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I'm twelve years old and my sister is fifteen years old. I also have two other sister.Me and my fifteen year old sister are always fighting she always teases me and then I yell at her. We just never seem to get along. How do I stop? I don't want to be hating her when I'm and adult. (link)
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I always fought with my brother when I was younger. I finally grew out of it though. So you just need to stop. If she teases you, ignore it. She's picking fights with you and you're obviously gonna get mad but don't say anything because it will just get worse.
You could also try talking to her but if that doesn't work, just don't try fighting with her or don't say anything back when she makes fun of you.
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Well, I have a problem. I like this guy, but he recently broke up with his girlfriend like a week ago. And I want him to ask me out cuz he used to have a crush on me. And now, I like him. He says Im cute but nothing happens. He wanted to kiss me when he was dating her. But, the problem is that, she's one of my best friends. And he broke up with her but im scared to go out with him because I dont wanna hurt her feelings. And she still likes him, but she doesnt know that I like him. (link)
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Well I would wait awhile. If you do go out with him, it will hurt her feelings. Plus this girl is your best friend. It is your choice to go out with him and all but still, it's kinda a back stab move.
There is a chance you'd lose her as a friend. I'd always choose friends over the guy because friends are usually around longer than the guy is.
So it's all up to you. If you do decide to go out with him, make sure you wait awhile and that you tell your friend.
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Ok so My boyfriend and i have been dating for 3 months, when we had our first kiss i felt something i never felt before, im guessing that's the spark, So we just kissed like normal (not making out ) then after 2 months of dating we decided to start making out, every since we started making out i dont feel the spark .... Is this normal, I love kissing him and all but i havent kissed him normally for a month now :/ i havent felt the spark for a month, should i tell him or... Can i make there be a spark when we make out ? (link)
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Well there isn't always a "spark" when you kiss someone. Like the person below said, you just get more comfortable with them.
If you still like them and want to be with them then it's fine.
If you're saying you're losing feelings for him, then that's different and it's probably not because of the kissing. It's just the feelings for him.
So if you know how you feel about him then that should help you out.
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i have a friend whos had sex many times with many different guys. Shes really kool, but most people say shes a hoe. Shes only 13 and had sex with over 3 different guys, She even gave head to a boy younger than her, i dont know how to tell her without hurting her feelings? any sugestions would be appreciated. (link)
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Well I would just talk to her about it. You probably won't change her mind about doing all this but you could at least give it a try.
You can't really do anything else for her except that. Anything else probably won't get to her head.
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When a guy tells his friend that he thinks you are too innocent what does that even mean?
My guy friend was trying to hook me up with his friend, so we all went out and i asked my friend what he thought and he said, i was alright looking but was too innocent, what does that even mean? please help! and what do you recommend i do for the future?
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Probably you looked like a good girl who wouldn't sleep around or something.
Just stay the way you are because you don't want to be some easy girl. So it's all good, just find a better guy.
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Ok, so there's this guy who I text with. We have good communication he has asked me out before. But, it's this year that I like him. He had a girlfriend. And he broke up with her. And he knows I now, like him. He flirts with me, and he was going to kiss me while he had a girlfriend. But, I said no and got mad at him because he was in a relationship. Now, that he's single he doesnt talk to me about that or anything. Im the one that has to make a conversationo. And I try not texting him everyday, so he wont think Im obsessed or weird. So, I send him love notes. And he says they're cute and that I'm cute but, I think he doesnt like me because he doesnt tell me even though he knows I like him. So, I dont know what to do anymore.. (link)
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Well you can't make someone like you like that and obviously, you don't wanna make yourself look too into him or obsessed. So I would just stop and see if he makes any effort to talk to you more.
Since he was in a relationship before and wanted to kiss you and stuff, he was probably looking for some fun right? Who knows, I don't personally know the guy so I don't know what he was thinking.
He might like you, he might not. So I'd say just become good friends with him and see where that goes. Good luck!
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Why do others call me stuck up cause I'm shy?
I'm not around family and friends. I'm just sometimes quiet around people I never talked too or I'm quiet when I'm tired. Sometimes when I first meet people it takes me a while to come out of my shell cause I think I'm going to get judged . I'm happy and smiling all of the time. That’s just how I am, a happy person. Since elementary school I've heard girls say that I'm stuck up or "I think I'm all that". I honestly feel like I'm the nicest person I never talked bad about someone even behind their backs. There's no point if you think about it, you never know what someone's going through. I'm not a bitch. It won't get you anywhere in the future. Can someone tell me why people do call me stuck up cause I'm shy? I really don't get it
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I've gotten that a couple times. Just because you're shy doesn't mean you're stuck up and they don't get that.
