bring you down and i know that you'll be ok

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ok i had sex with a condom like at the beginning of april. im not susposed to start my period until the beginning of may. but every morning for like that past week my stomach has felt just a little bit upset in the morning and a little into the late afternoon. but my bobs dont hurt and im not throwing up and im not smelling anythign unusual. and i just got over having a really bad sinus cold. so should i be worried or not? please help me guys!!

if you used a condom then you should be ok. you could either be getting sick or you're just stressing yourself out which can cause you to feel sick

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Ok so finally after a month of being 16, im going to get my permit. My only problem is i havent studdied the book since my birthday . I got the book 2 weeks before my bday and studdied it up to my bday, but since then i havent studdied it..now i cant find the book.
My question : Is the permit test for New York hard? Do you think i will be able to pass based on common sense? What questions do they ask? Should i wait more and take it some other time? Today is a good day though because im off from school...its hard to take it because the place that gives the test is open mon-fri and the latest test they give is at 3 or something..im so busy with sports and school this seems like a good day..but maybe i should wait..i dont know?

yeah it's mostly just common sense. i didn't study it much and i passed with flying colors

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I have been feeling like I'm ugly,fat, and that nobody likes me. I have a little poll in my profile for AIM and its like Am I Ugly? The Majority said I was pretty but when I looked who picked what Drew(the guy I used to like and hes kinda my friend) said I was Ugly. And My Friend Emmie said I was ugly too....And all of these people that aren't my friends said I was pretty....but anyways after Drew said that I was ugly I have just been feeling really bad about myself....I'm not sure why either because I have realized not to care about what other people think but now I just can't help it...Does anyone have some suggestions on what I should do to help me feel better or might know why I am feeling this way? I rate high and leave comments if your going to say something mean please don't say anything at all!

i suggest going with your mom for a mother daughter date, go out and buy yourself a new outfit, get your nails done (mani and pedi) and just pamper yourself. i don't know about you but i love how i feel after a day like that. of course it's even better when you don't have to pay for anything. :-) you'll be fine, and 9 times out of 10 the most pretty girls are the ones who think they are not

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ok me, joan, & laura all skipped our electives today. i need your guys help!!! idk what to do
ppl know laura did because her 2 elective teacher called her other teachers to see if she was absent! i feel very guilty & regretful. i told my parents already. but mostly all my grade knows we did because joan is very popular! so what do i do about my rep? what do i say to people taht give me odd looks? what do i do when my teachers+principals ask me questions??? I NEED YOUR HELP ADVICE-ISTS

skipping school isn't going to ruin your rep. lots of kids skip. most of the kids in your classes who aren't in school are skipping

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Hi im Jess i am 13 years old and i have a boyfriend that is the greatest. Well sometimes we have these little fights over something stupid and we usually brake up cause we were imature. Anyways now that we sorta grew up i was wondering after getting in a fight what can we do just to get past this problem so it wont result to an other brake up? plz help i rate good.

~From Jess~

my boyfriend and i tend to fight over randomly stupid things, we used to just fight then not talk for a day or two, then we grew up, and got past it, now whenever we have a problem we take a time out and just work it out. all problems can be fixed with a little communication

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I believe in sex after marriage, but my boyfriend is persisiting i have sex with him. He aggrivates me ALL the time and I can see myself giving in. I know I will regret it as soon as I've done "the deed". I'm confused as to what I should do; should I choose the easy option and give in? or go by my wishes and wait?

someone who tried to push you into sex isn't a good guy to be with. if you want to wait until marriage to have sex then that's your choice you need to find someone who can respect your wishes.

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my friends mom is lets say not the nicest person in the world. my friend comes into school with bruses (not big ones but they shoulden't be there in the first place) and fingernail marks on her. i ask her and she just says her mom and her got in an argument, and not to worry, but i do. i really want to help her but i don't know what to do. please help

you should worry, it sounds like your friend is being abused and that is something huge you need to talk to someone such as your mom. she'd be the best person to ask about something like that. mom's always seem to know the right thing to do in situtaionslike that

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Does anyone have any tips for swallowing pills? I have some pills from my doctor for a bronchidal infection, and they were huge, I had to cut them up into fourths, yet they still are tough to get down. Tips or tricks?

i put pills in peanut butter and just eat it fast, i don't use water because there is still the chance of being able to taste the pill. i use like juice or something. hope that helps

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ok i like this guy ALOT and were going out but my friend also likes him and shes not talking to me because im going out with him but she also told me over and over again go out with him he really likes you and i kept telling her no no because of you and he told her before we were going out that he didnt like her he liked me so now im going out with him and i dont know wbout my friend...

i need help!

it's not your fault if he likes you and not her, she'll just have to deal with it

