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Q: my condum broke when i was haveing sex with my girlfriend, her period ended today the condum had spermicide on it and it broke, i did not cum in her....but can she still get pergant, shes really scared and so am i, please help!!!!!

well it actually dpends. although you may not have cummed in side of her if the condom broke while you were doing you cant be sure, the chances are she isnt but just wait a while to see if her period pass's in the mean time just stay calm because there isn o use stressing your self out about it, and if she was on her period when you guys did it odds are shes not

Q: I've never given or received oral sex. I am 15/f. People say it is normal to do it at my age and I sort of agree. I am afraid of having a guy go down on me because I don't have this kind of experience and I am shy. I'm sort of afraid of going down on a guy because I don't want to do it wrong.

People always say you're supposed to wait until it feels right but I think it will only feel right when I give it a try.

Any advice??

well im glad to know im not alone on this. well the only think i can say is you should wait till your ready because you dont want t oregret doing it. everyone im sure is a little shy at first but when it happens there is neevr really a right way to do it so dnt feel embarresed just do what feeels comfortable to you.

Q: DO you smell like fish cuz i can smell it from here shenaye just kidding i luv you :)

well only in the morning but you know sometimes at night :) wait who is this? ahaha

Q: can u put two condoms on for double protection>>>????lol

no. it dos'nt feel good if your really worried about it just wear one and take birth control,
hope this helped.

Q: OK, onne of my closest bffl's is getting on my last nerves. She's always saying that she is getting more guys than me. GRRRRR, its driving me nuts. Just because she has a bigger chest than I do and atracts older guys, doesnt mean she gets more guys than i do, right? I dont know, all i know is that im tired of her always bragging. If she wants to act like a slut and bitch , fine. But what should I do about the problem. I DONT KNOW IF I CAN TAKE ANYMORE. Can someone PLEASE help me?!?!?!?!?!

well,i think you just need to tell your friend in a nice way to get over herselfand just let her know its not a contest. if she is one of your bestfriends you dont want to lose her as a friend so let her know its bothering you

Q: hey my sister is 12 years old a lil bit overwieght she got most of her signs of her "p" but shes a lil bit scared about it i need advice to calm her down she gets a lil nervouse when she hears ppl saying some girls dont get it so i need advice to calm her down thanks!! answer quick plz byeeee

the best thing is to tell her she will be fine tell her when you get it, you didnt even relize it came i know thats what happened to me and it happens to alot of ppl, make sure she knows to just be cautious of herself around the time so it odsnt happen at school or anything :)

Q: Do you use a condom when you do it and does it hurt

umm it depends.
do you want a kid?
it only hurts if your not ready, but if you do it withj somebody that u love and trust it wont hurt.

Q: Ok so i like two guys..

one is my current boyfriend (("Hollister" well call him that))

the other

is a family friend ((areopostle))

... My mom doesnt know about Hollister

and she knows that bAreopostle thinks im cute

.. I reallly like Aero too.

And i sorta dont like Holllister anymore..

so what do i do??

do i break up with Hollister for Areo

or what
??

HELP!! :]
thank in advanced

:]

well if you know for a fact areo like you.. because its wrong to lead on hollister and you dont want to do anything ur gonna regret so simply break up with him and just wait a while befor goin out with areo right away.
tell me how it goes?

Q: my older sister is so mean she calls me fat, lesbian,cunt,slut and other stuff like that.she even tells me to go kill myself.now my younger sister is doing the same thing but she is just listening to my older sister.i told my mam and she just said agnore them i try but it is really hard to.i just feel depressed and empty.even my boyfriend is noticing that somehing is up and he knows im not myself lately.he tries to help me but he cant do anything to help.my older sister has cracked my ribs and she pushed me against the wall and i banged my head.ever sence i banged my head i have been getting really bad headaches.i cry myself to sleep everynight and i just cant handle it any more.please help me i need it.

ok first off, i know its not the best thing when your sis is like that to you , you really need to tell her if you two can talk by yourselves tell her how you feel and everything. and if she dosnt want to listen then right her a note and ask her to please read it, how much does she mean to you! whatever you do dont let her see your depressed, becasue she will begin to bash on you harder not this used to happen to me and my sister soon we both grew up and now my sister is my bestfriedn so even if your depressed now i hope this gives you something to look forward to tell me how it goes keep me posted :)

well i really hope it dosnt get worst and just have faith. if theres anything i can ever do please let me know, btw my name is shenaye my myspace is myspace.com/yourmomschestahir

Q: Okay so I have this friend who likes me and she is a grl and i like her back. But i am afriad of ruining out friendship... What should i do?

well then whats the real reason you afriad of ruining your friendship. i mean alot of things happen for a reason, and how much do you like her?

send your anwser through another comment please?

Q: Its Britttany you dodo!!

lol well i figured but when you send me an inbox question your name )lovestruck823)or whatever wasnt shown. and yes it is wierd your talking to me on an advice colum thats what are student email is for :) i love you too

Q: Okay so I finally foound you! Hello!!!!!!!!!!! How are you? I probably shouldnt be talking to you like this on an advice column but whatever!Love You!

who r u?