If you want them to stop saying all that crap then start talking some more. Either that or you can just ignore their comments because they're the ones that are judging, not you.
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Well, i have a best friend who's a guy.... And he's really nice and funny... But here's the problem: For the past month, I've been feeling all nervous and happy when I'm around him, but I just want to know: Does this mean I like him or not? And if I do like him, what do I do to not let him know and make our friendship weird?? (link)
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You probably do like him or you're starting to like him.
If you want him to know you like him, just give small signs and if you guys get closer to where you guys kinda flirt with each other you could tell him him how you feel.
If he doesn't feel the same tell him you want it to be normal and not all weird.
It'll only be all weird if you make it weird. Like acting kinda awkward and all that.
I'm sure it'll all be fine though. Good luck!
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so I'm a 13 yearold girl and ive had boyfriends and guys that have liked me, not sounding concieted or anything but I liked a guy named Reed and he liked me back but then we both stopped liking eachother,and I started to like one of my other good guy friends who liked me but then got a girlfriend. I know no one but me can tell me who I like but if anyone has advice to help me our with this situation, please feel free to do. (:
because I'm not sure which one I like. there both my good guy friends, I just don't know which one I like. neither does anyone else but please help. :) (link)
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Well you know we can't pick who you should like since we don't know the guys at all.
Like the person below said, you don't have to like anyone. You'll know when you really like someone. I say you should keep these two guys as your friends and you'll find a guy you really like soon without having the trouble of figuring out if you should like them or not.
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I'm a 13 year old girl, to some it may sound too young for making out but ive never made out or kissed anyone before. I'm also very self conscious, and I have had boy friends and guys that I have liked that have liked me back. but when the time comes (I hope it comes soon even though I'm nervous) I want to no how to do it. Any advice helps :)
Thank you ! (: (link)
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Well I don't think you really need to stress out about it. It's just kissing. Moving your lips more and maybe tongue but it's not like it's hard.
You don't need to be self conscious about it either. I mean when you do have your first kiss, it'll be with a guy who really likes you and wouldn't push you for anything right? If you choose the right guy then you won't have to worry about feeling so self conscious because he won't mind if you haven't kissed anyone.
If it helps any, I didn't have my first kiss till I was 15. I'm 16 right now, almost 17 so almost a year ago. It will come naturally, trust me.
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so my two best friends are turning into sluts. every weekend we go out together and they sleep with a different guy. sometimes they don't even use protection. they're getting an awful reputation. they're also sleeping with guys who have girlfriends. i've talked to them about it and they just say they know what they're doing and that they're careful. i'm really concerned about them because they have always been there for me and are the nicest and best friends i could ever ask for (don't really feel like elaborating but they really are true friends). I just don't know what to do :/ I also don't want people to think I'm a slut because I'm best friends with them (even though I'm a virgin hah). (link)
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Well you should talk to them again but there is a very big chance they won't listen anyway. There isn't much you can do in this situation. I know you love them so obviously you're gonna want to change and help them but they won't always want that. You should just stay the better influence and hope that maybe they'll see what you're doing is better.
People will probably think you're a slut because you're best friends with them. It's just how it is. So if you don't want people thinking that, then you shouldn't be around them. Other than that, I don't think there is anything else you can do.
Good luck!
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I like this boy and I hear he likes me too and by the way we are 13 I'm a girl and we are friends and talk and stuff and I wanna kiss him sometime maybe and I'm nervous and people keep telling me "oh dont be, I'm sure he's just as nervous" Or "don't worry he hasnt his first kiss either, he doesn't no what to do" except he's told me people he's kissed and made out with so I'm afraid he's good and I won't be. I really like him and i wanna kiss him but Im too nervous. All advice helps! Thanks ! (: (link)
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You don't have to worry about that. Trust me, you have plenty of time for your first kiss anyway. Don't rush it or else it won't be as great. Truth is, he probably is just as nervous. If you want him to be your first kiss then let it happen. Just don't try rushing it.
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Long question...but please read.
