Hi everyone... I've got a Psychology degree so I like to think that i know a bit about how people think and why they do the things they do- maybe i don't know a thing, make up your own minds! Also i work with a youth group of girls aged 10-14 so that helps too! Anyway ask me anything no problem too big or too small and I'll do my best...
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hi my name is jake, i'm 16 sophmore in high school. over the years i watch my friends go through relationships and stuff, n i never had one. n its not bc i'm antisocial or anything; i think i'm pretty popular, lots of friends and stuff. just thinks never seem to happen or get to the point of relationships; is this weird? should i try to put more an effort to startin a relationship? or should i just kinda be passive about it like i've been. i do want to find someone, to have fun with. (link)
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No you're not weird- of course you're not!! To put effort into starting a relationship you've obviously gotta find someone who you want to have a relationship with. And it didn't sound like you have anyone in mind at the moment ;) so just be passive about it! It's really easy to say but so true: it only ever happens when you're not expecting it! Anyway you don't want to look desperate because thats the biggest turn off ever! So relax and i promise it'll happen!
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Okay so the guy I like, I was with him today and he was talking to his friend and he was saying how he'd f*cked this girl and whatever and the way he said it totally put me off him.
But like, my friend said he could've said it just to make himself sound cool which is what alot of guys do but I dunno.
I really like him but I don't want to TRY to get involved if all he wants is to get in my jeans, you know?
So, what should I do? (link)
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Unfortunately most guys do that! The only thing is that some actually think that while most of the others are just saying that because they think it sounds cool in front of their friends. So the chances are that he was just trying to look cool and inside he doesn't truely feel like this. So don't lose faith altogether- just be wary. If he acts in this way again then maybe you should rethink your feelings for him but until then I wouldn't worry about it.
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Well i have this friend lets call him albert.. well okay (SORRY IF THIS IS LONG ILL RATE 5s FOR SERIOUS ANSWERS) so i have known albert since 2nd grade.. and well i need opinions on this.. okay so
1.) Albert is always flirty, touchy, smiley, etc. around me
2.) I asked his friend how he was around people he liked and he said that list above (but thats how he always is around me so im not sure)
3.) Me albert and melinda (other friend not really important) were playing in the snow.. and he always kept tackling me and throwing me in the snow and jumping one me and not letting me get up.
4.) Once i was saying about how no one liked me and stuff and he said thaat i was wrong and i told him he couldnt argue and he said he could etc.
5.) One day albert was preforming in some kind of club and he came over and was talking to me for most of the time and poking me etc. and then hugged me later on.
6.) One morning before school he came up to me and he put his arm around me (lower back not shoulder) and just stood there.
7.) Once when i was mad at him he asked all of my friends why and my one friend told me that he "flipped" out and was asking why he was mad and stuff like that
8.) He complimented me on my earings at my friends party
9.) He kind of kept moving towards me at my friends party and kept poking me and when he was sitting down he kept telling me to sit next to him.
10.) He told me that i should go to my friends party (more than once)
11.) I told him that some kid said to me i hate you you suck and he was like his life and face suck and that he hated him..
12.) He once told me if anything was seriously wrong i would be one of the first to know
13.) Once i asked him who he liked and he told me he couldnt tell me and he said his friend would tell me the next morning and his friend was like can i tell her can i tell her and he was like no.. and then he said something to him and he was like okay.. and he said some girl and then i found out he liked someone else too.. but he wouldnt tell me who that was.
WHAT IN YOUR OPINION DO YOU THINK? DO YOU THINK HE LIKES ME AS MORE THAN FRIENDS OR JUST AS FRIENDS?
thnx 4 your help (link)
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Ok pretend you didn't just write all that. Pretend you were reading someone else's list of all the things albert was doing to them! What dya think? Does he fancy them? You got it- of course he likes you as more than a friend its so unbelievably obvious!!!! If you like him back next time he's touching and poking you poke him back lol!! Good luck hope it works out
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i was wondering if you could tell me at what age you had sex. not a lecture to wait or what can happen,, just what age you had it. thanks. (link)
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A lot of my friends are very religious, and thus have many different beliefs (religiously, politically, and otherwise) than I do. Lets just say I cried on November 3rd last year (the day after), and they pretty much jumped for joy. Sometimes when I make a comment about issues that are happening in the world they look at me oddly, like I'm a complete idiot or something. They enjoy listening to Ashlee Simpson and the like while I listen to classic rock from the 60's and 70's. In the past this hasn't bothered me much, but lately its been nagging at me a lot. Don't get me wrong. I love my friends to bits, they're the nicest people and so fun to be around, but is it possible to love them as people and completely disregard how different their mentality is from you? Do your beliefs and interests dictate who you are as a person?
