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I am not very old, so I might not have too much life experience, but I do like to help people. I know that life often throws unexpected blows at people, but I am so extremely optimistic. Hopefully some of my optimism will rub off on the people to whom I am giving advice. I am happy to help with anything! :)
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Hi, I am a 17yr old f. So, the other day I was walking my pug down main street of our town and this cute guy walks up. He is wearing no shirt, his abs are gorgeous, he has shorts on, and he is tanned. Lets just say he is an eye opener. He walks up (I notice I have seen him maybe once or twice before), and he says "Hey Dez, congratulations on your graduation." I thank him, then he asks if he can hug me and I say yes. After we hug, he casually asks if I am spoken for (I am kinda shocked he would come right out and ask that, but its kind of bold of him, which I like). I told him no and say I really don't know him that well.. he says "I would like to get to know you." We talk for a bit, he seems like an awesome guy, then he asks if he can have my number. I give him mine and he gives me his. Later on that night, I text his number and say "Just wondering, do you usually get a girls number and wait for her to text you first?" playfully. He has not sent me a message yet (how long does a guy usually wait?) and I am wondering what he might be thinking, what his reason for that is, or whatever you think might be why he has not replied. Should I text him once more and see if he replies? Thanks!
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Hey,
Don't text him again, once is good enough. Just wait for him to text you back. Some people play games which is annoying but it could also be that he is genuinely away from his phone. He'll probably text back, possibly before you even read this reply, but regardless just wait it out.
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I live in a small suburb of Dallas, and in my neighborhood you can ride your bike on the sidewalks or on the street, but when you try to ride out of the neighborhood its unsafe. on both sides of the road are long ditches, which are to protect the area against flooding I'm assuming. its unsafe to ride on these roads cause if a car was coming I couldn't go to the side of the road to let them pass, because I could risk falling like several feet, and probably landing in snakes, poison ivy, etc. not to mention the risk of broken bones.
For the last 10 years the town has been growing rapidly from a really rural area. the high school is only like 2 years old. I'm 16 btw, and my family moved to this town a few months ago. So the roads aren't that old.. I don't understand why they didn't make a sidewalk or atleast a bicycle path. The town is small so the distance to school, the town's library, and several other businesses is within bike-able distance. the only thing stopping me is these dangerous roads.
Im not getting a car anytime soon and I'd honestly rather ride my bike to places.. its great exercise and it doesn't pollute. I think that sort of thing would look good for a town.. its decreasing the obesity rate atleast. So what can I do to change things? Should I go to my municipal office and talk to some random person about it? Call them? How can I convince them? Please give me self-help articles and stuff.. like if other people have done this type of thing before
Thanks so much if you can help! (link)
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Hello! It's me again.
So I found a sample letter. I think that you have the right idea. Perhaps visit the municipal office and explain your concern to someone there and then ask who you should write a letter to. There must be someone in charge of that sort of thing that will be most likely to listen.
http://www.darcynorman.net/2010/06/03/open-letter-to-my-alderman-make-calgary-bicycle-friendly/
Good luck!
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I recently moved to a small town in Texas from a town in New Jersey, and am surprised that each home doesn't get recycling bins or anything like there was where I lived in NJ. A lot of money can be made from recycling right? And its good for the environment. But in the town I'm in now you can only put recyclable materials in a place at the municipal building. I dont think that is convenient for most people.. and most people would recycle if they had a bin they just had to put stuff in and then a truck can take it away.
What can I do to get my town to have a program like that? What articles can I read about this topic so I can know more about the facts? Cause I don't know much on the topic but its definitely something I want to rally for. I'm 16 years old and its a suburb of Dallas, if that helps. Should I call my municipal building or go there myself or what? I dont know what I should do as the first step.
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Hello!
You're amazing, I think you should know that.
I'm not too sure which people should be contacted, so I did some google research.
http://planetgreen.discovery.com/work-connect/citywide-recycling-program.html
http://www.ehow.com/how_2282551_start-recycling-program.html
I hope these links help. If not, I think that writing a letter to your city councilmen or to the mayor would be equally effective.
And on this note I think there is a documentary that would really interest you. It's called "No Impact Man" and it's about a man who tried to make absolutely no impact on the environment and his experiences in doing so. He also has a blog online. It's an amazing movie and as I see you already seem to have a love for helping with the environmental cause I think you would love it.
