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What do you do
I am only sixteen years old. i have a son who just turned one. i am finishing up high school. my parents are going throw a brutel divorce. my dads abusive. (thats who i am living with) my mom has to many people living with her for me and my son to stay there and my dad refuses to let me leave. I cant find a job and i been looking since i had my son. i feel depressed even though a doctor told me im not. i feel that i cant handle all this anymore. my sons father just started helping but its not enough he works at a convient. i dont know what im looking for i need advice. or something please help me.
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hang in thier. if you try hard im sure you will get a job. when you do get a job save up your money so that you can move into your own place. thiers this thing called section 8. they pay half your rent its a housing thing. you have to sign up for it. you can also try and get low income when you turn 17 or 18. try and stay positive i know you can make it. my sisters did it and i know you can.
if you need help thier are numbers you can get just look them up. where every you stay find the housing athority im not sure if i spelled that right.
i hope i helped
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I agree with Mangy Momma...you and your son deserve a safe environment at all times. Depression can come and go...you need to get some help, support, counseling and security. Try relatives, friends' parents...they may have resources or know of something I am not thinking of..a school counselor or teacher, social services, community services..look in the phone book yellow pages, and don't forget your local places of worship-churches are often very willing to help a young parent in need with many things. Bless you and your son always.
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Well, you are definitely in a tough spot.
You can't very well stay in an abusive environment. It isn't good for you and it definitely isn't good for your son. He is learning so much from his surroundings right now, that it is unreal.
Something you should do is go to your county attorney and ask about how laws apply to you. In your state, you may be considered adult since you have a child. If that is the case, your dad can't force you to stay.
That leaves you with needing a place to go. Is there a grandparent, aunt, uncle, friend, someone who will take you and your son in?
If not, would you be willing to go to a shelter of some sort? Something along the lines of a domestic violence shelter? Someplace where you will be given resources to get on your feet in a safe environment.
As for depression, it's much easier said than to to "not be depressed." Even though your doctor doesn't seem to think so, I would say you have plenty of reason to be feeling depressed. By the sounds of it, I'm sure you feel quite alone in the world right about now. (Trust me, you're not.) For that, I think I'd go to a councilor for help.
In fact, your school councilor may be able to help you with this entire situation. I know they have the resources to help you.
Hang in there, kid. You got a rough road ahead of you, but you'll make it. You're stronger than you think.
I don't know if I'm much help to you, but if you need more from me, I'd be glad to help in any way I can.
ygs-29/f
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If you've got any realtives who live near you or some friends who're willing to help you, you can go to them and ask whether you can stay there for a short time, only until you've got a steady job or you've got somewhere else to stay. I know it's hard, but you must do what's best for your son and the thing right now is to get a roof over his head and where he's being fed.
Don't over do your stay, only until you feel ready to leave and you can go somewhere else, perhaps with your boyfriend.
As for the job, don't worry. One will come along sooner rather than later.
Good luck for the future and your son (happy birthday)
triquetra
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well
look at the good things in your life
at the current moment
like, your adorable son who loves you
and your parents who are letting you stay in the house
dont worry
a job will show up when the time is right
everything happens for a reason
just breathe, and try to live positively because you shouldnt be depressed,
because that takes away an oppurtunity for you to experience sometihng good :)
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