(Sorry if this question doesn't make much sense.) (link)
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You've said yourself that you have fun when you're around them and that you love them so you've answered your own question- of course it's possible to love them! Does it matter if your beliefs differ from theirs? How boring would life be if everyone was interested in the same things and everyone had the same beliefs and values? Sometimes it's good to be around those with different opinions- it helps to get balance and simply an alternative way of looking at life! In any case you obviously love their company and they love yours as they wouldn't be friends with you if they didn't so don't worry about it!
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I'm 27 yrs, newly married. my problem is I'dont wan to get pregnant now. I'm totally not ready to be mother now coz i'm still pursuing my studies. I'm very scad to inform this to my husband coz i scad he will upset about that coz he loves children and he is a very loving person. I alrdy tempted to sex once but i'm scad i'm pregnant now, eventhough i take early precautions. please let me know how to avoid this pregnancy? and any symtoms?
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You should speak to your husband and explain that you want to continue with your studies. It's not like you're saying you never want to have children so he's sure to understand if this is what you want. He's your husband- he wants to make you happy! If you are pregnant now obvious signs will be a missed period, nausea, sore breasts. However if you have taken precautions it is unlikely that you are pregnant. Good luck
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(im 19 female)Im just asking, there is this guy i like a lot he liked me, soon as i told him i wasnt a virgin he simply lost interest! and he belives that the one he is going to marry should be a virgin.i feel like SHIT! he has told me he is not a virgin - ofcourse its ok for a guy not to be one isnt it! but anyway, then i told him that i was joking and that i didnt quite have sex.i really like this person and i regret loosing my virginity to this ONE bf" overseas, now if i was to get close with this guy could i live a lie and never tell him? or should i tell him? or should i forget him and move on! but i cant! nicest person iv ever met! what do i do!? is it good to keep it to myself and NEVER tell him.- i feel so guilty (link)
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A relationship without trust never works. You need to sit him down and explain to him that you're sorry you were dishonest but you panicked because you thought you wouldn't be able to start something with him because of his reaction to you not being a virgin. You need to tell him how much you care about him and just see how he responds! There's just no point not being truthful because in the end he will find out and living with guilt is awful anyway! Good luck
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hey is it better to have sex for the first time with a virgin or an experienced guy (link)
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An experienced guy is going to know what he's doing so it may be more enjoyable. But if you have sex with a virgin when you're a virgin you'll feel less pressurised to know what you're doing as he won't know either! Either way it shouldn't matter- you shouldn't have sex with someone just because they're a virgin or just because they're experienced.
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im 8 months pregnant and i want to get my belly button pierced. will it hurt my baby?
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No it won't as it's simply the skin being pierced- it won't damage the baby. However it's probably best to leave it until the baby is born as it is only a month away and there's no rush!
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Does anyone know a home-made cure for diarreah, like something you can eat or make at your house that doesnt cost much money? i dont like medicine and Im trying to go natural. thanks
PLEASE HELP ME GET RID OF MY BAD DIARREAH! (link)
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You need to increase your intake of fibre. Basically eat more foods with fibre such as cereals containing bran or with fibre in the title. Things like wholemeal bread and wholewheat pasta are also really high in fibre as well as fruit such as bananas. Good luck
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Okay,,,,,
I have this boyfriend(Kevin) that im madly in love with and hes in love with me. I am 13 and hes 15. We've been going out for 7 months!! Theres a problem though. My neighbor is the one i always hung with and i introduced her to him because he was my boyfriend and they have became close and she always im's him online and calls him on his cell phone. Latly i have been getting scared. Shes been saying maybe she will take him to the prom next year if she has noone to go with and crap though my boyfriend says he wouldnt go with her and i do belive him... and i think shes falling for him. Shes 16 years old too so shes closer to his age. She had alot of crap about him written in her profile saying stuff about there friendship. She doesnt have a boyfriend and im positive shes never had one. I know he wont leave me for her but i am afraid thats shes falling for him. How do i tell? Im scared because i dont want her too and if she does then i dont know if i can handle it. Shes been writing about a guy in her profile and she says she likes this one guy but i think she has some feeling for Kevin that are getting stronger. I think she flirts with him but im sure Kevin doesnt think so.... i donno please help I'm flippin out here!