Keep on rocking my fellow tree-hugger :).
PS: Does the school that you currently attend have a recycling program? Schools throw away so much paper daily as do offices. Maybe if you get this city recycling program started you can work to get your school on it as well. Just an idea! :)
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okay so I think I may be suffering from some sort of anxiety disorder. I have looked on many websites so I'm really just looking for advice from someone who may have the disorder or who knows someone who has it. I don't want to go to a doctor quite yet just in case Im just imagining things. I constantly feel like people are watching me when I know they arent, I always have to be on time to everything and if Im not I can't force myself to go (I dropped out of the first college I went to because of this), I randomly get these horrible heart pains when Im nervous every few months (they began when I was in 6th grade) that cause me to be short of breath and my left arm to ache, I constantly play with my hair, bite my nails, and the inside of my mouth until I annoy people to the point where they tell me to stop, I always think about what people will think of me even before I do things...I know this is long and there is much more but this is effecting things I do everyday, I need help and my parents say its just my personality so I'm afraid to go to a doctor fearing I'll sound stupid. Thank you. (link)
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Hello.
You should never be afraid to see a doctor :(. A disorder is considered something that is debilitating and interferes with your life. I'm no doctor but I am a psychology student and your symptoms sound like Generalized Anxiety Disorder to me. Here is a link with more information.
http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Generalized_anxiety_disorder
Please see your doctor if this continues to be a problem. You will not appear stupid and can only benefit from therapy or else medication.
Take care
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I'm gonna trim around my eyebrows and before i do i was wondering if theres any tips that may be out ther for me? BTW my eyebrows arent too bad, the hair doesnt grow so much/often,thanks in advanced (link)
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Hello.
Hmm well for plucking you could draw lines around the eyebrow shapes that you would like first, making sure that both are even. Then pluck all the hairs that lie outside of the shape. For trimming I usually use an eyebrow comb and comb my eyebrows up and then sideways (the part closest to the eyes combed up and farther from the eyes combed out). Then I use itty bitty scissors to trim them just a bit. Be careful not to get scissor happy as you could end up trimming them too much! This has happened to me :X. If for whatever reason you make a mistake hopefully you have bangs to cover them up. That is my solution to overtrimming/overplucking :).
Happy eyebrows!
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I sweat too much! :\ I get paranoid and nervous to wear solid colored shirts, or any other type that will show underarm wetness. I have to like keep my arms down and try not to raise this. I sweat almost everyday at school. This either happens often during lunch, or in the morning. It annoys me because if I want to go outside for lunch and just walk around, I might start sweating from that. :| Just yesterday, I went to a school's orchestra concert, and I started sweating just from sitting there. It was probably because I was mad/nervous/anxious about something I was texting about. Yes, sometimes I sweat when I'm just really anxious too. o.o I don't think my sweating is major problem, and it's not excessive sweating either. Does anyone have any suggestions for what possible antiperspirant deodorants that I could use? Am I doing something wrong while applying it? I have tried Dove, Secret Clinical Strength, and right now I am trying Degree. It just seems like no antiperspirants will work for me. It says apply 2 clicks before bed, and I've tired that. No luck. So then I tried applying 2 clicks before I head of to school... Not much either. Would it be any more effective if I applied more clicks, or is that bad for you? o.O I just don't know. Any advice would be great! I just don't want to see a doctor or anything. o.o (link)
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Hey. I know what you have. It's called hyperhyrdrosis and my brother has it to. It's defined as "excessive sweating." He told me that when he used to be writing his hand would sweat so much that it would drip on to his paper :/. But luckily my parents decided to take him to the doctor and he was diagnosed. The condition is fairly common and definitely something that can be fixed. He prescribed a special kind of powdery deodorant to my brother and I haven't heard him complain since :). So that would be my suggestion; for you to see your doctor.
If you don't want to however, I've also found a link that should be helpful. There are probably products online that could help as well.
Take care
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okay so both my parents smoke in the house, every time they smoke I go into my room and close the door but I can sometimes still smell it is that considered 2nd hand smoke?
or do you have to be RIGHT next to the smoker for it to be considered that? (link)
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I think it still is secondhand smoke. There are cracks between and especially underneath the door where smoke could get in through. I think your best bet would be to open any and all windows and to sit near a window so you can breathe in more fresh air. Or if it's an option you should opt to spend more time outdoors. I'm sorry you have to live with this situation :/, it doesn't sound very pleasant.
