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friends who drag me down.
15/f..almost 16.
I'm a sophomore and (used to be) the top student of my classes. But now that I've developed more friends...who are worse than me in things that they do...who procrastinate, smoke, drink, go out with one another...I feel like they are dragging me down. Because if one procrastinates, i feel comfortable about procrastinating on something as well. So, when I'm on MSN and this particular friend signs in, I'll just talk to her/him until like 2 A.M and then realize that I have homework. Some of the friends that I have...don't even like me! And I don't like them either. I don't wish to spend my time on them anymore. I don't have a boyfriend..I'm fine with that. What can I do to get "rid" of them?
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i would say get better friends. if they keep dragging you down then you dont need them. friends post to bring you up not down. i would say meet new people. stop talking to your old friends slowly.
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If some of these people don't even like you, why are you wasting your time? What are you trying to prove? If they don't like you, they are not your friends. You need to hang out with people who will bring you up, not drag you down to their level. You need friends: people that will be there for you in a positive way and will encourage you in the right direction. You don't need the people you are associating with now. You need better. Stop answering their I.M's. Sit at a new lunch table, reunite with old groups, meet new people! It is for the best. If you need anything else I'm here. Good luck.
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You have to make new friends and integrate with a new crowd. As you develop new relationships, you can say to your old crowd, "Sorry, I can't hang out on Sunday night. __ and I are meeting for a study group." ...or something to that effect.
Its great for you that you recognized that this group was bringing you down. You've heard this 1000 times before, but smoking and drinking is bad for you, and is almost just as bad as procrastinating in school! As a sophmore, you need to crack down, because you're going to start to send in college apps in just over a year, maybe even sooner. As a rule, allow yourself an hour of doing whatever you want-- talking to your friends, listening to music, watching TV, etc.-- when you come home, but after that, start the homework. After all the written is done, chill for another half hour, then hit the books to study if you have a test or quiz that week.
You'll feel so much better if you get your work done on time, and less stressed. Then, you can spend just as much time with your new friends. But, its also okay to spend some quality time once in a while with the old friends that you like, as long as you realize that their ways definitely don't have to become your ways.
You're taking a step in the right direction by asking for help. Best wishes, I hope you break away from this crowd and create your new habits A.S.A.P.
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