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Ok, well me and my boyfriend broke up last night. I'm actually kind of happy, cause now I can see what a jerk he was, but here's what happened: I'm kind of upset over something that's happening at my house and only my best friend and my mom knows, and he kept on going, what's wrong? please tell me. And I told him I wasn't ready to tell him, and he wouldn't stop bothering me about it, and started saying things like, you won't tell your bf a damn thing and that I was pissing him off. So we just broke up. I really felt like he was pressuring me and I didn't want to tell him. And another thing, when we were going out, he would always say he loved me, and I would think that he didn't, because first off, we were online bf/gf, but he only lives an 1 away and we were gonna meet at the movies real soon, but like, how can he love me when we've never even met? And second, we only went out for a month, and I remember him saying that the first day we went out and I totally think he was abusing it. My question is, was he being a jerk and broke up with me for no reason, or should I have told him "just cause we're going out"? And what do you think about him saying I love you. Because I think that if he did, he would have given me the time and waited until I was ready to tell him. And today, I got online and he had "TASHA" with a winky face next to it. Well, he sure has moved on. What do you think about it? Thanks, I'll rate if good.
x3 Erin

hey if you don't want to tell your boyfriend something that is going on in yourlife because you're not ready to do so then he should respect that. i think he was being a jerk

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theres this guy at school that all my friends are friends with, but i havent really liked him from the start... maybe its b/c i hear all these bad things he says behind one of my best friends back... anyways what should i do...
i've tried being nice to him and talking to him more but, he just obviously doesn't like me eigher...if i could learn to be friends with him... that would be great, but he doesn't really want to be... or at least thats what i heard from one of my friends
One more thing... should i try to forget all of these mean things that he has said behind my friends back??
-confused

don't worry about the mean things that he says, it doesn't matter what he thinks of you, but if you can be friends with him then that would be good if not, and you feel that you can't say anything nice about him, i've learned that as long as you don't say mean things in front of his friends then you won't have a problem. give it a try

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ok, everybody has a different deffintion of love, and i want to know what you think about it. it can be serious, or just goofy. i dont care, but i wanna know that you all think of it. and do you believe in love at first site?? thnx

i don't believe in love at first site, i think that a person needs to take a closer look at that person and really know everything the good and the bad before they can love them. yes love can be serious it may start out goofy but it can always turn out to be serious. it all depends on how serious the people who are involved with each other are.

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well...i just saw the movie 'something like love' and it got me thinking. does love like that actually exist? i'm sure not many people have seen it yet as it is a new movie...but they just seemed so, i don't know, made for each other. it was surreal. i know in real life guys might not stand outside and sing to you with a guitar to win your heart...but the way they felt for each other...does that really happen? thanks!

well guys might not sing outside your window, but hey i'm glad that my boyfriend doesn't do that, most guys can't sing lol. i think that love like that is real. mostly because it's how i feel about my boyfriend and vice versa

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I like this kid alot, we went out a while ago but things were different then. hes become alot more popular wit the girls and everything now, and hes really cocky too, i told him i still liked him and he said he might like me and i wouldnt be wasteing my time going for him. But he'll flirt on and off and says he doesnt like anyone. should i just give up on him or try and make him like me.

he sounds like he's just trying to be a player, i wouldn't suggest wasting your time but if you like him then give it a try.

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14/ f..ok to start out i've been with the guy for a little over a month. im really talkative but i still chock up cuz sometimes im not sure he really likes me. he has a hard time expressing himself and he has a phone-phobia. is it wrong for the girl to call everytime. i dont call everyday but i feel like im being pushy since i was the one that asked him out. what your view? thanx.

hey it's 2005 a girl can do anything that a guy can do, as long as you're not calling him a million times throught the day i don't see what the big deal is. once a day isn't a crime, unless he tells you not to call then you're fine

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What is Chlamydia?

an std the girls get

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Yeah...so my friend is staying at my house for a week because her parents are out of town. But my house is so....BORING! And the TV is broken, so that pretty much stinks. =( Any ideas what we can do??? ITS SOOOO BORING!!!! lol

13/f (both of us)

well hey it seems that you have a computer, why not just stay online and chat with people?

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My Mum hates me she hits me all the time wat can I do?

talk to someone, a trusted adult, or even call the police and tell them that you're being abused. no child deserves to get hit by their parent

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Well everytime i go some where like walking around my neighbor hood or driving in my car all these guys stop and look at me! its really starting to make me mad. I was walking home from school and this guy stopped and asked me my name and stuff. and just today a car full of guys stopped and asked me to come over to them its really gettin on my nerves. i dont dress slutty or any thing i just wear jeans a a big shirt or shorts and a long shirt. how do i get them to stop!

well hey it's clear they all think you're hot, just as long as none of them try anything then i think you should take is as a compliment, and ignor them if they make you mad.

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