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i need to get over this guy, nothing ever really happened between us, although i wish it did, but we went out for a week and i ended it because i felt more depressed when we were actually going out as appose to being friends, but he always makes me smile and he flirts alot with me when ever i see him and he makes me feel good, but he's kind of a jerk, which was part of the reason why i ended it, but because we never did anything, the curiosity of what it would have been like has been driving me mad. i want to move on and find someone else but it's hard for me to meet new guys and he always pops up in the back of my head, especially because my friends are friends of his too and keep telling me he still wants me. i still want to remain friends, which i know we can because we were before, but how can i stop thinking of him in that way and what can i do to meet more guys?
please help me! (link)
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I get how you feel about that. You probably won't forget about him for a long time. So me and my ex went out for 3 months. To this day, I still think about him and still wonder what could have happened.
Even if you guys go out for only a week, you probably won't forget each other. No matter how much you want to. You will get over him, but you won't stop thinking about him. Just give it some time and you will get over him. You just need to find another guy to put into your mind.
Honestly, if he is a jerk, you don't need him. So I'm glad you ended it. The easier it will be for you to get over him is if you stay as much as you can away from him. Even if he does have feelings for you, you just want to stay friends. You can get to that once your over him. But you want to control yourself to not fall back into him.
Meeting more guys isn't too hard. You can maybe talk to some of your friends who have other guy friends or even their boyfriends to see if they have any guys you can meet.
Hopefully everything works out. Good luck!
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it's just too hard. i've wanted to kill myself for ages. i mean i remember standing in front of the mirror when i was seven and think how nice it would be if i was dead. this can't be normal. and aside from the fact that i am totally screwed up, i have no friends, no talent, no family. there is no one who loves me, and yes, i am sure of this, BELIEVE ME. see as well as being depressed, i have this thing. it's a form of escapsism, really. i basically pretend to live in a different life, soemtimes it a futrue i hope that i could have had if i didn't kill my self. but then it like reality hits and it all comes crashing down. i know it not healthy, but can't i just live in my world? at least im happy there. i know i have to face reality, and postphoning my inevitable suicide, is pointless, but i just like it there. it makes me think that im normal, though, obviously im not. im not on here, because, 'obviously im just crying out for attention, and i don't really want to kill my self', so don't bother with that crap, i know, i've given advice to people as well okay. and don't say that someone must love me, or there's soemthing i must look forward to. even my fasasies are way too exetreme to be possible. the advice i want is simple,( and answer honestly, because either way, i WILL DIE, so deal with it): should i fantasise more and commit suicide, just a tiny bit more happier, or should i just kill my self, and spare myself any more pain? please, don't be stupid or naiive about this. i don't care about god. i don't care about the right to live, i don't care about thereapy. i just came on here for some advice. and if you do try and give me some crap rather than answer it, then thanks a lot. you should just let me suffer by myself, rather than mislead me. it not like im not trying hard enough to get by as it is, okay? (link)
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I've been through that. I'm 15 now. I've been trying to deal with that since I was like 11 or 12. I'm a cutter. And it got to the point where I did almost kill myself. Trust me, there is something worth living for. So you think no one cares about you? I don't know how old you are, but if no one loves you now then there will be people in the future. I mean, there is something because alot of people who have gone through the same thing as you and made it, have something.
There is a reason for everything that your going through. I mean, in the future you might meet somebody who needs your help with something similar. You can tell them your story how you made it and save a life.
I've been through crap, so have alot of other people. You know that. You know someone people didn't even try and just let it all go. Then others who proved themselves strong made it and are happy about that.
I have depression. You should talk to someone, even if you don't want to. When I had to, which wasn't too long ago, it felt horrible. I didn't want to tell some person my life story and think they can help me. But in the end, I think it helped. I'm not as bad as I was.
Just push yourself. Think about the future. I daydream all the time. So think about how you will be loved. College, how you'll make something of yourself and when you get married. Someone will love you then. Good luck!