♥ Meg ♥
*--.:*Thank-You*:.--* (link)
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Hmm your neighbour doesn't sound like such a great friend if she's muttering about taking him to the prom!! Just be safe in the knowledge that she doesn't sound like much of a threat to your relationship as you and kevin sound pretty solid. However maybe it would be a plan to talk to your neighbour about this before it gets any further out of hand because this isn't fair on you. Maybe you could say that you think someone fancies him and it's really annoying you and making you feel uncomfortable. That way you won't have to directly say to her to leave him alone but hopefully she'll get the message! It's a tricky one because you don't want to lose her as a friend but maybe you should rethink your friendship as she doesn't sound like much of a friend! Good luck
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I was looking at my feedback and someone gave me a 5. I forgot what question I asnswered so I clicked on the link and it showed me my question and an answer. But the answer wasnt mine! It was from this other girl but not me!!! What could've happened? (link)
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Yeah this is happening to me too don't worry the system has just changed if you look on the site news of the home page. This will be sorted out soon so don't worry!
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Hi!
I had sex for the first time 2 weeks ago, and it felt fab, my boyfriend enjoyed it so much we did it for about an hour in some local woods. we didn't use condoms and i had sex durin my periods -do u enjoy sex and do u think i'm pregnant? (link)
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Well most people enjoy sex that's why it's so popular!! Just be careful- if you feel responsible enough to have a sexual relationship then you should be responsible enough to use contraception such as a condom. This is obviously primarily because you are at risk of getting pregnant and also because you can catch a sexually transmitted infection. Just because you have sex during your period does not mean that you will not get pregnant, so yes you there is a chance that you could be pregnant. If your period is late then take a pregnancy test as soon as possible. And in future it's so much better to use condoms rather than spend the month worrying whether your period is going to come or not, and sexually transmitted infections can lead to problems with fertility for example so please USE A CONDOM!! Good luck I hope it all works out
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I found a pipe and a lighter in my brother's draw. I was furious because I'm am strongly against smoking. He's in college...I understand he's old enough to make his own descisions, but he has a lot going for him and I don't want him to screw up his future....What are the possibilities of what he was smoking? Like weed..tobacco?And, is there a site that has the bad effects of it, or if you guys can list some that will convince him to stop, I would appreciate it! (link)
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Unfortunately as you've pointed out yourself he's in college and is unlikely to listen because you're younger. He could just be smoking tobacco which is obviously dangerous mainly because of cancer of the lung, mouth etc and negative details of tobacco smoking can be found at http://www.cancer.org/docroot/PED/ped_10_1.asp?sitearea=PED
However, if he's smoking weed (cannabis) the same problems apply as for smoking tobacco but there are problems with memory function and hallucinations etc. Info on this can be found at http://www.daap.ca/factsoncannabis.html
These sites are enough to stop anyone from starting smoking but the problem is that he's already doing it. First of all it might be a good idea to find out exactly what he's smoking. Just be honest and say what you found and ask what he uses the pipe for. See what he says and say you've done a bit of research on the negative effects and you're worried about him. He may take no notice but short of doing something like telling your parents you're concerned about him you might just have to wait for him to get over this phase in his life. Hopefully a phase is all it is! If he takes no notice maybe print out info from the internet and leave it next to his pipe that might send the message home! Good luck
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in college I want to major in interior decorationg because I think I have a flair in that type of art. for those who don't know that much about it, it's when you help design color schemes, furniture, decorations, paint, etc. for peoples' rooms and stuff. Well I want to know if that's a good paying job and if I'll make enough money to support myself and kids, a house, etc. I'm not trying to be selfish, but I really want to know if it's a good enough job. Thanks. (link)
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Yeah definitely it can pay really really well. Obviously you'll start on a fairly low salary but as your expertise increases you can do pretty well out of interior design. It would also depend on what sort of market you were aiming for. For example if you wanted to do posh mansions you'll be able to charge more! All in all go for it, especially as it sounds like something you enjoy anyway. If your clients see that you enjoy your work they'll be more inclined to employ you and more employment means more money! Good luck
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when somebody says like "meet me here at oh eight hundred" what time do they mean for you to meet them?? i have neve rbeen able to figure out that little system haha. or when somebody asks you to go on a date and they are like "what time" and they go "oh about ninteen hundred! "....what time do they mean?! thankyou! (link)
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If someone says something like that try and visualise how it would be written out in number format- so if someone says oh eight hundred they mean 0800 so thats 8 o'clock. And nineteen hundred would be 1900 or 19 o'clock. This is 24 hour clock so you minus 12 from 19 so thats 7 so nineteen hundred hours is 7pm. And if you understand all that I'll be impressed!!!!
