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Hey, my names Ariellll but I go by Rel. I don't look nor act my age & I know more than I should for my age, I lllloveee yo give advice, & think I do a pretty good job, wanna know if I really do, then ask me a question : ) !

First off -- I'm a very honest and straight forward person. I don't like drama and I'm pretty chill. When I'm older I would like to be a therapist. So, this site really allows me to practice ! :)

I tend to go by the fllllow and don't regret much. I'm in love with Lillll' Wayne. I could watch movies everyday of my life.



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ive been having sex with my boyfriend for over a year now and we never use a condem and im not on birth control. he uses the "pull out" method. what is the percentage that i could get pregnant?

Well, I agree with Matt.

It's surprising that you're not pregnant. So, if you're ready to have a baby, then continue using the pull-out method with no use of protection (birth control). But, if in fact you are not ready to have a baby use birth control and a condem.

But, atleast if you want to continue using the pull-out method then atleast go on birth control.

But, remember you can still get pregnant from using a condem, or being on birth control, its just your chances of becoming pregnant are a lot less.

Sorry if this was scattered and unorganized.

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Like I always wondred what goes on in the girls locker room...like i know the guys like are in their boxers and no shirt...but are the girls like freaken in their thongs and training bras?....like i know us guys like wanna be in there when they are getting changed and stuff...but what really happens in "THE GIRLS LOCKER ROOM" (with a voiceover announcer)

It's deffinatly not a fantasy. Yes, some girls do wear thongs, but most don't on gym days. And normally we don't run around in our bras and underwear, also most girls wear cami's so they're not even in their bras.

Honestly, we just change, noting too exciting. Sorry to ruin it for you

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are thongs uncomfortable? would it be better to wear boy shorts or thongs to not have the lining of your underwear show up when you are wearing pants? i dont understand how anyone would ever get used to having a string there.

Thongs are amazingly comfortable. It feels like you're wearing no underwear. Wearing a thong with anything doesn't show panty lines. That's the great thing about them, they don't only feel better they are more useful.

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ok I have a best friend who really likes this guy. She talks about him all the time. I think he likes her too because he flirts a lot with her. But he is kind of shy and I don't think he would ask her out. I really think she shuold ask him out but she says no and she doesn't think he will say yes. But I said give it a try because she is like obsessed with him. What should she do?

There's a number of things you, him, and her could do..

A: You could ask him if he likes your friend, if he does hint to him that she's likes him and to ask her out.

B: Again, find out if he likes her, if he does tell your friend you know he does for a fact, and tell her to go for it because most likey he will not say no.

C: They could both get up the courage to talk about it.

D: He might not like her, or not want a girlfriend. So, comfort your bestfriend and help her move on.

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I'm 16 and a girl and i just want to know why it seems like guys only like the skinnier kind of girls? I'm not that skinny and not that fat either but its hard for me to get a bf. i feel like that no guy wants me because im not skinny! Can somebody please help me and give me some advice on this topic? Thanks!

As you will get older you will realize that most guys do like women with more curves or weight on them. There is also still the type who like the skinnier and more petite women.

Usually boys like the girls who are more skinny. So, don't change yourself for anyone. Just wait until you're older when relationships and dating mean more.

Also, most guys aren't embarrassed by how fat their girlfriend is, if they thought their girlfriend was fat, most likely they wouldn't be going out with them.

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Okay, I am 17/f(just turned 17 about a month ago)

I just started noticing this like couple days ago that my boobs, er one of my boob on left side... is getting bigger. It is a noticable change and it's only happening to my left side.

What's happening??? Am I normal???

Yes, you are normal. Usually one breast is slighty bigger than the other one. In some cases the other breast does catch up.

For example, I have a great aunt whose one breast is a size A and the other a C.

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ok, this is embarasing but here goes... A while ago i got caught by my neighbor peeking in her window when she had some friends over for a sleepover. i was on her back porch peeking in her window when 1 of her friends came out and said what are you doing??? i was like.. o my god... i was so embarased. so she told the other girls wat i was doing and they all talked and then 1 of them came to me and said they wouldnt tell on me if i did wat they said. she said that to be fair they should get to see me naked and that I should strip naked for them. otherwize they would tell my mom that i was a pervert and a peeping tom. anyway, i did it. i took off all my clothes and let them all see me. they looked and giggled and stuff for a long time and then they let me go home. The thing is that since then a couple of them have made be do it again for girls that werent even at the sleepover. they say i desrve it for peeking at them that night. Do you think I deserve it? Should I keep doing it for them? Please give me your advice!