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Hey guys....so my first love and I just had an unfortunate break up. Its been really tough on me, and it certainly had been a confusing split. I'm dealing with it as best as I can with some help from my friends and a counselor.
Now all thats left is for me to have my alone time to just be sad and cry. Can you please recommend some good break up songs? Something that will make me cry. Thanks. (link)
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Some might not relate to your situation but hope you like them.
Better in Time-Leona Lewis
Bleeding Love-Leona Lewis
Fall-Ina
Don't tell me-Avril Lavigne
Forever and Always-Taylor Swift
Get over it-Avril Lavigne
Happy Ending-Avril Lavigne
He wasn't-Avril Lavigne
Heels Over Head-Boys like Girls
Here without you-3 Doors Down
I can do better-Avril Lavigne
I don't give a damn-Avril Lavigne
I don't miss you-Amy Pearson
I don't wanna be in love-Good Charlotte
I hate everything about you-Three Days Grace
I hate this part-Pussycat dolls
I heart ?-Taylor Swift
I wanted you-Ina
Irreplaceable-Beyonce
Its not over-Secondhand Serenade
Last to know-Three Days Grace
Leave me alone-The Veronicas
Letdown-This Providence
Never again-Kelly Clarkson
Over it-Katherine McPhee
So sick-Chris Brown
Someday I will-Nickelback
Someone Wake Me Up-The Veronicas
Tattoo-Jordin Sparks
Together-Avril Lavigne
Too much-Paula Deanda
Walk away Remember me-Paula Deanda
When it was me-Paula Deanda
White horse-Taylor Swift
Why do I love you?-Westlife
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I'm a big quote person, and I like reading ones that have to go through what I'm going through.
Can anyone find me any quoes that have to do with
-Losing a guy friend.
-Missing a guy friend.
-Being just friends.
-Akward guy friend encounters.
Or, you could just send a link of search results, or a website link. I would perfer this but either is fine. Thankyou. (link)
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http://members.tripod.com/mi_ruka0/id15.html
This pretty much has most of what your looking for.
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i'm 19 female. i'm doing online college right now, due to certain issues. basically, i dont have any friends my age. i only have one good friend of mine who i've known since the 7th grade. we do hang out alot but the only people i hang out with are in high school... LAME. i just get along with them really well, there like juniors and seniors in high school but i HATE hanging out with them because honestly i feel like an idiot. i even feel like other people are like, "why is she hanging out with 16,17,18 yr olds?!" my parents are judgemental too, saying i need friends my age. my good friend who is my age doesnt hang out with anyone either. we don't really talk to anyone else, like we cant go visit someone at college. it's not like i go to the high school events.. NOOOOOO nono, i dont. that would be weird. but i do hang out with them. i am starting to feel depressed, i need friends my age :( (link)
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It's not that big of a deal. I love hanging out with people older than me. I'm 15 and I hang out with juniors and seniors. I have friends that are 8th and 9th graders too. Be glad you have friends. :) But it's not that hard to make friends. Just when you meet someone that seems cool start talking to them. Small talk. Then soon you guys will be talking more often and get closer. Your not that old either. It's not like your 25 or 30 years old hanging out with kids in high school.
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Well,I've never been the one to "talk" to someone i've never met before but I guess you could say im giving it a shot.
This guy is 19 and lives in Georgia but is moving here in my town ,right near me...tomorrow!
I've met his grandma,whom he is going to live with for the time being.We have been talking online and in texts etc and he's pretty nice and cute from what his pictures show.He seems equally as interested ,we both have been talking daily for a couple weeks and now he said we should meet.I really do want to meet him !I don't know if its a good idea or not..The only reason I even began talking to him to begin with was because I met his grandma and she was telling me about him.I don't know her personally ,ive just met her once randomly.