Take care
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Okay so I'm seriously getting annoyed with all of this! I'm a senior and the guy I like is a freshman so in age we are 3 years apart. The problem is it's really hard to tell if he's interested or not. Sometimes he acts like he is and says things like I'm lookin forward to hanging out with you :) or he'll tell me I'm pretty or something along those lines. But in the other hand he won't text me back (I'll only send one so it's not overboard) or we will be talking and A. He stops answering or B. Suddenly has to go...the kne that really bothers me is when he just doesn't answer me when I text him. We are going to prom together and everything but I'm not completely sure he's too excited for it. Another thing is my phone acts up from time to time but mostly it's just while talking to him I think but I'm afraid to say something like idk if you answered me since my phones jacked up bc what if it wasn't my phone and he intentionally didn't answer bc I'm coming on too strong or something. Usually I'm straightforward with these things but I'm afraid to jus flat out tell him I like him bc it could scare him away!! So my question is what are your thoughts on all this? Is he interested? Should I just tell him I like him and want to get to know him better? What do I do?! Thanks in advance. (link)
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Honestly, I think he isn't interested. Based on the way he's acting it seems like he sees you more as a friend.
It could also be that he thinks that he's out of your league because of the age difference.
You should tell him I think because you really have nothing to lose. It could be that he does like you. And if he doesn't then at least you'll rest assured knowing that you tried rather than graduating and wonder what would have happened if you told him.
Good luck and take care
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not to sound inappropriate... ive never given head and am afraid im going to be bad since i started dating this new guy. are there any tips u have? and its kinda embarassing that im 17, so i dont wanna be bad for him. (link)
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I actually don't have an advice on the "how to's" but you're comment about it being embarrassing because you are 17 is something I find strange. Honestly, I think it would be a lot more of a turn off if you were a 17-year old expert...Innocence shouldn't be frowned upon.
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hehe its alright . but yea boys are soo confusing , i was talking to this kidd thru myspace and we have hang out before but then i talk to him thru myspace and he said myspace is not working for him because he doesnt like it . but then he writes to me thru myspace but then he replies then i reply back then he doesnt repllies. ahhh so confusing. (link)
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Oh gosh. Social networking is pure confusion. There is nothing like a person in front of you physically and emotionally. Otherwise it's so impersonal and confusing as you've said. I once "got to know" someone through myspace, and we ended up dating and found we had nothing in common! Oy vey, I say you hang out more with this guy in person. Otherwise you're just developing a crush on a fictional person. You need a living breathing person. Sounds a bit exaggerated, but I feel very strongly about this.
See him in person! :D
Haha take care
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I really need to find out because my girlfriend has warts! Am I going to get them to? Does anybody know for sure are warts contagious? Thank you to anybody who can answer me one way or the other. I will rate you! (link)
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From what I gather, yes they are.
"Warts are common, and are caused by a viral infection, specifically by the human papillomavirus (HPV)[1] and are contagious when in contact with the skin of an infected person."
But for the record I once had a fungal infection that I later learned was contagious and I also had a boyfriend at the time. I never infected anyone, including both him and the rest of my family. She should see a dermatologist and get a prescription cream. If she uses it as recommended the warts should be gone in a few weeks. But for now you might want to stay away from the infected areas, a.k.a. don't touch the warts! Other than that you should rest assured. You'll be fine. :)
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i thought you said you were taken.. lol (link)
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I might have said that at some point because I was?
Haha, sorry for the confusion.
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Me and my ex boyfriend went out for like 3-4 months,We rarely fought and got a long GREAT.He dumped me because we were around eachoter so much and he needed "space". Long story short,Lately we've been "friends" and talking a lot in class and he walks to my class (like when we were dating) and still calls me to hangout on the weekends! We are in a group of people and we all have fun,but i still have feelings for him and miss just being "with" him .He obviously doesn't hate me like most break ups result in,because he usually calls me and talks to me first whenever we communicate at all.I don't know how to turn this friendship around again,its only been like 2 weeks so it's still fresh. Last night ,i ditched him when he asked to chill. I'm just scared that if I become good friends with him, I'll still have feelings for him but i have no idea how he feels towards me! I mean we obviously used to have something and I can't see how he can look at me like nothing happend. help! (link)
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Hey.