Thanks,
Paul

No, you don't deserve this. You were peeking at them when, I'm just guessing, were clothed.

So, technically they're the perverted ones.
You could either stop doing that, or ask for something inreturn. But, I'd recommend stopping it, it does seem alittle strange, no offense. Because most people aren't like that..

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do guys shave down there to?
or is it jus girls

Both girls and guys do either trim or shave completely down there. Then there's also the few that don't clean up down there. haha


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I have stretch marks on my breasts. And I've had them for a little while now.
They're really ugly, and look red on occasion.
Anyway, my boyfriend and I getting more involved, and I don't want him to see my breasts.
I've let him touch them, thankfuly it's been dark.
Anywho, I was wondering if there's anything I can do to make them go away, that works.
Like to cover it up or something, or even a cream that can erase them (but I don't really want to spend all the money and have it not work.)
Any remedies, or am I stuck feeling insecure?

Pregnant women use a cream called CoCo Butter. Its like a lotion and I'm guessing inexpensive.

Also, my friend got a cream from a local drug store ecspecially for strechmarks on breasts. So, see if you can find that.

You could also ask your doctor.


-As you know strechmarks don't go away over night, but creams do lessen them, and help prevent them from coming up. So if you do get a cream put it on everyday, or read the directions and do as it says.


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Hey!! Does anybody know any cute bags i can keep my stuff in for school? I have purses but my binders dont fit! It would b great if i could fit 3 or 4 binders in it, and a few forlder and small notebooks. Is this impossible to find?

Thanx so much!!

At school students use these bags to carry text books, like 3-5, so I'm sure these shall work--

-abercrombie and fitch
-hollister co. (www.hollisterco.com)
-abercrombie (www.abercrombie.com)
-pacsun (www.pacsun.com)
-american eagle
-aeropostal

Im not sure if all of these places do, but you can try. just search there sites. Either they're classified under purses, totes, or accessories.

Those that I didn't give a URL address for, just type it in google, or your address bar and it should come up.

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yesterday i was at my boyfriend's house and i had a really bad headache so i fell asleep. when i woke up my hand was like on his penis and i pulled it out realy quick and he acted really scared. he was like, were you awake? i said no then he said oh yea me neither i was dead asleep. but i know he wasn't... after i made a comment he said i put my hand down his pants when we were sleeping, like i just stretched out and boom, there it was, but he was wearing elastic pants and tight underwear there is no way i could have done that in my sleep. I feel really uncomfortable around him now because we have never done anything sexually really and he always said it didn't bother him. What should I do? I wasn't awake the whole time so I don't want to confront him accusing him. Should I just forget about it?

You could ask him about it, but of course he is going to deny it. If you feel that uncomfortable then break up with him, or see him less. When you do see him just watch what you do, and be careful, because it does seem alittle strange.

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i been dating this girl named mariah thomas going on 7 months and we are really serious we are both juniors at the same highschool we have all the same classes except for 6th hour i take graphic arts and she takes home ec ... why is it when ever im around her i feel as though im floating and for some strange reason i lose my breath and get light headed and lose my balence but it only happens when im with her whats wrong with me

I'm guessing you love her.

If you haven't told her yet, maybe you should. That's if you think you're ready, and mean it.

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Alright, so my family makes getting each other christmas gifts every year a big thing. (We're a medium sized family and money isn't an issue.) Every year my aunt goes shopping the day after thanksgiving all day, and likes to get as many presents for everyone as she can.
Every year I seem to be able to come up with a few things here and there of small things people can get me, but I really don't need anything big. Plus, if it's THAT big, my parents were already planning on getting it.
So I decided to just make up a list of movies that I'd really want but just haven't gotten around to buying. So far I've come up with Beetlejuice, A Walk To Remember, and Clue.

Any other ideas of movies I can request? Thanks.

benchwarmers
just friends
how to lose a guy in 10 days
the family stone
accepted
catch & release
fun with dick and jane
10 things i hate about you
flashdance
coyote ugly
sweetest thing
prime
old school
rumor has it
into the blue
the ringer
tristan & isolde


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MY friend is moving NJ to CA. He's already really upset. We haven't known each other very long. I'm a grade above him. We became really good friends and stuff. I want to give him something. Something creative. Any ideas?
Greatly appreciated.
Thanks.