What should I do? (link)
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I think you should meet him. From what you said about him being nice and cute, then you should meet him and see what he is like. I mean, your not losing anything. Its all win here. Plus, if your not as into him as you thought you'd be, you won't lose a thing. He could also become a good friend. You won't know till you try. :D
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Hey i'm 15 and all in love ^.^ and i'm a girl. So i like really was wondering if someone could help me out here on finding a song to dedicate to my boyfriend. I want something poppy and fun. something like 'it's so amazing being in love with you!!!' and preferably sang by a girl. More then one song would be helpful and nothing too mainstream if ya get what i mean. It would be really greatly appreciated thank you (link)
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Not all of these are all poppy and fun but you may like some...
Crazier-Taylor Swift
Day Dream-Avril Lavigne
Fall to Pieces-Avril Lavigne
Fearless-Taylor Swift
Hot-Avril Lavigne
I Will Be-Avril Lavigne
Love Story-Taylor Swift
Every time we touch-Cascada
Truly, Madly, Deeply-Cascada
You found me-Kelly Clarkson
Our Song-Taylor Swift
Who knows-Avril Lavigne
Only Hope-Mandy Moore
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9 months in an on and off relationship we broke up about 6 times. i broke up with him. we broke up because im a home girl stays home and reads hes a party animal and its a long distance relationship so i expect him to kall or text me once a day >.< just a little text or chat for 5 mins thats all just to know how his days going but he thinks that its gay.. and he'll just kall like once a week and it would be like 4am in morning when hes all party-ed out. and hes been sleeping over at a few girls houses. but noe he moved to my area and i see him more often he only goes out on weekends and we started having sex but we're not together and he says he loves me but i say it more then he does.. and i want to ask him to get back together or kind of give him a sign i wanna get back together and make him pop the question what should i do? .. i dont want to have sex and stuff with him if we're not together i want him to be commited to me (link)
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To be honest it sounds like all he is gonna use you for sex. Seriously, if he is the party kind of guy he will be at parties when your at home and not knowing what he is doing there. But if you really want to get back together with him your gonna have to talk to him and tell him that you don't want to have sex if you aren't together and you want him fully committed to you.
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I'm usually pretty happy, but now I'm not.
My dog, Sadie, was born a year after me, and I've never known life without her. She's 13, though, and a big dog. She's had some health problems, and I know that she has little time left. I'm scared. My cat died when I was nine, and that was bad, but she's my best friend, and I'm crying just typing this. I'm really scared that she'll go. I know and understand that everyone goes through this, and that she'll have to go someday, but I'm dreading coming home from my first day of high school and not having my happy girl there to meet me. I, personally, think that she has a week or two left. I am going to my first overnight camp (I know, late), and I'm really looking forward to it, but it would ruin my summer if Sadie died during that, or during our family's cross-country vacation. I know, I'm being very selfish, but I need help. I'm scared that I'll go into depression. Any ideas for getting over the pain and to stop worrying and enjoying life? (link)
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I understand what you mean. And yes, everybody does go through this. I don't think its selfish. Its like losing a person you love. You would be very unhappy with that too. Its happened to me, plenty of times. Two dogs that I've had since I was born. One was attacked by a rottweiler, we had to put her down. Our other one, was really old, had to put him down too. The worst was my little chihuahua. He wasn't old at all. And we went on vacation and left my friend and my brother to take care of the dogs while we were gone. He was hit by a car during our vacation.
Its really sad but things happen. Eventually you'll get over it. You will cry alot. But it will pass.
Just be happy she is still here and have something you could look back on. So you have those missed memory's. Take pictures and just enjoy time with her while she is here. Good luck!
