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whats sup im kierra. i luv to give my advice to people becuase im good at it. i will try and answer ever ones questions as they are giving or asked. now some question i cant answer becuase the answer us always in yall face but hey some people cant see. i aint mean but i will tell it like it is so dont ask a question if you know you anit goin to like the answer holla!!!!!!!!!!!!
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ive been in a relationship for 2 years now. at first everything was great, we even got engaged! since then hes been acting like a jerk! he hates my job and threatens to leave me if i dont quit,everytime we fight the first thing he does is tell me to find another place to live! he puts me down alot and he is getting more controlling. he seems to have little respect for me and when i confront him about it he just turns it around. im emotionally drained! is this the real him?
yeah this could be real him. i think you should think twice maybe three times about marring him. he could end up killing you one day with rage he is in you know. no guy should put a women down he should bring her up. i think you hould leave him.
hope i helped
hi, i just turned 18 and i live a pretty fun and active life but when i get on girls and start making out with them, i start to get hard. is this normal to get hard every time i make out with a girl because i have been with multiple girls and it really has not started to change? also, when she notices, is it a turn on or is it a turn off?
yes its normal to get hard when making out. for some girls its a turn on but for some it might not be. i think you should try and hide it if you think she is being turned off.
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my boyfriend of 15 months kinda just broke up with me because i told him how i feel...and idk if it was for real or not but idk what to do..and i don't want him to leave me because i love him and i was supposed to have my period last thursday so i'm stressing out do you think i could be pregnant? and how do i get my baby back?
you are just stressed becuase he left but if you want to check and rule out the posiblity of being pragnant get and EPT. guys are afraid of commentment. he might love you but his ego will not let him say how he really feels. you can try talking with him. the conversation might seem alittle wierd but its a good ideal.
i hope i helped
Alright, so, at my school we have a JV/Varsity cheer squad. JV cheers for girls bball team + Varsity cheers for guys bball team. im on the JV team. the coaches said at the beginning of the season that there was NOT going to be a difference in squads they just needed to split it up for games. but then it all started about a month ago when we found out that only Varsity could go to away games, and i was so upset because i signed up for cheerleading for a reason. but, then my coach took me outside in the hallway to tell me that "oh, your better than half he girls in there" "JV was the last one picked..." which really didnt help what so ever. + then it happened tonight at the game we cheered at, we were going to do 2 wicked awesome cheers + then my captains like "NO, LETS SAVE IT FOR VARSITY" then this girl on Varsity says "OH REJECTION [the name of the cheer] IS FOR VARSITY NOT FOR DUMB JV" which really got me po-ed. i have tried everything to tell my coaches, captains + everyone + they wont do anything to change all the unfairness thats going around, so what should i do? anything would be appreciated! anything i could say to them to maybe make them understand. thanks so much!
xoxox.
i know how you feel im on vasity though. just tell them that they need to change it up. cheering post to be fun. they should understand. i bet if they were in your position they would think the same thing as well. make them listen. one voice is all it takes. they know they are being unfair. you can also talk to the principle. tell them about it i know their would be a change then.
hope i helped
what's STD and how do you get it?? please don't give me a website about it, but actually tell me about it =p
thanks!!
a STD is a sexually tresmeted desease. you can get it by having sex with someone who is infected. i know you said dont give you a site but if you look up std you will find out just how many thier is. some can be cured and some cannot. you can have a STD in the mouth, vigina, penis, butt and other places if you think you have one go see your doctor
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I am only sixteen years old. i have a son who just turned one. i am finishing up high school. my parents are going throw a brutel divorce. my dads abusive. (thats who i am living with) my mom has to many people living with her for me and my son to stay there and my dad refuses to let me leave. I cant find a job and i been looking since i had my son. i feel depressed even though a doctor told me im not. i feel that i cant handle all this anymore. my sons father just started helping but its not enough he works at a convient. i dont know what im looking for i need advice. or something please help me.
hang in thier. if you try hard im sure you will get a job. when you do get a job save up your money so that you can move into your own place. thiers this thing called section 8. they pay half your rent its a housing thing. you have to sign up for it. you can also try and get low income when you turn 17 or 18. try and stay positive i know you can make it. my sisters did it and i know you can.
if you need help thier are numbers you can get just look them up. where every you stay find the housing athority im not sure if i spelled that right.
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I have never know my father, and I don't even know who he is. I have grown up without a positive role model and I have began to doubt all the choices that I have made. Every time I ask my family who he is I get two different stories, and then they change the subject. What should I do? I have nobody to turn to and I wish that I did. What should I do??
try talking to your mother. if you can get his name from her then you could look him up. i never had my father in my life so i know how you feel but you should know you should not doubt yourself. keep asking question. if they change the subject change it back. you should know atlease who he is you know.
i hope you find him and i hope i helped
There is this kid that i am with and i like him but my parents dont let me date so ive been hiding it. im 15 and im a sophmore and i feel like they just dont understand how it is these days to date...what do i do and how could i ever tell them so that theyd understand?
parents just dont want to see you get hurt. young relationships often end up with people having thier hearts broken. they will understand becuase the where once that age. they know what your going through and they know what mgiht can happen. try sitting them down and telling them how you feel about this guy im sure they will let you see him. but dont do anything that will make them regret letting you have this guy as a boyfriend.