Make a Scrapbook, with like pictures and lists of inside jokes in it. Also, you could write him a note and tell him not to read it until he gets to CA. You could either put it at the back of the scrapbook if you end up doing it or put it in a box with a little gift, either something funny or meaningful.

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And if you need anymore tips about these ideas, or anything just ask! :)

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two questions on the same topiccc
13/f

•are first time boyfriends supposed to be special in a girls life? like is a big deal to the mom or something?

•are a girls first kiss supposed to be really special? like are you supposed to search for the right dude in order to have you first kiss? or can it be just some dude u like but aren't dating?

thanks so much!!!
as many answers as possible please!

Well, it depends on the girl and the mother. Some girls have "boyfriends" at the age of 6, but i'm thinking those don't really count. So, it's basically different for everyone.

About the first kiss question.. For most girls, yes it's special, for other's again they had their first kiss young, so chances are it didn't affect them, as say someone who had their first kiss at 14/15. You don't have to search for the right guy. And yes it can be someone you like, but are not dating. A first kiss isn't always what it's cracked up to be. Your 100th kiss could have more sparks or fireworks, then your first kiss because you and the guy liked each other more.


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how do you get condoms without asking your parents? thanks

You go buy them, or go to a free clinic.

You can buy them from a local drugstore.

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hey i like this guy and i told him and he said he was gay--you know one of those i dont want to hurt your feelings moves---but anywho my friend ariel just asked me if i would be mad at her if she and him ever dated and i wouldnt cause i had my shot with him and he didnt like me so if he likes her and she likes him then who am i to stand in the way. i mean i would be hurt but i would get over it hopefully. and i dont know what to do because now shes saying she dontlike him and i told her that tomorrow when i walk home i could ask him cause he walks home too and he is usually right in front of me and she aint awnsering me...what do i do??? im so confused :[

ha well my name's Ariell, that's pretty cool :)

I don't really get what you're asking here.

But, yes who are you to stand in the way of them two. First, find out if she likes him still, explain to her that you can't stand in the way of them, and if she likes him, ask your friends Ariel if she would like you to ask him how he feels about her, but if she doesn't want you to ask him, or doesn't like him, then don't.


if i left anything out, or didn't answer what you wanted, just ask again and re-phrase it. Thank you!

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my mom will usually get on to me for picking out high inch heels, and no strappless shirts, i keep telling her no, im in the 6th grade, but i cant get through to her that i am not 2 anymore. what should i do?

sixth graders don't normally wear those types of things, you're trying too hard. So, listen to your mother.

And all mother's do this, it's their jobs, so be happy she cares! Eventually, she will loosen up when you get older, but you have to deal with the fact that you're her child, and a child may i remind you. You're too young to be wearing that sort of stuff often, like special occasions and like the strapless shirts at the beach or in the summer, but def. not together, or else guys will think you're a whore. And some guys like that but most don't.

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I've seen this cat around my yard. I can garentee that it's not owned because I live in a small neighborhood, and everyone in it has atleast 2 dogs. The cat lives in a trash pile basicly that me and my family has colected over the year, and it's gotten bigger. Well I want to save this cat before winter comes, it will freze to death! My dogs, one I got was from a family that was broken up and the little dog had no where to go and my family took her in and we now call her Keylii. The other one is a lot bigger then Keylii who is a Tea-cup Pamerian, and his names Bear. Well they've bothc ome from familys that has had cats in the house so my dogs will get along with the cat, but how am I going to get it to come to me? I wana feed it, it's been getting into out garbadge and that can't be filling, But ive never had a cat before. I was thinking about louring it out by like canned tuna, I also have babyfood.. if cats eat that and dog food for little dogs if cats eat that too. But i need to think of the good of the animal. I dont wanna call Animal Services so don't give me that option because what if they put it down??? Then there'd be no point in saving it.. but what if it has a deseice and it bites me? I know im up-dated in my shots so Im not worried about that but if it bites me, and my Mom finds out she wont let if around the baby. I wanna save this cat. I know its homeless and letting it live where it is isnt an option. Neither is calling animal services. Im willing to take the chance of being biten out scratched, I just need some help on how to get the cat out of the pile of nothing.. please anyting is helpful and im sorry for giving u resrtictions but im not going to happy knowing its out there, or that its in the hands of other people who might hurt it.
Anything will be helpful tho.