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Okay so my girlfriend has been dating me for like 2-3 weeks now. there is 2 other guys in my part of the estate that she went out with before (call them 'r' + 'o') and 'r' is my best friend, 'o' is just a friend. so anyway 'o' dumped her on her birthday just because she wouldnt come outside, she said she had been sick.'o' isnt an affectionate or caring person, hes miserable and lazy, but never gets angry. 'r' is caring but gets angry easyy, but he is funny. anyway i know that she dosnt fancy 'r' anymore but im not sure about 'o'. he is so lazy and selfish i dont know how any girl could like him anyway, but theres somebody for everybody i suppose. anyway he asked her back out again, even though she was going out with me. she told me that she said no to him. but whenever he is out (the last 2-3 days) she acts so different than normal. when he is not here she is always hugging and cuddling me and always making eye contact and holding my hand and saying 'i love you' and laughing with me about stuff(i treat her as nice as i can). when he is here she sorta ignores me alot, refuses to hug, shes suddenly really nice to him and not me, she went to the shop with him and her little sister alone, and me and 'r' went outside just as they were leaving. she said 'i'll cya when we get back' and she gave me some sweets that she had in her pocket (i asked for a hug too and she gave me a small one :[ ) when she got back one of my friends from a different part of the estate was around with me. 'r' had walked with 'o' and 'd' halfway to the shop, cuz he had to go home at that time(his house is halfway to the shop). when he was leaving his house again 'd' and 'o' and 'd's little sister were coming back at that exact time, so he walk round with them. when my gf ('d') got back and seen me i said hi and she said it back, but then her and 'o' just walked in to their own house ('d' went into hers and 'o' went into his) she had to in anyway cuz her mother said thats the time she had to be in for.i was really annoyed at her and i thought that this relationship was ended between us.. but when i was outside i looked up at her window and she was sitting there staring at me, when i looked up she kept looking back. then i waved and so did she. then i turned around for like 2 seconds and i looked again and she was gone. about 5 mins later she came back, but didnt look at me much, she was looking at the ground mostly(i could see her perfectly). about 20 mins later when me and 'r' were coming in to my house she text me asking for me to call her. she text from her sisters phone because she has no credit. her sister is only 11. her sister then called me and i told her i had no credit, and to go to the back window and i'll be in my backgarden (me and 'd' live right next to each other). so i told 'r' to wait for me out the front, because 'd' might want to talk privatly. but when i got there her sister was there too and she didnt talk about 'o' at all, she just talked casually. i just stared at the ground while she talked, but i felt bad, so i then started talking too. she then left to have a bath, and came back to the window after it to talk. she talked for 5-10 mins then left because she said she was tired ('r' was in the back with me now). her sister text me later on that night saying 'can you go to the window' 'r' had gone home now.so i went and 'd' wasnt there but she knew her sister was there talking to me. her sister said that 'd' was doing something on her laptop (she has no internet though) and then she said to me' 'd' wants to know what your middle name is' so i told her. the day before this she gave me the biggest hugs ever and like let me kiss her cheek and stuff (lol).anyway, a few days ago she said she loved me and made me a love card. she gave me a love wristband and i gave her one. she said she loves me so much more than she ever loved 'o' or 'r' or anybody else. she never hugged 'o' when she dated him (3 months) she hugged 'r' a big though but not like the way she hugs me :P(she never gave them bands or cards or anything either). . anyway im really in love with her but i'm really confused. what should i do? id really appreciate your help =] (link)
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In a way it kinda seems like something else is going on. But then sometimes it doesn't. You need to talk to her and see whats going on. We can't see what she is doing so I can't tell if she is for sure, or not. But if she is going off with that guy, chances are something isn't good. Talk to her, sit down and have a talk with her. Good luck!
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13/m
what are some nice things to say to my girlfriend while we're just walking around town or around school just talking about random things like a poem or quote or just anything like that
thanks much appreciated (link)
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Say the things that you mean. All the good things you think about her...unless its sick and perverted then keep that to yourself.
Tell her she's pretty and how you really like her.
I agree with the rest. Simple things are the things she remembers before she goes to sleep.
You could give her a sweet poem too. I think that would be cute. Anything small and nice would make her happy. Good luck!
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So I'm doing golf camp throughout the summer and there is this boy there. I like him alot and hes really cute but I dont know if he likes me. He always wants to be on my team when we have games and compititions. One time I was sitting on the ground with my knees bent and he hit a ball through my legs. One day me and my friend were talking about how we were going to go to the movies after camp that day. After the movie was over we stood up and saw him sitting right behind us, we think he followed us. He always seems to be listening to me and my friends talk at lunch. I dont know if he likes me or not, could anyone give me a hint? (link)
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Wow stalker! jk, he seems like he is into you. I think you should start talking to him and you could be friends then if he has those feelings it could get into something more. You'll never know unless you try. Good luck! I hope everything goes well.