I too am friends with my ex. People have called me crazy countless times and for good reason. Honestly, friendship with an ex isn't easy when there are feelings involved. :/ Based on everything you've said I've come up with two possible conclusions:
1. He said he needed "space" and yet he still spends all this time with you. This leads me to believe that he only used that as an excuse to break up and not hurt your feelings.
2. He genuinely feels that he does not want to be in a relationship (maybe with you or maybe in general) at this time. Sometimes people feel a bit of commitment phobia or just feel like they would rather be single at the moment. This is understandable.
In either event you will only know by asking him. I remember when my ex and I initially broke up I had a huge talk with him just to know the reasons and where we stood. He made it clear to me that his feelings were completely gone and that really helped me move on. You need to figure out whether he still has romantic feelings for you or not. Otherwise you are just hurting yourself by allowing yourself to hope that something will happen. Once you have the truth you'll find the proper way to deal with it.
I've figured out that the most difficult part of being friends with your ex is that it makes you wonder if you and this person are so close still then why can't you be together again? So this is why people suggest ending the friendship or else spending less time together and more time with other friends. In my situation I remained best friends with my ex for a few months and we gradually both made other friends and now we are still friends but not as clingy to one another. I didn't plan it out this way, it was just the way things worked out naturally. So, if you figure out that your ex has only friendly feelings for you then you can either end your friendship with him (which is a bit extreme in my opinion) or continue being friends while still focusing on other aspects of your life. Either way your feelings will gradually fade. It's amazing how people are able to recover from pains of the heart. I'm sure that in a few months you'll feel much better. I know it hurts a lot right now but each day that pain lessens.
Good luck and take care
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let's say you break up with your girlfriend ,what would make you want her back? (link)
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I'm not a guy, but I still have something to say to this.
If two people break up it's usually due to an internal problem (having nothing in common, constantly fighting, being bored with one another, etc) or it could be due to an external problem (long distance relationship, parents, lifestyles, etc). When any of this issues become too large and the relationship begins to be more challenging than it is rewarding, that is when a break up will happen. Now, the only way two people would get back together is if that issue were to change. I don't know your hypothetical issue or if it is repairable, but in most cases it is very difficult if not impossible. The thing to realize here is that while one person may view the relationship as say fun and lively, the other may view it as unsatisfying and perhaps even boring. But some things, for example living in a different state, can be changed by moving closer. The best approach would probably be to attempt to talk to the ex and figure out whether he is willing to/able to fix the situation. But if the feelings aren't there anymore then the person may not WANT to fix it. It's not as easy as just looking cute to school one day to let them know what they are missing. And sometimes you see people get back together and you wonder how did that happen?? Well sometimes a person will miss their ex, regret their decision and get back together. The only problem with that is that unless the core problem that existed in the relationship is not fixed, the couple will just break up again. So remember, it's all about fixing the problem.
Sorry I'm not a man, I just felt like answering.
Take care
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Im a 13 year old girl, and I'm the only person in my class who hasn't started yet and I don't know why. I've been discharging for about 2 years now, and I don't understand why it hasn't happened yet. Please could you answer my question. Thanks. (link)
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Hey.
I kind of had the same problem. But it isn't anything to worry about, trust me. You don't need to worry until you are 16. If you haven't gotten it by that time then there may be something wrong with your hormones in which case you should see a doctor. But actually you will most likely get it sometime this year. So no worries.
I used to go on this website all the time when I was a few years younger. You can talk to other girls your age about girl things. It's very fun :).
http://www.beinggirl.com/en_US/home.jsp
take care :D.
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Every time i sleep with my bf, he hurts me, although i do not tell him this. he pulls at my hair and slaps me to the point im in pain and in the past he has pulled my back out. How do i go about this without hurting his feelings? (link)
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Wait....he hurts you during sex??
I don't understand. Do you think he is justified in hurting you? Is it rough sex? Whatever is going on it should not be happening and you need to not only tell him about it but also make sure that it stops. Please do not allow someone to hurt you. If it's not his intention then I am sure you will not hurt his feelings, if anything he'll be glad to not hurt you anymore. And if he is doing this on purpose then this should make you question why he would WANT to hurt you. That isn't how people show love :(. Please talk to him and if he responds negatively then you need to make the choice to leave. Remember that this stops when you say that it does.
Take care. I hope all goes well.