Well, you didn't tell me weither the cat was a boy or a girl so i cant give you a name, also a description, like color always helps with the name.

The can of tuna will probably work. leave out a bowl of milk or water and a bowl of tunna, about 1/4 or 1/2 of the can a day. Everyday keep bringing the bowls closer and closer to your house till one day it becomes used to you and your house and is able to trust you. This may take a week or two.

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Hi, umm Im the girl you answered a question about me having a lot of guys friends and how one of them stuck up for me whne Nick called me butch.. well hasn't even been a week and people are driving me batty.
ahh Stevens still in ISS... and so's Nick.
Well yesturday.. we had cooking and I got stuck wiht becky.. thank good DJ,JJ, and Nathen. Well im friends with Nathen.. and JJ was making jokes about how its a womens job to cook and all this sexist crap.. well then Cole joined and Nathen already hated this kid so they got in a talking arguement and as Nathen walked away he like said to me under his breath..
"Err I wished he'd die.. of cancer."
Well I tweaked on him because ive senn what cancer does to people and after a while there gone. like there bodys still on earth but anything else is gone.. and I screamed at him!
I was like WHAT! I was like noo even I cant stand Cole but never EVER would I wish death on anyone!! Expecially not cancer.." and he was like oo oo i didnt mean it like that.. I was you still said it! what is wrong with you.. have you seen what cancer does to people! and my Uncle passed away November 4th of last year and not a day goes by i dont think of him.. I love him and he lived 9 months after finding out he had cancer but maybe 6 months tops into it he was gone.. and i told him this.he was like ughh oo.. ee..

And i remember in the last question i said all my guy friends were just friends but I knew I did have feelings about Nathen.. and I never expected this from him he didnt know.. about my Uncle but he still said it..
Well i started crying and actually ran to the ISS room to talk to Steven
Mrs Berry it was cool aslong as we were quite. Well I hugged him.. and basicly cried on his shoulder.. I told him everything about me liking him and how he said it and Stevens attitude changed completely.. first he was like ohh come here.. are you okay like completely friend.. next minete he stil cared but i could tell i hurt his feelings. And now im not sure about anything like does Steven like me??? I love Steven as a brother as a best friend as someone i can count on.. not a boyfriend. Well i had to leave and as I hugged Steven he was stiff..
I had PE afterwards and I have that class with Nathen and he just looked at me..
I dont want to be the person who cries alot of but at the moment that doesnt madder.. im gunna lose two of my good friends over something thats Nathens fault.. but i like Nathen i think because when he sai it i wanted to claw at him..
Explain to me why im feeling like ahhhhhhhhh
Stevens my friend, if i knew he liked me never would i explain it in such a good detail, i thought he loved me as a sister.. not girlfriend Ive never look at Steven in that way but this whole week has sucked NOW i feel acward around my friends because what if they like me, and i hurt there feelings??? I love them and would never wanna see any of them hurt. But Steven wont return phone calls, ive asked about him but everyones like no hes fune BLAHH BLAHH when i know there lieing they didnt see him face.. i shouldve listened to people when they said it was a possibilty that he liked me, but like thgey dont know him,but i just feel akward around the guys.. what if there loking down my shirt (something ive never worried about) just dumb things jeez im paranoid..
Please help again..=D..=\

I don't really know what to say to this because..

you cant control how you feel or what you cry over. so don't worry about that, it's just your emotions.

It's not entirely Nathans fault, so you shouldn't of yelled at him that bad, because maybe he forgot or didn't think anyone could hear him. But, that still isn't nice of him to wish about someone.

Steven probably does like you, explain to him that you're sorry, and that you only like him as a brother, be gentle. And there's nothing I can tell you to do to make him return your calls because he's got to do that on his own time.

About you feeling awkward that guys are looking down your shirt. Guys look down girls shirt's constantly, even if they don't like the girl "It's still boobies," as most of my guy friends say. It's like us girls, if there's a sale in your favorite store, you're going to go in and look around, aren't you. Same consept lol.


I think I covered everything, if not just repost it in a new question.

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