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my friend is slutty
i have a friend whos had sex many times with many different guys. Shes really kool, but most people say shes a hoe. Shes only 13 and had sex with over 3 different guys, She even gave head to a boy younger than her, i dont know how to tell her without hurting her feelings? any sugestions would be appreciated.
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Tell her its not right and that she needs to slow down tell her there are many years for that and she doesnt need to do that now and bring up the STD talk and let her know what she is doing can hurt her
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Tell her you are concerned about her; Tell her theres diseases out there and you do not want to get any of those, tell her of the rumors spreading around and hopefully she will get the message.
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First of all slut and hoe are two derogatory words one should never use to describe anyone let alone a friend.
You know that having sex at such a young age is wrong and I admire you for wanting to do something for your friend before she truly ruins her life.
The problem is two fold; First: she most likely will not listen to you as she likes all the attention she is getting. Which leads to the second problem which is the attention she is getting is probably a replacement for something she feels is missing in her life. This is hard to explain to you and even harder for you to understand. She probably does not realize that something is missing in her life and sex is a replacement for that what is missing.
The question now becomes what can you do about it? If you are truly a friend who is concerned more for her well being than anything else. Then this is what I suggest.
Her behavior is totally improper for someone her age. To correct this behavior either her parents or a social service agency will have to step in. This is more than you as another 13 year old should be charged with handling. I suggest you speak with your parents and tell them what you have written to us. Tell them of your concerns for your friends safety. If your parents know her parents then they could go and have a talk with her parents or invite her over and talk to her themselves or as a last resort report the situation to child services.
You are right to be concerned for your friend. Not only is there the very good chance she will become pregnant. There are so many diseases she could contract that could ruin her life or even shorten her life.
Yes this could ruin your friendship. Their are times when being a friend means doing the responsible thing even if it means ruining a friendship. This is one of those times.
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Well I would just talk to her about it. You probably won't change her mind about doing all this but you could at least give it a try.
You can't really do anything else for her except that. Anything else probably won't get to her head.
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Honestly I had a friend like this. She finally would make plans with me and then blow me off to have sex with guys. No way you tell her is going to change her she is just going to be offended I tried you might say hey becareful because there are a lot of dieses and you can become really sick or even pregnant.
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Bring her to the side and ask to talk to her. Tell her that she's beginning to get a name for herself. The tender age of 13 is definitely too young for all of this. You should be focusing on your school and having fun with your friends. You need to tell her that as her friend you think that what she's doing isn't good for her, say that you care for her and don't want to see her get hurt, she's taking the wrong life path and if she carries on she might just end up being a teenage mum with a dad who's too scared to face up to the responsibilities. When a girl loses her virginity at a young age. Boys get the wrong idea. They don't love her, they don't think she's amazing at sex. They've heard she does this, they show their "interest" in her and she rises to it. Their using her because they think she's easy. Tell your friend to stop what she's doing and get a grip on her life. I guarantee you she's feeling very vulnerable right now and extremely insecure. This will probably be the only thing she thinks will make her happy. Take her out and try and say this to her, or better yet say it at a sleep over or in her house or something. Somewhere where she can't run away from what your saying. I hope this helps and I wish you the best of luck in helping your friend, xx
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Wat the he'll is it with children, CHILDREN, nowadays having sex?????? My parents say teenagers are waaaaaay too young to have sex! Tell her that she has to stop. That's all, tell her that too much sex is bad for your body! WHY WOULD A 13 YEAR OLD HAVE SEX?!?!?!?!?!?! Ppl say that u shouldn't even date at 13, o well. I hope i helped tho
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