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Hi, I wanted to tell this guy ..Joey how much I felt for him. We went threw a lot together and I just wanted to let him know how much I loved him...but we have a good friendship and everything..but he's just starting to like this other girl..and I want him to know..that he should pick me. So, here's what I wrote:
Joey, this is really hard for me to say so please just listen. I've always liked you..since 6th grade...but I never told you that. So, 7th grade year I was so happy to have been your girl friend...(even though you dumped me for Taylor) when you did..it hurt me bad, it brought back feelings from the last guy I fell for. Since I trust you..his name is..Matt Beal. :/ He's a 9th grader and he's a real jurk. I'd advise you to never be his friend.. he's real backstabbing. I trusted him, and I should have never did.He was that guy you seen in the hallway the last day of school. I wanted you to beat him up?? That was him. I know you like Reagon but I wanted you to know this. I bet Reagon does like you.. who wouldn't. :) I just don't think she likes you as much as I do.Please don't be mad at me for telling you all of this but it's what I thought I needed to do. I really care for you Joey. I hope this won't hurt our friendship?? I just want you to know.. I still love you.. I never stopped.
Love,
Emily :)
Should I send this to him...please help me out? (link)
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Aww, that's really sweet. I don't know this guy. But sometimes it scares some guys off if you say, "I love you" I think "like" would be a better word for it instead. It just depends on the guy. Sounds like you guys are close. Its a really cute and sweet note though. Good luck! I hope everything works out good!
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alright so heres my problem. I am a 15 year old girl who has never had a boyfriend. never had a kiss or even a guy tell me he likes me. becaues of this i now have little confidence. also this year when i entered high school all of my friends got gorgous. most of them have blonde hair and blue eyes, one of them is the prettiset girl in my grade. and when im with them i feel so down because i am not pretty at all. seriously i have brown hair and eyes and just a weird face. plz help. plz. if i dont figure this out soon im gonna go through high school resenting my friends and always wishing for something i didnt have(good looks) (link)
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Ok I doubt you are ugly. I have a confidence issue too. Like you, I feel jealous when I'm around my pretty friends. But seriously, I've gotten way better. I'm 14, turning 15 this year. I have had boyfriends but most of it was stupid. I haven't had my first kiss yet either. You don't need a boyfriend. One of my friends are like boy crazy and always needs a guy to make her happy. Its kinda sad. All she gets is guys who use her. You don't want that. To be honest, one day you will find the guy who will think everything about you is great. Instead of being in high school wishing you were someone else.
Ok, so your not the prettiest girl in the school. I'm not either. Doesn't mean there is no hope for you. Don't get jealous over those kind of things. Real guys see the personality.
The problem with alot of guys today is that they are after looks. And only looks. Its sad. They could care less if the girl is nice but all they want to do is use the girl.
My desperate friend had a crush on a guy. She thinks she is so ugly and guys don't like her. Yet, so many guys have liked her and she is pretty. She has brown hair and brown eyes. She is a really good girl, but she thinks she will be happier with a boyfriend. Right now, she claims she is in love with a guy. This guy is horrible, and he uses her. Its really sad.
Seriously, if you show who you really are, you don't need looks to get you through high school.
Just wear clothes that make you feel comfortable and pretty. Not too tight and not too loose.
So just because your friends are blond with blue eyes doesn't mean people with brown hair and brown eyes are ugly. We are all individual and we all look different. Yeah, beautiful in our own way. Good luck and think positive!
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is very hard to read. He tells me he really loves me and stuff but i don't know sometimes. He acts like he does love me but he doesn't want to get annoying and sticky with it. I don't know if he really does because like today he gave this girl his sweater. maybe im getting a llitle jealous but idk anymore. (link)
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That could be an act of kindness. But the best thing you can do is ask him yourself. He might be trying to not be clingy or anything. But ask him if he really does care and explain your reasons. See how it goes from there. Good luck! But remember be calm and cool about this, or you might lose the relationship with a fight.