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Sorry it's long!
Okay well I'm a 13 f, turning 14 on Valentine's b-day (Yeah I know huh?!?)Well anyway, as you probably know I'm in 8th grade. Well on my bus they have this guy named TJ, he's like two years older then me or something. His sister and younger brothers ride the bus ( Samantha is 17, Johnathan is 14, and Matthew is like...10) I just met everyone this year, as I moved to Rayville from New Orleans..(Big change btw...big city to country)...and TJ has been sweet to me, only now he's protective and told me if any guy messes with me, tell him and he'd "whup their ass" Now to my knowledge he's told a few people that. But he started acting like a brother to me. I knew something was up after i was dropping his sis off at her house and he had his arm around my waist in a half hug and i didn't think much of it until when i moved, he didn't let go.
As it turns out, yesterday he missed school, and today because he's sick, and he gave his sister a note, she gave it to me...it was a poem. Really cute actually.
I freaked. I was like 'OMG TJ LIKES ME?!?!?!?' Then I decided to reason. 'Maybe he just wanted me to read a poem he wrote.' Stupid I know. But today Sam told me he does like me. I don't know what to do. I like him but, and I'm not one to care what people think because it's like 'I like him, I'm happy, screw you.' if they don't like who I date. He'd be my 2nd boyfriend...but i'm erasing my old one from memory lol!
I don't know what to do. People would definatley tease us, especially my friend Mitzi because she'd get all weird even though she has a boyfriend. I just need to know what to do. With TJ and my friends. I like him and he's really sweet but my ex was a total jerk and I'm having problems letting myself give enough trust for another boyfriend. I don't want to 'go out' with him and then hurt him by not giving him the trust he deserves.
HELP!!!!!
first off you should not let the guy you use to talk to mess up what the next guy can give you. females go wrong by doing this. when you do this you could never be happy. i know trust is a big thing in a relationship. without trust what do you have? you should give this guy a chance becuase you never know he can be that special someone for you. who cares what your friends think. real friends would tell you if he makes you happy then go for it. they would not put you down. just follow your heart it has all the answers to your fulfillment
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what should i get my boyfriend for his 18th birthday? weve been going out for 8 months now =) please dont say anything like make something or do something sweet and inside jokes or whatever because thats what im gonna do on our anniversary. i need ideas like clothes? or a watch? but something really wicked that hell loveee you get what i mean? well yeah im kinda stuck... so thanks for the help.
you can get him an outfit. dudes love to look good. i know that on his b-day he will want to look fly and sexy. im sure that anything you get though he will love. maybe he will like a gold cross or a chain with his name on it maybe.
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well my boyfriend and i r really close and just recently started dating even tho we have liked each other for a while. before we were best friends and still r and share everything with each other. andyway so i am probably moving this summer and its really hard for the both of us and he doesnt want me to move at all. he hates the idea. im 14 and hes 15 almost 16. the thing is we arent sure if we should have a long distance relationship. honestly i dont think either of us want to but we both dont want to leave each other either. it is extremely difficult for him to except this because we both care for each other so much and love each other like best friends. we are best friends. so my ? is iwant to hear what pple think about long distance relationships and if they work out well or not. i would only be able to visit like twice a yr too. i dont think its going to work tho but the thought of leaving him and losing him breaks myheart. the thing is i wouldnt be able to see him in person and hug him and hold hands and kiss him and stuff. we go to different schools and already hate having to go weekend to weekend cause i just switched schools a couple months ago and we used to have classes together and see each other everyday. thank you so much and i really appreciate it :]
i see what you mean. i went through the same thing with my bf. i cared so much about him and i knew he loved me. when you move far away from a person its hard becuase you want to feel thier touch and you want to see them smiling at you everyday. everything happends for a reason. you might not like the fact that you mgiht be moving but life goes on. long distance relationships dont always work. when yall not in the same place his attention will drift slowly to another girl and your will to another boy. yall can still have the best friendship but a relationship just wont work. i know he will be able to drive but thats major gas money and plus he might not want to sometimes and that will make you mad. you might go back and visit but its only for a while. i know yall love eachother but that wont work that way im sorry. if yall put in the right time it will but yall young. its plenty of chicks thats going to try and get his attention and guys will get yours.
i hope i helped you. i have to keep it real with you it dont always work.