I've been talking to this guy for three months now. He lives in Minnesota and I in Florida but we have been getting to know each other. He is amazing. He's extremely sweet and funny and flirtatious and he has everything I want in a person. He makes me feel so happy and complete. He told me he's already in love with me and even though long distance is tough, he's willing to make it work. I really feel a true connection with this guy.
but then there's another guy. He lives by me. He's very smart and funny and not afraid to be honest with me. He's dated my friend but she cheated on him and such, but I feel a little bit attracted to him. I can see myself with him.
but this is just so hard. I really like the first guy. I don't want to just toss him aside. if I tell him I am talking to someone else that's closer to me, he'll be extremely hurt! I don't want to just say get lost. Because I know he feels strongly for me and is willing to make things work no matter what. I don't wanna lose him. I've gotten to know the real person he is. He doesn't deserve to be thrown away, and neither does our connection. I'd feel horrible. I wouldn't be able to live knowing I hurt him so bad when he's so loving to me. Long distance is tough. I can't hold him and kiss him and spend time with him like I could with the other guy who could see me everyday.
i don't know what to do. I cried today. I would feel so bad if I hurt the first guy that I have an awesome chemistry with and did the same to the other guy for someone I probably won't see until next year... Please help! (link)
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This is a hard situation. I've been in a somewhat similar situation. I was dating this guy, he lived here but then moved and we tried long distance. It was really hard. I also had an attraction to one of my good friends and I knew I couldn't have both.
So in the end, I couldn't do the long distance. I didn't break up with him for the other guy though. I just wanted to wait and see what I really wanted because I didn't want to make the wrong choice and end up hurting them more.
So I think you need time to just think about who you would really rather be with.
And since you told this guy that you'd give him time, that's good because you could also use the time. I'm sure you'll make the right decision.
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So, i like this guy. Wait, im not sure if i like him.
Im in love with how he looks like, and were always "sexting"
He always asks me for a dirty picture and it annoys me! Coz i do not like guys like that, and also, i dont want him to like me just coz of my features. I also think he gets mad or sumthing or bored when i tell him im not gonna send him one, and when we sext, he gets hella happy and yeaah.
That's a really big turn off for me, coz I have issues with guys like that, since all my past boyfriends and most of the guys that like me is only because im hot, and have big boobs and butt or just wanna have sex with me.
But when he's with his friends, he's always happy and making jokes and extremely nice, and I'm also inlove with that side of him. But I dont get it!! He's always frickin horny when its just the two of us talking and he wont let me see the side i love about him and so i cant find a way to show him i like him andd how to really introduce my real self to him. Plus, he's graduating and i wont get to see him for like one school year, but i have his number so we can hangout i guess.
But yeah, plus we were talking about how i hate it when guys ask me for a pic, that i think they only like me coz of my features. And he was blaming himself and he said he's just a effin perve. And i told him im sorii for the drama, and he said dont be, and i was like why? And he said "its.. nvm" and that was the last conversation we had.
So yeah, help?! What should i do? (link)
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I know what you mean. I liked this guy for a long time, I still do lol. We became more than friends but weren't dating, we liked each other but since he was 2 years older than me we decided to wait.
Then it got to the point where whenever we'd text, he'd be horny and start sexting. Then he always wanted me to send him pics but I told him no and he'd get upset and all that.
I get how you feel though, because he is a cool guy but if it's just us talking, it's like he always wants more.
I eventually cut ties with him because he just wouldn't stop. A couple months ago he started talking to me again saying sorry and that he needed time to grow up.
So we're ok now.
If you like this guy, then tell him that you like him but you just don't want to send him pictures and all that. You won't ever be happy with him, even if you guys end up together, because he'll probably do the same thing anyway. So you just need to tell him or else you're just gonna be wondering if all he wants is your body.
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i recently got a new boyfriend, and well its really awkward. how do i prevent this.. any tips? (link)
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It's usually like that in the beginning of relationships so don't stress out about it too much. If it stays that way for like over a month then you might have a problem.
Just try being yourself and talking normally, joking around and all that. It's probably because both of you are nervous and don't know how to act.
If you guys hang out more and talk a lot, it won't be awkward anymore.
Trust me, it won't stay this way for a long time so don't worry too much about it.
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Okay, so my ex dumped me six months ago now, and got back with his ex the day after.
He split up with her two months ago now, and we've just left school.
On the last day, he gave me an apology letter, saying he didn't realise what he had untill it was too late, and that he hopes i'll have a good life, and that he'll never forget me.
