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Torn in two
Long question...but please read.
I've been talking to this guy for three months now. He lives in Minnesota and I in Florida but we have been getting to know each other. He is amazing. He's extremely sweet and funny and flirtatious and he has everything I want in a person. He makes me feel so happy and complete. He told me he's already in love with me and even though long distance is tough, he's willing to make it work. I really feel a true connection with this guy.
but then there's another guy. He lives by me. He's very smart and funny and not afraid to be honest with me. He's dated my friend but she cheated on him and such, but I feel a little bit attracted to him. I can see myself with him.
but this is just so hard. I really like the first guy. I don't want to just toss him aside. if I tell him I am talking to someone else that's closer to me, he'll be extremely hurt! I don't want to just say get lost. Because I know he feels strongly for me and is willing to make things work no matter what. I don't wanna lose him. I've gotten to know the real person he is. He doesn't deserve to be thrown away, and neither does our connection. I'd feel horrible. I wouldn't be able to live knowing I hurt him so bad when he's so loving to me. Long distance is tough. I can't hold him and kiss him and spend time with him like I could with the other guy who could see me everyday.
i don't know what to do. I cried today. I would feel so bad if I hurt the first guy that I have an awesome chemistry with and did the same to the other guy for someone I probably won't see until next year... Please help!
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This is a hard situation. I've been in a somewhat similar situation. I was dating this guy, he lived here but then moved and we tried long distance. It was really hard. I also had an attraction to one of my good friends and I knew I couldn't have both.
So in the end, I couldn't do the long distance. I didn't break up with him for the other guy though. I just wanted to wait and see what I really wanted because I didn't want to make the wrong choice and end up hurting them more.
So I think you need time to just think about who you would really rather be with.
And since you told this guy that you'd give him time, that's good because you could also use the time. I'm sure you'll make the right decision.
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Ok, first of all, have you personally met the guy? If not, he could be some old guy trying to turn you on, and try to get you to meet him, then try to do something that could physically hurt you. If you have met him, then go for it!!
As for the second guy, if you have known him for a long time, then he just possibly might be better for you, then again, he might not. It just depends on how you feel for both of them.
If you have a hard time deciding which one you want, (this may sound dorky, but it works) make a pros and cons chart, and put good and bad things for both guys, and see which has a better outcome. I hope things work out for you.
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In a situation like yours, it always depends on who YOU love more. Close your eyes, and put yourself first for just a moment. Who do you see you loving more? Who do you see lasting longer? Who treats you better? Long distance can be tough, but it can be worth the wait for someone amazing. Unless you find the other guy much better, in which case there is no need to consider the first one. It all depends on who is better for you. Don't worry about hurting someone's feelings, as long as you aren't purposefully being cruel. You have to make decisions for yourself, on who is better for your life.
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I wish you lots of luck. :)
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