Q: well, its like this i have been best friends with my friend all my life.im going out with my boyfriend now and she doesnt like him.she wont tell me why she doesnt like him either.she made me choose between them and i picked her because your best friend will always be there and your boyfriend might not.anyways,i broke up with my boyfriend and he was defastated and then i started crying because i couldnt believe i was actually breaking his heart.i told my best friend i picked her and the only thing she said to me was good.i kept bumping into him and i knew staight away he was still hurting inside.but about two weeks later i saw him in the shop and i went over to him to ask him was he ok he couldnt even look at me.i said to him that i made a big mistake and i was really sorry.that night he rang me asking me did i want to get back together so we did.
i told my best friend when i went back to school and she got really bitchy with me and said whatever go ruin your life.i left it and just started talking about something else.now if i even mention his name she starts shouting at me saying he is such a freak why on earth would i go out with him.he isnt a freak god no.
ok my question is long but what should i do my best friend is being really mean to my boyfriend and i.if you have any advice for me please give it.13/f
xxaoifexxx

so maybe your friend knows something about him thats you dont, maybe try asking her about it you may find something shocking out!
and i as for your bf what does he think of her?rememeber what you said your friends are alwasy there for you boys come and go and at your age i wouldnt worry to much about it ,youll be fine :)

Q: I was on birth control pills for August til January. I had my last period in February. I started working and because I switched colleges, I was hanging out more. I am still a virgin but I had oral sex with my best friend. We was in the car and he cummed in my hand. I did wipe my hands off and went home. I had to go to the bathroom bad and without thinking to wash my hands first, I used the bathroom. Now it is April and I havent had my period since Feb 13. Everyone I ask says I am not pregnant. I have no symptoms but an upset stomache and a missed period. I am stressed about the whole sitaution. Am I pregnant or Did i miss my period because of a hormonal imbalance or due to stress? It would be weird to be the first pregnant virgin.

well i dont think your preganant just because even if you did have roal and the wipe with out whashing the sperm was never actaully in you, and thier wouldnt be enough of it. trust me your not,the birth controal could also be what through the period off

Q: anyone know of a site that has the guitar tab for alison krauss & john waite "[i ain't] missing you"? i can't find it anyyyywhere and i love that song.

if you google it many will come up

Q: How do you get rid of those black rings on your eyes like when you don't get enough sleep and they make you look miserable. Whats a good way to get rid of them...

you can put a little bit of cover up but very lightly then, where like eyeliner and it brings your eyes out witch takes the attraction of the rings under your eyes :)

Q: Okay, so my friend and I are going to do a song for our school talent show. Though at the moment we are thinking of doing the song "Twist and Shout" though, I was wondering if their were any other songs that people would find entertaining that are made for two people. Because "Twist and Shout" isn't exactly a two person song.

Also If it matters, we are 14 and both girls. and not songs that are too terribly high pitched.

you can do songs from musicals perhaps grease thats alwasy a crowd taker :)

Q: well i fell like the ugly ducklin sometimes cause boys in my school mostly care about your butt or boobs and most of the boys i went out with they'd go for my butt or boobs but theres this one boy i have a huge crush on and he doesnt really notice me how can i fell sexy but that he sees the inside not my butt or boobs

i know this ma ysound a little wierd but myspace!
you can strat talking on it through message or something to him thatswha t ilike to do the nyou casually move from thier to the phone. and schoo land hanging out , but what ppl dnt relize is this boy is starting to talk to you not staring at you so hes getting to know your feelings not your body :) ge tmy drift

Q: I have a huge problem with my family. My brother, who is autistic, gets on my last nerve because he takes advantige of his disability, AND I have to clean up after him, and my mom, and myself. My mom, well lets just say, all the pressure is on me. Plus, she looks to me to be her support system (not money)24/7, I mean I love my mom, but I dont know if I can take the pressure. BUT school, thats a whole other problem. It's like taking your whole entire grade that, hates you and wants you dead, and locks them and you up in huge room. Worst of all, none of them realy even know me, so why do they hate me? Can you PLEASE give some advice what to do?

ok first off do not blame your self. everybody always has to say they hate somebody just to make themselfs feel better rather it hsa to really do with you, or more so themslefs. and the reason you think everybody does is because everybody has connections with eachother, but just because it seems like that dosnt mean its true!
your family the love you no matter what and with your brother its hard, i know, but when you have family thats autistic its scary for them, and you you have to work togeathr tell your mom how you feel,i gaurenteee you will feel better tell me how it goes

Q: Im a freshman in highscchool and my bf's a senior. We havent been goin out for long but i really like him. My parents were fine with him at first but now they think we'r having sex and stuff, so they dont trust me. And my mom wont let me see him anymore, so its difficult because we never get to hang out. And im not aloud to go in his car, and now they wont even let me stay after school for extra help because they think im with him. They are being waaayy too strict and my mom never listens to me when i ell her this. I hate how shes so protective and she doenst let me do like anything. Its annoying and i seriously want to move out, but i cant. Its stressing both me and my bf out, but he said hes not goin to let it get to him because he really likes me and wants our relationship to last. But its so agrravating how they wont let me do ANYTHING! how can i get them to give me more freedom? and what do i do about seeing my bf?

well the best thing to do is not get in any troube, do things to let her see how mature you really are. right her a letter maybe ,and give it to her if shes not listening tell her you would neevr do it, because its not worth losing her trust or hurting her like taht. just be really honest with her and everything should go well. i promis. ask her what really changed her mind because there has to be something else

bio

ok lets see well my name is
Shenaye and im 16 years old.my life is'nt perfect but then again not alot of peoples are.i guess you can say i care about things way to much but i just like to say im sensitive. I'm very emotionally attached to people but I rather love then never know the feeling. I love giving people advice, I learn to listen to people's problem's more and more each day, My friends say I'm really good at it. It may not always be right but at least its something to fall back on if nothing else works right? anyways I've been through alot more in my life then alot of people can say they have: family,love,friends,abuse,drugs,suicicde attempts. and many more I dont like to really talk about it but I know its made me a way stronger person then I once was.
My friends are my life you mess with them i'llpull an operation beatdown on you