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i've grown up going to a christian church and school and i pray everyday but i've never felt God's presence before...
i try to have faith and seek him but it's hard when i don't feel he's there and i feel like there's a hole in my life and i feel lonely but i just don't feel like i'm a christian even though i want to be.
how do i become a christian even though i've already been praying and going to church and have seeked him but don't feel anything?? (link)
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Becoming a christian. You become a christian and is "saved" when you accept Jesus as your savior. You might get that feeling because you haven't prayed to God to accept him into your life. To shape you into a better christian and take you to heaven when you die. If you already have, that's good. That means you believe there is a God in heaven. You don't necessarily "feel" him. You just know he is there and acknowledge his presence. But the most best advice I could give you here is to talk to your pastor. He probably can give you the best answer there is. Good luck!
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I'm a lot different than the group of friends I hang out with the most. I'm more street smart/creative/artistic while they're mainly all about education (this is only about some of them, not all of them). Because of this, I tend to get treated as the "outcast" in the group and in all honesty, I feel like I'm not even treated like a friend. I like who I am and I don't plan to change myself for anyone. I just want to be treated like a real friend, what should I do? (link)
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Well I think you should talk to them. If they realize what they are doing and decide to let you back in, then your fine. But if they decide, whatever, you need new friends. Some that will treat you better. Everybody is different but you should still be treated fairly even though you aren't like everybody in your group. As long as you treat them right, then they shouldn't have a problem. It could be another problem why they are treating you like this. I wouldn't know. Just talk to them and see what happens. If it doesn't change, go find some friends that appreciate you. Good luck!
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ok so again i like this guy how can i let him know??any phrases i can use??
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I would say just flirt around with him and stuff. I don't know if you guys are friends or not so if you tell him, chances are it might make him back away. Just flirt with him and he might get the hint there too.
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I'm 16/f...I've been going out with this guy "Jeff" for 5 months now. He is so amazingly sweet and nice. There is one problem. We're totally different. He is goody goody and I'm emo/punk.He wishpers things in my ear all the time and just by the way he says it sounds like he is trying to get into my pants. He always says "your so sexy","your so gorgeous",& "sexy i love you"..He wont stop saying I love you until I say it back.I told him to stop saying it but he keeps on.I like another guy "Paul" who is my friend though. I know it's wrong but,I'm not going to lie I have feelings for him too.
What should I do?? (link)
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Well the first thing is that if you told him to stop he should respect your feelings and stop. Just let him know that you don't want to say it back. If he doesn't stop just back away or something. Make it clear you don't want him to do that all the time. I think you should also tell you bf that you have small feelings for another guy. It will hurt him in the end if he finds out later. If you are going to go after this other guy then you need to make sure he has same feelings for you, cause if he doesn't, then you just can't have him and you'll lose the old guy you had and you won't have the other one either. If you still like this guy and nothing is wrong with him besides the whole whispering thing, you might want to be careful for your feelings or else you might lose him when you don't want to. If you don't want the other guy and just have feelings for him then just tell your bf that you have feelings for this other guy but they will pass soon. Good luck!
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wat should i do i dumped this guy i went out for five months n i dumped him...i dunno why but i didnt feel the same way !
he got angry... n i didnt care
i met a guy named peter n i kissed.. him.. he found out n the guy i dumped got angry..
2 days l8er he found a chick , i got jealous n now they seein each other..
i dunno wat 2 do no more bcuz everytime i see him i like him more...
n hear about him..
but i guess everythin wnt be the same..
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He has a right to do whatever he wants with any girl since you aren't going out anymore. You broke up with him so he might be trying to make you jealous. It worked though. And he was probably jealous when he found out you kissed another guy. You mostly want what you can't have. If you guys went back out you would probably feel the same as you did before. So its mostly your call if you want to give him another chance or not and see how you really feel again. Good luck.
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