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Long Distance Relationship?
well my boyfriend and i r really close and just recently started dating even tho we have liked each other for a while. before we were best friends and still r and share everything with each other. andyway so i am probably moving this summer and its really hard for the both of us and he doesnt want me to move at all. he hates the idea. im 14 and hes 15 almost 16. the thing is we arent sure if we should have a long distance relationship. honestly i dont think either of us want to but we both dont want to leave each other either. it is extremely difficult for him to except this because we both care for each other so much and love each other like best friends. we are best friends. so my ? is iwant to hear what pple think about long distance relationships and if they work out well or not. i would only be able to visit like twice a yr too. i dont think its going to work tho but the thought of leaving him and losing him breaks myheart. the thing is i wouldnt be able to see him in person and hug him and hold hands and kiss him and stuff. we go to different schools and already hate having to go weekend to weekend cause i just switched schools a couple months ago and we used to have classes together and see each other everyday. thank you so much and i really appreciate it :]
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Long distance relationships can work. It really does depend on both people and the circumstances.
If you are going to remain within a close enough distance (even if its a two hour drive) to see each other a few times a year, then it can work. Making a long distance relationship work is up to the willingness of both of you to make it work. You can both call each other and talk to each other online, send pictures and videos, etc. So in terms of keeping in touch and getting closer, you could actually pull it off. If you could think things through and plan out how and when possible chances of meeting up can occur, then I don't see how things wouldn't work.
Oh of course...long distance relationships are based largely on trust. Do you trust him enough to be honest and faithful even though you aren't physically with him on a day- or week-to-week basis? And same goes for him on that trust for you. If you both are best friends and really trust each other in that respect then I do believe it can work for both of you. There will be bumpy roads and things will come up that will make it seem like you can't keep going or get to meet up for a few months..but thats OK. As long as you both communicate with each other, grow closer, trust each other, and are willing to do whatever it takes to make things work, then its definitely possible.
You need to talk things out with him though. If you aren't sure that things will work out, and he isn't either, then maybe it would be best to not to continue things. Again, this is something you need to sit down and talk about - all the possibilities that can let you keep the relationship. It will be difficult to keep things going long distance but you both need to be completely sure and patient about it. Hope that helped and good luck.
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i see what you mean. i went through the same thing with my bf. i cared so much about him and i knew he loved me. when you move far away from a person its hard becuase you want to feel thier touch and you want to see them smiling at you everyday. everything happends for a reason. you might not like the fact that you mgiht be moving but life goes on. long distance relationships dont always work. when yall not in the same place his attention will drift slowly to another girl and your will to another boy. yall can still have the best friendship but a relationship just wont work. i know he will be able to drive but thats major gas money and plus he might not want to sometimes and that will make you mad. you might go back and visit but its only for a while. i know yall love eachother but that wont work that way im sorry. if yall put in the right time it will but yall young. its plenty of chicks thats going to try and get his attention and guys will get yours.
i hope i helped you. i have to keep it real with you it dont always work.
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Okay, I can see why you are so upset about this. It is a hard decision and you probably don't really want to think about it. Serious relationships are hard to deal with and they can be very difficult. I'm in a serious relationship now too; 8 months today actually. If I was in your situation I would just tell him that I find it difficult to continue what we have but that I would never forget it or lose it in my heart. You should tell him the same thing. Tell him you both have the chance to start fresh with a new beginning and you never know, this could be a great thing for you two. I get told this all the time and I do believe it; you shouldn't be held down by one guy all through school. You need to experience different one's and know what is out there. Find out your style and types; see what else you could have. I love my bf too with all my heart and I wouldn't want to let go of him but sometimes I think that there are other guys there who are interested in me and giving them a chance wouldn't be so bad. You can find out what your exact taste is and what you REALLY like. Mix up the flavors and find your specialty.
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