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i had unprotected sex with my boy friend 3 months ago, ive had mild cramps in my tummy ever since i've taken 4 preg tests 2 possative then negative (early miscarrige)then today i was told to take another because it didnt add up it was negative.. they still think i had the miscarrige but now they think i've got Chlamydia!!!!! im so f**king scared im only 14 and cant take losing the baby and now maybe having this, they took swobs (spelling), i cryed the hole time, but i knew it was for the best i just dont know what to do, what will they do if they find out i have got it?? what are the symtoms anyways?? will i have to tell my mum and dad???
im so s**t scared?? has anyone here had it??
thanks! (link)
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Ok don't panic you've done ABSOLUTELY the right thing by seeking professional help. Everything you need to know is in the link below. Quite often there are no symptoms and this is the problem- quite often girls don't realise they have it, but you don't have this problem as you're in the hands of experts so it'll be ok! You won't need to tell your parents so thats not a problem although sometimes this is a good plan but if you're uncomfortable about it don't worry! If you do have chlamydia you will be given medication which will clear it up and you will be fine. In future please use a condom and make sure your boyfriend gets checked out as he'll just give the chlamydia straight back to you if you have sex again. He needs treatment as well. Relax- you've done the right thing and you're going to be fine. Good luck.
http://www.cdc.gov/std/Chlamydia/STDFact-Chlamydia.htm
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Ok me and my boyfriend have been goin out 4 about 5 weeks now. But i recently found out that his best friend likes me and i have liked his bestfriend since last year. I dont wannna hurt anyone by saying i dont wanna going out w/ so and so but idk what to do. Should i dump my boyfriend 4 his bestfriend because i have liked him longer or should i stay w/ my boyfriend and just have a big crush on my bfs best friend? I dont wanna hurt anyone! (link)
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You shouldn't really be going out with your boyfriend when you have feelings for anyone else no matter who they are. It also sounds as if your feelings for the best friend may be stronger than those for your boyfriend. Therefore it might be better to call it a day with your boyfriend as it's not fair on either of you if you have feelings for someone else. However don't suddenly try and start something with the best friend as your ex would get really hurt and also you need to think about the relationship between the two boys! If you do decide to split up with your boyfriend don't let him know the real reasons just say that you think you'd both be better off and happier as friends. It's never easy but it sounds like the best plan! Good luck
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is it wrong to have a crush on someone younger by 2 year
i female 13
he male 11 (link)
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No its not 'wrong' of course it's not! Far stranger things are going on in this world- anyway no one can help their feelings. Don't waste your time worrying whether it's right or wrong!! Good luck- go for it!
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i know that its really silly but when i was younger my mum could never afford to buy me a bike. Now that i am 17 i have just bought one and dont know how to ride it help!! (link)
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Heres how to learn: Start on a grassy soft surface with no one you mind seeing around! Then sit on the saddle with your feet slightly touching the ground and sort of walk the bike forward with your feet on the ground. This will get you used to moving on the bike but will keep you in control. When you're confident with that try to lift your feet off the ground (don't worry about the pedals yet) after pushing yourself forwards with your feet, so you're going along with your feet off the ground but not on the pedals. This way you're in control if you lose your balance as you can just put your feet on the ground but get used to moving along. It would help if you did that on a gentle slope as it would be easier to move along. When you've practised this for a while try to put your feet on the pedals whilst going down a gradual slope. When you're happy doing that start pedalling round and round. Hope thats some help! Good luck ;)
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