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awww thank you so much :D
well is true . i hope that my true love is right there waiting for me..because am sick of these boys trying to play games with girls and just using them for sex. i just dont think this is right . (link)
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Yes I know what you mean. There are a lot of mean people in this world, but I think that there are just as many good-hearted people. You'll meet him someday, and so will I hehe :).
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i have thick-ish dark eye brows.
how do i get LILY COLLINS shape and everything eyebrows.
there gorgeous.
http://www.topnews.in/files/images/LillyCollins.jpg
http://www.blogcdn.com/www.stylelist.com/media/2008/10/lily-collins-stylefoul-closeup-83241330.jpg
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Well they're very thick. It'll probably be a pain to get larger thicker eyebrows because you'll have to first let them get very bushy and then shape them to the way hers are. I once grew out my eyebrows and in the process I felt a bit self-conscious so I cut myself some nice straight bangs to cover up the furries in the meantime, hehe.
Anyways here is another website that may help.
http://www.wikihow.com/Shape-Eyebrows
Good luck :D
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its ok , and yea hopefully i get better. the thing is that i lost my verginity to him :( and he did to me , i tink thats why it hurts more .. ahhh (link)
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I know the feeling...I'm sorry, I know it feels horrible because you never expect to break up with someone when you are so in love with that person. But honestly most people don't marry their first love or the person they lose their virginity to :(. I know I thought I would. I really really believed that my first was the one but he really wasn't and that's okay. I know it probably sounds unrealistic now but pretty soon you'll have a crush on another guy. Love is just one of those things in life that it terribly hard to figure out and it takes a while before most of us get it right. But as long as you reassure yourself that there is still love out there for you, you'll be closer and closer to finding it again. Allow yourself time to heal and try to enjoy your life and appreciate it. Pretty soon you'll feel so much better, I promise.
Take care.
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My boyfriend broke up with me 4 days ago..we were dating for about 3 months.He was my first REAL boyfriend (im 17) and it was like a real relationship where we talk and hangout and bond ALOT .So you could say for my first relationship it was pretty serious.He broke up with me because "he started to see me as a friend and i was clingy" .I had no idea this was coming so i was devastated.He went on vacation and will be back on Thursday and hasn't spoken to me since the breakup ..except one text .I've been an absolute wreck ,crying the minute i wake up,being upset most of the day and probably crying during the day and ofcourse at night too for the last 4 days. Each day is harder for me because all the songs on my ipod,we used to listen to and he used to sing to me and he would point out his favorite songs and i have to avoid listening to my ipod.I also have to avoid driving by a park we used to go to,certain words I say/he used to say,foods we used to eat all the time,games we played,movies,a whole bunch of stuff and it's so hard to avoid these things.Ive been taking advice from everyone and not speaking to him or communicating with him at all costs,(which I wrote him a letter and hope to give it to him the day after he comes back) .Ive been occupying myself very much,but even while I'm occupying myself ..i still think of him and all the good times (because we havent had many bad ones and our break up wasn't even a fight or a nasty breakup ..it was just sad).It seems like no matter how occupied or busy I am..i still think of him and get sad.I just want him back or I want to get over him.What techniques have worked to get over guys FAST? because I can't take the crying anymore! (link)
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Hey :(.
It's going to hurt for a while sweetie. I know this pain, I felt it for honestly a few months. I know that at first it gets worse but actually after the first few weeks it gets better. I thought I was going to kill myself at first. I know it sounds extreme but it was just really unbelievable to me at the time, as I'm sure it is for you right now. The truth is that you don't expect someone who you give you heart to just give you the cold shoulder. :/ Please do not try to get him back. If he sees you as a "friend" then you know that it's over for good. This is what my ex said as well. You can't force his feelings to change back into the way they once were, so don't hurt yourself trying to. I spent a lot of time with my best friend after the break up. I also focused all my attention on school and would try to avoid my ex as much as I could. I like to knit so I did a lot of that as well. You should definitely pursue a hobby as it will help you focus your energy on something positive. And honestly, you need to complain to as many people as you can. People, especially good friends will help you so much. They remind you that you're amazing and that there is a whole wonderful world to live for. My boyfriend broke up with my in November and I'd say I've felt completely completely over him for about a month. I've heard it takes half as long as your relationship lasted for you to get over it. So for you it may take about a month and a half. Regardless of your feelings now just know that you'll feel better very soon. Just be hopeful, smile as much as you can, and reach out to anyone who is willing to listen. Take care.
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