But even after everything-i want him back. So what kinda things can i put in a letter, to get him back? Thanks (link)
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Well, I don't see why you should get back with him. But I guess it is normal to want a guy back even if they do stupid things. I have this friend who had a boyfriend 2 years ago. They broke up and even though she has liked other guys and he has another girlfriend, if he came back to her, she'd go for it again. It's kinda sad but she has some things she can't put behind her.
I think it's horrible that the day after he broke up with you, he got back with his ex. I mean, if you guys do get back together, it could happen again.
Honestly, I'm sure you could do better. There are like a million guys in the world and I'm sure one of them are better than your ex and you'll be way happier with them.
Well, it's up to you if you do want him back or not. If you guys do get back together, be really careful.
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okay. i know alot of people say that being a homoselual is a sin. or in proper terms an abomination. Im gay and i would like to have a relationship with god and christ. but could i really have salvation, being what i am. I dont know because i hear reverends from both the liberal and conservative christian faiths give their " biblical facts" and i just dont know. any help will be great, thanks. :)
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In the Bible, it does say that homosexuality is a sin. But you can still have a relationship with God. I mean, in the Bible it says lying is a sin but everyone does it. Then adultery happens but God still loves you and you can still have a relationship with him. He knows you're not perfect.
I'm a girl, I'm straight, but say I did like another girl. And say that my dad was against gays. If my dad found out, even if he was upset, he'd still love me all the same.
Although it's not always the same with all parents but the point is, God still loves you and you can still have a relationship with him.
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I have been talking to this one guy and he started not texting me back yesterday. I knew he was busy but he didn't text me at all today. He also got pissed yesterday and shut me out so I left him alone. But usually when I tell him good morning he always replies and he didn't text me all day. When I worry he always tells me to relax and I am insecure and paranoid and I really like him and don't wanna screw up. But I asked if he was ignoring me and he got all pissy. How was I supposed to know he was at a wedding dinner like he said he was? He could've at least let me know. He always lets me know when he's busy. I'm hurt. I feel like I screwed things up between us. Help? (link)
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It's only been a day so don't stress out about it. You don't always need to be texting him. Do other things to keep yourself busy because he's not gonna always be there to talk and guys don't like it when girls are always trying to talk to them so much.
If he's mad right now, just leave him alone for awhile. He'll text you when he's all calmed down again.
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i am 14 and my boyfriend has asked if he can finger me he keeps asking and i dont no what to say because he has told me we will stay together if i let him but wont if i wont let him , i was worring that i am two young so what should i say ?? (link)
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You should be the one to break up with him. You might like him and stuff but being pressured to do stuff you don't want to sucks. It could always lead to more. If you let him do this, then he'll stay with you. Then later on he's gonna want sex. You'll be saying no and he'll go back saying you guys will break up if you don't.
You don't want a guy like this, trust me. Find a guy that will respect how you feel and wait till your ready instead of threatening to leave you.
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so this is a complicated story, but try to understand, where im coming from. So im in middle school this popular girl, sarah has been dating this guy james for like some monthes maybe 5 the max.? but anyways he doesnt like her anymore, and they broke up like back in dec, and she is still emotionally attached, and acts like they are still together. and i am friends with this girl i sit at her table, and talk. he is just good friends with her. he has i think more classes with me. he is rly nice, at least to me. and she is so the melodramatic and jealous type, and that is so not me, that is also why they broke up at least not in a relationship. So we talk like evryday and in every class because we sit next to each other in every class...and we didnt pick our seats (weird right?) he is always poking me, we have a friendly handshake, etc. right now we are friends, but all im saying is that i could see us as a happy couple. and i could easily say i dont care about sarah, and im going to flirt with him. but i dont becuase i dont want to hurt her, and the last thing i want to do is start drama, i know your problly like "how is that starting drama?" but it is becuase shes gonna start crying and what not and i really dont want that to happen, if only she was with someone else it would be a lot easier, and if she didnt like him. i like him we see each other alot, and idk it want to be happy at the same time, but dont want to stir shit up. and i just came out of depression, so its really important for me to go after what i want. and if i were to flirt with him im sure he will like me back, its just her standing in the way. what do i do?? thankss (link)
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Well it depends on how close you are to this girl. If you're not really her friend, you don't have to worry about it too much until she starts freaking out. If she's your actual friend then you might want to watch yourself and let her know that you have feelings for her ex. Even if she did find someone else, there would probably be drama.
Just flirt with him and be happy. Don't let other people get in the way of that.
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