ok so my bff and a guy had a major thing at the begining of last school year. It kind or died away when she moved on. A few months later i started hanging out with that guy. We got close, she really doesnt like it when we hang out im not sure if she is jealous even though she is the one who left him or what but she doesnt like it. anyways ok so me and this guy were hangin out one night and i lost my virginty to him. this was like 2 months ago and i still havent told my friend. she knows everything about me but this ahh should i tell her and take the chance of her being really mad or just live by the "what she doesnt know wont hurt her" standard???!?!!?
helpppp
in a way i think you should tell her but then again i dont think you should tell her. eaither way your friend will be hurt. if it was me i would tell her that i really like him but not about the sex part just yet. give her time to get her mind right about the whole yall dating thing. i think if you value your friendship tell her at the right time. dont take to long she might find out by someone else. remember guys talk.
do i have to change my pad even if i didnt have my period or can i just keep it on until i have my period thanks
change it. its kinda nasty if you leave the same one on that just mean your not a very clean person you know. (not saying you not clean)
I started cutting when I was 14 and im now 17, and it has been getting worst, now after cutting I would take alot of pain killers, which makes me throw up alot, i now i need help, but im too scared to get it
cutting can lead to your disstruction. you can cut a vein one day. and pain killers dont help all the time. if they are making you throw up then stop taking them. get help you really need it. its your life you dont want to end it over ODing on pain killers or losing to much blood or cutting the wrong vein now do you. get help dont be afraid. i know it might seem hard becuase your scared but trust me it will be worth it. you life is precious but you have to know just how precious.
Ok guys i just need some tips on how to choose between people. There are a few lads who i like and i really dont know who to choose. They are all great
and its just really hard :\ I would appreciate a few ways on how to choose one lol. Thank Youu x x
try going on a date with each one. see who you have a deeper connection with. i know it will be hard but trust me when you have stong feelings they show. so maybe they will show for the right girl.
Okay so I have this problem Im in to the vampire sex i love it when my bf bites me and well i like practically everything he does to me and i mean everything he knows how to turn me on really fast does that mean im easy of does this mean hes really good
no this do not make you easy. he is your man. he got to know how to turn you on. now if other guys can turn you on and you get down with them then you will be easy. easy is when you are quick to let a guy hit it. and i mean any guy
15/f..almost 16.
I'm a sophomore and (used to be) the top student of my classes. But now that I've developed more friends...who are worse than me in things that they do...who procrastinate, smoke, drink, go out with one another...I feel like they are dragging me down. Because if one procrastinates, i feel comfortable about procrastinating on something as well. So, when I'm on MSN and this particular friend signs in, I'll just talk to her/him until like 2 A.M and then realize that I have homework. Some of the friends that I have...don't even like me! And I don't like them either. I don't wish to spend my time on them anymore. I don't have a boyfriend..I'm fine with that. What can I do to get "rid" of them?
i would say get better friends. if they keep dragging you down then you dont need them. friends post to bring you up not down. i would say meet new people. stop talking to your old friends slowly.
Alright well , my friend wants to know if having sex at the age of 15 is ok.. but if she knows shes in love with them and she knows shes loved by him..What do you think?
Thank you , betty
yeah its to young but if she thinks she ready then she should go for it. she should know though that she will have to start doctor visit and that losing hurts. make sure she knows she is ready .
So im 15. and i have this friend named well lets call him alex. Me and alex are best friends we talk everygiht on the phone for three hours. and we used to date for two months. i still like him kinda. and i am the type of person who is very dependant i need somone. And i cant loose them. When i break up or loose someone it takes me a while to get over them. So back to this friend he treats me like shit. I have to bribe him to talk to me by sending him pictures but i need him. I really want to get away from him because hes just makiing me more sad but i cant. How am i suppos to let go of him and walk away before he hurts me even more? any advice would be great thanks so much.
if a guy is going to have you that head over hill and treat you like shit you dont need him. i know you think you might need him but truth is you dont. you have to be a strong young lady. you dont need any body in your life thats going to keep hurting you and making you feel bad. thier are plenty of fish in the sea and im sure if you gave some guys the time you would get over this guy. be strong for yourself i know you dont need him. i though i need a guy but guess what i didn't so i know you would be okay. i think its time to dismiss your feelings for this lame.
why am i so weird. i get a crush on my cousin and then a close family friend whos like a cousin. wtff how can i stop this. sometimes its kinda embarassing cuz with the other guy who isnt family like we all consider each other family since we all come from like the same country like we're all immigrants in america n stuff. blegh. i dont think ive told anyone in my fam about it for the sake of awkwardness n just plain wrongness lol so how can i like banish these feelings. 13/f
well if you and your cousin are close itts okay to feel close to him but i would not tell him about the crush keep that on the DL. for the guy thats like family think about what your family will think if word were to get out about you liking him. it might be awkward for him becuase he sees you as family you know. these feelings will go away one day i dont think soon though. just try and stay in the right fram of mind around your cousin and the other guy thats like family.